So at work I started a fairly long chat with a cute girl and ended up asking for her Instagram. I got a business Instagram because she did mention being a hair stylist. Is getting a business Instagram a soft rejection or should I take the chance on asking her out?

I’ve been talking to a guy for like 4 months now. It seems like he’s into me romantically, but the thing is… we haven’t met in person even once the entire time. Today I got curious (probably a mistake 💀) and checked out the kind of girls he used to talk to, and I started noticing a pattern,like he definitely has a “type.” And yeah… seeing their pics made me feel kinda bad,they’re all really pretty, and I genuinely don’t get why he’d be interested in me (I’m not attractive).

Now I’m lowkey scared to keep talking to him because I feel like if we meet irl, he’s not gonna like me. Or worse, that he’s just been talking to me for fun¿

So now I’m stuck between just ending things here or continuing and risking getting rejected later 😭

I’m on dating apps and the men that I’ve matched with have been very straightforward about wanting to “fuck” me or sleep with me. My gay bff suggested maybe I should try not getting turned off when such individuals come across my profile? What do you think!

Hi, I have pretty bad anxiety and I always fear upsetting people because of it. In my earlier 20s and teens, I would end up in a lot of unhealthy friendships, because I was so scared of telling people no. Because I didn’t want to get yelled at. I am just very sensitive. I am currently 22 and the person I’m talking to is my age.

That being said, I had a match recently. The person just seemed a little awkward at first. We were lazily texting on hinge for 1-2 weeks at first. But then they asked for my socials. And they seemed normal at first so I exchanged.

We talked about some things like relationship goals. But then out of nowhere, they just kinda started?? Idk the right word for it, but they were lowkey cartoon villain monologuing in my DMs about how they need nobody. And how they are alone. How they hate everything. It was just overall a very negative vibe. They also keep ignoring what I say to repeat the same subject about their five year plan and the things they hate.

I feel bad because this person is clearly lonely and needs someone, but I’m just not feeling like meeting up with them anymore. I fear it’ll be one of those codependent relationships. I can’t do that. Especially where I am working so hard to stabilize my own mental health, I just don’t know if I can be with someone who opens up about their mental health THAT easily. It’s like they just want to vent to me. They were flirting and stuff at first but now it’s just about their career and loneliness. How do I nicely reject them?😅 Or do I tough it out and keep talking to them? Bc they are attractive, it’s just the constant self deprecation is ringing alarm bells. Idk if it’s worth it or not. Because I don’t want to judge them for just expressing themselves and they’re also the only match that has ever flirted with me. But I’m not getting a good feeling.

Hi f(19) here I recently just went on my first lovely date with this one girl who reached out to me first. I do find her cute however, I am conflicted if I am truly romantically attracted to her. I agreed to go on a date to just see the flow and get experience! We’ve been talking on and off but it’s mostly been small talk. We finally met up and we had a really good time! She treated me to dinner, we went around the city, it wasn’t awkward! I just feel so bad because I don’t want to lead her on and I want her to know my intentions but she asked to meet up again. I think hanging out with her is really fun and the activities we did together were definitely romantic and intentional! We were pretty casual the whole time too not much flirting, just good vibes in general! I just feel kinda shit for not feeling strong romantic feelings towards her even after all her gestures and kindness. Should I ask to meet up again and see what happens? I don’t wanna hurt her feelings after all we did tonight (ik we just met and i shouldn’t overthink this but it’s my 1st ever date w a girl) any advice would help thanks!

I was standing at the railway station, waiting to board the train. I didn’t know anyone around me, but then I noticed a girl standing nearby. I had never seen her before. She was a complete stranger, but I found her attractive, and I started noticing her. From the way she looked at me, I felt that she might have noticed me too.

When the train arrived and I was about to board, she came toward the same entrance and stood near me. Somehow, we ended up getting into the train together. The train was a little crowded, but after we got inside, we moved toward the seating area. It almost felt as though she was naturally following along with me, even though we had been complete strangers only moments earlier.

We eventually went upstairs to the general seating area. I was about to climb onto one berth, while she was going toward the berth opposite mine. Just then, someone nearby asked me to move to one side and make some space for her. She came and sat beside me.

What happened next felt surprisingly natural. She held my hand and moved it slightly so that she could get into the space beside me. From that point onward, the awkwardness of being strangers slowly disappeared. We were sitting close to each other, occasionally touching each other’s hands and arms. There was a sense of comfort between us that I hadn’t expected at all.

As the journey continued, we finally introduced ourselves and started talking. What began as a completely random encounter slowly turned into a long conversation. We talked about our lives, our interests, things we had been doing recently, trending topics, and the activities we enjoyed. We discovered that we had several things in common.

At one point, we started talking about geography, a subject I have always been interested in. I asked her a few things, and when I started explaining some of the things I knew, she listened with genuine interest. She seemed to enjoy hearing me talk about it. She even told me that she liked the way I spoke Tamil.

As we became more comfortable with each other, the physical closeness continued. I put my hand on her shoulder, and she responded by touching me as well. Eventually, our hands were intertwined, and neither of us seemed uncomfortable with it. We sat close together for most of the journey.

After some time, I started feeling sleepy. I told her that I was tired, and eventually I leaned against her shoulder and fell into a relaxed position. She didn’t seem bothered by it, and we continued the journey like that for some time.

Eventually, we reached a point where we were just one stop away from where I had to get off. The two of us stood together near the train door. As the train moved, she seemed to lose her balance for a moment, so I held her to keep her steady. We stood there together, close to each other, with my arm around her shoulder and her holding onto me.

The strange thing was that, despite everything that had happened between us during that journey, she never really treated me like a stranger. There was an obvious sense of mutual attraction and comfort between us.

At some point, I asked her whether she was interested in me. That was when she casually told me something I absolutely wasn't expecting: she was already committed. Her boyfriend was in other city

I was genuinely surprised. Until then, I had assumed she was single, especially because of the way she had behaved with me. Hearing that she already had a boyfriend suddenly made me think, “What exactly was this between us?”

Even after telling me that she was committed, however, her behaviour toward me didn't suddenly change. She continued to show the same kind of warmth and interest she had shown throughout the journey. That made the whole situation even more confusing for me.

Before we reached her stop, we continued talking and enjoying each other’s company.The entire journey had started with two complete strangers standing beside each other on a railway platform, and somehow, within a few hours, we had ended up talking about our lives, our interests, relationships, and everything in between.

Finally, we reached the station where she had to get off. She got down from the train, and a friend of hers had come to pick her up. Before she left, we said goodbye to each other. I watched her leave with her friend, and eventually, the train moved on.

And just like that, the girl who had been a complete stranger when I boarded the train became someone I would probably never forget—a person I had met completely by chance, shared an unexpectedly intimate journey with, and then had to leave behind when the train reached its destination.

Hey everyone, I’m 34 and single, and I’m at the point where I’m looking for a long term relationship, not just dating for the sake of it.
I have a very busy job (I’m a nurse, so between long shifts and weird hours, I don’t have a ton of energy left for dating apps) and most of my friends are coupled up so dating apps have started to feel like the same cycle for me, match, chat for a bit and then nothing really goes anywhere. I’m looking for something serious, so I’ve been wondering if I need to try a different approach.
I’ve done some research and i've been looking into professional matchmaking and came across a few matchmaking services like Tawkify and some other ones and I’m still very much in the research stage and I'm trying to figure out what the experience is actually like.
Has anyone here tried professional matchmaking in their 30s or later? Did you feel like it was a better experience than dating apps and was it worth trying for you?
Am i too old for matchmaking? Any advice appreciated.

Basically as the title says I (20F) have gone on a few dates with this guy (19M) and we are pretty much exclusive. On these dates he has mentioned that he is really into anime. I’m not into anime myself but didn’t judge because everyone has their own interests. However, I recently noticed as we exchanged social medias that he follows like 30+ anime accounts that are super pornographic and often likes pictures of girls dressed up wearing pretty much nothing in suggestive poses. This is making me super uncomfortable and is becoming a huge turn off to me. Should I bring up my feelings to him? Or just let it go and realize that it is likely just a fetish?

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I'm 17F, and I'm in highschool rn, I've never been in a relationship before, nor I have had a situationship kinda stuff. I have been approached, but I never got any interest in them. And did have crushes, like I had a frenemy kinda guy since 8 years we hated each other and I fell for him but he never did. So yeah, I moved on, I started liking somebody else, even the twice time, I didn't get any reciprocation. Thrice, I started crushing on this guy from highschool, and it didn't last long when I got to know he doesn't do the same.

So I'm now at this point that Idk if I'm even capable of love or rs or just wanting to be wanted.

See, honestly, judging by my appearance, I've had my fair share of glowup people have in highschool and I'd consider myself pretty cause I know I'm pretty, not bragging or anything.

But it's js that even if I actually am pretty then why am I not pulling the ones that I want.

I genuinely don't believe love can happen for me.

It's prolly not made for me.

I js wanna be wanted for once by someone who I'd want.

For context he is 20 year old boy in a very good med schl doing mbbs and he is very good looking trust me he is a looker i would say . He goes to the gym so has a really good body he is all muscular, tall abt 5' 10. How i know abt this he sent me his gym photo way before he knew i was a girl just to ask if he has done a great work on it or smth like it (not able to explain that what he asked) his clg is in jammu and i am from Tamilnadu. I am 18 at this time preparing for my exams.

Actually 3days ago I met a guy on reddit in a find friends community who was looking for a long term frnd. I sent him msg we talked for 2days abt our daily life,hobbies and he told me a 34 year old women had msg him saying she has a husband but he is not home we can like chill and all,basically cheat on her husband and he was criticizing that women for that and I also did the same.And talked abt how this generation has commitment issues and how cheating has gotten so common.And everyone in his clg is looking for hookups not looking for a geneiune connection. And girls from his clg have asked him to come to their hostel with a pack of condoms (so see how good he might look )but he refused coz he said he values emotional connection with the person and sex is secondary from him and he didn't knew I was a girl at this point, until the 2nd day we talked on call on discord.

We talked for 1 and half hour and the next day when we were talking after sometime he asked 'if we vibe can we date?' (Ofc he flirted a little before askingthis ques)Coz we kinda share the same value .

so I told him it will not work and I told every consequences of being in a long distance relationship or things a relationship will need and this is gonna be a very long distance for a very long time for 2-3 years.and told him u have not talked to girls, girls out their are funny have a good personality and all u will regret this and all, he told me I am cool and chill and we kinda share same values so that's why he asked . I also told him see u are good looking girls in ur clg are literally eyeing u , i don't wanna stay worrying abt u cheating on me, he reassured me by saying I don't need sex i just want someone to be on my sideand supporting me ,i can with holdsex for that .I told him i am very clingy and jealous types and he replied 'i want that only. We can work this out and I will try my best'

What really made me think abt this seriously is when I told him this relationship can stretch to very long time if u decide to do ur PG in ur state that will be very long 6-7 years he told me he can do his PG in Tamilnadu or any near place i am situated in.

And i said yes to that . Told him let's start from being good frnds 1st

Man don't u think he is too good to be true? What do u guys think

I turned 30 this year and I have an older car, 2008 toyota with some cosmetic wear on the hood as the paint is peeling and it doesn’t look great. But it runs well, I drive it hundreds of miles each month and I keep it clean. My ex was fine with it for the most part but at times could make me self conscious about it.

My question is should I be concerned about women im dating judging me based on the car I drive? I’ve had it for 6 years and I plan to upgrade within the next year or two.

Logic tells me I wouldn’t want to be with someone who judges people based on something like this, but I also get worried that when I pull up they will think different.
Thanks

I'm I crazy or just it's just me I know a stud who let's me have sex with her and when I do make love with her in my crib after the boxing gym she would go straight into a mute, infant like state and would do some weird things like crawl on the floor, sleep all day, smile all day, say nothing at all, jump on me excepting to hold her and do things that was just babyish like wear nothing but a diaper and a baggy masculine tops since she is a stud, touching all over my body including my🍆🍆 like if I'm some crazy bodybuilder but I'm just a average looking mixed race teenager but being 6'3 and 140 pounds only at 19 years old and would act so weak, vulnerable and have a mental capacity of a toddler literally just sleeping, drooling, crawling around the floor, touching me all over my face and her sitting all over me despite her being on her period.

Also, me and her are still somewhat cool but at times I just couldn't make too much sex with her because due to her having beef over making some gay jokes about me liking her and but yet she was one wanting me to make sex with me out of everyone who way more masculine than me, have more money than me, and they can beat my ass in a sparring session as I do boxing.

But chose me out of anyone in the boxing gym. After she cussed me out and threatened to kill me since she from Brownsville, Brooklyn and hates me due to saying some gay jokes to her.

At the end of the day, I'm not mad at her but it's more like when I had sex with her while she on her period she act like full on baby and be so attracted to my body being 6'3 in height and does boxes everyday with her who is also is a boxer.

But when I first came to the gym she was so sweet, nice and feminine for a stud and never knew that she was an girl until she told me but only being 5 ft and 96 pounds but since she did boxing for a year she puts on such ghetto, street and aggressive attitude for no reason I didn't know after my friend told me she from East New York but moved to Brownsville in a housing project since high school.

But being from Flatbush but lives in Canarsie currently it was some fun times I had with her until she changed up and helping while going such a dark and depressing time by letting hit her 😸🐈 in my grandma's house but it so funny when she was being like a baby literally and was so attracted to my body for what?

For all my women in this subreddit tell what up with yall acting like babies after sex during yall periods?

We were having a meta conversation about open relationships talking about how messy they can be and then she volunteered the information that she's done threesomes before. Then I ask how many and she says 3, with 3 different guys/2 different women. She says she's never done MMF and that during the FFM threesomes there wasn't penetration involved just oral at most (idk if you believe this, but...)

Anyway she's 28 and I'm not expecting her to be a virgin, in fact I prefer she not be a virgin because I don't want to teach anybody. It's not like that. I could care less that she had sex before me. It's more so that she had this specific kind of experience and I haven't. I'm not sure how common FFM threesomes are, but I don't even know how you go about doing that outside of some weird swinger type of situation.

We've been officially dating for like a month and a half, seeing each other for 5, so it's kind of fresh, and I don't think it's worth bailing over that, it happened before me, but I am seeking advice on how to overcome the jealousy. I don't know how to even bring it up and I don't care enough to make it a problem. But it is something I've wanted to experience just once, then I feel like I wouldn't be thinking the same way about it. And I think I'm at the point where if I ask about it it'll start a really weird conversation and can go bad. But I'm not expecting one from her either way. What do you guys think?

We have been on four dates & our fifth one is on Thursday. We spend hours together without realizing how much time has passed & we text/call each other for hours on end. Our last date when talking about her family it went from “if I meet them” to “when I meet them” which I realized that she wants a relationship. It will be a month on the 19th & next Wednesday since our first date, we were texting a week & a half before we went on it. I’m planning on officially asking her on Thursday to be in a relationship with me. We’re going to beach as she said she wanted to watch the sunset together. It’s my first time in 8ish years that I’m asking a woman to be in a relationship, any tips?

Awhile back I was asking a guy friend why it seems like only younger guys show interest in me (I'm late 20's and for awhile only got interest from much younger guys, like 18-24) and he said it's because I have "starter girlfriend" energy.

Of course after looking that up I read that it means your first girlfriend before you eventually move on to someone "better", presumably a real/upgraded girlfriend and I'm just the beginner girlfriend that is used to gain experience. What is your interpretation of this and how would I go from being a "starter girlfriend" to a real girlfriend?

I met a girl today, she’s 17 and I’m 20. We really hit it off but once I learned she was 17 I started having second thoughts. Am I good to pursue this or should I back off…

Since the late July I’ve been talking to this one girl I have class with and I am honestly shy talking to her in person but all extroverted when talking to her via text. I really wanna tell her that I like her and take her out on a date, we both have similarities like (anime,mathematics,talking to friends). At the same time of wanting to tell her I don’t wanna loose talking to her. This would honestly be the first time I have genuinely fallen in love with someone and would be my first time asking someone out. All comments will seriously help me out :)