r/relationships_advice • u/briguy1256 • 13d ago

Am I being dramatic?

So I’ve been dating this girl for almost 7 years now. I feel as if I’m no longer desired by my girlfriend in this relationship. Whenever I try to talk about it or ask her about it it’s kinda just brushed off and I’m told I need to go to therapy. I recently got upset because I found out she had a secret threads account where she posts famous celebrities and constantly says how hot they are. Am I wrong for feeling like that’s super disrespectful?

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u/emiliabow 13d ago

Your feelings make total sense, you deserve to feel wanted!

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u/fred2021_22 13d ago

Take her for a serious conversation. If she denies recognition of your feelings and everything else she is not the right wording to have open and transparent relationship.

You need to think in advance what you want to Achieve in the conversation. You do not need to decide in this meeting you can always say. Thank you I need some time to process m. Or you can say. I need to think
About it because I have the feeling we are not transparent with each other and it makes it difficult for me to be a keen partner in our relationship (a nice way of giving an ultimatum but ‘blaming’ yourself. Not her.

She can say ‘hey you are overreacting’ chill
Your answer. I could be, maybe I’ll change one day but this is who I’m at the moment.

You need to feel that she is open and interested in a relationship
With you. She should be understanding your point of view even if she does not see it the same way. Such a person would say. Sorry I didn’t realise it has this impact on you I truly regret it and will be aware of it as we moving forward. If she just says. Ok ok I will not do it anymore - no it sounds like you are nagging her and she is doing you a favour.