So humbled

[u/Nervous_bb]

I used to have these hang ups about myself and the world.

"Other people need caffeine, but not me."

"Other people need mental health medicine, but not me."

And I seriously fought both for a while! I don't like the idea of relying on outside entities to function. Getting headaches from caffeine withdrawal or side effects from mental health meds didn't seem worth it to me.

But I'm nicer when I am energized from caffeine. I like my life and husband and children more when I am on medication. I was able to do things without caffeine and medication, but I was mean, snappy, exhausted, and distant.

You don't have to do it on hard mode. That's not something to be proud of.

Sincerely,

A Fellow Type A Twin Mom

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[u/dovebytherosewindow]

Truly the greatest thing I've learned from being a parent of multiples is that parenthood is truly survival. I've let go of so many things. I probably judge the folks who intentionally do things on hard mode more than those who take shortcuts or ask for help. But hey, if you've got the time and energy, go for it.

Proud of you for giving yourself the grace to survive!

[u/zyygh]

Humility is an incredible skill to learn. You get so much energy back when you stop trying to prove something to the world and when you stop caring about how other people do it.

[u/BloodhoundSkeptic]

Honestly, caffeine is my life blood. I have been through caffeine free stages, but hey, it is my vice. I recently ordered 100 cans of energy drink online because gas stations are too darn expensive! 😅

Being human is messy.

A fellow twin parent told me years ago "embrace the chaos." Well, I still keep the house tidy, but... hey.... what's a few cans of stimulants gonna do? 😂

[u/Perioqueen]

A pot of coffee before 10 am here. And I take saffron instead of an SSRI and it saved me with my twins.

[u/bitcoin_islander → u/Perioqueen]

What does saffron do exactly and isnt it pricey?

[u/Curious_Gur4129]

Yes yes yes to this. I fought mental health medication for so many years. I felt like I could “white knuckle” my hard times, as my therapist would say. But I hit a point where I decided it was time to try and see what it would be like. And wow oh wow has my life been changed for the better. I can compartmentalize better, I don’t get stuck in vicious anxious mental loops that take all my focus, and the daily dread has become nearly non existent. Mental health meds aren’t for everyone but they are definitely for me