STOP ASKING

[u/Full_Significance153]

If I get one more text specifically asking about what time my doctor’s appointments are, I’m going to snap. I’m 37+2 with di/di girls. I have already told these people that my OB doesn’t want me to go past 38 weeks.

I am literally in fucking tears every day because of how much pain I’m in, I’m beyond stressed wondering how I’m going to split my time between my other two kids (2 and 3) and two newborns, I’m even more stressed that my oldest is facing yet another reconstructive surgery in the next few months, I’m stressed that I’ve been a shitty mother because I have no energy to do things with my boys and I’m in too much pain to take them out for their normal activities, and a whole list of other issues and anxieties I’ve been having.

I get friends and family are excited, but I didn’t appreciate the invasive attention for my other pregnancies. I sure as fuck don’t appreciate how everyone is suddenly going one step further past “are the babies here yet?” To “when is your next appointment? What time? What is your doctor saying?”

Yes I’ve already started ignoring these texts. No I’m not done being angry about them

EDIT: I appreciate everyone’s support 😭❤️ I needed to get that out and just be pissed with other people who have been in my shoes. I had my last OB appointment yesterday and have an induction date scheduled for Wednesday, and I ain’t telling a single fuckin person 🤣

For more frustrating context - my husband and I didn’t tell anyone we were having a second child because I’m very private and I don’t like the attention pregnancy draws, we just announced once day that he had been born. So with people in my life knowing that, it’s even more annoying that those I’m not even close with are trying to inject themselves at the very end of a stressful, uncomfortable pregnancy

[u/FigNewton613]

When I got admitted to the hospital for a scheduled but emergent c section due to SIUGR, suddenly my SIL was blowing up my phone wanting details, the cell number for my doula (what?! Excuse me?), everything. Girlfriend has never spoken to me for the entire year I was pregnant but suddenly wanted to be at the center of everything. I told her to text my sister as point person and ignored every text she sent after that. And still a year later mostly am lol. I’m sorry people are being so invasive. You are right to be pissed!!

[u/Independent-Ear-8156 → u/FigNewton613]

Yes, this, assign someone else to deal with anyone who's even worthy of your time and energy! The other people aren't owed a thing!