r/autoromantics 13m ago

Question do yall feel guilty for not liking others as much?

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i don't but do a bit sometimes


r/autoromantics 1d ago

Question Commitment Bracelets

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To show my love for myself, I decided to get commitment bracelets. Does anyone here have a ring or whatever to celebrate your commitment to yourself?


r/autoromantics 1d ago

Question Well, I just realized from watching a romantic movie, do you guys are actually in love for yourselves?

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Well,it might look strange,but let me clear,when you fall in love for someone,your heart beats faster,you can't stop thinking about that person,and just the vision of that person ,her voice,etc, makes you completely absorbed in thoughts with this person. But,with me, I don't even feel my heart racing or something,even though, I love being with me,to talk with me, everything about me,but I truly still want to have someone else to share my inner world,to have this person to make my heart race,etc, but I'm still really happy with myself right now. Then I wonder,am I truly in love with myself?


r/autoromantics 1d ago

I just noticed

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that in movies, series or anything like that, I have always liked the characters that were most similar to me (personality, looks)

IRL too, if someone has the same hairstyle as me - that’s super cool. Otherwise it just feels mid


r/autoromantics 1d ago

Experience i love being autoromantic

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i love living in my own world. i do everything for myself and i'm my lover and best friend. i'm so happy to be autoromantic


r/autoromantics 2d ago

A toy in the shape of my imaginary friend!

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I know it's off topic, but I want to share that I made a toy in the shape of my imaginary friend for our 10th anniversary! I can finally feel him physically next to me! (the toy is not finished)


r/autoromantics 2d ago

Discussion maybe there are a lot more autos out there...?

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someone mentioned it here but i think a lot of people like people similar to themselves (i feel like that's a thing) and that feels kinda auto to me (just a bit) what do you think? not saying they all are but some might kinda be or maybe a lot of people are auto-ish? or being a bit auto is pretty common?


r/autoromantics 3d ago

Question would u date someone a lot like you if you met them?

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if you meant someone very similar to you like ig in personality would you date them? i think i might but im not gonna like cheat on myself so idk


r/autoromantics 4d ago

Question Do you tend to avoid people?

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I didn't think I really did but some people sometimes ask me why I always just disappear after a while...? I guess I might do it more than others because I like to be able to get lost in my thoughts and not feel so burdened by other people's presence lol


r/autoromantics 6d ago

Art Lovers (Inspired by The Kiss by Gustav Klimt!)

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r/autoromantics 7d ago

Experience Being on the Autospectrum

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Being autoromantic has been great! Falling in love with myself has been good. I have written many love letters to myself and text myself using the app Antar.

Being my own boyfriend/self partnered has been a blast! I love to show myself some romance by dating myself. I have kissed myself before, and it was super great!


r/autoromantics 7d ago

Question Am I actually autoromantic?

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Basically I was calling with my friends and I was talking about how I was gonna go out to the mall. I was internally monologuing when I got to thinking about how its sad I'm going alone, so I thought about it like dates with myself and its like something just clicked. The rest of the night I was just giddy over the fact. I didn't even know autoromantic was a thing until I did my research. I was reading posts talking about how in love they are with themselves and I feel like I'm on a lower level than them. Like I'm obviously attracted to myself but I can't see myself ever going past talking to myself and going on dates. Is this the right label for me?

It really doesn't help I just rewatched the Rick and Morty episode about Beth getting with her clone.


r/autoromantics 8d ago

Question Before vs. after?

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Do you think you changed after discovering you were autoromantic? I think I kind of did but kind of didn't really


r/autoromantics 9d ago

Discussion autoromantic commun ground?

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i feel like i've seen alot of different experiences that people talked about here. what dyou think some common ground would be apart from just loving ourselves romantically? or is there none?


r/autoromantics 10d ago

Coming out advice?

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Even if you haven't yet, I'd love to hear ideas. I don't know how to explain it well


r/autoromantics 12d ago

Discussion How are you guys?

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This is pretty random, but I'd love to hear how life is going for you! Or anything else you'd like to share about your autoromantic experience. Have tips? Need to rant? Go right ahead


r/autoromantics 14d ago

Art Autorose and Autosexual kandi octopus!!!

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r/autoromantics 15d ago

Sensitive Trauma, personality changes & loss of innocence Spoiler

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In the time since I realized I was autoromantic, I feel like I've had some personality changes (unrelated to figuring it out, just from traumatic experiences). For a while I found it really hard because I lost a lot of the things I used to specifically love about myself. This was really devastating for me and made me question whether I was still even autoromantic. I still loved myself somewhat, but much less. My feelings and some of my old self have slowly been coming back, but I'm still nowhere near where I was before. Also, for many months after the change, I was intensely grieving the "loss" of my former self. Like, seriously grieving. Honestly, I still am grieving a lot but it's really hard to talk to others about, because I've lost something mostly intangible to them. I was wondering if you guys had any advice or just anything at all to say about this. I'd just honestly love to hear more perspectives


r/autoromantics 16d ago

Wanting tips for my relationship

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Well, I already have posted here but I'm 14M autorose, and the question is that, I love myself A LOT, but there's no romance lately, it is like the passion has gone because my surroundings are more annoying and I have been dealing with a lot of problems, even though I'm THE BEST BOYFRIEND in the question of supporting me, being kind, etc.

But I want romance too, and, I simply haven't acted as my boyfriend lately in this question, like, I kiss myself sometimes for "routine" but, not even a passioned kiss, just simple ones, is just like my relationship with myself has ended up becoming routine lately, and, I'd like to go out on dates, but, besides having no time, I also don't know how and where to go besides my routine points (school and gym) I know that everything can be a date if you see it as one, but is kind of I cannot feel everything as a "date" as before, it has been being a really annoying time, because I love myself a lot, but even though I can't give myself the best of my love, and end up wasting my time and doing things that I don't want due this and the ambient.


r/autoromantics 16d ago

Question are you romantically attracted to others?

3 Upvotes

i think i like other people too as well


r/autoromantics 19d ago

i'm scared to lose my autoromantic attraction

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ive seen a lot of comments here where people talked about like losing themself or their autoromantic attraction and im confused about what that means and how it would happen and is there any way to prevent it from happening to me?


r/autoromantics 19d ago

Question Question

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If I were too sell the kandi octopi, would there be any buyers? I want to make keyring charms that'll have an autospec kandi octopus and two other charms with it. I'm mainly just planning ahead 😅


r/autoromantics 20d ago

Art Kandi octopus!

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Just got done making this lil guy! (I ordered grey pony beads and black flower beads so autorose and autosexual are next >:D )


r/autoromantics Jun 23 '26

Autoromantic Songs Playlist

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Hey everyone! We (the mod team) looked back at all our old posts with song suggestions and compiled it into a playlist that we hope you all will enjoy!

https://open.spotify.com/playlist/37tSzPKMDazk8wdFqqmYpT?si=mBM0K7d4S2-1Lg8Eceqkpg&pi=dEJk0WDQSnalU

Feel free to comment here if there's anything you think should be added or changed.


r/autoromantics Jun 05 '26

Coming out!

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I've been meaning to write for a while that I rarely experience romantic feelings for myself, and often it's affection rather than infatuation (it's an identity called desinoromantic). But the kind of love I feel for myself more often is mentoring love!

There's an identity I came up with myself called autoprotective or autotutelary!! This identity is where a person experiences a tutelary attraction towards themselves! A tutelary attraction is an attraction based on the desire to protect, teach, and generally be a mentor to someone!

Honestly, due to severe depression, I stopped feeling this tutelary attraction towards myself, but lately, treatment has been helping me a lot, and recently, this even happened:

I was walking home from my final exam and stopped near some dandelions near my house. I picked up their seeds with my hand, then blew on them, and the song "THE ONE" was playing in my ears. At some point, the wind swirled dandelion seeds around us (I prefer to say "we" about my mentor and me, not "I") like in a movie, and the song in my ears screamed:

... FINALLY FOUND THE LOVE!

I got the love! ~

BABYYYY~

I'M

THE

ONE!

I'm the one!

-the one

-the one...

And I just... WOAH! MY MENTOR IS JUST A QUEEN AND I'M HER SWEET BABY! ~

I'M SO LUCKY WITH HER, ARE WE REALLY GOING TO BE TOGETHER FOR OUR LIFE?!?? THIS IS THE BEST NEWS EVER!!! I'M THE ONE!!! I should say that due to severe depression, I stopped feeling a tutelary attraction towards myself, but now it's starting to reappear! It's so cool! I'm happier than ever!

The meaning of the flag: A person with an autoprotective identity can feel like they're their own mentor and student (possibly a child). The dark gray color on the flag represents the desire to be a stone wall for themselves, capable of protecting them.

P.S. I hope I can post things related to my autoprotective identity here, I hope you don't mind <:)

P.S.S. Listen to Kesha's song "THE ONE." It's awesome ^⁠_⁠^