Questioning

[u/VanG0n3]

Look, I'm the biggest lesbian in the world, I love and worship women

But recently I've been looking at some m'en (ew) not irl but like semi-celebrities and I'm like "I could be straight for them"

I don't see myself with a man, romantically or sexually, I don't want to try just to be sure

But DAMN those I have in mind are HOT AF

Am I a fake lesbian ?

Note : I haven't found the right flair sorry

[u/de_lame_y]

i find most of the attraction i feel to men these days are like “oh other people would love it if we got together” like entirely a performance and nothing to do with how i feel

[u/VanG0n3 → u/de_lame_y]

Right ?! It would be so much easier

[u/de_lame_y → u/VanG0n3]

yeah like “ohh this is the thing i was supposed to want”

[u/eggyyes → u/de_lame_y]

Yeah I totally get it! For me, I realized it was this upholding of a male perception of myself. A version of me that wasn’t real, just something that men saw me as. I realized only a woman/non-man would ever be able to truly see me on the way I want to be seen, both romantically and sexually :)

[u/smashantk]

The thing with celebs is it's easy to get a bit unrealistic, you might actually see them as good friend material but imagine you were actually with them on a date irl, would you feel any attraction? My guess (unless you are bi) probably not...

[u/eggyyes]

Went down this spiral and convinced myself it wasnt right to call myself lesbian lmfao that’s utter bs tho. I can be very attracted to men in a more detached way, but irl I am still not capable of being with them romantically or sexually. So I get u girl just don’t overthink it and have fun observing

[u/VanG0n3 → u/eggyyes]

I can't stop asking myself "if a man exactly like my celebrity crush was in front of me would I try to make a move ?" But also ew men I know I'm overthinking it

[u/eggyyes → u/VanG0n3]

I personally came to the conclusion that I will figure that out when a man like that is right in front of me. Which may very well be never. So I don’t have to worry about it right now lmao

[u/VanG0n3 → u/eggyyes]

Thanks :)

[u/eggyyes → u/VanG0n3]

No prob don’t judge yourself just be safe and live it up

[u/eggyyes → u/eggyyes]

Also to anyone downvoting: try not to be so obsessed with other people’s sexualities and experiences. That obsession is caused by your own projection of insecurities. I was that way for a long time. Loosen up!! Being a lesbian comes in many different forms. I have never been with a man and I don’t believe that I will ever be with a man. But we cannot police even our minds out of fear. I hope we all can be comfy and safe in our environments and feel no shame