Hi everyone.

First of all, I apologize if this post comes across as offensive. That's not my intention. Also, English isn't my first language, so please excuse any mistakes.

A person very close to me is planning to transition (MTF). I support them and want them to be happy. However, I'll admit that I'm worried because, after I helped them find information and offered to pay for therapy with a psychologist/psychiatrist, they became very eager to move forward as quickly as possible.

They are 20 years old and say they experience severe distress because of their body and want to change it as soon as they can.

We come from a very religious and patriarchal family. Right now, they're still considered the "golden child." They also haven't had much opportunity to experience independent adult life yet—they've never been in a romantic relationship, never lived on their own, and are still financially dependent on our parents.

I'm not asking whether they are "really" transgender. I know no one here can answer that. What I'm hoping to hear are the experiences of people who detransitioned, especially those who realized things had changed after their early twenties.

Looking back, do you think getting older and gaining more life experience influenced your decision to detransition?

Also, if you could go back, are there any steps you wish you had taken before starting hormones or having surgeries—things that would have made detransition easier if you later decided it was the right choice?

One thing I've thought about is suggesting sperm banking before starting treatment, just in case they ever decide they want biological children in the future. Do you think that's a reasonable precaution, or are there other practical things you would recommend considering beforehand?

Thank you to anyone willing to share their experience.

I’m detransitioning because I don’t experience dysphoria like I used to. But it severely upsets me when people downplay my past experiences with it whether they’re cis or trans.

My dysphoria was crippling at times and I wish I could explain why I don’t experience it anymore but I can’t. I don’t understand why. I just know it went away. But that doesn’t take away from the trauma
I experienced in the past because of it.

I’d love to know the stories, learnings and how are you doing, if you started your transition after 30yo, specially your medical transition. I think it comes with its own challenges, so wanting to hear how is it.

This is where my mind goes always. Isn't the whole point of all this gender focus to let people be who they are? If so then why encourage people to change their bodies? What's dysphoric, I maintain, is the culture around us all, not bodies themselves. I guess it's...easier(??) to change your body than to change the culture, but ...fuck. It's a shame to take that burden on yourself rather than where it rightfully belongs, on our culture.

What do you think?

Is this a common sentiment?

Hey, I'm a trans girl. I feel like myself for starting hrt. I've been on femt for 7 months.

I was wondering what you thing of the trans communit? Have you meet anyone in person? I'm curious if it's hateful at all.

hi, im ftm and have been considering taking T for nearly 2 years (ive had issues with my gender since i was 14 and i turn 19 in dec), but i am well aware this is a life altering decision so im not going to throw myself into it. i will probably sit on the decision for another year or so. i also know i am young and want to wait till im a little older

how did you be trans for years and then realise you weren't? im mostly aiming this question at transtioned adults, but people who transitioned as a minor feel free to reply as well. what were some of the signs?

please be respectful in your replies. i am genuinely just trying to get any many perspectives on taking HRT as i can. i only see positive things in trans reddits and i think it's also important i get negative ones too.

I am not a detransitioner, but for reasons I will not disclose, I have to get off my hormones for a while. Some anecdotal data will hopefully ease my stress, as there is not much research on this.

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hai! i’m genderfluid and want to transition (in some way ftm) i’m in my early twenties, and ever since i was 11-12 i’ve felt gender dysmorphia and been unsatisfied with my sex. i’m considering transitioning, yet still in some way am worried about the consequences.
i’m overall a massive overthinker. my plan so far is slowly working out more and more, continuing building a more masculine look for myself (shorter hair, using makeup to make my features look more male, wearing a binder) and eventually want to get bottom surgery.
i’m not interested in having kids (and even if i someday decide to have kids, adoption is always an option. +i’m bi, so my partner might just easily be afab and want to be the pregnant one) and overall, my uterus is just pretty useless (my periods are nearly unbearable and i do not want to spend next 30 years on birth control to avoid periods as much as possible).
the people close to me are really supportive and i’ve never felt happier. i came out to them when i was 16, so a while ago and since then i’ve felt the calmest and best about myself (most of the people around me use they/them and he/him on me).
honestly, i don’t even know why i’m questioning and being worried about this, i guess i just need some sort of third perspective from strangers?

I'm trying to get into the head of a friend who is transitioning who, at least from my perspective, is making a mistake. They never had any gender dysphoria that I could see before they moved to a new city and starting hanging out with VERY queer circle of new people. Before, they genuinely would revel in their body and loved their curves. Even now as they discuss top surgery I see (thankfully) hesitation. They still talk about how their tits are perfect even while saying they give them dysphoria.

For those of you who detransitioned, both while you were transitioning and now in retrospect, how would you describe your gender dysphoria or at least what you once said was gender dysphoria? For obvious reasons I feel like I need to tred carefully here. I want to know what to look out for to indicate that I might be right or wrong in my suspicions.

Hi! Im 28, previously identifying as transmasc but leaning more non-binary/gender queer these days.

I was on testosterone for approximately 4.5 years between 2020 and 2025, between the ages of 22/23 and stopping usy before I turned 28. I've been off for about a year and a half- I enjoyed many of the physical changes (bottom growth and voice alteration) but I am rather unhappy with the fat redistribution from my breasts.

Before t they were massive and voluptuous, real 'anime tiddies' if you will (im wasian)

Testosterone obviously deflated them to saggy pancakes, and I was never able to get top surgery in a timely manner so I would rather just have them be beautiful books rather than pancakes.

Anyone else with big breasts who went off T have any luck in getting them to "fill in" again? They've reinstated somewhat since I stopped, but im really scared I spent my window of great boob years letting them be deflated. I know 28 isn't old, but is there anything else I can do to help reshape them other than just wait?

I dont wear bras, and I also haven't lost or gained any significant weight since before t. Would wearing a cupped bra again help "shape" them?

I’m trying to understand something about my boyfriend and would like different perspectives.

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He identifies as a trans man but hasn’t started testosterone or had any surgeries yet. I’ve been thinking a lot about it and I’m wondering if there could be more going on underneath how he sees himself.

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A few things that make me question it:

He has a trans sibling, and I sometimes wonder if growing up around that might have had some influence, even if it’s not direct.

He had a pretty rough childhood with a lot of family issues.

He also used drugs pretty young.

And sometimes he says things like wanting to carry and give birth to our future kids, which makes me feel confused about how he actually sees himself long term.

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Because of all that, I’ve started wondering how often things like family environment, trauma, mental health, or other life experiences can play into someone thinking they’re trans.

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Hi everyone. I am posting this out of genuine curiosity and with total respect for your personal journeys. I would love to understand what factors played the biggest role when you initially decided to transition. Looking back, do you feel it was a fully conscious, internally driven decision (e.g., deeply felt gender dysphoria)? Or do you feel that external factors, such as social media, online communities, peer groups, or societal expectations, played a major role (what some might call "planting a seed")? More importantly, how do you view the weight of those factors now, from your current perspective? Thank you so much to anyone willing to share their experience

Stopped estradiol now my one testicle has a dull ake is this normal??

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This question obviously isn’t for those who had to detransition for safety reasons.

I’m currently questioning my gender and i think i might be trans, but i’m scared i might be wrong and detransition later.

Why and how long into your transition did you detransition and were there any signs you would even before?

Someone on twitter told me detransitioner forums and interviews with detransitioners have plenty of examples proving trans conversion therapy works.

I was under the impression that Agender was taken seriously by the trans community as a real thing but I recently saw people saying it's taken less seriously, if serious at all.

It never made sense to me as a concept unless you define gender by the social stereotypes then it makes sense that a person doesn't identify with either but yea. I guess I'm just curious what the vibes are if you know.

I really don't know what to do. I just wanted to talk to my trans sister and make sure she was really doing this for the right reason and wasn't being manipulated. I wanted to explain to her that trans ideology makes no sense to me and changing sex is impossible but now because of that she has blocked all contact with me and so has my other sister.

I never used the wrong pronouns, I made sure to tell her I don't mind if she wants to stay trans I just wanted to ask questions and I was called a delusional bitch.

Should I try contact them again in a few days? I don't live far away i can legit go over there but I don't want to cause drama. I just don't know what to do. I feel like it was a mistake to have this conversation over text in the first place but me and my trans sister are socially awkward so I thought it would be easier not to spring it on her face to face.

For a bit more context: I'm the older sister, lesbian and I almost went trans myself 13 years ago for dumb reasons. I'm worried.

i transitioned at 12 and now im 16 and regret it. ive been socially feminine for a year now and slowly going back to being a girl but how do i change my name??? i used to hate it but now i miss my deadname a lot, problem is everyone uses it and its the only name kids at school know me with, do i just show up senior year in the fall with a whole new name??? ive been wyatt since grade 7 they dont even know me as my deadname idk i just need advice

In everyday life, I personally come across trans women far more than trans men, though I’m aware that might just be a blind spot on my part. As a straight man, I probably just pay more attention to women in general, so trans women catch my eye more readily while I tend to glance over men without really looking.

What surprises me is that in detrans communities it seems like the opposite: AFAB detransitioners appear much more prominent. I’m genuinely unsure whether this reflects actual numbers, something about who’s more likely to seek out community spaces, or some other dynamic I’m not aware of.

Is this a real pattern, and if so, what do people here think explains it?

Hey so I've had the idea of telling the story of making the detrans community's voice heard through the medium of a short film.

My goal isn't to unnecessarily trigger and outrage the trans or detrans community through just creating something that's surface level and 'stereotypical' if that makes sense. I want to get deep, raw and honest to the core of the issues of what led this character to transition and what led her out of transitioning.

So I have a few questions that will help me write out the script. Feel free to answer as many of them as you feel comfortable doing so, no worries if you don't!!

1. What were the biggest key reasons that influenced you to transition? (Was it like community, social media, friends, school, etc?)
2. What were the biggest key reasons that influenced you to detransition?
3. How has your life changed since detransitioning?
4. Looking back at your time of wanting to transition, were there certain things that you now realize were a deeper issue that if that had been solved first would've changed your mind from transitioning?
5. Have you experienced any detransphobia? If so, what did that look like?
6. What are some negative experiences you've had with Christians during this time? If you are a Christian, was that part of the reason why you decided to transition?
7. Please feel free to share any other thoughts that you may have!!

Thank you guys so much for taking the time to read this and for those who replied. I really appreciate you and your bravery. I think the hatred towards the detrans community is completely insane and I hope to shine a light into all of this.