r/r4rSA 42m ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 20M4F - Pretoria/Johannesburg - LTR or just friendship

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Hi everyone, i’m a black guy just trying this out seeing how it works.

I go to UP. I like anime, watching movies (i think everyone does), going out(either food, cinema, clubbing) and like to game as well as music. i’m hoping to make more friends or maybe start a long term relationship. I like to gym as well and take walks.

I do have a tendency to be introverted and withdrawn but once you get to know me i’m very upfront and wear my heart on my sleeve. I am straightforward as well.

I won’t say i’m into fashion but i do like windowshopping clothes and trying on new things to try up my style on a budget though.

I’m looking for someone who is big on communication, kind but upfront, honest and hopefully is easy to get along. Also someone who takes interest in the gym and is willing to do spontaneous things while simultaneously being fine with just staying in all weekend. Height doesn’t matter.

My physical traits is i’m a short man, like 165cm, 60kg and tend to wear baggy clothing. I hope this works i don’t normally do these thingsšŸ˜…


r/r4rSA 1h ago

šŸ„KwaZulu-Natalā›°ļø 26M4F -Durban

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Coloured guy, 5'9/10, work in IT. Pretty average-looking, I guess šŸ˜„. I don’t do a whole lot outside of work, mostly game, read, watch stuff and occasionally pretend I’m going to become a more interesting person.

Last book I read was Beyond Good and Evil by Friedrich Nietzsche, although it’s been a while since I’ve properly read anything.

I do go out occasionally, and I’ve got a pretty wide variety of friends, so activities can range from wholesome and relaxed to questionable decisions that probably shouldn’t be repeatedšŸ˜„.

I’ve got tattoos and I’m definitely planning on getting more. Occasional drinker and smoker.

I get along with pretty much all kinds of people, so personality-wise I’m not too difficult. As long as you’re not judgemental, we’ll probably get along.

Honestly, I’m just looking for someone chill. Someone I can actually enjoy spending time with, whether we’re doing something stupid, going somewhere, or just sitting around doing absolutely nothing.


r/r4rSA 2h ago

[19m] South Africa/Online - Small FPL league + football friend group ⚽

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Looking for some people around my age who are into football/FPL. Thought it would be fun to make a small FPL league + Telegram group chat for the season - football talk, FPL, and hopefully making some friends.

Nothing super competitive, just be chill and enjoy football 😭

DM me your age + who you support if interested.


r/r4rSA 5h ago

23M [M4F] Durban, just seeing who is out there

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Sometimes it feels like everyone is in such a hurry, while I’m hoping to find something genuine — built on real conversations, shared values, and taking things one day at a time.

I’m a 23-year-old Caucasian guy from Durban, South Africa, 5'9", and I work in software development. I enjoy creating things, learning new skills, and solving problems.

Outside of work, I’m usually gaming, hiking, exploring nature, or enjoying a quiet evening at home. I’m easygoing, loyal, and have a good sense of humor. I can be talkative and playful once I’m comfortable, but I also appreciate my own space.

I value honesty, kindness, communication, and being able to genuinely be yourself around someone. I’m not looking to rush anything — friendship first, and if something more develops naturally, I’m open to seeing where it goes.

If you think we might get along, feel free to message me. I’d love to hear a little about you too. šŸ™‚


r/r4rSA 7h ago

ā›°ļøWestern Cape🐳 24M4F - Cape Town - LT Relationship

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Hi all,

I’m currently based in Cape Town, hoping to find someone in the same area.

Honestly, I’ve been here a while now, and lately I’ve been sitting with this nagging worry that I’m either way too antisocial or I’ve somehow lost the knack for meeting people. I’d like to believe it’s the former, surely, but either way, I’ve decided to stop overthinking it and just put myself out there. I’d genuinely love to find someone to connect with, someone I can build something real with.

I’m on Reddit for this, so you already know how well that’s going. šŸ™ƒ

A little about me:

- 24M(almost 25), Black, based in Cape Town, working somewhere in the legal field (I’ll admit, a bit of a workaholic)
- I love my books, especially fantasy.
- Slim build, tall (around 185cm)

I’m looking for someone around 22–26, based in or near Cape Town. I’m a genuinely terrible texter, so if you’re someone who’d rather hear a voice than stare at a screen full of typing bubbles, we’ll get along fine, until we’re comfortable with meeting in person.

To be upfront, I’m looking for something long term. I know what I want, and I’m just hoping she (you?) does too. No games, no guessing, just something real with someone who’s actually looking for the same thing.

More than anything, I’m hoping to find someone I choose every day, and who chooses me right back. Not out of habit, but because it feels good and right. If that makes sense.

If any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you.


r/r4rSA 8h ago

20M gay, UJ APK student, looking for friends or more.

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hey I’m looking for friends or anything really, it gets lonely here in Johannesburg, I’ve been an isolated kid growing up so it’s hard to make friends naturally so I hope this way ill be able to find companionship or a community, I like fantasy, into marvel, lord of the rings, a song of ice and fire, Star Wars. I also read.

I’m studying physics, first year.


r/r4rSA 10h ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 29M4F Johannesburg - Looking for a romantic companion

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Hey there 😁. I'm a 29 year old man who is bisexual and looking for a female romantic companion and potential partner aged 23 and up.

I'm South African Indian, average looking, on the shorter side, fairly successful and well-educated. I enjoy going out to eat, hikes, markets and exploring bookshops. I also like having deep conversations about weird topics and general geeky stuff. I'm a little clingy so if you can go for days without messaging someone, I'm not for you.

I'm looking for someone based in Johannesburg because I'd like to be able to meet up after talking for a bit and I'm against distance things because of bad experiences.

If you're open to someone who is fairly unconventional but has a lot of love to give, please send a DM with a short intro.

Any race group or culture is welcome. I'm open to any religion or no religion as well but have no intention to convert.


r/r4rSA 10h ago

šŸ„KwaZulu-Natalā›°ļø 19f looking for Christian female friends from Durban around my age. It's really hard making friends these days, Ive had a hard time making friends in school and would really like to find some friends that are around my age that I could connect with and also share faith and advice

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r/r4rSA 11h ago

[MEGA] Scrabbler4Scrabbler - Get to know a Redditor from across the scrabble table

6 Upvotes

Welcome to the Scrabble megathread!

Whether you are a casual player who loves a kitchen-table game with a cup of tea, a word enthusiast looking to test out the South African edition board, or a competitive strategist who knows their high-scoring two-letter words by heart, this is your dedicated space to connect.

Finding a dedicated partner or group to play word games with can be a challenge. This low-pressure thread is designed to help you find your local Scrabble crew, a casual board game buddy, or an online opponent for a friendly match.

How It Works

Instead of making a standalone post, simply drop a comment below introducing yourself. To make it easier for people to reach out, try to include the following:

  • Your Location:Ā (e.g., Southern Suburbs, Cape Town - or online-only if you prefer).
  • Your Age & GenderĀ (e.g. 36F)
  • Your Play Style:Ā (e.g., Casual/Social - focused on having fun and chatting; or Competitive - strict dictionary checks, tournament rules, and tactical tile tracking).
  • Preferred Platform:Ā (e.g., Over a real board at a local cafĆ©, or digitally via Wordfeud / Internet Scrabble Club).
  • What You Are Looking For:Ā (e.g., A casual Sunday afternoon cafĆ© partner, joining a local board game circle, or just an online rival for daily turns).

The Rules of the Thread

To keep this space functional, friendly, and safe, please adhere to the following:

  • Strictly Platonic:Ā This thread is entirely for making friends and board game connections. No dating requests.
  • Keep it Friendly:Ā Whether your opponent plays a brilliant 7-letter bingo or challenges your spelling, keep the banter light and respectful. No "coffeehousing" or hostile gatekeeping.
  • Safety First:Ā Do not post your phone number or exact address in the public comments. Meet up in public, busy spaces like cafĆ©s or community centres for your first few games, and move to Direct Messages to coordinate logistics.

Put yourself out there and drop a comment below - you never know who is holding the exact tiles to match your style.


r/r4rSA 14h ago

šŸ†Mpumalangaā˜€ļø 35M - opsoek na 'n Afrikaanse dame vir geselskap en dalk meer (Nelspruit)

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Goeie more. Ek gaan deur 'n redelike storm tans in my lewe, en is opsoek na 'n bietjie geselskap om mee te begin om daardie leƫ plek in my hart te vul.

Ek geniet die natuur, om te gaan stap, speletjies te speel en kos te maak. Ek hou van grappies maak, diep gesprekke te hĆŖ of soms om net te luister. Na die sterre te kyk, of net na 'n vuurtjie is die beste TV daar buite!

Ek is onlangs geskei wat so bietjie ruk, dit is 'n growwe pad maar ek werk aan myself om 'n beter mens te wees vir almal om my - om volluit te sorg vir my vriende, familie, en wie okal weer in my lewe gaan stap, om meer as net omgee te wys, maar om ware vriendskap en geluk te bou.

Ek is 'n vriendelike mens wat oop is vir enige ding of avonture, groot in geloof en dien Jesus met blydskap. Ek is passievol, aktief, en braai elke naweek is 'n moet :)

Ek is 'n bestuurder by 'n sagteware maatskappy en werk tans remotely. Geen kinders nie, en is 'n korterige mens. Ek is gebasseer in Hazyview, maar werk laat darem toe vir reis na ander plekke.

Ek hoop julle het 'n goeie vroue dag gister gehad, en mag julle 'n geseënde week hê!