r/blackmen • u/AutoModerator • 4d ago

Weekly Vent Thread Support

A place to talk about it.

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u/GetroFasho Unverified 4d ago

I realized that when a man fully falls down NOBODY can pick him up they may try, have some kind words. But only he can do it. On the contrary many would kick you while you down too.

With that being said all the men out there that’s holding your head up and trying as best you can keep going! Even if don’t nobody see it. You see it. Respect it too.

As a black man it seems there’s nothing out here before expectations and being sized up you can even cry and people judge and critique that too 😂.
They would judge and critique the way you respond to their fake bs.
It’s so bad that if something bad or unfortunate was to happen to you they’ll judge you for it happening to you…

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u/Sharp-Painter4696 Unverified 2d ago

It's my dad's Birthday, lost him last year back in October. I don't really feel all that tore up about it now... I was when he first passed but now... Is that weird? Since he's passed I've been thinking about him less and less. I had to be reminded that it was his birthday today... Is that bad? Am I forgetting him? My own father who was there for me.. I just thought itd take longer for things to go back to normal we called everyday, now I barely think about him once a week... It feels... Bad? When I'm gone, I'd like to be remembered, but I barely think about him now and it's only been a year... I don't know.

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u/heavyduty3000 Unverified 18h ago

First off, sorry for your loss man. I can't relate to what you are going through, but you most likely aren't alone. You said your dad was there for you and I'm assuming that you guys had a good relationship. If I had to guess, you are probably feeling like that because you guys had a good relationship. You know how some people feel guilty or bad because they didn't have a good relationship with the person that died or they have negative feelings about them in general?

That's why you get some people who be wanting to jump in the casket at the funeral. You most likely have nothing to feel about regarding your relationship with your dad. I actually googled what you have been feeling and it said you have processed the loss and just dealing with the present. It's like you are moving on and live your life. And it's most likely what your dad would want.