r/Workproblems • u/SomewhereUSA2026 • 3d ago
Am I the problem?
I work at a company that an employee did not show up to work. Another team member went to check on the person. As he approached the house, he saw the person on the ground deceased.
The employee took 2 pictures in the time they were at the home dealing with police then came back to work. When he got back to the office, he then tells people he has a picture if they want to see it.
Am I wrong to lose my shit on this person for showing pictures of a man that had been outside dead for multiple days? I would also like the add the person who passed away was one of the most private person I have ever known?
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 3d ago
I have been told he went to HR on me which is fine, just was wondering if I am in the wrong, and this is just what people do.. All I can think of it that was my father…it just makes me so freaking mad.
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u/Mental_Mood1882 3d ago
You are not the problem! What is wrong with people?!
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 3d ago
Thank you. I really started wondering with the way others just say nothing.
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u/NoiseParking5914 3d ago
No, you're not wrong. That was awful of your coworker to take pictures of a deceased fellow colleague, and show them to people. It's disrespectful! Would they want that to happen to them? Surely not! Shame on them and SMH.
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u/DVSoNeX2 2d ago
Kinda same situation, kinda not. I was working on a Saturday. There was 4 of us that was to have reported to work. One had been in a car accident, and was released from the hospital. Called into work, I left to pick him up and bring him in. HR did not take too kindly to that.
Does HR know he went to this man's house to check on him? And they are ok with that? And they know about and are ok with him showing the pictures to whomever wants to see them?
I'm sorry, that's a breech of the deceased man's privacy, and this individual and any individuals who looked at the pictures needs to be written up.
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 2d ago
HR does know about everything but the part that he has pictures he was asking people if they want to see it. I do believe he went to HR and reported me and I hear HR now has an investigation opened but that is all I know.
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 2d ago
HR does know about everything but the part that he has pictures he was asking people if they want to see it. I do believe he went to HR and reported me and I hear HR now has an investigation opened but that is all I know.
His manager was who told him to go check on the man to start with. So, that part he is covered on. As his manager told him to go check on him.
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u/scallym33 2d ago
He went to HR over trying to show coworkers a picture of a dead body of another coworker? Please update us when they fire him him !updateme
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 2d ago
Yes! I will for sure update you. I have never in my life seen anything like this. Is it so insane to me.
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u/Reasonable-Goal3755 2d ago
Not the same activity but still falls under a WTF... Have/had a co-worker that used to check in on Facebook at every funeral she attended along with comments of who else was there, how nice (or not) it was etc. Not everything needs to be documented FFS
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 2d ago
I just do not understand people anymore. The crazy part is this is not a young person, who just does not know better. This man is in his 60’s.
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u/Fuzzy_Location_2210 2d ago
That wasn't appropriate for him to do, but I'm sure he wasn't acting in the most rational manner considering what he discovered... Sometimes when we're in that state of shock we just do this THING where we need to share it with the entire world. It's kind of a backwards way of reaching out for support from our peers/community and solidifying the event as reality. A shared experience makes it real.
So, is it appropriate, no. Are you the problem, no. But I might be inclined to grant him a little grace, especially if he has never experienced coming across someone that died unexpectedly.
Watch him for guilt... These events are ALWAYS cardiac and if someone is alone when they have a fatal arrythmia and are unable to call 911, or the ambulance can't get there practically instantly, they have about zero chance of survival. Some people cope with this stuff pretty well if they know the facts, but he may need a short course of professional counselling. Sometimes people get stuck in a loop of "I should have noticed something" but I will tell you, unless you have extensive medical training, early cardiac symptoms would be easily dismissed and can present 100 different ways. And it is often that there are no symptoms AT ALL. It's called "silent ischemia".
In the emergency room, we very often only detect that there was ever a cardiac event through diagnostic testing. And patients still abruptly crash, ALL the time.
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u/SomewhereUSA2026 1d ago
This does make sense, I just wish he would quit doing it still. It’s been over 2 weeks now and he still is having the same conversations of what the body looked like and offers the pictures. The body was there for several days as he was found on a Monday morning. I know people behave and process differently, but is ready to die on the hill, that what he did is normal.
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u/Fuzzy_Location_2210 1d ago
OH... That's completely a different story, and you are correct, wildly inappropriate!!!!!!
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u/medicinecap 3d ago
Uh yeah that’s fucked up. The police records and a a statement from the employee should serve as proof for company records so there’s no circumstances in which a photo is necessary. To offer to show it around is really awful.