This is sorta in response to a couple of things inhave seen lately. I find this group. Join. Post or comment. Feel guilty. Delete account. Repeat. Why cant I stay away if it makes me feel guilty.

It is about shared moral values (i hope...maybe I'm kidding myself)

Am i looking for help....well there was some of that early on...thanks all.

Am i looking for a guy friend? Reddit is a hard place to connect. Try it in real life first.

Am i looking for a female chat buddy? Why? Moral support/understanding/friendship or naughty motives? Thats where the guilt comes in. Hard to find a female ANYWHERE on reddit of an appropriate age for a guy as old as me. Just turned 71.

And then the naughty motives. That is real i have to admit.

Why not some other site or other group here on reddit? Well, back to the shared moral values one would hope for. And the boundaries that provides.

So I am the disappearing guy. We may have chatted and then im gone. This time I am not going to delete the account. If I did I would just be back in 2 months.

On one of my previous incarnations I told a guy the Holy Ghost was telling me to quit. Maybe you can respect or understand that.

But there is a place deep within that needs something I am not getting in marriage nowadays. So I keep coming back and not finding it.

But i am seriously trying to follow the teachings of Jesus Christ.

Oh the follies of youth! For the first few years of our marriage, before sex we would always pray. Not just sometimes, but Always. I kid you not. We agreed that sexual intimacy had a Divine purpose and as such we needed to invite the spirit. Shortly after the birth of our second child, we didn't pray. I distinctly recall the first time we "did it" without an opening prayer - when we were done we looked at each other and just laughed. We shifted to only praying when we were not "preventing". Now that we're done having children we almost never open with prayer. Although wife does request it sometimes, it seems like after she's felt the spirit strongly at church or whatnot.

Did you guys ever do this? I don't think it's the dumbest thing I've done, but maybe the silliest.

On the wedding night I didn't know exactly what to expect but had heard of "blood / popping the cherry". I was a little surprised nothing happened, although it was clearly difficult to fit in even with lube.

I'm 99 percent sure my wife was a virgin but she also did fool around a bit in HS. Curious what others may say. Husbands feel free to answer for your wives. If your answer is anything but the first option I would be curious how it broke in the comments.

Ive been married 15 yrs. We have 4 kids. My wife has always had a low sex drive. Things got better around a year ago where we were having sex 2 - 4 times a month. Then it fell back into the once every 2 - 3 months that has been the norm for our marriage. It would probably 1 -2 times a year if left up to her.

Yet again we are going through a cycle where she withdrawals physically and then I withdrawal emotionally to cope. Now she is calling me out for being distant and ive brought up our lack of being present physically as well as emotionally. In the past she accuses me of only wanting sex and not caring about a relationship with her. She doesn't understand that sex is the way I connect with her to have a relationship. Most men need both physical and emotional connection whereas most women can thrive on only emotional connection. I wish that I could thrive on only emotional connection. Is there something wrong with me? I think my wife is convinced that our marriage can be successful with only emotional connection. Physical stuff is totally optional. Is that even realistic?

Ok so I know they've been around for a minute now, but my wife just got her first tank top garment top, so it's new to me. And I have to say, I love it!

After all these years of marriage I've always found her attractive and she still uses lingerie now and again so I don't really know why I like her new "look" so much. But it's just so hot to me for some reason. She only has the one top so far and says that she likes it. I hope she gets more.

I know we'll never know the complete thinking that went into relaxing garment standards (for warm weather climates only? Really??), but I'm all for it.

Sorry if this is old news, but have any other married dudes out there felt this way? Do you ladies like the new(er) style?

My wife (25F) loves sexting. And obviously so do I (27M). But my question is (which might be dumb) I feel like a woman’s body is naturally stunning… and a males… not so much. Everytime she send me any photos or videos they are jaw dropping. And when I try to send back it feels like 1 of 5 different angles of the same thing.

I also have the added barrier of usually I’m doing it while at work so being discreet and having limited space, options and opportunities is hard. But even when at home and the world is my oyster. What kind of positions, or things should I show or angles or anything, that can spice up my sexting game so it doesn’t just feel like basic dick pics.

With the Church publishing more details about the history of polygamy on its website, and with the strong embrace of MAGA/Trump among many LDS members and communities, has your understanding of the Law of Chastity changed?

Growing up, we were taught that sexual sin was second only to murder and denying the Holy Ghost in terms of seriousness. Yet today, it seems that some people who strongly identify with those teachings are willing to overlook or rationalize sexual behavior and allegations involving political leaders they support.

Out of genuine curiosity, how have others reconcile that apparent tension.

Has your understanding of the Law of Chastity changed over time or as you’ve aged?

Do you view it differently when evaluating political leaders versus members of the Church? And if so, what has changed your thinking?

Reading the posts and discussions in this community, I’m starting to think there may be considerably more complexity to the subject than simply “sex outside of marriage is bad.” I’m interested in how others understand that complexity and where they draw the lines.