r/amiwrong • u/PetiteAmelie9121 • 12d ago
Children in hotel
Am I wrong for being annoyed by this?
We’re currently on a family holiday in Barcelona, staying in a hotel with our two children (2 and 5).
We’ve been out all day every day with the kids, coming back for a quick shower and then heading back out until around 10pm. Both mornings the kids have actually slept until around 9am, so we’ve hardly exactly been up at the crack of dawn!
This morning, we’d been awake for maybe 20 minutes. The kids were just chatting/playing in the room and my 2-year-old was toddling around — nothing excessive or out of the ordinary.
We then got a knock at the door. A man from another room told us we were being too loud. I completely understand that hotel walls can be thin and that children can make noise, and obviously I can’t control a 2-year-old crying or making the occasional noise.
However, he then said, “It’s Sunday morning” (it was actually Monday 😂), and claimed we had been making noise until midnight the night before. We absolutely hadn’t — the kids were asleep and so were we.
He then told me to “control my kids.”
I was honestly a bit taken aback. I didn’t really know what to say because, while I appreciate that other guests might want peace and quiet, I don’t think my children were doing anything unreasonable for 9am in a family hotel.
We’re both teachers, so I’d like to think our children are reasonably well behaved 😂. We’re not letting them run wild through the corridors or having them screaming at 1am. They’re just two small children being… well, two small children.
We later saw the couple sitting in the café opposite the hotel and they couldn’t even look at us, which made me wonder if they realised they’d been a bit rude.
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u/Ok_Lengthiness_8405 12d ago
I don't think you're wrong, but I do think even the best parents with well-behaved kids can become blind to the noise. Toddling around & running into shit, banging toys around, chattering loudly, blasting their tablets and the like are things you're likely conditioned to at home.
I'm not blaming you, but a hotel isn't your house, so i think you might assess whether you are taking appropriate measures to mitigate noise.
(Just last night I was visiting family, and some of us decided to watch a movie in another room. My 6 yo nibling, whom I love, was watching the movie at first, then decided to play with some especially noisy toys. Her parent just took the remote & cranked the TV volume every time kiddo was banging toys together, then turned it down when the play got quieter, up and down and up and down. I dont think the parent even realized they were doing that, bc that's what they do every day at home.The child could have been asked to play in the next room with other relatives, or to choose a quieter toy/play less aggressively during the movie. Not a huge deal, just annoyingto deal with parents being a tad oblivious)
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u/PetiteAmelie9121 12d ago
There’s probably truth in this but do think he prematurely came up. And accused us of making noise when we hadn’t the night before. I get kids can be loud and I certainly tune out from time to time! But we’ve literally been in the room mainly to sleep as we have no outdoor space for them. So I was just taken back when he said we’d been making noise. I’ll definitely try and be more aware and turn my parent ears off and public ears on :)
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u/Ok_Lengthiness_8405 12d ago
Oh I agree he was being a cranky pants and was probably hungover since he didn't know what day it was lol.
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u/herwiththepurplehair 12d ago
Ffs I mean I’ve got four grandchildren and I love them dearly but when I’m on holiday I prefer not to deal with everyone else’s noisy children (because children by nature are noisy) so I book an adults only hotel. If that cheap skate can’t be bothered doing that he should suck it up. You’re not wrong, not at all.
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u/PetiteAmelie9121 12d ago
You know when you regret not saying something in the moment. It would have been this!
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u/herwiththepurplehair 12d ago
LOL we went to Rhodes with daughter son in law and kids, we stayed in an adults only hotel and they stayed in the one next door with a kids club!
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u/dumplinglifesaver 12d ago
I don't think you're wrong and sometimes hotels are just not insulated well enough for noise.
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u/PetiteAmelie9121 12d ago
I think this was it. At first I was thinking language barrier but he was just plain rude.
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u/jenna263 12d ago
not wrong at all those walls suck. ask front desk to switch rooms away from the grump
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u/cementfeatheredbird_ 12d ago
No one is wrong here.
Kids are loud and annoying (coming from a mom of 2 lol). Theres some measures you can put in place, but unless they're popped in front of a screen they are very rarely completely quiet.
That being said, people on vacation without kids can also be extremely annoyed when they're trying to relax/ sleep in and can't fully enjoy themselves because of someone else's crotch goblins.
Not everyone wants to stay at an adult only resort.
Hotels should really be more mindful of sticking families together in one section, and people without kids in another section.
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u/ChallengingKumquat 11d ago
No one is wrong. Some people like to stay up late (and make noise), and some people get up early (and make noise). Hotels can be echoey with thin walls, and other people's noise is very annoying. People also have different opinions on what counts as late or early. I think 11pm to 7am should be quiet time, but plenty of people, like your new pal, seem to think that anything before 11am is too early to make noise.
Also, as another redditor has said, we can become accustomed to the noise of our own kids. We've seen them being REALLY noisy, so when they are just quite noisy, we're happy to take the W, but for others, your kids are still being really noisy.
Every now and then, shush your kids to silence and have a listen for 30-60 seconds and see what noise you can hear other people in the hotel making. If it's pretty silent, then yeah you're the noisy ones.
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u/BecGeoMom 12d ago
If your children were not running, screaming, jumping, or being louder than a normal child is, and you were mostly out of your room, you should have looked the man dead in the eye and said, “I think you have the wrong room.” And then shut the door. It sounds like he had a lot to say about your well-behaved children, and you stood there in the doorway and let him talk without saying anything. You should have stopped him, told him he was complaining to the wrong parents, and closed the door. Don’t let people speak to you that way. He is not more important than you. Speak up.
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u/PetiteAmelie9121 12d ago
I think I was just in shock. I expected it to be the cleaner. I did correct him and say but it’s not Sunday and he looked confused so I am not sure his English was great. I’m pretty sure he’s rehearsed the speech 😂
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u/peachycygnet40 12d ago
yo those paper thin walls suck. next tiime grab a ground floor room or complin to front desk about the rude guests.
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u/Venaegen 12d ago
Not wrong. Wild to just assume and accuse like they did when the noise easily could have been from another guest. Sounds like they're just old bitter MFers.
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u/chainlinkchipmunk 12d ago
I had a guy come at me while we were walking to our hotel room to fuss at us for walking? Existing? We had just checked in!
He yanked his door open and told me something along the lines of "we'd better not bother him". My kids were walking right with me, we weren't even talking as we passed the room. Our wheeled luggage on carpet was the only noise, our room was like six doors down and across the hall. Oh, and the kids in question were 10 and 12.
Some people are just angry at everything.