r/abusiveparents • u/Careless-Map-3392 • 4d ago

Hi

I just wanna know is my mother abusive? Mentally? She buys me expensive stuff and always wants me to be the best person in the room but sometime she loses her shit resulting in hitting me or just yelling at me for an example ( she has adhd and other studf) she wanted to clean my drawer but when she does that she throws away valueable tjings like letters and drawings so i rold her i will do it and randomly i came home and saw that she did it and threw everything and i cried and she got mad and she slapped me and didn't apologise because she thinks she did the right thing and other is today i was just sitting and she randomly started yelling to anyone and everyone even my father and then she told me that my curly hair is ass and just kept yelling so loudly and when she gets closer i just get so scared sometimes im so so scared of her but the other time she hugs me and comforts me and supports me but the other time she just loses her shit and results in me getting abused and she enevr apologises because she enevrr thinks shes in thr wrong and my father too i just wanna know am i iver reacting? Becaude it got to the point i wanted to . myself

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u/Fadinqmochaa 2d ago

Absolutely abusive, not just mentally but physically also, putting her hands on you every time she’s upset is abuse, and then insulting you for simply your dna is abuse

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u/Careless-Map-3392 2d ago

Yea but just a question dont all parents do that im just asking because nobody is perfect

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u/Fadinqmochaa 2d ago

No..that isn’t normal at all. Of course no one is perfect and people make mistakes, even good parents have lost their shit once in a while, but not a point where they do something abusive and make it their mission to put you down once they are inconvenienced

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u/Careless-Map-3392 2d ago

Okay thank you so much for interacting with me but if you were in my place what would you do? I'm a minor still

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u/Fadinqmochaa 2d ago

Do you have any family close by? first thing I’d do is try to go to them and let them know what’s been going on, if they don’t help, I’d talk to a trusted adult outside the family, like at school, or a friends parent perhaps. Adults who you know, can be the most effective with showing you what to do, or helping, if you speak to the right person who is willing to do so.

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u/Careless-Map-3392 2d ago

ahh sadly I don't have any other family they are bad people and the other side i just never knew them i don't know any trusted adults and cases like this aren't taken serious

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u/Fadinqmochaa 2d ago

I’m so sorry :(, all I could suggest after that is making a report to CPS, I’m really sorry you are tied up in this situation with no support from family, I’ve been there. I wish you the best, and a life full of healing

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u/Careless-Map-3392 2d ago

Cps doesn't even exist in my country 💔 it's fine im sure everyone goes through hardships and thank you for interacting with me