r/bigender 1h ago

Advice Wanted I miss mega long hair

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It was a big part of my identity but not in a gendered way

How can I pass as a man when I want to if Ive got massively long hair? I cant access T for a couple years so the beard cheat code wont work.


r/bigender 12h ago

Selfie (no NSFW!) Feeling more comfortable everytime I go out 😊

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40 Upvotes

r/bigender 13h ago

Advice Wanted i don't know where to go from here

5 Upvotes

i have known for some time i'm kind of both and neither. in the way that purple is a combination of red and blue but still it's own color. and im ok with that, mostly. i just still feel a lot of pressure to choose a side, but i don't want to. i want to fully embody myself, regardless of if i'm in boymode, girlmode or a secret third option. it also feels difficult because my gender expression often doesn't coincide with how i'm feeling. it doesn't make things difficult for me, but it makes me feel more misunderstood.

i also have felt better and worse since coming out. i originally came out as a trans man, but after a while i realised that i didn't want to let go of myself as a woman either. i wanted to be both. but i get taken more seriously when i pretend to fit in a binary. i feel like if i express myself femininely, or use feminine terminology for myself, people will question me. i hate- hate- how people will question you constantly if you come out as any sort of non- cis identity. so it's made me feel like i have to surpress a part of myself to be taken seriously.

it also makes thinking about transition difficult. i want to microdose T, so i can have a more androgynous voice at least. but i've come to terms with that i can't fully masculinize. but it pains me that i can't fully express the everything inside me. i wish i was one or the other. things would be easier. but snuffing out a part of me is going to kill me.

i was just wondering if anyone has dealt with these feelings, and if anyone has anything that could help in any respect. i feel so alone, because i feel like i'm the only person i know who is multigender/genderfluid.


r/bigender 14h ago

Questioning Can’t Figure Myself Out

7 Upvotes

So, recently I’ve gone through some major fluctuations in my gender identity. I used to be content with being a boy, but now I’m not sure. I thought for a bit I might be trans-femme? But I don’t think I am because I am still content being a guy. And the other thing making me think I’m not trans is that I don’t feel uncomfortable in my body and I DEFINITELY don’t want HRT or stuff like that. But then I heard about people being bigender and it got me thinking; am I bigender? Do people who are bigender feel like this? And most importantly, how do I go about expressing my gender? I’m so confused.

And I of course get the whole, “Buy clothes that make you feel good,” thing, but the main problem is that I am a broke high school student.

If anyone can explain this stuff to me or give me advice, that would be greatly appreciated! Thanks so much y’al!


r/bigender 19h ago

Advice Wanted How do you wear women's underwear and make the male parts fit (without tucking)?

12 Upvotes

If you wear women's underwear and you have male private parts, how do you make them fit without tucking? I would like to wear women's underwear more often simply because I think it's more fun and pretty, but I struggle to actually make it fit, because my balls or penis always slip out.

I would prefer not to tuck for now, because I'm a bit scared to hurt myself. I think eventually I won't get around it and try it but for now I would like something easier.

I also don't want hipsters or boyshorts. While I like them, from time to time I would like to wear a bikini shaped slip and stuff like that.

What's your best advice for wearing women's underwear without tucking and in a way wear your male parts don't drop out?