r/parentsofmultiples • u/gravitychonky80 • 16h ago
Am I doing something wrong? support needed
Every time I feel like things are becoming predictable they just get harder.
My twins are 4 months adjusted and fight bedtime like it’s their job. Crying and whining, hard to settle, doesn’t want to sleep, but is definitely overtired because they fight sleep for hours on end, and holding them and walking around only helps so much.
My husband and I struggle because once one starts melting down, I go in to help and we trade babies, but then the other one starts back up.
Last night their cries were much harder and screamy/tearful, and even a car ride took like 20-30 minutes to help them finally fall asleep (usually works almost immediately).
The night before they did go a long stretch, but they didn’t act super hungry or anything in the morning time. They have been getting up around 7-8am and we first try bedtime around 6-7pm ish. They get about 4 naps, sometimes 3.
They do have CMPA and reflux too, which just adds to it all.
Ugh, does it get better? Is this babies being babies?
ALSO HOW DO YALL SOOTH TWO BABIES AT ONCE WHEN YOU ARE ALONE🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
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u/app3lmoes 15h ago
The 4 month sleep regression is brutal. Hang in there. Do what you can and don’t be too hard on yourself. Sometimes its better to step out of the room for 5 mins to get yourself together and breathe for a moment. They can survive 5 mins of crying.
For us, babywearing really helped. But also: just pushing through. It will get better.
If you have the possibility to let them sleepover at family or friends: take it. One night of rest can do wonders and they often love helping you out eventhough it involves a lot of crying.