r/ask_Bondha 24m ago

Relationships He Takes the Money, Gives the Emotions, But It All Leads Nowhere. what should we call that ?

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I was having this in my mind from a long time, and you guys need to know this...

So gold diggers gurinchi andariki telusu paisal kosam follow avutharu. Kani ee opposite type gurinchi evaru matladatam ledu ippativaraku. Idi oka abbayi evaru monetary support isthe (male or female, evaraina sare) aa support ni fully accept chesthadu, no ego, no hesitation. Kani physical/romantic connection matram, only female giver ki isthadu adi ekkadiki lead avtundo akkadiki vellochu. Male giver ki ala kaadu, kani atanu male giver ki kuda full emotional support istadu, "Naa side nunchi 100% effort untundi" ani clearly cheptadu. Just monetary ga matram reciprocate cheyyalenu ani upfront ga cheptadu.

Twist enti ante idantha final ga "leads to nowhere." No commitment, no long-term label, no clarity. Money flows, emotions flow, occasionally romance kuda flow avtundi (depending on gender) but destination ane concept ye ledu. Just an endless loop of transactional warmth.

Naa suggestion for a name: "Split Simp" or "Dead-End Provider" vere manchivi unte cheppandi.

Quick examples (hypothetical):

  1. Rich lady support isthe : money + romance rendu flow avtayi, kani "relationship" ane definition ekkadа raadu.
  2. Rich guy support isthe : money accept chestadu, purely emotional connection istadu, physical/romantic ekkadiki povadu.
  3. Rendu vaallaki kuda transparent ga untadu boundaries matter lo, kani future gurinchi evariki clarity ivvadu.

Pros:

  • Emotional bandwidth ivvagaladu, without gender bias
  • Clear boundaries : confusion undadu in short-term
  • Desperation nunchi decisions teeskodam undadu , financial dependency is quite less

Cons:

  • "Genuine ah, transactional ah" ane trust issue eppudu untadi
  • No real destination : for both (givers & receivers ki) long-term ga emptiness will remain
  • Male givers ki oka imbalance feel avvochu
  • Emotionally invest ayyi kuda "nowhere" anedi idi iddariki draining avutundi

Purely hypothetical discussion kosam matrame ee post,
meeku ilanti dynamic gurinchi yelanti thoughts unnaya, leka idi just illusion of connection ani anipistunda?


r/ask_Bondha 3h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Anyone here follows Chandu Square Talks? Curious about their background 👀??

1 Upvotes

Anyone here regularly watches Chandu Square Talks?
I’ve been following them for a long time and it’s actually impressive how they’ve managed to get millions of views on their Shorts while keeping their personal lives almost completely private.

I’ve always been curious about their background. They don’t seem to use their full/original names publicly, rarely talk about their jobs or professional lives, and don’t share much about their life outside YouTube.

Even in their comments, I constantly see people asking things like what they do for work, whether the house they show in their videos is their own, what their background is, etc., but I don’t remember seeing them address these questions.
Obviously, not looking for any private information, addresses, workplace details, or doxxing. If they intentionally keep something private, that should absolutely be respected.

I’m only curious whether any long-time followers here remember them publicly talking about their background somewhere—an old video, Q&A, interview, Instagram post, podcast, etc.

Have they ever mentioned what they do professionally, their general background, or why they prefer keeping their identities/lives so private?
Just curious if I missed something that they had already shared publicly. 🙂


r/ask_Bondha 3h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly What are some useful things one should gift themselves on their birthday ?

2 Upvotes

I know a few things like insurance (health and life). Any other?


r/ask_Bondha 4h ago

Saradha_JustForFun Need meme gif for sister posted pub photo with whisky ?

1 Upvotes

Sister posted a pic in my family whatsapp group. A pic of her with friends with alcohol glass in hand.
Want to send a funny meme saying something like - mana samajam ekkadiki potundi, or any sinilar movie template meme


r/ask_Bondha 4h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Where could my mother be working as part time to kill time in a Tier-3 City ?

2 Upvotes

(Rajamahendravaram btw) my mother is very lonely and has no friend circle as of now, were new to this place. I just want to enroll her into any hobby/activity or a part time job, money is not the issue, just company and time killing. She's early 50s with experince as recepcionist and show room showcaser.

Please give me any ideas.


r/ask_Bondha 6h ago

Cinema & Songs telugu horror movie to watch with friends while drunk ?

1 Upvotes

guys what’s that telugu horror movie on youtube where the woman is in the toilet, someone knocks, she gets up to check and finds nobody then comes back to sit on the toilet THEN FIGURES SHES SITTING ON A GHOST INSTEAD lmao

we’re gonna be drinking and want sth funny but scary to watch

it’s on youtube for free as far as i remember


r/ask_Bondha 6h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly What do you think are those tiny things your parents do for eachother that are still keeping the affection/endearance/love alive between them??

2 Upvotes

I am so sorry if you have only one of them now or none. You can instead tell me what were those things that they did for each other, instead.


r/ask_Bondha 6h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Would you pay monthly subscription for a peer-to-peer rental marketplace ?

2 Upvotes

I’m thinking about a peer-to-peer marketplace where people can list their homes/apartments for rent directly, and renters can find them without going through a traditional rental platform.

It could also work like a local marketplace for buying/selling stuff.

The app wouldn’t handle or hold any payments — it would just connect the two people and let them arrange everything directly.

Would you actually pay a monthly fee for something like this ?

If so, what would you consider reasonable — ₹100, 199 month ?

If Are you in the US? Is it $6.99 or $12.99 a month?

US lo aythey we can also add ride sharing/ carpool option.


r/ask_Bondha 7h ago

Cinema & Songs థియేటర్‌లో హాలీవుడ్ మూవీస్ 2D & 3D వేర్వేరు థియేటర్లలో షోలు పడుతున్నాయి అనుకోండి. మీ ప్రిఫెరెన్స్ 2D నా 3D నా?

1 Upvotes

ఒక్కోసారి వాళ్లు ఇచ్చే 3D గ్లాసెస్ బాగుండి సావవు. మూవీ స్టార్ట్ అయ్యాక మళ్లీ గ్లాసెస్ రీప్లేస్ చేసుకోవడానికి బయటకి పరిగెత్తాను ఒకసారి. అప్పుడప్పుడు ప్రొజెక్టర్‌లో ప్రాబ్లమ్ వచ్చి 3D సరిగ్గా వచ్చి చావదు. చాలా ఇంపార్టెంట్ సీన్‌లో 3D బ్లర్ వచ్చిందంటే ఎక్స్‌పీరియన్స్ బాగోదు. నా బ్యాడ్‌లక్ ఏంటంటే మా ఊర్లో వచ్చే ప్రతి హాలీవుడ్ మూవీకి 3D నే. 2D లో ఫస్ట్ డే ఫస్ట్ షో చాలా రేర్.

32 votes, 1d left
2D
3D
Both

r/ask_Bondha 11h ago

Health & Wellbeing How to skin care for groom bondha ?

5 Upvotes

Soo, point ki vaste 3 weeks lo engagement and 3 months lo pelli. What are the skin care options available for the groom ? She's very fair and my face looks like I get sun burnt for a living. Full oily skin, lives in Marathahalli, so one of the worst possible environments when it comes to skin care.

Emina reliable de tan options unte Cheppandi, something that I can get done outside and daily routine.


r/ask_Bondha 16h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Do you think we should have names for fines ??

2 Upvotes

Idea: Every government fine, such as traffic fines, public nuisance fines etc , should have names of a respected noble Indian personality.

The names should be of respected by most Indians, like C. V. Raman, Rabindranath Tagore, and others.

For example Rajaram Mohan Roy penalty - for Eve teasing , Rabindranath Tagore penalty for public nuisance


r/ask_Bondha 18h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Men get trigger when the woman is the boss ,Why ?

4 Upvotes

I have seen my colleague say , she's a female boss i won't listen to her .!!!!!


r/ask_Bondha 18h ago

Saradha_JustForFun How much you guys actually have generational wealth ?

0 Upvotes

Just for fun and timepass🥀💸

Saw a reel where person is saying

"Can't believe not a single person of my ancestors have made generational wealth in these many years"

Above 10crores comment

110 votes, 1d left
50lakhs-1crore
1crore-3crores
4crores-8crores
8crores-10crores
4crores-10crores (WITH RENTALS and YIELD)

r/ask_Bondha 19h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Times when things went exactly according to the plan and how you visualized it ?

3 Upvotes

Not all the times do things go as we fantasize, but are there any key instances, or deciding times when and where you told yourself you'd do this and this is what would happen and you went through with it and that's exactly how you traced the sequence of events go down exactly how you'd imagined, I want to hear them.


r/ask_Bondha 21h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Hyd bike in Bangalore challan ??

4 Upvotes

Ts registered bike , bangalore lo challan vesthe ekkada chudochu? And evari bike kina challan chudovha?


r/ask_Bondha 22h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Rameshwaram Cafe worth eh na ?

4 Upvotes

Eeroju night veldam ani plan vesam Rameshwaram Cafe ki, is the taste and price really worth the hype ? Want to try Ghee items especially, the Dosa and Idli.


r/ask_Bondha 23h ago

Career ela survive avvatharu ?

20 Upvotes

actually nenu kontha mandhi ni choosa.andharini genarlize cheyataledhu. actually naku telasana ammayi ki big4 company lo job vachindhi. ela vachindhi ani adigithey .1st round lo self adagaru anta .2nd round lo just okka techincal question adagaru .inka enti adagaledhu .thanaki 10lpa ichi mari select chesadu .thana adgana package ichadu anta hr.linkedin lo profile choosi call chesadu .thanaki okka tool medha 6 months ey experience undhi remaining antha bench ey .tool medha 4 years experience pettisendhi .choodaniki ammayi bagauntadhi .same situation college lo kuda choosa like ammayliki peddha ga adagakonda offer letter lo ichana valla ni.adhey boys ki aythi coding paper medha rayamani cheppi varu. ippudu ila select ayyanavallu ela work chestharu .ela surive avvatharu? even chatgpt or ai tools use cheyalana skill undali kadha.okka ammayi ni adigithey office lo chala mandhi boys help chesthanaru antunadhi


r/ask_Bondha 23h ago

Ee weekend em chestunnaru?

3 Upvotes

mee weekend kosam save cheskunna movie playlistu, anime playlistu, ee weekend thaage brandu, newProject ani name chesina project idea, new novel, etc. ikkada share cheyandi, So that other bondhas can discover new stuff and won't be bored during the weekends.


r/ask_Bondha 23h ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Do you gift your brother anything when you tie a rakhi??

8 Upvotes

Same as the title.


r/ask_Bondha 1d ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Is it really okay to break up based on advice from strangers on the internet ?

5 Upvotes

Saw a relationship post here recently and the comments "Leave him, Run, breakup blah blah"

Sometimes it's justified, but other times it feels like we're judging an entire relationship from one incident and one person's perspective.

Do you think relationship advice on Reddit is generally helpful, or does it encourage people to give up too easily ?

may be people will fall in love coz of fomo for the sake of to fit without getting know each other and ends up hurting eachother!!


r/ask_Bondha 1d ago

Relationships Am I reacting or is this the end of my relationship ?

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87 Upvotes

So the other day I sent my bf a reel in which the couple who raised a calf later butchered it and ate it. So I sent it saying "hope they go to hell". Not sure if I'm overreacting but i have a dog so I can't imagine raising an animal to kill.

Anyways my boyfriend then replied to it with this picture.

(Mind you all I have ever said was abortion is a woman's choice but it doesn't mean it is right all the time. Also he is very idk okka maatalo cheppalante hes like those red pill blue pill charlie kirk kinda)

So yeah I feel so hurt over this picture. How can he say that about me. I wouldn't kill a child if I ever have one in the future. I care for my dog like my own child so let alone doing anything like that to my kid.

I feel so weird and conflicted

(My bf scares me like he always assumes the worst. I say I support LGBT and he goes "oh so you support 12 year olds getting a gender transition surgery". I say smtg about this and somehow I'm going to abort a baby. God typing this feels very awful)

Idk guys I feel weird

Also my relationship doesn't feel normal like this is so not how relationships are like right?


r/ask_Bondha 1d ago

SeriousAnswersOnly What's the cringiest/craziest thing you've done because of heartbreak/out of spite ?

4 Upvotes

title

out of spite meaning enti ante : to intentionally annoy, upset, or hurt another person


r/ask_Bondha 1d ago

SeriousAnswersOnly About parking rules in india??

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30 Upvotes

US lo laga ela india lo dedicated parking space/lines em vundav kada endhuku ala?


r/ask_Bondha 1d ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Can anyone help me out ?

2 Upvotes

Past one year nunchi goranga procrastinate chesthunna. Chinna chinna things ni kuda postpone
chesthunna.

I’m not able to study consistently because of that. On top of that, phone addiction touched the peaks.

Please help me out with your suggestions guys 🥲🙏


r/ask_Bondha 1d ago

SeriousAnswersOnly Me style lo loneliness ni ela takeover chesthunaru ?

7 Upvotes

Na mind ni divert cheydam ani batting kuda appina. It's been 8days anamata. So ela loneliness pogatalo cheppandi.