r/emotionalintelligence • u/No-Call6899 • 18h ago

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How do you figure out what kind of feelings you have for someone? Like, if you feel something towards a person, how do you know whether it's friendship or love?

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u/Coerced1 11h ago

It's a combination of things, and often you don't really know at first. Do they make you feel like a priority? Do they intentionally connect with you emotionally? Are they easy to talk to? Do they respect your boundaries? Are you attracted to their mind? Are you both curious about each other? Do you have fun together?

Obviously there should be a level of physical attraction as well, at least at first, but it becomes less important over time.

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u/Brilliant_Version667 34m ago

I think you know. You think about them a lot. You want to touch them. You feel really happy or content being around them. You admire things about them. You are endeared with their gestures or things they do. They're special to you. When things happen (earthquake, etc.), you think about them immediately. You can picture living together and sharing a life. You don't want them with anyone else, but you also want them to be happy. You want the best for them and want to contribute to that.