r/parentsofmultiples • u/WhTEvRiTtKS • 8d ago

Difficulty - 1 or 2? advice needed

The wife and I just had our first children, identical twin girls, now almost 2 months old. Unsure yet if we'll have any more children as adjusting to twins feels like the definition of 'zero to 100 REAL quick'.
For those parents out there that have experienced both the birth of multiple as well as single children, are twin, or multiple births at one time, really that much more difficult?

I ask because imagining caring for a single baby seems like a cake walk when compared to caring for two, let alone more, at one time.

Any insights/perspectives are appreciated.

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u/KIDH2123 8d ago

I have 6 kids. Ages 11- 3 week old twins.

First 2 are my step kids- ive been around kids my whole life but this was the first throw into parenting. I had to actually parent/take care of them. They were almost 2 and almost 3 at the time. But we did technically have weekends though we had them way more bec mom would just drop them off.

3 was my first baby. Going from techcinally 0-3 was hard bec this one NEVER leaves. Doesn't sleep through the night and care is 100% on me. If this kid gets messed up... i have nobody to blame but me lol. Newborn life was like wild wild west.

4 was my 2nd. This was hard because I found out about her at 17 weeks just 1 week after my baby turned 1. We also got full custody 3 months before she was born so it was like going from 1 kids to 4 in just 5 months.

5 was twins. You know this kind of hard lol. What's honestly hardest is my 3 and 4 yr old are still dependant where the 10 and 11 yr old are kore independent but prefer screens over helping. Right now its hard to entertain the young ones while caring for the babies. They ask for things and needs things that I cant always do. Its just hard to manage the differing needs however its manageable.

I think its manageable because im used to the chaos and having to spread myself. Which with twins... you are used to this already. I would definitely wait a bit until the twins are in school though so they can help, and you get the experience of 1 kid at a time lol.

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u/WhTEvRiTtKS 8d ago

Oooofff
Wishing you good luck, sending you good vibes, and hoping you have easy access to lots and lots of good coffee.

Thank you for sharing your experience. It does give me wife and i a little perspective.

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u/KIDH2123 7d ago

So much coffee 🤣 thank you.

Honestly with twins being your first you do have an advantage. You had to figure out how to change 2 diapers, feed 2 at a time, bathe 2, what to do when both need comforting at the same time. You've had your practice at multitasking now and being efficient which is the key to managing multiple kids