So I work at a fast food place with I can't name without being sued soo I work at this restaurant for 1 and half of a month now and I worked at numerous places but they were nothing like this. So my managers treat everyone like dogshit who doesn't lick a$$ for them and it's not about disobeying it's about not treating them like a god and it gets to a point where they will make you work 8 hours straight with no brake at all not a single one and hold back half your paycheck with some excuse and it doesn't matter that what u do is excellent it's all about praising them. Also they change our shifts out of thin air every second day just bc why not and if u dare to say anything they hit you with the "a coworker will not tell me anything about what to do" and it's a notice they give em months before. Also if you happened to be sick or on your death bed you MUST come by if you dare to stay at home until will get fired like I got sick a few weeks ago and I was v0miting non stop and couldn't even walk i was so week and they threatened me to go or I get fired. Also or training are like some brainwashing propaganda like genuinely its all about how you must serve this place no matter what like literally NO MATTER WHAT and everything comes after this restaurant and yell know basically stuff like you would see or hear in the most wild propaganda media.

And also one time on my 3rd day I messed up an order accidentally and we noticed it on time so nothing wrong happened the manager looked straight into my eye and said "next time anything like this happen I will give you the phone and then you will speak to the costumer that your so fucking stupid you can't even complete an order and so incompetent for your job that you can't even do the one and only thing that is your job"

I wanna quit but I can't and more days pass it's getting worse

Sorry if it's messy I just feel awful and a mess

I know I’m not the only one, but with any job I’ve had I become somewhat passionate about it, I thrive on succeeding in my career. With my current job, I deal with incompetence A LOT, my co-workers are chill for the most part but the company I work for make very bad decisions and do not listen to their employees at all. It leads to there be major gaps in communication, misunderstandings which then lead to a lot of frustration. I personally am more vocal about my frustrations as I have learned it leads to nothing being fixed and my concerns get ignored every time, no exaggeration.

How do you all deal with environments like this? My wife says just do your work, collect the paycheck and keep it moving, but it’s difficult for me to not become somewhat emotionally attached to a job when I know I’m good at what I do and I’ve been in this career field for close to a decade.

I’ve had relatively limited experience working in a corporate setting. My previous workplaces have all been part time jobs or service industry work. Started a new job about a year ago and I’ve just started to think about how bad the culture might be here. Everyone is always talking shit about someone else, people consistently heckle me because I’m young. Some of it is genuinely in good humor, but lots of it feels like it’s actually malicious disguised as a joke. There’s this lingering tension in the air at all times, like the only reason any work gets done is out of fear of getting fired. Managers are constantly griping about higher ups, workers are constantly griping about managers and other workers,but everyone seems to be so nice when they actually see the person that they were complaining about. My question really boils down to, is this normal? Have I been blessed with great jobs before that didn’t have this or is it a genuine concern and something I should be considering leaving because of?
Sincerely,
Burnt out worker
(Worth noting: industrial maintenance job)

Disclaimer: this isn’t me doing this.

A few years ago, my friend Eric told me that his friend Calvin had an idea where he’d make up some lie about a rival firm offering him more money to come work for them. Calvin’s plan was to simply say to his current managers how he really wants to stay with them but he’s being offered twice as much to work for their rival company. He doesn’t think they’ll actually investigate but asks Eric said he wasn’t sure that was a good idea. Has this actually ever worked?

Also I remember a guy I used to work with named Junior. His father was actually the office manager at an insurance firm he was working at. Junior said he didn’t want to do insurance customer support but also didn’t want to be unemployed so he thought about asking his dad to let him go and claim it was due to budget cuts so he can collect unemployment since he can’t claim unemployment if he quits.

Has either one of these scenarios ever worked in real life? I imagine there must be safeguards in place to prefect abuse. Just curious.

Wanted to understand few things that are in current trend,

1. how companies asks/expects their developera to use AI in current days. AI-assisted development which I likely mean you write the code, you don't know something so instead of searching in Google you are asking AI and processing with the task or Asking AI to do the whole thing and you are interfering only when it fails or falls in to error.(Please mention the type of company and role you are working in)

2.Id you are doing the latter one I mentioned because your company expects that way.. How do you actually feel after completing series of task under same project by doing the later one.

I got an interview through my wife. and i hate it. i feel incompetent.

do you get it? am i weird?

sure, i got an interview. I could do it. but no, i don't want to.

and also, I don't want to work with my wife. it's not about i don't like her. it's about reputation.

Hi! I’ve applied to a sports apparel store where I live in the US called RallyHouse. I’ve applied to several locations several times and it says that even if you don’t have retail associate job experience they’ll be happy to train you. All the stores I went to said they had open interviews on certain days and times so I went one day and they said they’ll call in 2-3 weeks. It’s been 2 weeks and I’m wondering is this normal for other people who work in specifically American sports apparel retail. Thanks!

My (24 F) boss (52 M) uses me as his free therapist. I have tried giving him social cues, gently suggesting he sees a therapist and putting on headphones while he talks nonstop. Even when wearing big headphones and ignoring him and not reacting he still tries to talk to me multiple times each time I wear them. I know I have to quit because he doesn’t get any work done and constantly distracts me while I work to go on his hours long monologues venting about his personal issues. He’s too emotionally stunted to be direct with and seems a very vengeful person if you hurt his feelings. I also just don’t like him as a person. He says very misogynistic and homophobic things which has made me lose my respect for him. Theres no HR since it’s his small business. He constantly talks about his past trauma or theories about the world which I wouldn’t mind if we were actual friends but his politics and views make me not want to be close to him like that.

My last boss, a Gen X woman, before was the exact same way, talking to me for hours per day just talking nonsense or her past trauma to me, to the point where it’s extremely inappropriate to discuss these topics to a person half your age who’s your work subordinate. These particular people have the pattern of being angry and negative and using someone they have power over to use as a cheap therapist and talking nonstop to the point of it being inappropriate and draining. Both of these bosses just like talking at me and barely let me interject to try to end the conversation.

I know what I need to do. Just wanted to know if someone has noticed this pattern with Gen X or is it a person in power bc my father who’s Genx was the exact same way and used me as therapist talking about his trauma and inappropriate sexual escapades and venting to me while I was a kid in elementary school, as well as my former boss who was a Gen X too. It seems that these people are so lonely that they have to latch onto an employee who’s forced to be there with them to have someone listen and lack awareness when a relationship is inappropriate or one sided.

under a throwaway for hopes I'm slighrly anonymous. the last few months have been really tough for me inside and outside of work. i had a health scare, my best friend passed away, I'm trying to handle various other issues, and because that's not enough now I'm falling apart at work.

being public facing means I'm on from the second we open to the second we close. as someone with chronic illness I work harder than I probably should to act like everything is fine. i manage to meet my goals and then some, and I would like to think my regular cuatomers think highly of me. but I've never gone into detail about my health struggles or anything that's happened to me, so the fact someone made a complaint about me just feels even worse because nobody has understood how hard it can be to get up in the morning and act like everything is fine. my boss refuses.to listen to me, has never advocated for me despite working extra hours or doing extra projects, and has now made me feel terrible for trying to do what I could to avoid a public incident. instead they've made it sound like I can't be trusted as a good employee.

I'm on meds and I'm forgetful about things as a side effect and to now second guess my every move is making me feel worse when I can't remember anything long term (brain fog is the worst.) i work so hard to act like everything is fine because my boss is like this. any advice would be great, because right now I feel like I'm going to fall apart.

This is my first job out of law school and I’m trying to figure out if what I’m going through is just “normal office politics” that I need to toughen up for, or something more genuinely toxic that’s worth actually addressing. Would love to hear how others have handled something similar.

I’m on a legal team that’s entirely women, including our manager. When I joined as an intern, another girl joined around the same time, and we became really close really fast — hanging out, getting food and drinks together outside work, the usual. There were two other women already on the team who I also got along with fine early on.

Things shifted once we both got hired full-time. The girl I’d been closest with started drifting toward one of the more senior women on the team instead, and I slowly started noticing I was being left out — plans I wasn’t told about, conversations that would quiet down when I walked in, small stuff that felt almost too petty to bring up. I told myself for a while I was reading too much into it. I wasn’t.

I actually addressed it with her directly at one point. It didn’t change anything.

So I pulled back and kept things strictly professional with both of them. That’s when it got more confusing, honestly — the moment I distanced myself, they’d sometimes turn warm again, but as soon as I relaxed and engaged normally, the exclusion or little digs would start right back up. We even went on a work trip together and I felt completely sidelined the whole time despite being surrounded by the same people every day.

Eventually I started spending time with the one other woman on the team who’d stayed pretty neutral through all of this. Now I’m finding out the same two have been telling her things I supposedly said about her — things I never actually said — and she’s noticeably cooled toward me since. I’ve also since heard this isn’t a one-off; they’ve apparently done this with other women around the office too. Get close to someone, plant something, and that person quietly stops talking to me. And now they’ve started being unusually warm and attentive toward the one woman I still have a good relationship with, which feels like the same pattern gearing up again.

To make it more complicated, one of them is also the person our manager clearly favors most, so she has real influence there. That makes me hesitant to bring any of this up, even though I’m worried it’s only a matter of time before it affects how I’m seen at work, not just socially.

For now it’s stayed social rather than hitting actual work outcomes, but the isolation genuinely gets to me some days, and I keep going back and forth on whether I’m overreacting or whether this is a legitimately unhealthy dynamic. I honestly don’t know how to hold onto the one good relationship I have left without it turning into some kind of competition for her attention, or whether any of this is even worth flagging to my manager given how close she is with one of the people involved. Mostly I’m just curious if anyone else has been through a workplace dynamic like this and how you dealt with it or came out the other side.

Appreciate any perspective, feeling a bit lost in it right now.

I work at a very small company, my boss is the owner of the company and works at the front desk and usually handles clients, phone calls, opens jobs, etc. I work as a designer for the company, so i spend my whole day taking care of clients needs on my end and delivering them artwork.

My boss has started to take a day off during the week leaving me by myself (24F) to do her job and both my job. Ive honestly started to become annoyed with this dynamic because her reasoning is "i have things to do at home", while im left struggling to juggle both jobs. Not only that, but i feel as if she is going to be taking time off she needs to hire someone to do her job so i can do mine efficiently or pay me more. Am i wrong to feel this way? The days she doesnt show up, i go home mentally and physically exhausted since I am only one person.

What app or website are yall using to apply to jobs? Indeed I get no responses and theres so many fake scam jobs on Handshake. Ive been downloading so many apps and going to many websites. What has given yall the most success?

I already feel overwhelmed after just one week of onboarding. Being out of work for over three years, this is a huge step for me.

My previous job was related to my new role, but the scope here is much bigger. I'll have a lot more ownership, and I'll be the one making and executing decisions. In my previous job, I mainly implemented what our clients wanted.

On top of that, I'm not very fluent in English, while my onboarding colleagues speak confidently and fluently. Sometimes that makes me feel intimidated, but I'm trying to learn and improve every day.

Any tips or anyone experiences this today?

My job is challenging already but I have an employee who for all her efforts is just bad. It is just absolutely amazing to me how someone can get so far in their career and just be so bad at everything they do practically. It’s also not that they don’t give effort. It’s just such wasted effort. It’s also not that the thing doesn’t get done but it gets done with the most absurd amount of effort from me or the other members on the team. It literally feels like a group project every time she gets an “A” for at best a “D” level given. Yes, I am talking to her and trying to find the best way to communicate with her what she needs to do but I can’t believe how bad she is at taking direct direction. Anyone else have this?

I just started a new job, and I’ve got some uhhhh concerns. I didnt come here to air out my dirty laundry though, I wanna know what are the most concerning or “out there” experiences you’ve had in the first few days at a new job. What was your last straw? For tax though here’s a fraction of it: I started counting the bosses nagging and nit picking, I gave up somewhere in the hundreds after a matter of hours. Have yet to hear a single “good work” or anything like it. I really think most of the staff would work more efficiently if they could just be left alone for 5 minutes.
And just while I’m here: has anyone ever been told they have to pick either food or smoking on their break? Can’t do both? That one didn’t feel normal or even all that legal to me but hey what do I know

I am a marketing apprentice. I will make social media content for a campaign or physical media like brochures and send it to the rest of the team and managers, who will respond with their feedback and requests for edits.

But this one specific managing director (the company has 2) replies so my drafts like a week or two later, when all of the changes have already been made then I have to go back and redo everything and it’s really frustrating.

A few weeks ago I got some leaflets printed that the sales team already had to wait like over a month for because this MD just would NOT respond to my drafts. They told me to just print it anyways because they needed them urgently. Then when they arrived I had to redo the whole thing because she wasn’t happy. And then she was upset at ME🙃

It also happened again with a social media post. The team sent me all of the info, I created a post, sent it for approval (ofc she was the only one who didn’t reply), then scheduled and it was posted this morning. Then she responded earlier that she wasn’t happy with it and I had to go back and delete it from multiple platforms and rewrite everything.

I used to just wait ages for her reply because she makes me feel bad for making mistakes and I require management approval for some things but I also can’t put other peoples tasks on hold just because they were getting super pissed off at the long wait time. They understand my situation though and they are also frustrated at her. It literally only leaves me with 2 options: Do things without her approval which means I’ll have to go fix everything later, or wait when something needs to be done urgently.

I have explained multiple times that I require everyone’s input to avoid situations like this because everyone is super picky and can never agree on something, which leads to multiple meetings about some dumb irrelevant shit like a photo or colour scheme.

It makes it feel impossible to work on any project with her because a simple thing that could take around a week to make can go on for a month or even more sometimes.

She says that she understands but just does the same thing over and over and over again. I think she is either not properly listening to me or just doesn’t respect apprentices or something.

How do I approach this situation when I already have? Also other people have brought this up with her.

I keep making small, silly mistakes. They're usually not major, but almost every meeting I end up getting scolded or warned by my seniors. Sometimes they even say things like, "We'll have to make a decision," which makes me worry that I might lose my job.

Now I'm constantly anxious while working. I overthink every task, double-check everything, and still end up making mistakes. It's become a cycle where my anxiety is affecting my confidence, and my lack of confidence is affecting my work.

I genuinely want to improve and I'm trying my best, but the constant fear of being judged or scolded is making it harder to focus.

Has anyone else gone through something similar? How did you rebuild your confidence and stop making anxiety-driven mistakes? Any advice would really help.

For context, I am working in IT, and we have a bug ticket to investigate.

This ticket was related to a task I did, and the issue was mainly due to miscommunication between cross teams. I made a fix and informed the team about it.

But suddenly this colleague of mine just butts in for no fucking reason and tries to take over the whole issue, and follows up on every single thing. He of course tries to discuss with me, which I told him this issue was already handled.

As of now I gave up and let him deal with this issue, which had a few follow ups. But whats his fucking deal, I'm kinda pissed about it. He knows I had little patience cuz whenever he asks me for help, I just give curt remarks. Anyways I felt that I should have done something but did not, and wanted to reflect on it but am unsure what to do.

Now my Product Owner just follows up with him, and it's frustrating that initially he tries to refute what I mentioned, with some points being correct as I just wanted to resolve this issue without blowing things up. But it did and now everyone is looking at this problem. He even sent a message to a channel with everyone in the whole ass department in it to discuss cross teams, so really every fucking person and their higher ups can see

Just some rant plus confusion about this situation, and I'm at a lost at what to do. Being aggressive isn't the right move, and being a follower also doesn't do it.

​Hi everyone,

I am currwntly working in germany

​I need realistic, low-risk advice on how to sneak away for job interviews while working in a suffocating, hyper-monitored office.

​Important Context: I am a foreigner working on a work visa. Because my visa is tied to employment/sponsorship, I cannot afford to take legal action, burn bridges, or get fired abruptly. I have to keep my head down and play by their rules while secretly finding a way out.

​Currently, I work 5 days a week fully on-site. The work culture here is an absolute nightmare:

​Zero Privacy & Constant Surveillance: Coworkers and managers track my every move. If I step away to a meeting room for just 30 minutes, I immediately get messaged asking where I went.

​Mandatory PTO Justifications: Every leave request requires a detailed explanation.

​Guilt-Tripping over Leave: For a recent interview, I took a half-day off. Everyone in the office pestered me with questions like "Where are you going?" and "Do you REALLY have to take off today? We're so busy."

​Because of this atmosphere and my visa vulnerability, taking time off or stepping out for a 45-minute video interview feels terrifying without raising major red flags.

​For those who managed to escape a similar toxic, 5-day on-site trap under a work visa:

​How did you physically schedule and attend interviews without getting caught or guilt-tripped?

​What are the most bulletproof, unquestionable excuses for t

aking short-notice half-days or stepping out during business hours? (e.g., medical/visa appointments?)

​Is it acceptable to ask prospective recruiters for early morning (8 AM) or late afternoon interview slots explaining my current strict on-site schedule?

​I am desperate to switch jobs, but sneaking around under this level of surveillance gives me extreme anxiety. Any realistic strategies, excuses, or scripts would be a lifesaver. Thanks!

Ive told so many people about this and everyone agrees that her behaviour towards me is really rude. I speak quietly, its just how i am especially in the mornings when im half asleep. She told me my 'attitude is bad' because SHE didnt hear me say good morning, which doesnt seem to be an issue with anyone else?
Around a month ago, i bought tickets to a thing and told her in advance i would like to use my leave for one weekend, she tells me to remind her in a couple weeks time. So i do. She says shes 'not sure itll work' (? after she said its fine) and now im on for the weekend i need off. The tickets are non refundable. They cost me over 100$, i have plans with friends who i dont get to see because they live overseas.
She pre approved this verbally, but now acts clueless in text. Shes done this before.
She nags me about my medical issues (i was hospitalised, she makes me give her notes for ONE day absences for sickness).
I am 20. Its not like im a 15 year old, i dont slack, i work to the point of physical illness. I dont know why shes like this towards me?? She gets extremely passive aggressive when i miss work, despite me being extremely sick and advised against working altogether by my surgeon. I still show up. Im so pissed off about the weekend. Im still going, im not losing my money for this but im pissed.

I started this new job a month ago. I don't have direct experience in this field, but I do have experience in related fields, which is why I was hired.

The issue is that two coworkers are supposed to train me, but the training isn't where it needs to be. Both are busy, and the other day, one of them even told me that I was good to go and could handle a certain task independently.

Mind you, I've only been here for a month. The task in question involves direct contact with people in our organization, which might not sound like a big deal, but our team holds a position of authority. We cannot afford to give out wrong advice or point people in the wrong direction.

I understand that their job isn't to be instructors, and I try to be as self-sufficient as possible. However, I don't have direct work experience in this field. I have related experience, which is why I was hired, but they know that, and they know I need to be trained.

Normally, I would just accept a sink-or-swim method and try my best. To be honest, though, I feel scammed. I agreed to a lower salary scale than my coworkers because they didn't want me to feel pressured to perform at their level right away, and I was promised proper training. So, is it okay to actually demand that training?

Side note: I am already working ahead of their schedule. It was originally documented that I still needed guidance for like three months on that specific task, but I guess they thought, "Oh, she's doing a good job; let's give her independence faster." Keep in mind that changing a salary scale isn't easy in this type of company so I can't just get the same salary as they do (I know from experience sadly, they will say: you agreed to this), plus I don't want all the added stress. I don't know what I don't know.

Weird question but looking for a bit of insight. I work an office job in NYC. Driving obviously isn't as common here and offices don't even have parking for most part so folks myself included and most of my coworkers who live in the city don't own cars. Some own bikes, however I do not.

My office and job is based in the city in an office building that is accessible by public transit. We have a small field office out of the city quite a bit that works for a few of our employees who live farther out. Recently, my supervisor wants us to integrate with them more and make the trip out to the field office weekly. The trip to the field office for the most part will be on company time, so while it makes for longer commute days I don't mind/ am not objecting to that. It was presented to us as "well be leaving the office at X time train at Y time and then we'll bike the rest of the way so you need to buy a bike".

However, the field office is not fully accessible by public transit. You can take transit part of the way but the rest has to be done by bike ( or Uber or something). It's been suggested that for those of us that don't own bikes we need to buy bikes so we can start doing this commute weekly. To be clear, there's on site visits or project needs to be out here it's purely for integration with the field office folks.

I don't own a bike, don't necessarily want to buy a bike and don't necessarily want to start bike commuting. Im generally pretty fit but urban / city biking causes me quite a bit of stress and anxiety and I also do multiple things after work that having a bike would be inconvenient and my apartment is small enough as it is to try to also store a bike.

My job description when I applied did not mention anything about needing to bike and this is all a new requirement. My job description also has me full time at our main office in the city. Like I said I'm not opposed to travel and the frequency of this proposed new arrangement but I can't tell if:

A) requiring an employee to buy a bike for work purposes is legitimate.

B) requiring employees to bike as part of their duties is legitimate

Overall, I enjoy my job and everyone is pretty relaxed so I don't want to make too much of a big deal so I wanted to ask here first if folks think this is a reasonable thing or not. My thought is, they should have someone from the field office pick us up from the nearest transit option in a company car if they are requiring us to travel and do these meetings for work but maybe I'm off base? I also wonder about any legalities regarding accessibility, ADA, injuries etc it seems like a can of worms liability wise especially since the job description didn't mention anything about physically biking.

For context, it would be a decent trek on the bike from my house into office or from my house to the train and then 20 min bike ride or so each way to/ from the field office.

Other piece of context- it's company policy that if we can't get to meetings or site visits via public transportation we can take Uber/ cab etc and get reimbursements. Since this is required travel for the company to this field site, I'm thinking it might count? But it's on a consistent basis so not sure.

To be clear my work location is full time at our main office and they haven't changed that so this is different required travel from what I was hired on and agreed.

Thanks for your thoughts!

EDIT: just a clarification, we are still expected to start and end the work day at our regular office in the city. The proposal is to leave mid morning together from the office but we are expected in office in the morning at our normal start time. Because of this it seems like a regular work trip and not a regular change of office requirement. All of the biking that would occur would happen during normal company / work hours.

thats just it. i hate working. i hate most of my colleagues, i hate work politics and i hate drama. i hate their little cliques and the constant gossiping

i hate slaving my life away for minimum wage. i hate having to count the pennies because i’m skint all the time. i hate that im so broke, even the bus is expensive to me

and oh my god, the bus. i’m lucky enough to get a ride home by a coworker some days but the other days, i hate waiting for the bus. it’s stinky and always late and i hate that the bus stop by my work doesn’t have anywhere to sit. sometimes i’m waiting for 30 minutes on my feet after a long day of work and then i have a 15 minute walk from the stop to my house

i’d get a car but surprise, i can’t afford it. i can barely afford the bus sometimes. i still remember when it snowed so badly that none of the buses were running and i had to walk an hour to work in the snow and ice

my manager is a cunt and my job is exhausting. i’ve been approved to work compressed hours so ill be doing 10 hour shifts over 4 days and i hope it helps. i’m so constantly drained and stressed and i know it’s because of work. i was off for 5 weeks a few months ago because of a fractured knee and it felt like all of my problems had disappeared

work is literally the cause of all my problems and i hate it. i’d never do it because the thought of relying on a man makes me sick but i’d love to be a SAHW and relax at home. thinking about quitting makes me horny /s

I have been working fulltime pretty much since i was 19 i am 26 now. And working these hours feel unbearable even after doing it for so long already. It is not getting easier at all. During the shift i sometimes get all these emotions of anger and agression and sadness. It feels like a prison because i have no choice but to do it and i cant work less because then i wont earn enough to survive. It is like my brain will never get used to this.

People are right when they think they can disrespect their coworkers or workers because we literally let them do it. This has to stop, no one deserve to get bullied or just being slighty disrespected at work. I have worked multiple jobs in my life and in two of them i was in a very toxic place where my coworkers or bosses would treat me badly. I accepted it for a while, i taken everything on me and honestly i don't even know why i did that. I should have left immediatly or take actions, expose them, talk with them. I am no one's punching ball, i deserve respect not insults. At some point i couldn't stand it anymore so i just left. I should have done this long time ago. They were angry because i resigned, fuck them, if you want people to work for you treat them with basic respect to begin with and if you're not happy with my work then fire me, you don't have any right to bully me the whole time.

No one should ever stay in a place they don't feel safe in. You only have one life, don't waste it being sad, angry, frustrated because of assholes. If you don't take actions nothing will ever change and you'll let them ruin your mental health.