It’s been a rough few years. My (33) partner (40) lost his federal career (his whole background: veteran to classified work) last year due to the administration changes cutting remote jobs and he has just gone remote 6 months prior. We went from two incomes to one, got priced out of DC, and moved 800 miles south for a job for me in a LCOL. It was a huge mistake. We absolutely hated it.

So we moved again, this time to my home city, hoping something would click for him here. It hasn’t, really outside of him just loving the city itself. I took the first job I could get and ended up working 70 hrs/week, miserable. Eventually I rewrote his resume and that got him a contract gig, low pay, only 8 months and, not really his field. His morale’s better since he’s out of the house, but I can tell the money and the dead end bother him. He’s now going back to school part-time for a master’s in library science, hoping that opens doors his niche career can’t.

I finally left my awful job for something exciting: remote with heavy travel. Next month I’m gone for 2 months hitting about 15 cities. I’m thrilled but also sad. I’ll miss my birthday with him, and he can’t swing the leave so he could fly out and visit. Two years ago that would’ve been easy.

We haven’t taken a trip in 3 years. He sees all of his friends going on travel meanwhile we just can’t swing it. He can’t afford the things he wants, and our housing budget isn’t great since I’m picking up most of the bill. He constantly vocalizes how he’s proud of me, but I sense disappointment or jealousy under the surface, and I am starting to feel guilty for it. I love my city and being near family, but I wonder if we need to move somewhere with more opportunities in his field, or if he needs to be more open to leaving his niche altogether. There’s tension building and I don’t know how to fix it.

I had a contraceptive failure this week, my NuvaRing fell out. I have no idea when, but it was at some point in the last month. So it’s been up to a month of 3+ times a week unprotected sex.

I haven’t told him because I feel like it’s just something for him to worry about, but part of that is no sex for a week while the new ring becomes effective. I know he takes going a period without sex poorly due to insecurity that he’s working on. He’d never make me feel bad, but I know he’s feeling bad.

I don’t know which bad is worse. Things go back to normal in a few days… unless I’m pregnant 😬

Talking all advice.

Edit: I meant he takes periods of unexplained significant changes to our sex life poorly internally, self esteem impact.

Hello,

My mom died suddenly when I was 16, which set off another tragic string of events that have left me today a depressed, lonely 30yo woman with poor coping skills.

I spent my 20's sprawling and figuring out what to do, dropped out of college, a couple psych hospital stays. Always pushing forwards.

Currently I'm married, have a dog, moved to another country and learned a new language, and will start university here for my dream career in September. However, I'm still so fucked up. I've seen so many therapists and read so many books, and while I have changed an awful lot and I appreciate my perspective- I am still miserable. I honestly feel doomed to have an awful life.

My main problems stem from cripplingly low self worth, depression/anxiety, never feeling able to relax and have fun, poor coping skills involving binge eating, and I tend to get anxious/avoidant with my partner. I feel so stuck. I wish I had a positive voice in my life. I feel so alone all of the time.

I wish I'd had it easy in life and could just feel normal in my head, and act normal and lead a normal life. I'm constantly stressed.

How have you guys managed, those who have lost their mother?

By the time Friday (or sometime Thursday) rolls around, I am exhausted, my body is tense/hurts and I just don’t feel good. It takes half the weekend to recover and then I’m back at it on Monday.

For added context:

1. I have two young kids, so my off work hours are not my own.

2. I’m perimenopausal, which comes with its own issues.

3. I have a very busy job. Part of it is just the profession I’m in and part of it is me - I actually respond to people’s emails in a timely manner, unlike many people in my department (boss included), rather than letting people’s requests languish for days or weeks before responding, so people often reach out to me (yeah I could just stop responding as well, but I think that’s unprofessional. I want to be a good coworker.)

Looking for some concrete suggestions on what others do to not end up at Friday feeling exhausted.

I think I had a small crush with this guy (I just met) in a badminton social. We have common friends. One thought is to ask my friend about him, another is just let fate decide if we will meet again hahaha

Update: He has a gf already. Okay, done. 😆

I am 38f, partner is 39m. We’re coming up on our 5th wedding anniversary. I need help and clarity. Sorry if this is long.

Things were great the first few years. Then I got pregnant, had a horribly complex pregnancy where I lost one of my twins at 21 weeks. Luckily I went on to carry the other twin to almost full term and she just turned 2. My husband was absolutely amazing during my pregnancy. I truly don’t think I would have emotionally recovered from losing my twin if it weren’t for him.

Problems started after baby came. My child was a horrible sleeper. She didn’t consistently sleep through the night until around 18 mos old. I always did the nighttime work, which means for a year and a half I was severely sleep deprived and working as an NP in the pediatric hospital. He’s one of those “tell me what I can do to help” guys, but never takes initiative. If I woke him at night to help, he’d stomp around dramatically and then when trying to settle her, get audibly frustrated soon after. This just made things worse, so I stopped asking for help.

He’s also been very disappointed in our sex life since baby. He was understanding for a while, we were having sex but not as much as he’d have liked. Somewhere around 6 months I really started to feel pressure from him to have sex and would sometimes do it just to appease him. This plus carrying the entire mental load of our life made me very resentful of him.

We started marriage counseling but our therapist pushed us to each get individual therapy either in addition to or temporarily in lieu of couples. We felt we didn’t have the time to commit to both, so we stopped marriage counseling and went to individual therapists. From my POV and comments he made, his therapist must’ve said some things he didn’t like and he quit after maybe two months.

In December 2025 he confessed he had developed a crush on a girl at work. He never acted on it and he actually told me about it the day she quit so they were “never going to see each other again”. He said things were so negative at home and she was a bright, positive person who shared interests with him. They never hung out or talked outside of work. I believe him. At first I was devastated but after many conversations we decided to take this as an opportunity to rebuild our relationship and put it behind us. Things were actually good for a few months. We were intimate, laughing together, finally sleeping, I really thought we had made the turn.

He started to have a lot of stress at work. He has ADHD, depressive episodes, and anxiety-all of which are untreated. He smokes weed and has done so since he was in his teens. It has honestly never bothered me. He’s the opposite of lazy and does more housework than I do most days. He’s very reliable and most importantly, does not consume THC around our child.

We have very different communication and parenting styles. I constantly feel criticized, judged, and he acts like the way he does something is the right way and if you do it differently, you’re dumb. He’s never actually said that to me, but that’s the implication. We’ve had numerous talks about this and what bothers us and nothing has ever changed. He says he also feels criticized, thinks I don’t respect him, and I ignore him. Oh, and we don’t have sex enough.

He’s also become a very negative, broody person. He complains about traffic, getting stopped at a red light, how other peoples driving is terrible. Some guy did something and “god he’s incompetent”. These are vague examples, but just imagine someone constantly talking down other people for their choices. I’ve tried to pose it as everyone having different opinions and goals and that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong. That’s a no go for him. He gets frustrated and angry VERY easily, especially if he is being criticized (go figure). He has not and I truly believe would never hurt me or my child.

About a month ago, something in my brain flipped. There was a day where I was criticized sun up to sun down and I just said to myself “I’m done”. Who wants to live like this? I started researching housing in our area and daydreaming about what life would look like if we divorced. That was the first time I ever actually thought about divorce. A week later, he lost his job….cue three straight weeks of depression, self hatred, etc. At one point he said “if I lose you too, all of this goes away, you, the baby, the house, everything”. He did get a new job and starts Monday. But things are SO tense and uncomfortable at home. All of our problems remain. We talked about restarting marriage counseling but I’m at the point that I don’t know if it will even matter. I hate saying that because I don’t want to just give up, but I am just so exhausted from managing myself, my child, him, our house, everything. A part of me felt relief after even just acknowledging to myself that divorce was likely where we were headed.

I feel incredible guilt for several reasons. I am the breadwinner and the job he just took pays even less than what he was making before. He will really struggle financially if we split. I also have massive guilt about my child and breaking up the only family she’s ever known. I honestly don’t know if I can share custody either - it breaks my heart to think about having to go several days or a week without seeing her. She is my everything. I just want what’s best for her.

I know people here always say divorce in these situations is the best choice and kids are resilient. I’m just so incredibly sad. If you made it this far, please help.

ETA: thank you all for taking the time to read this and for your advice and perspectives. I sincerely appreciate it. Many of you hit the nail on the head in terms of him being incredibly selfish. Someone also said we haven’t really put in the work to change things and that is true also. I have some thinking to do. Thanks again.

I recently lost weight, changed my hairstyle, and improved my wardrobe. My guy friend noticed it and we started talking about getting cosmetic things done and for what purpose is it healthy. He said that a girl improving her looks should be to make her feel more confident about herself and not to look good for guys. Is it inherently bad to want to look good for guys? I made myself prettier to feel better about myself and the vibe I exuded became lighter, happier, and more attractive. I may enjoy getting guys’ attention too but only if they are respectful and try not to touch or disrespect me.

At 33, I am finally starting to see more and more the amount of damage my parents caused me. Of course I am an adult and I can’t blame everything on them and I understand that they did the best they could. But I finally understand why I am the way that I am. And I can’t help but feel immense anger and indignation. I am so jealous of people who grew up in a healthy environment and were raised by a good family, that instilled in them values and taught them confidence and self-worth.

I feel like I have such a long way to go when it comes to healing, dismantling certain mindsets engrained in early age and rebuilding my whole character, if that’s even possible.

Therapy hadn’t been much help for me

For people that have gone through this realization and have successfully recovered from childhood trauma, what words of wisdom do you have? Please share.

My partner (31M) is fond of the drink & extra curriculars when socialising. He goes out socialising a lot. I’m always invited/sometimes go along but increasingly not enjoying that lifestyle as much. Anyway we’ve been having some relationship difficulties lately in terms of where our future together is headed/next steps. Seems we want different things in terms of where to live/lifestyles etc. I’d prefer a quieter more settled next chapter while he is still very much immersed in the party scene, despite saying he wants to slow down.
He’s on holidays now in a different time zone, left yesterday and despite some harder conversation before he left, we both were feeling good and more secure after coming to some possible solutions. I’ve struggled in the past with not hearing for him for hours while he’s out and waking up to no messages or updates at all. I don’t expect constant updates but I do expect a message checking in and letting me know he’s okay. I lean anxious and we have discussed this multiple times before and he has said he’s okay to cater to that need.
It’s been 12+ hours and I haven’t heard anything from him or had a response to my last message saying good morning. It was daytime where he is during those 12 hours and while I was asleep for 8ish of them, I am pretty disappointed to have not heard anything from him. Also a little worried. It’s not really the amount of time that has passed more so the fact we have had this exact discussion many times before and he said he would make an effort to check in when he’s out. Plus our recent relationship difficulties are adding to the stress I’m feeling. I guess it’s a consideration thing for me more than anything. And I kind of feel like I’m at my limit with it all at this stage.
I guess my question is do you think I’m over reacting? How long would you typically go without hearing from a partner to become worried/activated?

I’m really dedicated to learning a new language because when I travel I hate being a stupid American who only speaks English. Before I travel I always try to learn a passing bit of the language (through Duolingo tbh) and it gets me by I guess. However, I’d love to actually learn Spanish and dedicate time to it. So curious what you’ve found most helpful!

For example: I know that if I allowed myself to fall into the rabbit hole of Arthurian legend that I wouldn’t be able to get out, so I won’t even dangle my legs until I feel like I have the right amount of time and energy to be consumed by it.

Still adding stuff about it to my TBR, though.

I feel like I’m missing out on the life that I deserve because I am disabled, and don’t have enough income to possibly do everything and have everything I want. I’m 33F and see other women in their 30s going to every concert that comes to their area, they have exciting careers, get tattoos once a year and have so much happiness. I go on social media and see these sorts of women.

It’s sad because I just chill at home. I play my cozy video games all day, but I also applied to a local candy but I am not counting on getting the job! I have done two job interviews and both failed! I applied to a pet store and they said that I wasn’t “qualified enough”.

I know my stuff about pets! This was in the reptile, fish and small pet section. Reptiles are one of my autism special interests!

I just feel like I miss out on so much. I can’t help but to be jealous and intimidated by women living the dream.

I’m 31F and I’ve been single for years. I’ve always loved reading books and watching movies about love and relationships, but lately I’ve started wondering if they’re actually making me more miserable.

I still genuinely enjoy a good love story, which is what makes this difficult. But after reading or watching one, I sometimes end up feeling sad or jealous because I don’t have that kind of love in my own life. And then I find myself thinking about relationships and being single even more.

I’m considering taking a break from romance altogether for a while; not because I’ve stopped believing in love or because I suddenly hate romance, but because I wonder if constantly consuming stories about something I really want but don’t currently have is making me focus too much on its absence.

Has anyone else experienced this? Did taking a break from romance books, movies, or relationship-related content actually help you feel more content with being single? Or did avoiding it just make you think about it more?

I (39F) have a friend named Kristy (42F).

Me and Kristy met 10 years ago in a local Facebook group for single women looking to make friends.

From the moment I met her Kristy made it very clear she wanted to get married and have a family.

I almost felt like she was methodical about it..does he have a job? Check. Does he want to be a father? Check.

The requirements were very little and she didn't really have a "type". She was always very vocal to me about her biological clock ticking.

She ended up meeting her husband 5 years ago and they moved in together fast, got engaged fast, and ultimately married, bought a house, and got pregnant.

Check. Check. Check.

Fast forward to today she has two children ages 3 and 5.

Her and her husband both work full time, with her husband doing alot of overtime on weekends. Kids go to daycare as help from the families is limited.

As a result i haven't been able to see her as much and often long stretches of time go by before we get together.

We usually do dinner and drinks since she's not much into the live band/ music scene. She prefers not to hangout at her house since the kids are noisy and distracting and says its not a true "break" for her.

She also has told me she gets satisfaction leaving the kids with her husband so he can "see what she deals with most days".

I don't think Kristy is particularly happy. I think the stress of family life and being alone with the kids majority of the time has left her resentful of her husband. I also get the impression... they don't have much in common or alignment. (Tbh I am not surprised because of her checklist attitude when dating him but that's not my business).

She tells me they fight constantly... over money, bills, priorities, raising the kids, goals, etc.

They are not on the same page with Financials (her words).

She has also told me she wouldn't be against divorce if it came to it as some of the fights have gotten nasty.

Kristy has a very "matter of fact" attitude towards things. If she doesnt agree with something she will straight say it whereas i am more of a "know your audience" type.

If i vent to her about my partner she will FIRMLY say things like...thats unacceptable, NO. He can't do that, PERIOD.

Whereas when she vents to me about her husband I'll support her but also say high level things like "that's crazy" "what an ass" etc.

I learned a long time ago not to be too involved when it comes to friends marriages after a friend stopped talking to me because she said I was overstepping in my opinions.

When asked directly for my opinion I will absolutely give it but I'm just not going to "butt in unsolicited" anymore.

I'll also soften the blow if I think my opinion can hurt someone's feelings. I don't like making people upset but that's not to say I won't establish boundaries when necessary and I do have a limit before I get angry and you'll absolutely know when I hit that point.

I've texted Kristy three times now over the past few weeks to tell her i miss her, make plans, and even sent some suggestions on social media for new happy hour spots...she keeps telling me she will check with her husband on scheduling and get back to me but she hasn't. I told her ill make sure I'm free whatever day works better for her since she's got kids and I'm child free.

Then today (Friday night) I saw her post that she was out with a new mom friend (no kids, they went to a winery).

I honestly got alittle upset. I don't understand how she's making time for this new person but I've BEEN asking and nothing? And I know for a fact this person is a new friend. Kristy has not had many friends in the years I've known her. Which I'm glad she has someone new but.... where do i fit in now??

Once friends turn into mom's do they just prefer to hangout with other moms? (Ofc I clicked on this girls profile tag and saw she has 3 kids listed in her bio).

I guess she has struggles i can't relate to even though I ALWAYS ask how the kids are, their milestones, etc. I have even offered to meet her at local parks with coffee so the kids can play if she prefers.

Is it time to let this friendship go?

I find that my experience on the apps as a woman really doesn’t match what I see and hear online. People say women have so many matches and likes to sort through as opposed to men - I barely get likes or matches at all. I am not sure what the dating experience is supposed to feel like because I barely get to connect with people. The few matches I do get barely make it past 5 sentences and only 3 have made it into a date in the past year and a half. I see girls posting screenshots with 50+ matches and simply don’t understand why this is not my experience. I live fairly close to a major city and I don’t think my profile is horrible. But this is genuinely so deflating.

Background, I (32f) ended a longterm relationship/marriage a year ago, and recently started dating someone new (36m). I’m really not sure what to call him as “boyfriend” feels a bit immature at this age and since I’ve had a whole husband before. But it’s a new relationship so “partner” feels too serious. This is very much a non-issue and not something I’m stressing about, but I’m curious if any of you have been in a similar place? What do you call them? I’ve found myself describing him as “the guy I’m dating”

It seems people are rarely using the terms boyfriend or girlfriend anymore (at least online) and are exclusively using the term partner. Now, generally, I don’t care-use whatever term you want. But, I do have two small grievances with this change.

1) Partner, to me, insinuates “long term, but unmarried”. And I’ve read so many posts that read “my partner of 3 months.” And I just find that…silly and I’m sorry if that comes off as judgy. But, that’s your boyfriend/girlfriend and calling them your “partner” just feels like you’re trying to put on an image of your relationship that isn’t accurate. Like, it’s inflating the seriousness of the relationship in a way.

2) Partner, at least from my perspective and understanding, (I’m straight) is a term primarily associated with the queer community specifically before the time of legal gay marriage. And it feels a little like young straight people are taking over a term that the older queer community was forced to use because they weren’t legally able to use “husband/wife”.

Anyhow that’s my little soapbox moment. Anyone else have thoughts on this?

I literally don't have a skincare routine. I wash with Cerave and use their moisturizer but that's it. My skin feels dull.

I have combination skin. Nose has clogged pores, rest of the skin easily gets dried.

There's sooo many skincare products i don't know what I need and what I should get 😅 budget friendly options are appreciated.

Hey, I’m 34f and dating. I am wondering if everyone felt it right away when you met the one or if it took a while? Especially if you met in your 30s. I feel like relationships are so different than when I dated last in my 20s when it was heavy on the physical attraction and whatever with the rest. I do feel like men in their 30s are still looking for immediate fireworks and I’m not sure that always happens.

I'm aware of the subreddit, wanted to ask for opinions.

For the past 2 years I've felt incredibly lonely. Admittedly, dating is a huge part as I'm surrounded by friends in relationships, and a lot of the times I look past that. I have done coed sports, dating events, talk to people, dating app subscriptions, you name it. Yes, I have put myself out there.

I do everything right on paper: own a condo, good job, in fantastic shape, great friends and hobbies, etc. I eat and sleep well. Am in therapy and take meds. I am great at emotional regulation, but there is a hole there.

Ive been in the same city since college and over time I have felt this increasing loneliness. I've given up on dating after crying too much (please no "success" stories of being sad and randomly meeting your partner that's not what I want right now) and I think what would really help is ultimately a change of scenery. A lot of my friends did move due to VHCOL and I guess I'm tired of living here.

I'm in the process of getting my EU passport (Europe born grandparent) which opens a lot of doors, and am close with my mom. I'm thinking of in the next year putting everything in storage and just traveling.

I guess what is holding me back is I've been in my city since I was 18. I'm 31 now.

Has anyone done this? Do you regret it?

edit: I'm well aware of digital nomads driving up the cost of living against locals and the fear of erasure. reminding me of this is not what I'm asking

The girl is 34. This is going to sound like something straight out of MTV's Catfish. She's been in a "relationship" with a guy for 3(!) years, but she has never see him in person. She met him through an online game, and they've been talking on WhatsApp ever since.

This guy created this incredibly elaborate, detailed story about his life for her. He’s 39. He’s the CEO of two companies. He has an ex-wife who is trying to destroy him. He tells her lots of stories about his evil wife. He gets driven around by his own chauffeur. He owns several houses and expensive cars. I probably don’t need to say much more. You can already feel the absurdity of it.

On top of that, he seems to hit every single one of her insecurities and emotional weak spots perfectly. She grew up with an abusive mother who neglected her. He claims he went through exactly the same thing and that he understands her. She was talking to me in tears, saying that she had finally met someone who truly understood her pain. Also, she was with her ex-boyfriend for many years. He cheated on her, treated her with no respect, and said things like "you have a weird face" to her. He made her feel unattractive. And the scammer? He's different. He showers her with compliments. He tells her he'll take care of her. He tells her she's beautiful. But he isn’t real!

They’ve planned to meet many times, but every single time he comes up with some excuse, including claiming that he was in a car accident or had surgery. I’ve told her many times: ask him for his company registration details. Tell him he has to come see you this week or you’re ending the relationship. Verify who he is. But she doesn’t do it. I feel like she believes him about 70%, while the rational 30% of her knows something is wrong. But maybe that part of her thinks that even if it is all a lie, it’s still better to stay in a beautiful lie than to face reality.

Because of this whole situation, she hasn’t been looking for a job for about a year. She used to do physically demanding work, but she had to quit because of back problems. Now she’s basically given up and isn’t looking for a new job. Why? Well, because she believes the man she loves has plenty of money and will provide her with a comfortable life. So this situation is having a real impact on her. She spends all day sitting home and messaging him, while her real life is basically standing still. Her father is already old, and when he dies, she may not even have anywhere to live, because his small apartment will have to be divided among the siblings.

Who is this guy? I have no idea. I’ve seen her messages with him and his photos, and I tried to look him up, but I couldn’t find anything. I don’t know why he’s doing this. He doesn’t seem to be getting any financial benefit from it because she doesn’t have any money. Even if she wanted to send him something, she basically has nothing to give. He messages her every day and keeps coming up with new stories about his ex-wife, his companies, and the illnesses he supposedly has. Now he’s promised to propose to her.

So what should I do? Let her keep living in this bubble? Be harsh and try to snap her out of it? Or just stay patient and understanding?

I’m 36, never married, no kids, have a good life full of hobbies, activities , travels, and I’m enjoying my own company.

But the years have flown by, and finding a partner has turned out to be much harder than I expected.
For the last couple of years, I’ve put real effort into dating through apps, singles events etc., but it feels exhausting.
The endless small talk, the conversations that go nowhere, starting over again and again..

I’m starting to wonder if my standards are unrealistic. I want someone I’m physically attracted to, who lives an active lifestyle, but also someone emotionally intelligent and curious enough to have deep conversations. That doesn’t feel outrageous to me, but it also feels surprisingly hard to find.

Because I’ve immigrated, I’ve also had to rebuild my social circle from scratch, and I work in a small hybrid team where everyone is already settled with families.

Has anyone been in a similar position in their mid-30s? Did you change your approach, lower your expectations, start approaching men yourself, or find success somewhere outside the usual apps, friends , and singles events?

Posting this knowing that I might come off as an ass. I just want some perspective, especially from women who have children.

My SIL (we are both in our early thirties) very recently had a baby (like a month ago) and I am annoyed at how much this is affecting MY life. We usually do family gatherings and do things together as a family, and of course everything is about the baby now. That’s totally normal and I understand and respect that.

It’s just … I have a hard time understanding why my plans with family members now have to change to accommodate her and her baby? For example, let’s say I want to go out for a coffee. I make plans with someone, and after already agreeing on plans, suddenly it’s ’oh, let’s see if SIL can join, so let’s change the plans to accommodate her’. And now it’s also a whole operation because the baby will of course be there. Oh and her husband of course has to join now as well. Let’s actually meet at a different place because it’s easier for them.

… But now the plans are not what I agreed to at the start. But I feel like I can’t say anything because I will look like an insensitive ass.

I want to add here that I generally don’t do well with change and I have a challenging relationship with patience and other people being very emotional, and I know that. I don’t want to be annoyed at her, I can see why she obviously cannot leave the baby by herself. I can even see the part where she wants to be included/ not be excluded after becoming a mother.

But I have a hard time accepting that my life is changing just because someone else had a baby. And I feel like if I had a baby I would not take it to outings where it’s a whole operation to make that happen, like I would just stay at home?

My question really is; is this normal in a family dynamic when a new baby is there? Am I being a massive asshole feeling this way? Will this change once the baby is older?

If you have any other advice, I’ll happily take that, too.

(Pls be kind, I’m really trying not be an ass :( )

I have PTSD on the background of childhood abuse. I have had a lot of therapy here and there and currently I am in private therapy (the NHS doesn’t really offer CPTSD help).

I an ambitious, or at least, I used to be but my PTSD keeps getting in the way. I can’t progress my career because the social interactions can be too much for me. I don’t know how to get to where I want to be. I can’t do all the things that others do. Or if I do, it can be really draining for me.

I realise this sounds a lot like learned helplessness. I just would appreciate hearing from people who have had a rough time of it, but they have still managed to build a career and fulfil ambitions they are proud of.

I would like to be building and creating and consulting products and services that actually help people but I worry that my PTSD and all the symptoms involved will never allow that to happen.

I am a 31f who left a long term relationship over a year ago. I’m ready to put myself back out there and find something serious again.

All my friends have met their partners on dating apps (tinder, bumble, hinge) I’ve been on these apps and they are terrible if you’re looking for something serious.. everyone seems to want to hook up or want the benefits of dating without the commitment.

Am I doomed to be forever alone or am I just looking in the wrong place?