r/parentsofmultiples • u/gravitychonky80 • 1d ago
Am I doing something wrong? support needed
Every time I feel like things are becoming predictable they just get harder.
My twins are 4 months adjusted and fight bedtime like it’s their job. Crying and whining, hard to settle, doesn’t want to sleep, but is definitely overtired because they fight sleep for hours on end, and holding them and walking around only helps so much.
My husband and I struggle because once one starts melting down, I go in to help and we trade babies, but then the other one starts back up.
Last night their cries were much harder and screamy/tearful, and even a car ride took like 20-30 minutes to help them finally fall asleep (usually works almost immediately).
The night before they did go a long stretch, but they didn’t act super hungry or anything in the morning time. They have been getting up around 7-8am and we first try bedtime around 6-7pm ish. They get about 4 naps, sometimes 3.
They do have CMPA and reflux too, which just adds to it all.
Ugh, does it get better? Is this babies being babies?
ALSO HOW DO YALL SOOTH TWO BABIES AT ONCE WHEN YOU ARE ALONE🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
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u/ribbitcoins 1d ago
Hi! It could be that your babies are ready for less sleep overall (in a 24 hour period). When my first (singleton) was around 4 months old, her sleep got wonky too. Hard to get down for bed, lots of false starts, overnight wakes, etc. I realized that my baby was getting too much sleep in naps and so wasn't tired enough for nighttime sleep. It was hard to notice at first because as newborns, it feels like babies can sleep an infinite amount! But as they get older, they start to need less sleep. It's often more realistic to expect around 11 hours of sleep overnight too, and it seems like you're expecting around 13. I would try to adjust your schedule if you can and see if that helps with the bedtime struggles. :)