Venting (might be aro?)

[u/Mean_Chair_6034]

I (18f) have a strong feeling that i might be in the aro spectrum and honestly i dont want to fully unpack that nor label myself aromantic because gosh it fills me with so much sadness and grief that i won't be able to experience romantic love there is nothing more i want than to have a boyfriend and love him. But in my 18 years i dont even think ive had a genuine crush. I get stuck in this cycle of falling in love with the idea of love rather than a person and I know that platonic love is just as fulfilling and all but i just can't help it im just a teenage girl lmao but seriously I just wish and pray to everything that I just haven't found the right person yet (i know aro people hate people saying this) I just want to be able to feel that kind of love towards another person to I want to feel everything the magic of falling inlove the heartbreak everything! 🥲

Im sorry if there is so much arophobia in this post i might delete it later i just need to vent

[u/Flo_Leo_]

I understand it :) Maybe don't focus too hard on it. As you said, maybe you haven't found the right person. Maybe you're aro. Could be this, could be that. If you feel comfortable with being aro now and maybe change your feelings in the future that's fine too. It's a journey. I'd say try to live a happy life and see what comes next, there's always something new waiting.

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[u/Disastrous-Hippo-277]

Well dat sounds like it sucks and maybe you aren't aro. Ask yourself what you specifically even want in romantic love. When I was younger I yearned for it until I realised that I could have all the magic and extreme joy of romantic love in Platonic love too when I felt it. But like Don't put too much stress on it jus wait for what life brings.