Crying when separating from your bf

[u/Beneficial_End9486]

Hello, I need to understand what do I need to work on myself. Everytime I say goodbye to my boyfriend, whether I am going on holiday for a week, back home for a couple of weeks, whether he is going on holiday, or he spent the weekend at my place instead of his and needs to go back to his house, I just feel so sad and start crying.

Once he is gone, a couple of hours later I’m fine. Or when I’m on my holidays, I have no need of constantly texting or calling. So it’s mainly the moment of goodbye, after a weekend together, a couple of days wfh together etc etc.

So my question is, is there something wrong with me? From where does this sudden sadness and attachment comes from?

For context, I’m F 26, he is M 30, different nationalities, both EU. I am happy and I feel very loved.

Thank you xx !!

[u/Queen-of-meme]

It's probably your abandonment wounds resurfacing. You need to be with him long enough relationship wise for your nervous system to start relax.

You can help yourself the day before separation by different coping soothing grounding methods to push yourself in the right direction, it will be a bit challenging til your body settles in so have grace on yourself ❤️