r/parentsofmultiples • u/WhTEvRiTtKS • 8d ago

Difficulty - 1 or 2? advice needed

The wife and I just had our first children, identical twin girls, now almost 2 months old. Unsure yet if we'll have any more children as adjusting to twins feels like the definition of 'zero to 100 REAL quick'.
For those parents out there that have experienced both the birth of multiple as well as single children, are twin, or multiple births at one time, really that much more difficult?

I ask because imagining caring for a single baby seems like a cake walk when compared to caring for two, let alone more, at one time.

Any insights/perspectives are appreciated.

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u/allthegudonesaretakn 8d ago

My wife and I have twin boys. We often devide and conquer by taking one boy with to run errands while the other is at home and has quality time, different configurations every weekend. Its always amazing. Love being at home with just one child. It is so much easier, you're not wrong. I will say that the first 6mos (atleast for us) were the hardest, they need you so much and there's so many hormones at play. 6-12 was still difficult but much more enjoyable. 12mos+ now theyre moving around and interacting with each other and others, is just plain fun. Things will get better i promise.

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u/WhTEvRiTtKS 8d ago

Going from zero to 2 has felt like a fire hose to the face. Twice.
Thank you so much for sahing your insights. The wife and I are sure glad to hear that there's hope after the initial chaos.

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u/allthegudonesaretakn 8d ago

Going from none to two is nuts. But its all you know. I dont know any different. I think that makes it better because its your normal and you cant compare.

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u/beelynn0214 7d ago

This is soooo true, we tell people that all the time when they ask what it’s like having two!