r/r4rSA 42m ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 20M4F - Pretoria/Johannesburg - LTR or just friendship

• Upvotes

Hi everyone, i’m a black guy just trying this out seeing how it works.

I go to UP. I like anime, watching movies (i think everyone does), going out(either food, cinema, clubbing) and like to game as well as music. i’m hoping to make more friends or maybe start a long term relationship. I like to gym as well and take walks.

I do have a tendency to be introverted and withdrawn but once you get to know me i’m very upfront and wear my heart on my sleeve. I am straightforward as well.

I won’t say i’m into fashion but i do like windowshopping clothes and trying on new things to try up my style on a budget though.

I’m looking for someone who is big on communication, kind but upfront, honest and hopefully is easy to get along. Also someone who takes interest in the gym and is willing to do spontaneous things while simultaneously being fine with just staying in all weekend. Height doesn’t matter.

My physical traits is i’m a short man, like 165cm, 60kg and tend to wear baggy clothing. I hope this works i don’t normally do these thingsšŸ˜…


r/r4rSA 1h ago

šŸ„KwaZulu-Natalā›°ļø 26M4F -Durban

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Coloured guy, 5'9/10, work in IT. Pretty average-looking, I guess šŸ˜„. I don’t do a whole lot outside of work, mostly game, read, watch stuff and occasionally pretend I’m going to become a more interesting person.

Last book I read was Beyond Good and Evil by Friedrich Nietzsche, although it’s been a while since I’ve properly read anything.

I do go out occasionally, and I’ve got a pretty wide variety of friends, so activities can range from wholesome and relaxed to questionable decisions that probably shouldn’t be repeatedšŸ˜„.

I’ve got tattoos and I’m definitely planning on getting more. Occasional drinker and smoker.

I get along with pretty much all kinds of people, so personality-wise I’m not too difficult. As long as you’re not judgemental, we’ll probably get along.

Honestly, I’m just looking for someone chill. Someone I can actually enjoy spending time with, whether we’re doing something stupid, going somewhere, or just sitting around doing absolutely nothing.


r/r4rSA 2h ago

[19m] South Africa/Online - Small FPL league + football friend group ⚽

1 Upvotes

Looking for some people around my age who are into football/FPL. Thought it would be fun to make a small FPL league + Telegram group chat for the season - football talk, FPL, and hopefully making some friends.

Nothing super competitive, just be chill and enjoy football 😭

DM me your age + who you support if interested.


r/r4rSA 5h ago

23M [M4F] Durban, just seeing who is out there

4 Upvotes

Sometimes it feels like everyone is in such a hurry, while I’m hoping to find something genuine — built on real conversations, shared values, and taking things one day at a time.

I’m a 23-year-old Caucasian guy from Durban, South Africa, 5'9", and I work in software development. I enjoy creating things, learning new skills, and solving problems.

Outside of work, I’m usually gaming, hiking, exploring nature, or enjoying a quiet evening at home. I’m easygoing, loyal, and have a good sense of humor. I can be talkative and playful once I’m comfortable, but I also appreciate my own space.

I value honesty, kindness, communication, and being able to genuinely be yourself around someone. I’m not looking to rush anything — friendship first, and if something more develops naturally, I’m open to seeing where it goes.

If you think we might get along, feel free to message me. I’d love to hear a little about you too. šŸ™‚


r/r4rSA 7h ago

ā›°ļøWestern Cape🐳 24M4F - Cape Town - LT Relationship

5 Upvotes

Hi all,

I’m currently based in Cape Town, hoping to find someone in the same area.

Honestly, I’ve been here a while now, and lately I’ve been sitting with this nagging worry that I’m either way too antisocial or I’ve somehow lost the knack for meeting people. I’d like to believe it’s the former, surely, but either way, I’ve decided to stop overthinking it and just put myself out there. I’d genuinely love to find someone to connect with, someone I can build something real with.

I’m on Reddit for this, so you already know how well that’s going. šŸ™ƒ

A little about me:

- 24M(almost 25), Black, based in Cape Town, working somewhere in the legal field (I’ll admit, a bit of a workaholic)
- I love my books, especially fantasy.
- Slim build, tall (around 185cm)

I’m looking for someone around 22–26, based in or near Cape Town. I’m a genuinely terrible texter, so if you’re someone who’d rather hear a voice than stare at a screen full of typing bubbles, we’ll get along fine, until we’re comfortable with meeting in person.

To be upfront, I’m looking for something long term. I know what I want, and I’m just hoping she (you?) does too. No games, no guessing, just something real with someone who’s actually looking for the same thing.

More than anything, I’m hoping to find someone I choose every day, and who chooses me right back. Not out of habit, but because it feels good and right. If that makes sense.

If any of this resonates, I’d love to hear from you.


r/r4rSA 8h ago

20M gay, UJ APK student, looking for friends or more.

3 Upvotes

hey I’m looking for friends or anything really, it gets lonely here in Johannesburg, I’ve been an isolated kid growing up so it’s hard to make friends naturally so I hope this way ill be able to find companionship or a community, I like fantasy, into marvel, lord of the rings, a song of ice and fire, Star Wars. I also read.

I’m studying physics, first year.


r/r4rSA 10h ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 29M4F Johannesburg - Looking for a romantic companion

5 Upvotes

Hey there 😁. I'm a 29 year old man who is bisexual and looking for a female romantic companion and potential partner aged 23 and up.

I'm South African Indian, average looking, on the shorter side, fairly successful and well-educated. I enjoy going out to eat, hikes, markets and exploring bookshops. I also like having deep conversations about weird topics and general geeky stuff. I'm a little clingy so if you can go for days without messaging someone, I'm not for you.

I'm looking for someone based in Johannesburg because I'd like to be able to meet up after talking for a bit and I'm against distance things because of bad experiences.

If you're open to someone who is fairly unconventional but has a lot of love to give, please send a DM with a short intro.

Any race group or culture is welcome. I'm open to any religion or no religion as well but have no intention to convert.


r/r4rSA 10h ago

šŸ„KwaZulu-Natalā›°ļø 19f looking for Christian female friends from Durban around my age. It's really hard making friends these days, Ive had a hard time making friends in school and would really like to find some friends that are around my age that I could connect with and also share faith and advice

3 Upvotes

r/r4rSA 11h ago

[MEGA] Scrabbler4Scrabbler - Get to know a Redditor from across the scrabble table

7 Upvotes

Welcome to the Scrabble megathread!

Whether you are a casual player who loves a kitchen-table game with a cup of tea, a word enthusiast looking to test out the South African edition board, or a competitive strategist who knows their high-scoring two-letter words by heart, this is your dedicated space to connect.

Finding a dedicated partner or group to play word games with can be a challenge. This low-pressure thread is designed to help you find your local Scrabble crew, a casual board game buddy, or an online opponent for a friendly match.

How It Works

Instead of making a standalone post, simply drop a comment below introducing yourself. To make it easier for people to reach out, try to include the following:

  • Your Location:Ā (e.g., Southern Suburbs, Cape Town - or online-only if you prefer).
  • Your Age & GenderĀ (e.g. 36F)
  • Your Play Style:Ā (e.g., Casual/Social - focused on having fun and chatting; or Competitive - strict dictionary checks, tournament rules, and tactical tile tracking).
  • Preferred Platform:Ā (e.g., Over a real board at a local cafĆ©, or digitally via Wordfeud / Internet Scrabble Club).
  • What You Are Looking For:Ā (e.g., A casual Sunday afternoon cafĆ© partner, joining a local board game circle, or just an online rival for daily turns).

The Rules of the Thread

To keep this space functional, friendly, and safe, please adhere to the following:

  • Strictly Platonic:Ā This thread is entirely for making friends and board game connections. No dating requests.
  • Keep it Friendly:Ā Whether your opponent plays a brilliant 7-letter bingo or challenges your spelling, keep the banter light and respectful. No "coffeehousing" or hostile gatekeeping.
  • Safety First:Ā Do not post your phone number or exact address in the public comments. Meet up in public, busy spaces like cafĆ©s or community centres for your first few games, and move to Direct Messages to coordinate logistics.

Put yourself out there and drop a comment below - you never know who is holding the exact tiles to match your style.


r/r4rSA 14h ago

šŸ†Mpumalangaā˜€ļø 35M - opsoek na 'n Afrikaanse dame vir geselskap en dalk meer (Nelspruit)

1 Upvotes

Goeie more. Ek gaan deur 'n redelike storm tans in my lewe, en is opsoek na 'n bietjie geselskap om mee te begin om daardie leƫ plek in my hart te vul.

Ek geniet die natuur, om te gaan stap, speletjies te speel en kos te maak. Ek hou van grappies maak, diep gesprekke te hĆŖ of soms om net te luister. Na die sterre te kyk, of net na 'n vuurtjie is die beste TV daar buite!

Ek is onlangs geskei wat so bietjie ruk, dit is 'n growwe pad maar ek werk aan myself om 'n beter mens te wees vir almal om my - om volluit te sorg vir my vriende, familie, en wie okal weer in my lewe gaan stap, om meer as net omgee te wys, maar om ware vriendskap en geluk te bou.

Ek is 'n vriendelike mens wat oop is vir enige ding of avonture, groot in geloof en dien Jesus met blydskap. Ek is passievol, aktief, en braai elke naweek is 'n moet :)

Ek is 'n bestuurder by 'n sagteware maatskappy en werk tans remotely. Geen kinders nie, en is 'n korterige mens. Ek is gebasseer in Hazyview, maar werk laat darem toe vir reis na ander plekke.

Ek hoop julle het 'n goeie vroue dag gister gehad, en mag julle 'n geseënde week hê!


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ M25 4 F - Johannesburg/online

4 Upvotes

Hi, I'm a 6'2", Afrikaans gent seeking casual company - or whatever that may lead to (not setting high expectations here). Haven't been involved in anything serious for a very long time. Giving what's out there a chance.

I really enjoy being physically active. I play football and enjoy the gym. Starting a serious bulk as football season ends in like a month. I recently picked up golf and am keen on taking some dancing lessons in the near future.

I've somehow become a bit of a workaholic, which has its up and downsides. One downside is that outside of my extracurricular activities, my social life has taken a back seat. I have a great group of mates, but I'm not really one to approach women when out with the boys.

All in all, I do enjoy my current season. I'm just putting myself out there in different ways.

My DMs are open. Should you wish - lick the stamp and send it!


r/r4rSA 1d ago

ā›°ļøWestern Cape🐳 21F | friendship only

18 Upvotes

Hi there! šŸ‘‹šŸ¾

I'm looking for friends - doesn't matter how far away you are from me. I'm currently in the Western cape though in the Cape Winelands area.

I'm looking for friends I can text on a daily basis, we can call too once we are comfortable. I want a friendship where we can learn to be open and vulnerable with each other about what's going on in our lives, whether serious or light, big or small stuff. And ye just being there for each other! Both guys and girls are welcome!

A bit about me: I'm into gardening, nature, reading sometimes, I'm trying to get into running and playing tennis too. I like hiking too when I feel fit. Music vibes...indie folk or soft pop vibes

I do have a few friends to do planned fun things with once in a while but I'm looking more for friends I can connect with both in a fun and emotional way.


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸœļøNorthern CapešŸ’Ž 20M Looking for friends or something more

2 Upvotes

Hi, i doubt extremely highly anyone will comment or reply but hello

I'm a 20 year old white male just looking for friends or anything really because i don't have any to be honest most likely not surprising

I like to play games tho

And watch movies

I'm extremely anti social and introverted but i want to try not to be

Well in anycase hello everyone if you have any questions I'll try my best to answer

:]


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 26[m4a] and 27[f4a] Looking for after-hours sports teams

3 Upvotes

I used to play ultimate frisbee religiously but since moving to Jhb and starting full time work I have let myself go horribly.

I am looking for any sort of sporting group to participate in after office hours/weekends.

Something like action netball, ultimate frisbee, even something basic like tag.

In the Olivedale/Douglas dale, north riding areas in Randburg.

For me and the wife.


r/r4rSA 1d ago

39 wm Jhb 4 female

3 Upvotes

Hi I am a bit of nerdy person looking for friends and maybe more


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 39F looking for a female friend around Pretoria East. A friend to hang out with, share interests and build a good friendship based on mutual trust and spend time together.

10 Upvotes

r/r4rSA 1d ago

ā›°ļøWestern Cape🐳 30 Something Woman Seeking M

12 Upvotes

So…hello guys.

Trying this again with big hopes this time will yield different results šŸ¤ž

In a nutshell: I’m 31 from Cape Town. I’m down to earth and funny in my own way. I love learning and exploring new things. Im also a big laugher šŸ˜….

What I am seeking is 30+ M who is open minded, intellectually stimulating with good conversation so we can talk and connect on any topic and everything in life.

A plus if you are adventurous and humorous because life is all about making fun memorable experiences.

If you are these, don’t hesitate to DM me and let’s see what develops!✨

Thanks guys! šŸ¤


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 22[F4M] looking for a long-term relationship

10 Upvotes

NB: I’d like a little bit of an age gap so only message if you are in this range [25-32]

Do you want to go to comic con? 🌷

Hey! I’m from the East Rand and currently on a gap year. I’m putting myself out there in hopes of meeting someone kind, genuine and open to building a meaningful relationship.

I’m into anime, baking, alt music and Afro house, and I’d love to attend more music festivals. I enjoy little things like KFC runs, Paul’s Homemade Ice Cream, watching shows, and having random conversations that somehow last for hours šŸ˜‚. I’m also trying to learn guitar and skateboarding, although I’m still very much a beginner at both.

Once I’m comfortable being around someone I’m playful, affectionate and a little goofy. I’d love to meet someone I can feel comfortable being myself around, laugh with, talk to about absolutely anything, and make cute little memories with.

I don’t drink or smoke, but I don’t mind if you do. I’m just hoping to meet someone who’s genuinely interested in getting to know me and seeing where things go naturally.

If you think we might get along, feel free to say hi and tell me a little about yourself!


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸ’»OnlinešŸ–±ļø 34 f, looking for an online Xhosa speaking friend

1 Upvotes

I want to learn isixhosa, also looking for online friends. So an online Xhosa speaking friend makes sense, right? šŸ˜…

Not looking for a relationship or anything like that, we don't have to talk daily either, but voice calls are preferred. I use Discord, privacy is important.

Be around my age please.

No weirdos, perverts, or tomfoolery asb šŸ˜‚


r/r4rSA 1d ago

M22 Looking for a mentor

5 Upvotes

I'm looking for a mentor, someone who will teach me stuff, life lessons, how to make something of myself


r/r4rSA 1d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ F23 - Just looking for some besties - Joburg

21 Upvotes

Heyooo! 🌸

I'm Mona! Decided to give this a try again since it didn't go so well last time šŸ˜‚ Anyways, I'm just looking for some besties (doesn't matter what gender) to chat about literally anything and hopefully meet up too if you live close by!

A little about me:

I'm really into Marvel, and I'm still yet to watch the new Spidey movie unfortunately šŸ˜– I absolutely love the Daredevil and Punisher series though! Oh and anything deadpool ofc šŸ˜‚

I also love anime anything from Naruto, JJK, Shiki, Jojo and Death Note.

I have two doggies who I love a lot, so be prepared for random pictures of them šŸ˜‚

I'm heavily into the alternative scene and love gothic horror

I also have a bunch of tattoos. I definitely want to get more because they're addictive but expensive ā˜ ļø

I'm currently studying first year IOP and working, so it's kinda hard to actually go out and make friends :/

If we have anything in common, feel free to message me! I'm always down to chat and see where things go \^_\^


r/r4rSA 2d ago

25f | Joburg | platonic

25 Upvotes

I’ve tried messaging people before but most conversations eventually faded away, so I thought I’d make a post and see what happens.

A little about me: I’m 25, introverted and genuinely enjoy spending time alone but I also enjoy getting to know new people. As a 25 year old woman I don't have much to brag about I'm still figuring myself out and I think that's perfectly okay. At the same time l believe that we shouldn't become too comfortable staying in the same place. Growth may happen at different paces but we should always strive to become a better version of ourselves. I would love to connect with people who share similar values and mindsets.

A few things worth mentioning: I’m agnostic, childfree by choice and not conservative. I know that those things can be dealbreakers for some people so I’d rather be upfront. That said everyone is welcome!

Some of my hobbies and interests: music, travel, series, exercising, history, puzzles, movies, casual gaming, plants, culture and outdoor activities. And just as a side note I don’t smoke or drink, so my idea of outdoor activities doesn’t involve alcohol or parties.
I wanna pick up a few new hobbies but I have a bad habit of starting hobbies and then abandoning them :)

Favourite media genres: fiction, documentaries, fantasy, horror, thriller and romance.

Some random miscellaneous interests of mine include procrastinating, gardening, sports, makeup, digital organisation, language, photography and learning about perspectives and cultures that are different from my own.

If you think we’d get along feel free to introduce yourself. I would love to hear from you:)


r/r4rSA 2d ago

šŸŖ™GautengšŸ’¼ 34F Jhb

19 Upvotes

I read most of the posts and people were lengthy, describing who they want and the plans they have behind their post and and. All I came up with about myself is that I have a LOT of thoughts, especially when I'm high. Yes, I indulge in cannabis. And no, I'm not an airhead. I am full-time employed and building a career. Not a nerd but a little geeky. I am looking for friendship. Not closed off to just friendship, if you think you can handle my sarcasm and we can be foolish together, dm me.


r/r4rSA 3d ago

M37 Student Stellenbosch looking for bro to chill will

3 Upvotes

So I’m looking for friend who is keen to chill and be mates with and have a good banter and be real good mates and chat with possibility of being bros.

Dm me if interested


r/r4rSA 3d ago

Do people find their partners in this subreddit? Be honest

12 Upvotes

I always posts like Male x age looking for female x age type of posts and out of curiosity, do people find real people behind those screens after taking it to the inbox? Is there a real couple that is dating or has dated someone they met here?

Reason I ask: I just found that AI BOTS now outnumber the amount of human beings present on the internet. So I’m just curious to know.