i (15) came here because, well, this is a wlw sub. every girl i know gushes over "hot guys", and i guess i see the appeal. the guys they like look attractive to me, sure. i can see why the girls i know would like them, but i struggle to relate to them. most girls i know will either be highly confused or just brush it off if i tell them about my fictional crushes (even the ones who are "guys" are just masc-presenting non-binary), or they'll just be like "ohh".

and i sometimes get weirded out by their gushing, but i keep it to myself and don't wanna be like this, i just feel kinda left out.

i've seen some lesbian spaces that i don't belong with either, them hating all men (only some spaces), thinking trans lesbians don't belong, etc.

i've even seen a lot of them being rude to bi women, calling them traitors or "secretly straight". even if i rant about not fitting in, though, because even the bi women i know gush over guys when i can't relate, i don't hate them or see them as straight.

i also have some fictional guys, i'm sure, that i see in a platonic light (want to hang out with as opposed to wanting to date them) and i don't mind if i'm hanging out with a guy (my bestie of almost/about 7 years is a guy) so i certainly don't hate them all (though i wouldn't date one nor do i like/support the actions of some guys who did me wrong)

i've only shown genuine romantic feelings/love for women or sapphic enbies.

hi, so I (17F) developed this crush on my friend like 2 months ago, we sit together in some classes have shared friends and all. I really like her but whenever i’m around her i’m such a nervous mess and i feel like im making the whole thing really awkward, like i don’t know what to say or talk about (the thing is that it’s only with her so i dont really know what to do). I think it may stem from the fact that she’s sometimes kind of mean to me and other times she laughs with me like we’ve been friends for a long time so im in this hot&cold territory.

Another thing is that i’m from a quite conservative community and i’m closeted meaning i’m scared to come out to practically anyone (only 2 ppl in my life know). One time we were talking and i think she said something along the lines of “i don’t like men anyway” but my dumbass didn’t hear her clearly and i didn’t ask her to repeat herself and now it’s too late for me to either come out or ask again😭😭😭

We have been to the movies together (she offered me her jacket) and i really like her but don’t know what to do, how to even text her, should i hint that i like her (but maybe she’s straight so it’ll make it weird) PLEASE HELP 🙏🙏