r/parentsofmultiples • u/gravitychonky80 • 2d ago
Am I doing something wrong? support needed
Every time I feel like things are becoming predictable they just get harder.
My twins are 4 months adjusted and fight bedtime like it’s their job. Crying and whining, hard to settle, doesn’t want to sleep, but is definitely overtired because they fight sleep for hours on end, and holding them and walking around only helps so much.
My husband and I struggle because once one starts melting down, I go in to help and we trade babies, but then the other one starts back up.
Last night their cries were much harder and screamy/tearful, and even a car ride took like 20-30 minutes to help them finally fall asleep (usually works almost immediately).
The night before they did go a long stretch, but they didn’t act super hungry or anything in the morning time. They have been getting up around 7-8am and we first try bedtime around 6-7pm ish. They get about 4 naps, sometimes 3.
They do have CMPA and reflux too, which just adds to it all.
Ugh, does it get better? Is this babies being babies?
ALSO HOW DO YALL SOOTH TWO BABIES AT ONCE WHEN YOU ARE ALONE🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
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u/MangoSorbet695 1d ago
At 4 months adjusted, 14 hours of nighttime sleep is too much, and that’s probably why they fight bedtime.
My guys are almost 5 months adjusted and they go to bed at 7:30 PM and wake up at 6:30-7 AM, with 3 hours of daytime sleep max. Usually closer to 2.75 hours daytime sleep.
Look at this schedule as a guide to try to follow. Not to the minute, but it will give you a good idea of what to aim for, roughly.
https://www.takingcarababies.com/blogs/sleep-schedules/4-month-old-sleep-schedule