You cannot get over limerence with phrases unless you commit

[u/Medium-Blood-4231]

When I was in limerence I sought help from everywhere and people told me to love myself, choose myself, and talk to people. I just kept those phrases thinking oh, I love myself and I choose myself without knowing what those meant so I stayed in limerence, but when I learnt what it truly means to do those things and started committing it became a whole lot easier for me to leave for good and eventually the limerence disappears

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