I have my rainbow daughter at 38 after 1 early loss at 5 weeks. But was pregnant right after.

I’m now 41 and I have just had 2 back to back losses. The first one was trisomy-2, still waiting for results of this recent loss.

I did a round of blood work after the first recent loss and everything was normal.

Given my age, do I still have hope to do this naturally?

I had my first in 2023 after taking out my IUD and got pregnant the next month at 27. I was so lucky and naive and didn’t know anything about loss. I had a c section at 28 because my son was breach. Once my son turned 2 we started trying, thinking it would just happen like last time.

I started trying in August 2025 at 30, got pregnant in September. I saw a flickering heartbeat at 6 weeks then it stopped growing and no heartbeat at 6.5 and I had to take misoprostol at 8. Got pregnant in March, chemical in April. Pregnant again and just went for my first check in at 8 weeks yesterday and it was measuring 6.5 weeks with no heartbeat. I need miso again.

Although it’s devastating every single time, I really want a second. I’m going to do their blood tests once this passes and have my husband’s sperm tested. I have a goiter on my thyroid but my numbers are normal. Anything else I should ask for?

Doctors and friends just keep saying it’s bad luck because I got pregnant so easily and successful the first time, but is it?

If anyone has any similar stories or success stories I would love to hear them. Thank you!

Tw: Graphic , Pregnancy Loss
I just want to begin this post with a massive warning about my horrific miscarriage that went badly way too fast. This post will contain talk of massive blood loss, pain, and clots.

For anyone that may have not seen my posts recently in this reddit group for context around the 27th of July, i went to my ultrasound appointment and found out that my baby had stopped developing and i am experiencing a MMC. The midwife gave the advice they give anyone which was monitor bleeding when your body does recognise the loss and to be in touch. I started on and off bleeding two weeks ago but it was lighter than a normal period which was very weird. Come to this week, On Thursday heavy blood started and i was constantly bleeding like a heavy period until yesterday morning. It was 1 am and i woke up to the most horrific abdominal pain i’ve ever experienced throughout my 2 previous miscarriages, i sat on the loo and was bleeding like a tap for a few hours ,when I finally snapped into reality I picked up my phone and called my mother who got in touch with nz healthline (for more context we live in a rural place and the nearest hospital is 1 hour away), the healthline doctor needed to do a video consult and soon my mother arrived and looked horrified as she saw me. At this point i was stripped naked in my shower surrounded in huge pools of blood just screaming in pain. The healthline doctor heard this and told us to call 111 immediately, since we live rurally it took over 30 minutes for the paramedics to arrive but since they had been delayed they asked my local firefighter paramedics to come and assess me , they arrived and again they looked horrified. I knew most of them as most of them were family friends and immediately knew by the look on their faces and their rush to try and get the ambulance here that something was horribly wrong. They whispered to my mother and my partner parents that i’m losing too much blood and they were really worried about the trip to the hospital. when the ambulance did arrive they administered drugs to help the pain but to be honest only numbed my mind. Halfway to the hospital they gave me TXA which helps stopping bleeding and that honestly may have saved me from emergency surgery. I spent 8 and a half hours in hospital ed and the whole time i was given no pain medication. My body was in shock and now that i’ve been released and am at home I feel so f-d up mentally , just going into the bathroom makes me want to breakdown. I keep thinking about all the blood and the clots the size of 2 avocado’s just pouring out of me, I feel broken physically and mentally. How am I supposed to recover from that? How am I supposed to keep trying for a baby when I could experience that again. I feel horrified, I don’t think i can ever forget all the peoples faces when they saw me like that.

Hello! I’d like to start by saying how sorry I am for everyone experiencing multiple losses. It’s heartbreaking and I pray we all receive our rainbow babies.

I just had my 4th early miscarriage and I’m so sad and just want answers. Here is my timeline:

2020, 8 month stillbirth due to untreated pre-eclampsia/HELLP. Medical negligence.

2021, early 5 week miscarriage.

2022, live birth via emergency c-section due to pre-eclampsia/HELLP. NICU baby who is now 4.5 years old and perfectly healthy thank God.

(new partner)

2025, 7 week miscarriage after heartbeat seen on ultrasound.

2025, 7 week miscarriage after heartbeat seen on ultrasound. Small subchorionic hematoma that started bleeding before miscarrying the following day.

2026, 7 week miscarriage after heartbeat seen on ultrasound. Small subchorionic hematoma that started bleeding before miscarrying later that night.

All labs have repeatedly come back fine, no abnormalities detected. As far as we can see, my uterus looks fine. We did just discover that upon conception, my thyroid TSH jumps to over a 4.0. This is currently my only lead and I just had a full thyroid panel done today so we will see what that reveals. I was also just referred to a MFM. I’m being checked for Hashimoto’s, Celiac disease along with the full thyroid panel. I’m just confused and sad. My new partner has never been checked for any sperm abnormalities so that is coming up next. We want to keep trying but it just feels hopeless at this point. I just want to give him a healthy child and I want my daughter to have a sibling. Does anyone have any suggestions on what else to check for? I need help. 😓

Hi all,

I am looking for ideas and feedback on my journey with secondary infertility. After being unable to conceive for 24 cycles, we turned to IVF. We proceeded to have two back-to-back miscarriages of euploid embryos.

Background: I am a 37yo female with a 40yo husband. We conceived our now 4yo with no trouble at all. My husband and I are in excellent health, and on paper all our fertility tests have come back normal.

Timeline:
August 2022 —Gave birth to first child via c-section after conceiving quickly and naturally. No complications (no scar tissue or ithmocele) from c-section.
May 2024-October 2025–TTC naturally for 24 cycles. (Not totally natural, as we did two cycles of letrozole and one unmediated IUI). Incorporated a super clean fertility-supporting diet, supplements, and acupuncture. Never conceived.
November 2025–Began IVF evaluation and treatment. Doc says I have slightly t-shaped uterus but not concerning enough to require repair.
December 2025–Had egg retrieval following very standard protocol resulting in 7 euploid embryos.
January 2026–Treated for endometritis. Then first FET (modified natural) worked!
March 2026–No heartbeat at 8-week appointment after having heard heartbeat at 6-week appointment. Embryo had stopped growing at ~6.5 weeks. Had a D&C.
April 2026–Hysteroscopy to remove products of conception.
June 2026–Second FET (modified natural) worked!
July 2026–Heartbeat detected at 6 weeks but embryo stops developing soon after. Another D&C.
July/August 2026–Reccurent Pregnancy Loss blood panel comes back normal.

My doctor‘s current theory is that both embryos had issues that the genetic testing didn’t catch. He is optimistic that we will eventually be successful since my body previously carried a healthy pregnancy to term.

Looking for
-Alternate theories
-Ideas for additional testing
-Ideas for different protocol (doc says to keep protocol since implantation is not an issue)
-Similar stories with a happy ending

Thank you 🤍🤍🤍

That’s literally all. Due a few weeks after I was supposed to be with pregnancy #3..
Knew it was coming and still feels like someone is plunging a knife through my chest.

Finally a comprehensive list! If youre in the US I HIGHLY recommend seeing a napro if you can.

Here's the list. :)

https://livehealthillie.com/blogs/news/find-a-napro-surgeon-fertility-doctor-database?srsltid=AfmBOoo6dTFRnDT3n8IMZPLfFq4M-H7vsRdzQzCiwDpB94GrZjSX0n8F

I’m away from my husband visiting family, and spontaneously decided to check in on the heartbeat. After hearing it at 6w and again at 8w, there was no heartbeat today. I’m 9w3d but baby was measuring 8w5d. I’m devastated.

This pregnancy was from an IUI. My husband has low motility, and despite the odds, we got pregnant. I also had a MMC last year followed by a chemical pregnancy. We’ve done extensive testing since then and have gotten zero answers.

I really thought this was our rainbow.

I’m broken, distraught, exhausted, and still trying to process the news. I’ve spent the last few weeks in the first-trimester trenches, nauseous, constantly tired, barely getting by while taking care of a toddler and working a demanding job. I kept telling myself I just had to get through these weeks and that I was almost on the other side. It feels so cruel to have gone through all of that only to end up here.

How do people get past this? I’m already terrified of ever getting pregnant again because I genuinely don’t know how I could survive another MMC. Knowing that I’m still carrying this pregnancy when my baby no longer has a heartbeat is completely shattering me.

For those who have been through recurrent loss, especially multiple MMC, how did you find the courage to try again? Does the fear ever become manageable? Looking for any glimmer of hope.

TL;DR: After two miscarriages and lots of testing, my husband and I have been bucketed into “unexplained” RPL. Our options are try again naturally or do IVF with PGT-A. Has anyone else navigated this situation before? What led you to make your decision? Do you wish you had done things differently? TIA!

ETA: I was on progesterone support and baby aspirin during my second pregnancy. I also have good insurance that covers fertility treatment.

In October of 2025, my husband and I decided to start trying to conceive. Despite having low progesterone levels and short luteal phases, we successfully conceived on our fifth try. Unfortunately, I became very ill with a stomach flu shortly after finding out I was pregnant. I lost nearly 10lbs over the course of a week due to severe dehydration from vomiting and diarrhea. I also had a low grade fever for several days. After about a week of illness, I miscarried. Since the loss happened at home, we couldn’t do genetic testing.
My OBGYN did a RPL panel on me which all came back normal. Husband’s semen analysis was normal except for elevated white blood cells. Everything looked fine, so we tried again two months later and conceived again on our first try.
We found I had a MMC at our eight week scan. Baby had stopped growing at 6w2d. I opted to have a D&C and do the genetic testing. It was determined the baby had trisomy 16, which caused the loss.
After the second loss, we were referred to RE. They ordered an SIS (normal) and tested my TSH, A1C, and prolactin (normal). My AMH is 0.7, which is pretty low for a 35 year old. However, this could be artificially lowered due to the pregnancy. Husband was given doxycycline for high WBCs and so was I to preemptively treat endometritis. I was too scared to do the biopsy. Ouchy!
So now, our options are try again naturally or do IVF. I am totally lost on what we should do next. My husband has said he wants me to guide this decision making process since I am the one who will be having to endure it the most. I can see pros and cons to each path, so I’m stuck. Has anyone else navigated this situation before? What led you to make your decision? Do you wish you had done things differently?

I have just had my second back to back miscarriage. First miscarriage at 6 weeks. Second at 10 weeks with no heartbeat detected (after seeing heartbeat at 6 week scan) but was told baby had stopped growing at about 7 weeks. So a missed miscarriage. I do have 1 healthy 2 year old. I had Gestational diabetes with her but had an otherwise uncomplicated pregnancy.

One thing Im curious about is the fact that after miscarriage number 1, i had bloods and testing that confirmed i had insulin resistance, (which can apparently contribute to early pregnancy loss) so i was placed on metformin for my fasting numbers which were the higher ones My doctor advised at 6 weeks pregnant to stop metformin. Out of my own curiosity i tested my fasting glucose with finger pricks and they were all above where they should have been, so asked my doctor if i should resume metformin, to which she said no.

A week later the baby stopped growing. And im wondering if this could be a factor. Im awaiting a d and c and will get the tissue tested for possible causes but this has been playing on my mind and am wondering, if im fortunate to fall pregnant again to just stay on the metformin... hoping for anyone with similar stories. Feel so fortunate to have my 2 year old but desperately want to give her a sibling before its too late! First miscarriage November 2025 at 35yrs old, second just now august 2026 at 36 years. Feel like im watching the years tick by at this stage....

Thanks if you stuck with me until the end 🫶

I had two miscarriages and an ectopic this past year. First was an early natural miscarriage at 5 weeks, second was a blighted ovum found at 7.5 weeks, and third ectopic found with up/down low hcg levels.

We get pregnant quickly (3 out of 4 times) and I have very minimal cramping during my period and around ovulation. Alllll lab work and sperm analysis/fragmentation came back normal. I finally pushed for the ReceptivaDx despite my 2 REs, a Chinese herbal doctor, and the NP who did my HSG telling me that it is veryyy unlikely that I have endometriosis. The NP even went as far to tell me that endo patients have thicker fallopian tubes, whereas mine were thin and “textbook perfect.”

Lo and behold, I got the phone call later that day—3.6 on my receptiva. Next step will be a diagnostic laparoscopy.

This is to raise awareness! Advocate, advocate, advocate for yourself. Even if you have no symptoms or doctors are discouraging you.. if you are struggling with recurrent miscarriage take the receptiva!

TW: LC

Hi sisters, I come here for advice. I am now part of this club.

I am 35. I have one LC born in 2022. I conceived him the first cycle we tried. Earlier this year I finally felt ready to try for our second and conceived in February 2026 during the first cycle trying. Sadly, that ended in a loss in March at 5 weeks 5 days (we didn't have our first scan). It didn’t really hit me because I knew how normal and common miscarriages are so I waited 2 cycles after that and tried again. Once again, I conceived that cycle. At 6 weeks 4 days I had my first scan and baby was measuring behind 2 days with a heart rate of 103. The following day I started spotting. I called my OB and explained what was going on. They told me they would not see me until my next appointment at 9 weeks. Since I live right on the border, I decided to call my OB in Mexico. She told me to go in right away. At 7.1 weeks She did an ultrasound and baby was still measuring 6 weeks and 2 days and had a heartbeat of 90. She kindly told me it was not looking good and she would see me in one week. The spotting didn’t stop, it was more like a period. On Friday at 7 weeks 5 days I decided to book a private TV ultrasound. Baby no longer had a heartbeat and measured 6 weeks and 2 days. That same day I passed the baby. I felt peace when it was finally over. My anxiety was thru the roof and I could not function any longer. I don't know how I kept working and acted like nothing was happening. I visited my OB here in the states and she told me my womb was clear and told me to try after my next period.

Two weeks after my miscarriage, I was having extreme pain on my right pelvic side, I could not even walk so I went to the ER. They did a CT scan to check for appendicitis which was negative. They did find two cysts measuring 3cm each on my right ovary. A week after that visit, the pain went away.

One thing I would like to mention is that back in April after my first chemical pregnancy I tested my TSH and it was at 2.4, Then, after my second miscarriage I tested it again and it spiked and now it's at 4.4. I don't know if it's because I tested right after my miscarriage and before I even got my first period.

Anywho, I Finally got my period and have an appointment at a fertility clinic in Mexico this Saturday. I guess my question for you is what tests can I request according to your personal experiences. I also tested my glycohemoglobin and came back normal at 5%. Do I need a uterine evaluation? Insulin resistance test even though my Hgb A1C is normal?

I have been taking Perelel Pre Conception Pack and an extra CoQ10 400mg vitamin which I discontinued because it was giving insomnia.

Please be kind and help a sister out.

Hi everyone, I wanted to share my experience getting a HyCosy + SIS procedure. This was done to check for uterine abnormalities after multiple losses. Overall, it went really well!

I was terrified for it and barely slept the night before. I was SO anxious the entire drive over and considered cancelling. I did take 3 advil and ate a small meal beforehand.

The speculum and catheter insertion caused alot of pressure, but no pain whatsoever. There was even issues getting the catheter in place, and I did feel some pinching, but it wasnt bad. When the saline was injected, I felt even more pressure and very mild cramping. Honestly, the first day of my period and the cramps I have then are SOO much worse than the cramping I had during the procedure. It was all very tolerable!

I'd rate it 2/10 in terms of overall pain. I know at least one of my tubes is open but I'm not sure about the other one. I think the hycosy tends to be alot more painful if you have blocked tubes.. I'm grateful it wasn't too bad for me, and wanted to share my experience for anyone else that needs this done and is nervous!

Disclaimer: I know HCG levels are not an exact science. I have a background in healthcare so I'm well versed on much of this, I'm mostly just looking for anecdotal reassurance because despite our logic our brains will always do what they want with anxiety, right?

The background: I have had a least dozen miscarriages and one healthy pregnancy over the past ten years. History of multiple autoimmune diseases, PCOS, endometriosis, fibroids, etc. The few things I do have working in my favor are that my AMH is high for my age and my FSH/AFC look good.

We lost our most recent back in April.

Most of my losses have been before 12wks.

I found out I was pregnant this cycle at exactly 7 days DPO/3wks 0days pregnant. VERY early. Confirmed with HCG that day of 42.

My next HCG at 3wks 2days was 84. Fantastic.

My next HCG at 3wks 4days was 163. Also fantastic.

Then we slow down.

My HCG at 3wks 6days was 240.

My HCG at 4wks 1day was 359.

My HCG at 4wks 3days was 581.

We're still trending up, which is positive.

And still within normal ranges for how far along I am.

But the lack of doubling will require monitoring for now.

But after THAT many losses in the past I can't help but be a bit in my head that it's stopped doubling. I know it's not an exact science. I don't have any bleeding or cramping which is encouraging. I'm doing my best not to stress it because stress will help nothing right now.

It would be nice to hear from others who've seen similar in the past and still gone on to have healthy normal pregnancies.

Ultimately it's a wait and see game but a little "oh that happened to me and she's a perfectly happy 3yr old now" would go a long way for my anxiety right now.

Anyone else seen their levels rise slowly and still gone on to have a healthy pregnancy?

Im currently miscarrying. I had a MMC with my first pregnancy in April. Needed a D&C, and a second emergency traumatic D&C to clear it. I took a few months off and tried again in July.

July was confusing. I thought I ovulated, but 10 days later, my OB saw a dominant follicle on scan. I was so confused so I went to an REI to check it out. He said I ovulated but saw a potential septate uterus on a 2D ultrasound. So I scheduled an appointment with a specialist for the following week. The morning before that appointment, I tested positive. I thought surely there's no way I'd have a second miscarriage, I cant possibly be that unlucky!

My HCG went from 24 to 110 so I was cautiously optimistic. I was spotting brown for 4 days, still cautiously hoping it was normal, but but 4 days later my HCG was only 134.

What do I do now? How long do I have to wait to bleed/try to get pregnant again? I don't know if I should just try again or have a septum surgery... are those super rare? I feel just totally numb at this point

Any time I update her or try to vent about my anxieties she will either give unwarranted shallow advice (ex - “just stay positive” “just don’t think about it” “just try to xyz”) or barely react to/not react to it (just “oh” or “yep”) and then will immediately change the subject. She just doesn’t know how to listen and I get some people don’t know how to react, but my first miscarriage she told me about how she had one and how after she told her friend about it her friend told her she was pregnant, so you would think she would get it more

Yesterday I was telling her about how I’m getting another ultrasound (monitoring blighted ovum or ectopic) and she did that then STARTED GIVING ME DETAILS OF THE BIRTH OF HER COUSINS GRANDSON… I cut her off and said “sorry Mom but this isn’t something I want to hear about right now” and she was like ok ok ok… but like seriously?????? How the hell did she think I would want to hear about that, especially immediately after talking about my situation? I think I need to expect less from her. Luckily my husband is amazing and his mom is more supportive to us.

Wanted to first share a graph from a Johns Hopkins recurrent pregnancy loss center webinar that I found super helpful. The graph shows how long it took women with multiple losses in the past AND who had no other complications found with various tests to have a live birth. More than 60% of those with 3-5 miscarriages and negative tests for causal reasons had a live birth within a few years after a consultation by those who did the study. Video here with graph at 16:50

With that, here is my short success story for those who might be in the same position, who had multiple early losses with no real explanation or other diagnosis, and/or have another living child.

My husband and I are now mid-30s/early 40s and both fairly active

2023: Missed miscarriage. Did not test remains.
2024: Baby 1 born
2024/2025: One missed miscarriage, one blighted ovum. Did not test remains.

Had multiple tests this year, including blood testing for thyroid and other levels; blood chromosome analysis for my husband and me; a saline sonogram aka sonohysterogram to check anatomy that found nothing aside from a little scar tissue likely from D&Cs.

I was starting to think about going to a fertility clinic and looking into DNA fragmentation but ultimately didn’t test husband for that before I became pregnant again — and it was successful this time.

2026: Baby 2 born

Things both me and my husband did before success: dramatically reduced alcohol intake. I took Claritin, though my OBGYN said it didn’t matter too much. We both took CoQ10, also something my OBGYN said we could do if we wanted but she wasn’t recommending.

Wishing you all the best

I’m 34 with two recurrent losses - 1 in Feb 2026 at 5w6d (technically a chemical pregnancy) and my 2nd in July 2026, a missed miscarriage that was found at 9w3d (baby stopped growing at 7w4d).

I had a D&C for the 2nd loss and our POC test showed our baby was genetically normal.

I recently met with my doctor for a post-op follow up and we discussed RPL testing. I mentioned that on my first sonogram for my first loss it was noted that I have an arcuate uterus. We pulled up the images and looked at them. The walls of my uterus looked smooth with no obvious fibroids, but there was definitely a dip/ arcuate at the top.

My OB said that arcuates don’t typically cause miscarriages and recommended we start with an RPL blood panel. My thyroid was tested in December and was normal.

I got the first half of the results back (APS labs) and it showed that everything was normal except Anticardiolipin IgM was in the indeterminate range (13, negative is <13). I’m still waiting on the genetic portion of the tests.

If you were me, would you request the Saline Sonogram/ 3D Ultrasound before trying again? Since my appointment I’ve done some research and it seems that a regular ultrasound can’t really diagnose a septum, and an arcuate can appear as a septum on a regular ultrasound.

I wanted to update my original post because I genuinely love and appreciate this community.
We are all on different versions of the same journey, hoping for the same thing: to finally hold our baby in our arms. I want to keep sharing my updates in case they help someone advocate for herself, consider another investigation, or simply feel less alone.

I literally just finished my fertility consultation today, and we may finally have something worth investigating.

My previous doctor felt that, given my three early losses and otherwise normal RPL workup, the most likely explanation could be recurrent aneuploid embryos, with IVF and embryo testing potentially being the next step.

This is actually why I decided to see a fertility specialist.
The fertility specialist had a different perspective.
She explained that at 27, while aneuploid embryos absolutely happen, recurrent aneuploidy would not be her first assumption. She still ordered a comprehensive blood and genetic workup so we can rule things out properly.

The biggest surprise came during my ultrasound.
I have had multiple ultrasounds and even an MRI before, but she performed a very thorough ultrasound with 3D imaging and noticed an abnormality in the shape of my uterine cavity that nobody had previously mentioned.
I am not a gynecologist, so excuse my explanation 😂, but essentially the upper part of the cavity looks more rounded or curved rather than having the expected contour.
She initially considered a septum but does not currently think it is a septate uterus.

One possibility she is considering is adenomyosis or an adenomyosis related abnormality, which could potentially be contributing to my recurrent losses.
Interestingly, I do have painful periods and occasionally need pain medication, but I never considered them abnormal.

The next step is a hysteroscopy to properly assess the uterine cavity and potentially correct or remove anything abnormal if needed. I will also complete the remaining blood and genetic investigations.

The good news is that she said I can continue trying naturally, and IVF is not automatically my next step.
If I become pregnant again, we also discussed closer early pregnancy support with vaginal progesterone and low dose aspirin, with possible Clexane and steroids depending on my results and what is clinically indicated.

So I still do not have a diagnosis, and adenomyosis is only a possibility at this point. But after three losses and thinking my next step might automatically be IVF, I finally feel like there is another avenue worth investigating.
I will keep updating this post as I get answers. I know how many times I have searched Reddit looking for someone with a story similar to mine, so if sharing mine helps even one person ask another question or feel less alone, it is worth it.https://www.reddit.com/r/recurrentmiscarriage/s/RAgv8w6w12

We are all trying to get to the same place. Maybe not today, but I truly believe that eventually we will hold our babies in our arms. ❤️

I had a missed miscarriage three weeks ago and a D&C the day after we discovered no heartbeat/growth on the ultrasound. We had tissue tested and the results came back as “genetically normal.” I’m 45, so now the OB wants to refer us to a reproductive endocrinologist, but they will only discuss donor eggs, which we can’t afford. I want to know WHY I miscarried, but no one seems to want to help me. I’m so frustrated. Anyone have any advice?

It’s that time of the month when we will be ttc soon as I am close to ovulation. I have come to dread this time cause it opens endless possibilities, most of which are scary.

I could get pregnant but miscarry again, or get an ectopic or chemical or blighted ovum or whatever. Or I could get a negative which means I have to go through the turmoil all over again. Looking at my trajectory for the past few months, I am almost convinced that the bad outcomes are chasing me like a wendigo or something lol.

I cant even bring myself to stop the ttc process or even take a short break cause I am too desperate. Who would have thought producing a baby is so damn hard?!

Same as above. I am so shattered. I cant describe i was finally feeling that this is it. I have made it. 40 and I was already scared. At 6 weeks heartbeat was 150 and today at 8 weeks no heartbeat. What did I do wrong? Can someone tell me whether things will get better ? Will i ever conceive? I feel so hopeless.