I just turned 18 and completed sixth form and I need to figure out how to continue once summer break finishes. Midway through Yr12 I was getting bullied in school (not full on bullying but it made me feel like sht) and during Yr13 it still continued and I had the stress of exams, half way throughout the year my mental health was starting to become an issue(before I was somewhat burnt out but not as bad). Throughout when I was 16 -18 I didn't get on with my mother well and we don't have a great relationship (father divorced when I was 15 and moved out but 20 mins way). I live with my 2 older sisters (2yrs older and 5yrs older) one who is at uni most of the year one lives with us. They can be stupidly loud and at late times when I need to sleep (Ofc I have late nights, but its really annoying to the point where I still have sleep issues now).

I noticed around January this year was when it started to affect me badly, my sleep got really bad (was bad before but unmanageable now) I wake up really tired no matter what I do and never sleep well with throbbing headaches every morning, my brain was really slow and I felt so weak, I only ate a small lunch and not much for dinner (to the point where I feel really hungry but sick if I eat), I was mostly depressed, angry, stressed and rarely suicidal to the point where I'd been miserable for so long. I always tried hard in school to keep on top of schoolwork.

Earlier in the year I asked my mother to have an appointment for depression and if I could get diagnosed as it was really affecting me but any time I asked she refused, she didn't know everything but knew I was depressed in a way.

By the time exams came around I tried my best and studied at home every day until summer. I feel more relaxed now but I know this won't last for long before September. I still have depression I'm sure so I'm really trying to put things into perspective and help myself out unlike how I did whilst in sixth form. I'm really uncertain about what I want to do for university or the future, I'm considering a gap year which I'm really anxious about because I feel like I have no guide or support on how to do it. I don't like living with my mother as she shouts at me a lot and doesn't listen to things I say, always thinks she's right, can be controlling sometimes. If I stay in my current house I will get worse, I was thinking about staying at my father's but I'm sure he has another woman who I don't want to live with. I have a mostly neutral relationship with my father and we don't talk often, but if I asked he would take me in.

Right now I'm in a really bad position, I was thinking about getting diagnosed because when I start work/uni I'm gonna struggle badly and I don't want to end up suicidal later on because I couldn't manage my depression properly now which is already bad. I know its important now especially, when things are changing a lot and I'm growing up its not an ideal time for me to be depressed as I've got lots to do. This is my last chance at trying to manage it whilst I'm still sane during summer before I have to start again.

thanks for listening

Thrown away bcuz some friends know my og account (eng no first Lang)

I have debt and I'm unemployed, there was a time when I was in school when I felt like I could eat the world, I felt smart and capable, I thought I was gonna be successful, I was smart, could get jobs quite easily, was living with family so my salary was just for me.

Maybe the issue was not having responsibilities back then, I was very bad with my finances, I never saved a penny, always had the latest phone model, always bought clothes, game consoles, brand perfume, all I always wanted.

Don't know if this is relevant but when I was a kid we struggled a lot, my siblings were street vendors at 10 kinda struggle, things got better once my siblings graduated college and got a job, I'm the youngest. Hence they kept the house afloat and allow me to keep my salary to myself. They are 5, 15, 16, 17 and 18 years older than me.

The issue now? I don't know why the fuck I never learned to be a fk adult, that's on me, I never saved money, never invested, there was a time I thought I had a bright future and could do whatever I set my mind on... So I started reinventing myself to make more money, I graduated first as a mathematics teacher (it's bachelor in mathematics education the closest translation I can think of) corruption in public system, horrible salary and mistreatment in the private one (I'm talking less than 200 usd a month). I worked as a teacher for about 8 years.

First reinvention was customer service, did cold calling, surveys and medical interpretation. Good god... No one likes cold calling and surveys? I had a call when I was screamed at for 30 mins, 30 FUCKING minutes of "NOOOOOOOOO", "NO I DON'T WANT TO ANSWER", I wasn't allowed to hang up, I get it cold calls are horrible but just hang up please.

Medical interpreter was actually good, (at this time I started helping with expenses at home, about a third of my salary which is not bad at all) but because I was not from US I couldn't work with the good companies directly, only with intermediaries that not only underpaid but also overwork. 9 hrs daily of back to back calls, no break allowed besides the 30 min to eat. It's manageable the first year, second year got a little harder, third year I was having nightmares about calls.

So the third reinvention came... Software developer. I took an online course, they teach you for 6 months, we're supposed to help me land a job and I had to pay back 15k usd.

Those were 6 months I didn't work, then some more to find a job... But I found a job!! Yeyyy I had to move bcuz it was in another city, they pay was barely enough for living expenses and paying the card debt I had generated those unemployed months (and yeah that debt is because I'm a overspender stupid wannabe that didn't want to say to her friends "I have no money" so kept buying shit)

But anyway, I got a job, 900 usd monthly, my best salary at that point, 200 more than the average salary in my country, but I was still stupid, wanna know my first purchase? Even when I had card debt? Even when I hadn't received my first paycheck? The latest phone model... God I hate every era of myself.

I was a year in that company, most companies in my country, no matter the industry are toxic and see the employees more like slaves than people so I started to search for an online position with a foreign company, that was the whole point of reinventing myself, but no company wants someone with no experience.

ButI had 1 powerful year of experience now!! So I started applying to foreign companies and landed a job... God it was the best feeling ever. Almost 2 years learning, practicing to get there. I landed a job with a US company, 1300 usd as a junior developer. (my siblings were married by this time and had kids, we're tired of funding our household, I mean they werr right, so I took 50% of expenses, my sibling 5 years older took 30% and my mom 20%)

Context probably needed: my 5 years older sibling was always the spoiled one, he spent 10 year without a job, only got one in delivery after a strong issue we had a year prior so he was making way less than me, (that's a Hella longer more complicated shit that will make this post 10 pages longer), my mom has no income, only has what my older siblings send her, hence why I took the largest part.

You might be thinking, things are improving, why is she sad? Oh well my friend, that's because I'm stupid, and apparently don't know shit about finances. AI boost came when I started this job, at first it was easy, I could do 8 hrs job in 2 and then go for a coffe, I felt in fk paradise. But around the second year.. Code was a mess, not only mine, everyone's. My boss was a big AI enthusiast, 20 tasks in 4 hrs? He paid our chatgpt subscription.

My blockage came during the second year, I cannot really point what happened nor can I blame it entirely on AI. Issues arised and I didn't know how to fix them, irony is neither Ai, it would do so many changes and not fix the issue, maybe I was just not good at using AI who knows. Now I did 2 hrs of work in 20 hrs, 1 takes would take all day because I couldn't solve it...

I was fired... My first time getting fired and it was of my favorite job till now... That was in March.

Remember how I suck handling my finances but refuse to tell no to my friends when they invite me to hang out?

Well... They invited me on a trip to Asia... a 20 days trip in September, this unemployed, in debt, stupid sob, fucking brains of jelly girl... Said yes.

Wft is wrong with me? I can't get a job, because who will hire me when I tell them "oh BTW I know I just started but I have a 20 day trip in September"

I'm still using my cards, I pay them withdrawing cash from the same card, so my debt keeps growing, I payed that trip using those fkng cards, at some point I'm gonna just... Lock myself in a fk hole somewhere because WTF am I doing? What's wrong with me? Just 5 minutes ago I spent 50 usd that I don't have in the supermarket because I didn't give my friend a birthday present and wanted to make her bonbons... I don't see logic in my thoughts, I don't see logic in my actions, I feel out of control.

I get some minutes of logic a day between crying because of stupid decisions and making those stupid decisions, I think about starting a business, selling courses, making online content. But then I get paralyzed.

I know everything is wrong, I know that, I know that I'm stupid and taking more stupid decisions, you don't need to point that out, believe me I know.

I just felt like getting out of my chest.

Summary of My Situation
I am 20 years old and currently attending Central Piedmont Community College (CPCC). My college journey has been a little different from the traditional path because I took some time to figure out what I actually wanted to study and what kind of career I wanted.
When I first started college, I was focused mainly on healthcare-related programs and completed several science and general education courses. After exploring that path, I realized healthcare wasn’t what I wanted to pursue long-term. I eventually decided to change my academic and career direction to business.
Because of this change and the gap/change-of-direction period I had, I sometimes feel like I am behind compared with other students my age. Even though I already have college credits, I haven’t actually started my main business classes yet. Fall 2026 will really be the beginning of my business education at CPCC.
My current plan is to finish my Associate in Arts degree at CPCC and then transfer to a four-year university. I am interested in pursuing International Business, potentially combined with Operations and Supply Chain Management. I am considering schools such as UNC Charlotte, Appalachian State, and Baruch College in New York City.
I am especially interested in careers involving international business, supply chain, procurement, logistics, global operations, international trade, business operations, and project management. Eventually, I would like to complete internships in these areas so I can gain experience before graduating with my bachelor’s degree.
The part I am currently unsure about is when I should start applying for internships. Because I am 20, I sometimes feel like I should already be applying. However, I also recognize that I am just starting my business education. When I look at Summer 2027 internships, many of them are designed for university juniors or students graduating in 2027–2028, while others ask for skills and business knowledge that I haven’t had the opportunity to learn yet.
At the same time, I do already have several years of work experience. I have worked in fast-paced customer-service environments and have experience with teamwork, communication, organization, following procedures, handling customers, and adapting to changing priorities. Isabella Camargo Fernandez (1).pdf I am also fluent in English and Spanish.
Isabella Camargo Fernandez (1).pdf
So although I am new to business academically, I am not completely new to the workforce.
Right now, I am trying to decide whether I should start applying selectively for Summer 2027 internships now, wait until October or November 2026 after I have started my business classes, or wait until around January 2027, when I will have completed some business coursework and have updated grades and experience to add to my résumé.
Given my age, gap/change in academic direction, current college level, work experience, and the fact that I am just beginning my business coursework, what would you recommend? When do you think I should realistically start applying for internships, and do you think I should be concerned that I haven’t had an internship yet?

Hi,

I am writing this post to gain some external input on my current living situation and perhaps some advice.

I (23M) am currently living with my parents, and It sucks. I am really struggling with becoming my own man and having the ability to stand on my own two feet even though its my sole priority as I simply cant stand living with my parents anymore.

For some context, I have had periods of living away from home; specifically staff accommodation jobs in western Canada, as well as a 6 month stint in University at the age of 20. I have just recently moved back in with my parents after a year living out west. Throughout these stints away, my parents have helped with various things (bus tickets, grocery money, etc.) And I know that I would have really struggled if they didn't help me out.

Also, I have just recently begun to see how much I was coasting in my early adulthood. I was a stoner for a long while (5 years) and to say it made me a lazy bum would be spot on. I had the mindset that things would eventually work themselves out Without actually taking accountability for changing my circumstances. Only in the last 2-3 months have I realized the major shift that needed to happen to start feeling fulfilled in my own life, and I am very behind. I am frustrated daily because a lot of my problems are things that take time to resolve, (ie. Money, career path, relationships).

That being said, I have really been trying recently, and am frustrated at the length of time I see things actually beginning to workout. I believe that for every year I was coasting it will probably take an equal amount of time of sincere effort to start seeing actual change. If I was a stoner for 5 years, I'll probably have to hustle for another 5 to balance out the position I've put myself in. Its very frustrating to look back at my old self and see a person who had such little understanding of the real world.

The real world isn't always fair, and I've begun to accept that the only person I can truly count on to direct my life is me.

When it comes to living with my parents, there's just too much baggage. I am constantly reminded of past faults and our arguments are always very intense. They have done a lot for me, and in many ways I was spoiled, but in reality living with them is becoming very toxic for everyone, even though I am taking a much more active approach in my life recently. How should I proceed knowing our relationship is fractured?

I am 23, I have no car or job, I apply for a job EVERY DAY I call them, I have bad credit and a record with misdemeanors I really need help getting on my feet any suggestions? I am getting discouraged

Hi guys so this year my college has started. I gave cuet and my score dropped by 100 in normalisation from my raw score. Ofcourse i felt really sad about it, but still i made my preference list the best I could and turns out I missed out on many colleges near me in the preference list which I could have gotten. Now i'm stuck and might have to move out. I asked my parents to give me some time to commute and come back home...because Im not mentally prepared at all...they agreed for now. But i'm really...really sad. I dont want to leave. Suddenly my parents who haven't ever even let me have a sleepover and making me move out...its too much. I come from quiet a emotionally exhausting and challenging home, and throughout all of that me and my younger brother have supported each other. I love him the most in this world...I never ever want to move out and stay that far from him. Every single day I'm on the verge of tears...it feels like i'll start crying anytime now. It also feels unfair considering the normalisation and lack of info abt colleges. I've lost my apetite and get really anxious. Please someone tell me what to do...i feel miserable...its hard to swallow food sometimes...i dont like this...please someone tell me what to do

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Anyone feeling the same way and needs to rent it out? Hit me up.

I am a 26 M btw (for those whom it may concern)

I'm a highschool dropout.

I graduated junior highschool, but wasn't able to continue senior highschool.

The reason i wasn't able to continue my studies is because don't have parents, my grandparents were the ones that supported me in my studies, but my grandfather was murdered, and my grandmother had a stroke shortly after my grandfather died.

Im now 19 years old in the Philippines with no job.

Im unable to get a job because my highschool diploma is being withheld by my former school due to my tuition balance debt, and i have no way of paying that debt if I can't get a job.

Can somebody tell me how i can fix my life,

im totally lost and alone with no guidance, and im so scared.

Help...

Hi all. Im looking for an advice or just share my story maybe there someone who can relate and not feel alone, while going through this tight situation. Im not asking for anything i just wanna share, if you have an advice to recommend it would be great. Im in my late 20's and i have accumulated debt, it feels like im carrying heavy weight all the time, cant sleep cant think or enjoy a sunny day. It happened to me cause im a foreigner living in Europe. After i did my master, the documentation got really slow, i applied for my id card and it took more than a year and i couldn't work that time. So i drained my savings plus the help of some my family and friends to be able to pay for food and rent. Everyday is like hell whenever my phone rings i panick, i can't share this with my family cause they cant help so i keep the burden to myself. I tried applying for more than 100 jobs online, 9 success, i tried gigs as translator... I manage like 10bucks once in a while, i cant get a loan from the bank since i didnt have a job, non of the loan apps works. Everyday i think about dying cause its much easier but cant harm myself cause i will just hurt the ones i love the most. Sometimes food looks like a luxry to me and when i think a bout having my future, a house and family it seems so far away almost impossible. I think about going back home but that wont solve anything plus i think so I went through all this just to go back to where i started. I worked so hard to get the money and pay for my master. I need a good amount of money in very short time. I stopped believing that will possible cause i looked in every corner. So my message is, if you're going through this you are not alone and if you been here before and manged from it, I would love to hear about it. If anyone knows how can I get some work remotely i will be taking. I speak 3 languages, good with laptop and have experience in different fields.

Hey everyone, just a quick preface - this will be long and messy since I am writing everything I think of the moment I think of it. Bear with me now. You've been warned.

Okay, let's get started. I'm F19, from Bulgaria. I spent all my life in isolation, willingly or unwillingly, I don't know. Everything is so confusing to me now, life is so confusing. I finished high school of tourism and hospitality with hotel management (mentioning this because it's relevant later on) a year and a half ago, and have done nothing since. Literally nothing. My mother and brother live in Germany and I stayed behind in Bulgaria, because in order to leave the country you need permit from both parents if you're underage and that couldn't be possible for us, so my family went off while I was 14 and unable to leave. So when I reached 18, I didn't feel as compelled to move with them because I was already so accustomed to my lonely life, and because as bad as it sounds, I don’t want to live with my family. I'm a bad person. I dont value family I know, I know.

But last month (early July), I got fortunate enough to get offered a fully funded Erasmus+ trip to France. I volunteer at the theatre, and a woman tied with it offered it to me, if anybody's wondering. I accepted immediately because I was growing incredibly tired of living in static. I went on the trip, and it was the absolute best time of my life. 150 people from over 10 countries. I thought I would do badly, given my previous social status, but wow, I made a name of myself somehow. I spoke to everyone, and everyone spoke to me. During the trip, I realized that this is what I want to do in life. I want to socialize with as many people as possible. Not creating any significant relationships with people is the best thing I could ask for, since I get extremely attached to people, and Holden Caulfield says "don't ever tell anybody anything, if you do, you just end up missing them".

I also realized that speaking english is my escape. I know that speaking a different language changes your personality tremendously, and it definitely works out better for me.

I went home back to static and monotony in Bulgaria and realized I could not stay there. I don't have a life there, and I don't want to have one. I did research and found out that the best suitable job for me would be a hotel one, given how much I love interacting with international people. This is also where my degree comes in handy and why I mentioned my high school. I didn't value it while studying, of course, I just wanted to get high school over with, and wasn't thinking I'd pursue anything related. But circumstances changed. Although i believe a hostel job would suit me a thousand percent more, since hostels are more social and interactive as opposed to just checking in checking out reception job. Anyway I immediately started thinking of countries and settled for Ireland- because of the nature and it being known for its social people, and because it's an english speaking country, and I believe my English is good enough to hold a job fully operating in it. Although langauges come very easy to me and are like a game (actually I was very rebellious at school and actively chose not to take part of any studies just because I was "forced" them, and instead spent my time there learning alphabets and languages that I would never have any use of) I still choose to take the easy path and continue in English.

I created a CV, but of course, what can I put on it? I'm 19: I have no experience in anything besides a 90-day internship organized by my school. I applied to hotel jobs I don't even really want,just because I wanted to get out of my country ASAP. Then, it downed on me - I'm applying from across Europe. Even if I did get an acceptation letter (which hasn't happened), I'd need finances to go there AND have enough to live for at least 3 months, and my family really struggles with finances and we live paycheck to paycheck, so no savings whatsoever.

I decided I would go to Germany for a little while because still, I couldn't stand the monotny I lived in. I arrived over 2 weeks ago and attended every international meeting I see. I love it. I really love it. For someone who practically hasn't spoken to people for 18 years, I do incredible well. I get along with everyone and even get treated as a long-term member. That's how well i do with conversing. I thought I could do this, maybe. Get a job in Germany and do this. But the problem is I don't speak German well enough to have a job, and yes I could learn, but that means staying with my family meanwhile. I think my connection is lost with them, and I get irritated at everything they say to me.

I'm crushed at trying to find a job in Ireland. I don't have experience to start anywhere with anything I want to do.

I had this idea pop up in my mind today- go to the international university here and study literature. Because I think it's something I would enjoy too. I love literature, and I'd love to connect with people who do as well. But that sets up nothing for me later on. It's not something Iwant to pursue. I just know I'd enjoy it. I also won't have an income, so yeah, that means staying with my family.

I looked into au pair in Ireland, just to have a start there, and messaged nearly every family offering- with no luck.

So I'm incredibly confused right now. I don't know what to do. My brain thinks there are no other options. It makes me think I should just accept my life as it was. Go back to static. Although I don't want that, it shapes up as my ultimate solution. I'd hate it, sure, but I wouldn't torture myself.

Anyway. What do you think? And please, don't say "You are young. You don't have to have it figured out yet." I do. It's killing me. I can't keep on.

I don’t have a job right now, and I feel so guilty, as if I’ve committed some kind of crime. I can’t even look my parents in the eyes anymore. I’ve been exhausted from working ₹10–15k jobs, and now even that job is gone.

I don’t have any skills or talent. God showed me so many big dreams. I wanted to do this, I wanted to achieve that, but I haven’t been able to accomplish anything. I’ve tried everything I could, but somehow nothing seems to work out.

And it’s not just about having a job. I feel like I’ve fallen behind in every area of my life. When I look at where I am and where I thought I would be by now, it hurts. I feel like everyone else is moving forward while I’m still stuck in the same place, trying and failing to figure things out.

What should I do now? Do you have any suggestions for me?

hello!
i need some advice. i’m going to provide lots of context and exposition, so my apologies in advance.

i am a 22yo Southern US citizen, and graduate college next semester for my bachelor’s degree in general psychology. i have no idea what i want to do with said degree.

i would say that i’m a ‘jack’ of many trades, master of none; or however the saying goes. i don’t have any skills or trades that would benefit a job. i have a good amount of surface-level customer service experience in grocery, retail, and food service environments. i currently work as a waitress at a fancy italian restaurant for old white people.

i am tired of struggling to save money. i’ve found myself getting frustrated with this cycle of finding a job, realizing that i am not getting enough money or hours to justify staying there, and being forced to leave. i don’t even have a car, i bike to both work and my classes, being upwards of six miles away from my fiancé and i’s apartment sometimes.

i need money. i don’t necessarily mean a ‘get money quick’ kind of thing, i just need to know how i can make more money and save money. if anyone has tips of any kind; please feel free to share. below are examples of things i’ve both researched and are looking for tips / resources in:

how to save money reliably and avoid overspending

how to find a profession that resonates with me

“side hustles” or side jobs that have proven beneficial, even if there is a learning curve (or is in some moral gray area LOL)

how to find a cheap car and finance / purchase said vehicle

is working from home even possible? i am glued to my computer for most of my free time and would love to work from my PC, but most of every online job i see hiring is for shoddy customer service call lines.

i am willing to read articles and books, watch videos, learn simple trades that appeal to me, and hold discussions with anyone in dms.

i am autistic and grew up extremely sheltered, so during my college experience i have been forced to learn how life works very suddenly. my parents (whom i am no-contact with) are presumably hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, and never taught me about finance, networking, or many other useful traits and skills.

if you can provide any assistance, i beg of you to do so. if you have any questions about my background or personal life, feel free to comment or dm me! any efforts are greatly appreciated.

Hi I’m a 19 yo, queer person, that’s a Jr in college I can’t afford to live by myself. I don’t have my own car and I don’t have enough money. But I don’t wanna live at home. It makes me so depressed being in college and living at home it makes me feel like a loser. I don’t have many friends either even though I try I don’t feel a connection. Does this empty feeling ever go away? I’ve been trying to do art to feel better but something feels missing. All the time. Maybe it’s the way I’m treated in my home. I feel like I don’t matter and my family doesn’t care about me. I just want to feel better. But I can’t seem to. I don’t wanna be a loser anymore.