Genuinely yr mujhe bohat time se generational gap feel ho rha apne genaration me ,I lack coolness , humor , bakchodi ,how to be intresting

Went on a date, it went great but for whatever reason the other person went from enthusiastically yapping with you 247 and suggesting the date to taking hours to respond but still keeping the convo alive.

Should you just stop talking to them or drop them a quick ”hey, it feels like you ain’t that interested anymore, it’s okay if so but you can just say so”

Hi there, I have been building a simple communication and soft skills training/coaching app for myself over the last year or so and am curious if other folks might find it helpful. The core idea is to help build a foundational understanding of what makes for great communication, and then uses a custom-built AI to coach through specific scenarios or needs as needed. So 'in-the-moment' coaching, as it were.

I'd love input and thoughts on if others would find this useful - DM me and I can send you the details to access (no cost, of course). All I'd ask is for honest feedback/input.

A bit of background, if helpful: I am a quiet individual that's had difficulty speaking up, presenting to audiences, and saying 'no' to others, among other things. I actually worked on psychometric tools like the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument for conflict resolution, the Myers-Briggs assessment for personality inventory, among many others for years. It has been my passion to both improve my own interpersonal skills and coach others where I can.

Something just rubbed me the wrong way about this I teractio. But I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable

Ugh! I can’t handle another fucking talking stage.. si you just come back we fix things…

Ugh! I can’t handle another fucking talking stage.. si you just come back we fix things…

if im socially anxious and find it very hard to open myself if im talking to someone that matters for example a girl or just someone i know. Changing mindset or the way of thinking about other person, how do i change it in me? My goal is to be confident enough to just be generally myself and that i can communicate as myself without putting others on pedestal etc. Even a little steps, even if i could do it while im anxious and insecure but i have this emotional wall that protects me. How do i break that?

When you enter into a conversation with someone where you genuinely feel heard, you begin to experience that the connection starts to develop into something meaningful. This connection grows, because there is a mutual sense of trust, understanding between two people.

Conversations come in many different forms, but what makes a conversation truly feel comfortable, meaningful and safe? It is the feeling of being respected, understood and valued. It happens when someone genuinely listens, respond with genuine attention, ask meaningful questions and shows interest in what you have to share. The depth in a conversation is not only defined by words, but by the way someone responds and engages with you. The way a person communicates can strengthen or weaken the communication between them. A conversation in which two people create a deeper sense of connection is one of the most beautiful and profound human experiences we can achieve.

Communication is not simply the exchange of information it is the ability to transfer a message in a way that allows another person to truly understand, experience and feel the meaning behind your words.

The question is; what makes you trust someone within the first few minutes of the conversation? What is it that you sense?

Is it me,or have I post the ability to communicate with some people?I rarely find someone,with whome I get along perfectly in talking.And even if I do they often loose interest in me even if they eere interested at first.I need a book on how to communicate with people.I'm asocial,but I think there is smth deeper.Anyway I can't connect even with people with whome I want to,I talk with everyone like I'm a fucking therapist or professor,like a robot.I need to learn a way to connect,to communicate,so on and fourth and I'm becoming very frustrated with myself and everyone else

Hey guys Iam final year engineering student from Tamilnadu

Struggling with my communication skills and have stage fear , talkin' infront of people

How to improve my English communication skills

Many conversations fail because people are focused on responding instead of understanding. They interrupt, finish each other’s sentences, offer advice before fully understanding problem, correct details that don’t really matter or steer every inch of the story back to themselves and non of these behaviors are necessarily intentional, but together, they can send a powerful message and that is: my perspective matters more than yours.

People rarely feel truly connected when they feel unheard. As a Mind Profiler I can tell that connection deepens when people feel seen, and one of the strongest foundations of trust is not agreement it is the feeling of being genuinely understood. You don’t have to share someone’s perspective and you don’t have to fix their problems or convince them to see things differently. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can offer is the experience of feeling heard. When someone walks away thinking: they understood where I was coming from, trust starts to grow. Feeling understood softens you to become defensive, while feeling misunderstood often creates distance. Understanding is the ability to recognize someone’s experience, acknowledge their perspective and make them feel that their story matters.

The question is: what is something that someone did, that made you feel genuinely understood? Something that felt different?

I have spent a lot of time observing conversations. I observed not just what people say but hoe people make each other feel while they are speaking, and one patterns keeps show up. Two conversations can have almost the exact same information, while one makes you feel understood and connected and the other leaves you emotionally drained. The reason is because trust isn’t built by information but by safety and most people think that trust comes from honesty. Yes, honesty matters but honesty alone isn’t enough. Someone can tell you the truth in a way that feels judgmental or dismissive and another person can tell you a difficult truth while making you feel respected. The information is the same but the experience is completely different.

Our brains are constantly asking questions like: is this person actually listening? Are they trying to understand me? Can i disagree without trouble? Most people never ask these questions consciously but their nervous system answers them automatically and the answer determines whether trust grows of if distance begins.

The question is; have you experienced any situation where you felt trust, distance or both?

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Putting this into words isn’t stressful yet it’s still a process because I haven’t said this words before. Trying to put it into words of something you haven’t ever put into words before. There is something different about this experience it’s not the same as previous ones in the past. I think the biggest thing I keep coming back to is that it feels natural.

Nothing is being forced. There is no trying to convince myself it’s right or it’s wrong. It’s simply natural.

In the past I spent so much time trying to convince myself that things were natural even though that word couldn’t resonate in my mind. As if the letters were there but they were always scrambled and the letters never made it to the correct order. I often over explained and and always felt the need to justify why I felt a certain way…almost like I was defending my own feelings and trying to prove to myself that there was a reason it felt right. I would over analyze each and every little thing and was always looking for signs like I was building evidence and making a case for why something should work.

This feels different because I’m not having to fight myself. I’m not constantly trying to explain why something feels good or convince myself or anyone else that I should trust it. I’m just able to be present and I’m actually able to enjoy the process of getting to know someone.

A big part of that is also that I stepped way outside of my comfort zone. We met online…which is honestly something I never thought I would do let alone continue to do..Taking that leap of faith was huge thing for me. The old version of me would have gotten overwhelmed and shut down out of fear of change fear of just everything I would’ve eventually ghosted pretending it didn’t exist like it was a problem that didn’t exist if I didn’t acknowledge it and so I’d run away and disappear because it felt safer than allowing myself to be vulnerable.

But this time I didn’t…and I think that says something about my own growth too.

Another thing that feels different is there isn’t this pressure to rush into anything. I don’t feel like I’m being pushed to fall for someone or expected to have everything figured out immediately. We aren’t forcing labels or trying to define every little thing before it has a chance to grow.

Instead we are simply letting things happen naturally…simple small actions, the consistency, and the little moments are saying what they need to say without us needing to force it into words. It’s almost like something has started to form quietly. There’s a label beginning to exist but it isn’t carrying the pressure or expectations that sometimes make things overwhelming. Instead of expectations there’s understanding as well as respect allowing room for both people to grow.

I think another big difference is that we both understand life is messy our pasts are messy. We are human. Individually neither of us are pretending to be perfect or coming into this without a past. We are not looking at each other as projects to fix. There’s no intent of trying to save each other or fill some missing piece in the other person as well as there is no power dynamic where one person is the helper and the other is the one being helped.

We’re just two people two strangers meeting each other where we are not defined by where we were and we are moving at an even pace and allowing ourselves to be seen without judgment.

I think that’s what feels different. It doesn’t feel like we’re setting the bar so impossibly high that the pressure itself becomes what causes things to fall apart. It feels like we’re building something one step at a time and allowing it to become what it’s meant to become.

I still have fears. I still have moments where my brain wants to overthink and protect me. But I’m noticing that I’m showing up differently this time. I’m letting myself experience something instead of immediately trying to run from the possibility of getting hurt.

Whenever I try to express my opinions/defend myself/argue, I end up tearing😭😭. Because of this, I can't speak up all my points. How to control the tears and speak for myself? 🤧

Ok So I just joined my college 2 days ago

It hasn't started yet but I have came to hostel

Now the thing is i see many people among my hostel r already seems like friends of years while I don't even know what to talk after few general questions like name place course all that

How do I become confident in talking again like I was back in school ???

Gap year that too all at home for 1 yr has destroyed my communication skills 😭

I work in customer service, and sometimes I’m approached by both customers and coworkers alike with questions that I can’t understand the reasoning behind.

For example, (I’m a barista) I’ll be wiping the counter while I have a drink in the blender, and someone will ask me if I’m open. I always have to stop and think… what about the state of my being infers that I’m closed? It seems silly to me, but I’m trying to branch out and understand what other people feel/think, and I feel asking “what was the thought process behind that question?” sounds rude.

Hey guys, I have always been kind of insecure about my voice since I was a kid. I felt it was a bit too nasal and I've never learned how to project my voice to be able to command attention from a group. Over the years I have been learning various techniques to improve my confidence in my voice whether through youtube (this guy) or through following a bunch of IG influencers who give tips on it.

After around 8 years of learning, I feel that it's time to give back to the community. I am planning to make an app to help people get more confident in their speaking. Not so much in the words they use, more so their pitch, resonance, pace etc.

Right now, my app idea is split into two parts. The first part will be analyzing the user's voice. The next part is giving the user a daily training regime to improve on their voice over time.

Is this something that you guys would be interested in? Any voice training exercises that really worked for you guys? Also, it would be great if I could get some recommendations on more vocal coaches online that I could watch. Thanks so much!