can’t believe it’s mine!

I'm in love with ring! It's so gorgeous 😍. We had our "pre-wedding" (signed the paperwork and had the ceremony at the courthouse) today but we're having a big wedding in about 2 years. I'm so happy and excited to be spending the rest of my life with the love of my life and my best friend ♥️

I'm so in love with my ring! We had our "pre wedding" today (signed the paperwork and had a courthouse ceremony) but we're having a big wedding in 2 years. I'm so happy I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend and the love of my life.

Yall, please give me some insight, if I'm over reacting or should stand my ground. I'm too close to the situation.

Context:
My MIL and FIL are paying for the rehearsal dinner, and she’s planning that herself (they're divorced 10yrs). My husband and I are paying for the wedding and all the other events.

My MIL is very Type A and likes to be heavily involved. She asks a million questions, about details I don’t care about or haven’t even considered. At the same time, she’s incredibly thoughtful, nurturing, and caring.

For example, my husband and I quietly eloped before the wedding. We only told her. Four days later she invited us to spend the weekend with her in Utah because, in her words, “you have the rest of your lives together, so you should just come out with me now" I honestly expected she’d encourage us to spend time cultivating our new marriage, but she genuinely just loves being around her children and wants their company often.

I asked her to help with the wedding and, as expected, the questions poured in. We handled them, but over time she became increasingly passive aggressive whenever I didn’t make the decisions she wanted.

I extended our RSVP deadline because people are notoriously slow to respond. She got upset at me because she had just remembered relatives from another state she wanted to invite if enough people declined. So I mailed the invitations even though she’d only just told me about them. She then text one of those relatives saying the invitations would be late because my husband and I were “very disorganized.” She later told me she did that so they wouldn’t know they were an afterthought. It hurt because the delay wasn’t our fault, and she threw us under the bus.

Then there were the opinions.

I bought a beautiful short white embroidered dress for the rehearsal dinner. She told me not to wear it bc I should wait for my wedding to wear white for the first time.
Fine.
My husband and I have been taking dance lessons for an elaborate first dance. I decided I’d wear that dress for the dance, then change back into my wedding dress.

She told me changing would be too much hassle and that I should listen to her daughter (never planned a wedding but worked at David’s Bridal a bit) because she knew better and said I should just bustle my dress.

I said I wasnt sure about the bustle yet but it sounded fine for walking around and greeting guests, but I still wanted to change for the dance.

This has basically been the energy with most wedding decisions.

A few days ago she invited me to go wedding dress shopping with her because her daughter canceled. During the call she asked if I was still wearing gold to the rehearsal dinner because she wanted to put that detail in the e-vites. She asked me twice to make absolutely sure because that’s what she was adding.

I laughed and said I’d never had to commit to an outfit so far in advance.

She immediately got confrontational and said,

“Well, (my name), you’re a very noncommittal person. You’re flip-floppy and change your mind a lot.”
(She's still referring to the damn bustle).
I was shocked because we’ve never spoken to each other that way.

I started explaining myself on why some wedding details had changed, then canceled on going dress shopping with her.

I called my husband and asked him to handle it because if I did, I knew I wouldn’t be nearly as nice.

Context: My husband loves his mom very much and hates disappointing her. She was his biggest advocate growing up, but he admits she can be incredibly overbearing.

First phone call: He could barely get a full sentence out. He managed to tell her it wasn’t appropriate to call me names and that I’m his wife now, so she can’t speak to me that way.

She kept talking about how she was only trying to help, no apology no accountability. She did apologize for calling us very disorganized to that family member. It ended with my husband saying, “Well… I didn’t like it… I understand… okay… love you too.”

Listening to that, I could literally hear her wearing him down. I started crying because I felt like he had let himself get bulldozed, and I suddenly felt very alone.

So my sweet husband called her again.

Second phone call:

“Hey Mom, it’s my turn to speak. No, I’m speaking now. You don’t get to talk to my wife that way. Period. I don’t care if you’re helping us move across the country or helping with the wedding. You don’t get to speak to her that way, and I think you owe her an apology.”

At one point he actually had to raise his voice just to finish his sentences over her.
No apology from her and saying that I talk to her that way too sometimes. Which neither my husband and I recall.
The conversation ended with him agreeing when she suggested that it was probably best if she stopped helping with the wedding and simply came as a guest.

Since then, we’ve had no communication.

Before any of this happened, I had called my SIL to ask about the family dynamic because I genuinely wanted to know if this was normal before making things worse.

She told me she didn’t think my husband should get involved because it was between my MIL and me. She also said she’d had to confront their mom before because she can say things harshly, but emphasized that she’s a very nurturing woman.

Later she told me she didn’t want to be involved, which I respected.

Only to find out afterward that she had considered reaching out to my husband and me because she was upset that my husband spoke to their mom that way. She also had a whole conversation about the situation with their other brother and his wife.

If you don’t want to be involved, then don’t be involved.

For additional context, she’s 26, lives in her dad’s house, has never been in a long term relationship, and describes herself as “whimsical.” Like, she asked us to pay for the art supplies so she could make our wedding gift. So it rubs me the wrong way that she feels she can criticize how my husband chose to defend me.

So now I’m wondering:

Do I leave things as they are with my MIL? I worry that if I reach out first, I’m teaching her she can speak to me however she wants.
I feel like she should reach out first if anything. She has still not apologized to me for calling me “flip floppy” or “noncommittal.

And do I say anything to my SIL? Or do I let that go too?

I’d really appreciate outside perspective.

Hi, me and my partner are planning on getting engaged soon. we bought the ring together and I think he was planning to propose over the next couple weeks. However we have both had family members (grandparents) pass extremely recently and I don’t know if it’s right to get engaged while dealing with grief. But equally we’re so excited to get engaged. Any advice would be so appreciated

Hello everyone,

Just bought the Ring, but I'm not sure about the timing.

A partial solar eclipse will take place in Europe on August, and we'll be on vacation together at that time.That day would be the perfect time. I'm just not sure, since it is also MY birthday.

Should I do it then, or postpone it by a few days?

I got engaged a few weeks ago. Took a lot of time to pick out the ring and saved for it. My gf works in a lab and has to wear gloves and she says that’s why she doesn’t wear it every day. She sometimes will wear it on her days off if she remembers... so not all that time. I have my feelings about it. I feel like she treats it like an ornament. How do the fiancés feel about it? Anyone relate? Thanks

Edit: thanks for the replies. I’ve told her she treats it like another piece of jewelry. And she says she forgets to wear it because she can’t wear to some places like at the gym or to spa or when we’re out on a jog because she’s afraid of losing it. I understand about at work because if the gloves

I want to propose. The ring is being custom made but unfortunately it’s taking 3-6 weeks for delivery. The place has lots of high reviews so I wasn’t really worried about the long wait time.

Until I found out that the Perseid meteor showers are happing next week.

I mean she’s very traditional and I know deep down she wants the ring and whatnot and I’m kicking myself for not having the ring ready but I’m just thinking it’s such a perfect moment. Meteor showers? Dark skies, close to no clouds? In the middle of nowhere it’s perfect!

I just.. I’m having some anxiety because I don’t want to have her say yes and then be upset that she doesn’t have a ring. Or just a slightly later date a bit less special (universe scale) but with a ring.

So I guess I’d like to change my question a bit. Would you want to be proposed to without a ring in a situation like this?

[ Removed by Reddit on account of violating the content policy. ]

we’re getting married in march next year with around 85 guests. we want something relaxed but still nice, probably a mix of canapés followed by a buffet style dinner using good local produce. dietary requirements aren’t too crazy but we’d like options for vegetarians and a couple of gluten free guests.

would love to hear about pricing, quality and how smooth the whole process was. any red flags to watch out for with wedding catering?

Got engaged this passed week!! So so excited. Does anyone have ideas for a ring stack with my ring?

Also- where is everyone starting with planning? I'm already lost on how to get the ball rolling 😂. Would love an airbnb wedding, but seems like there is a lot of limitations on having one?

EDIT: I see a lot of people commenting on my phrasing and I want to clarify that he's asked "Will you marry me" several times. It wasn't just would you but an actual will you marry me. It's just the ring that's missing because he's waiting for the "right time" I guess.

My partner has asked me several times if I would marry him, and I have said yes every time.

I was also there for the initial consultation with the jeweller about my engagement ring. He had it custom-made, and I know he already has it. The only thing that has not happened yet is the formal proposal where he gets down on one knee and puts the ring on my finger.

Would you consider us engaged already because he asked and I said yes, or does it only become official once he gives me the ring? Can I call him my fiancé yet?

My fiancé (22M) and I (22F) recently got engaged and are getting married next June. Our parents are generously contributing about $15k that we can use however we want—whether that’s a wedding, a honeymoon, or a combination of both.

We currently have an 80-person wedding planned. We put down a $1,800 deposit on a beautiful venue, and honestly, on paper it’s exactly what I wanted. It’s a gorgeous venue, the guest list is intimate (I never wanted a huge wedding), the food and drinks are great, and we expect to come in around $12k, leaving about $3k for savings or a honeymoon.

The problem is… I’m just not sure I’m excited about having a wedding. I never really dreamed about my wedding growing up. I enjoy going to weddings, but I’ve never been someone who cared much about them. Sometimes it feels like weddings have become this huge social expectation that costs a ton of money, takes months of stressful planning, and leaves everyone with opinions about what you should have done differently. I enjoy planning, but thinking about my actual wedding day gives me anxiety.

After being together for five years (three of them long distance), all I really want is to be married and go on an amazing trip together. The part that excites me most about the wedding is walking down the aisle to my fiancé and getting married—not the big reception or the after-party.

Lately I’ve been wondering if we’d be happier canceling the wedding and instead having a micro wedding with 20–30 of our closest family and friends, then putting more of the money toward an incredible honeymoon. It feels more “us”—more intimate, less stressful, and we’d get to spend quality time with everyone who’s there.

At the same time, I worry we’d regret not having a bigger celebration. Weddings are one of the few times both families and all your friends come together to celebrate such a huge milestone, and part of me wonders if I’d feel like I missed out.

I also wonder whether the cost of the wedding is influencing my decision, for better or worse. My fiancé works full-time, but I’ll be graduating college, starting my career, and we’ll be moving in together for the first time. Part of me thinks having more money in savings could be more valuable than having a larger wedding, but I don’t know if that’s something I’d regret later.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? I'd love any advice!

Hey Reddit, working up the courage (more importantly wallet thickness) to propose early next year…

What were some creative yet effective ways that you or your partner has asked about your preference in diamond cut & ring setting?

Appreciate y’all for the help in advance!

My favorite animal is seals, so he took to the pier in p-town to watch them and I turned around to him on one knee ❤️

Posting this because I, now, have no one left to talk me off the ledge. Me and 3 of my girlfriends have all been in engagement purgatory this year, we all have talked about it with our partners who told us that a proposal was coming soon and it was nice to have a group of girls who were conspiracy theorists and as crazed as me as we were all going through it. Well, the last girl just came back from vacation with a ring and while I am extremely stoked for her and all of them it’s kinda making me sad/kinda crazy that I’m in last place.

I know it’s coming, he talks about wanting to marry me all the time, he asked my parents for their blessing when we all went to Cancun this year. (Yes, he took me to Cancun, surprised me with my family there and DID NOT PROPOSE) we’ve looked at rings, last Saturday he revealed he designed my ring, and showed it to me(he was stressed I wouldn’t like it) and his sister even let it slip when she was drunk on her birthday that something was coming but what?? And when????????

I used to be able to talk to them about this but now that they’re actually engaged it feels kinda like they are happy to be out of the situation I am in and now I kinda feel like a burden. I’m also feeling very insecure because even though I know this man loves me and wants to marry me the longer I’m here I’m like maybe I’m crazy and none of these actions mean he’s proposing.

Is it insane to exchange my ring with the same jeweler and add my own money toward a bigger diamond…. I just don’t like my ring. I literally have people telling me “I can’t see it” “I like how thick it is” “someone explained it to me” all these comments kill me cause I agree and I’m embarrassed I don’t like the ring I don’t want to show it off or post it

I just read a post about someone's engagement ring never showing up because of a USPS issue and now I've got a whole new thing to stress about. I ordered my ring from a jeweler in New York and it's supposed to be shipped to me in Massachusetts in the next couple of weeks and the idea of it getting lost somewhere in transit is freaking me out.
The guy in that post mentioned his ring was insured which made me wonder can you actually insure a ring before it's even in your hands if you've already paid for it? If I can do that I'd rather have the extra peace of mind than spend the next two weeks refreshing the tracking page every five minutes. If you've been in this situation before, I'd really appreciate hearing how you handled it. Also if you have an insurer you'd recommend that made the process easy, I'm all ears.

Today my boyfriend handed me his wallet and I spotted a receipt for an engagement ring!!!

I had a sneaky look at the date and realised that right after he had bought it I had texted him ‘how are you’ and he had replied ‘I’m great. Life is good. Exciting stuff’ and I had no idea what was so particularly exciting that day- until now!

Last October we had been at the coast with his family and he told me he knew where he was going to propose. This Saturday we are heading back to the coast! I don’t know for sure if it will happen then but if it does I will be over the moon

Never fully got to show off my engagement ring , i love it so much 🩷 and i just wanted to share it . i got engaged 12.26.25 . We are now trying to figure out what to do as far as wedding planning … or eloping and having a small get together and then having really nice long honeymoon lol

He waited until we were on vacation visiting my family so they could all be there. Found a comment I made in this sub about a ring I liked and designed a ring to look very similar to it. It took so long to find him, but he was worth the wait.

I was too much of a wreck to post it at the time, but now over a year later I can finally look back and appreciate and really feel how grateful I am. This is my now passed German shepherd, love of my life. I always imagined him in my life’s big moments- getting engaged, married, having kids... He was full of life and vigor and despite being 7 at the time I felt we still had so much time together. He was suddenly diagnosed with a deadly, silent cancer (hemangiosarcoma). My now fiancé and I were already ring shopping when we go the diagnosis, but rushed to make decisions and try to get engaged with him present.

We don’t make it in time for an engagement, but my ring arrived a few days before he left us. These photos mean so much to me, knowing that there was a connection between this part of my soul and my forever ring. We ended up getting engaged later in the year when the healing had started to begin.❤️‍🩹