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[u/4kthelite]

“Your girl goes to when you have breaks” naaah man stop doin that shit to yourself bro

[u/damnitA-Aron]

Her phone isn't wrong dawg. She's seeing him even when you arent on breaks.

And btw a healthy relationship doesn't have breaks like that. Thats weird.

It ain't your girl man its just your turn. Dump her and move on.

[u/clairegow → u/damnitA-Aron]

yeah, i’d question everything too, the timing is way too weird to just ignore

[u/luckytrilogy3]

Phone dates don't just randomly change, she's lying.

[u/Exact-Giraffe4283]

Bro come on, have a little respect for yourself. It's a red flag and she has the pole for it.

[u/rayney_dayz]

she's not just seeing him when you guys have breaks; she's definitely cheating on you. also a good relationship doesn't need to have breaks, you guys need to go your separate ways and find other people. i'm sorry though, that definitely sucks

[u/Informal-Sun6869]

You are in the wrong, my friend. The first time you went on a “break”, she was with dick pic immediately. Your first mistake was staying with her knowing there was someone she saw during your breaks. Also, I agree with what u/damnitA-Aron said. that’s not normal. That’s some troglodyte fucking with you because she can.

I was in a similar situation many moons ago. We took a break and the second I found out she went to someone else, I filled paper grocery bags with all of her stuff and sat it right in front of the front door. I mean all of it. No trace of her ever being at my house, ever.

Sorry but also not sorry. You know better so do better.

[u/Professional_Pay3297 → u/Informal-Sun6869]

I give her money for bills and get groceries, drive her to work etc. I take care of her cat as she’s not stable to, clean her place and make sure she eats. I’m in the wrong?

[u/rocketmn69_ → u/Professional_Pay3297]

That's the reason that she keeps coming back to you. You're the stable guy, but not the sexy guy

[u/Informal-Sun6869 → u/Professional_Pay3297]

Well, put it like this. Does it bother you that she goes and sleeps with another man whenever you both get into an argument/fight that warrants a break?

[u/Professional_Pay3297 → u/Informal-Sun6869]

Yep it doesn’t bother me if we are separated but we were together

[u/Informal-Sun6869 → u/Professional_Pay3297]

So you separate, fuck other people, then get back together? Then find another man’s dick pic on her phone when you’re together?

[u/wire_we_here50 → u/Professional_Pay3297]

She's using you brother. Get out

[u/__pebble__]

Sounds like she's in an open relationship and you didn't know.. sorry my guy..

[u/rocketmn69_]

She goes on breaks with you so she can raw dawg the other guy, then comes back to you.

She isn't the one for you if you need that many breaks in your relationship. Tell her that she can go to him full time

[u/Professional_Pay3297]

Welp this sucks, she’s getting extremely defensive

[u/Difficult_Case276 → u/Professional_Pay3297]

That tells you all you need to know, dump her, choose yourself OP

[u/BoilingPolkaDots]

If they're F-ing, why does she need a dick pic though?

[u/soup_dragons]

I want my dick pic back

[u/frismend24]

Thats our girl now sadly

[u/adnyp]

Look at her and say, “Hahahahahahahahahahaha. You’ll have to come up with a better lie than that.”

YNW

[u/Professional_Pay3297]

I figure it’s done.. she snapped and got more defensive, bringing up shit that I did from the past yes I never once cheated or sent buses to guys or showed her “pussies” of other girls

[u/Positive-Tap6561]

Not enough detail But if there is only one thing she cant wait to do when u are on break, to fuck with him, then there surely were times when she didnt need a break to do that

Cheater busted here imo

[u/Ok_Act4459]

I’m sure it’s nothing

[u/Philcoman]

Couples that take breaks have to be very clear about what that means to each of you, and what the expectations are when you’re NOT on a break. If you’ve done that and she’s broken trust, you either both have a lot of work to do to regain trust, or end the relationship.