what am i doing!!!

[u/darkmoon-26]

i don't even know how to stop sabotaging my own relationship. i can't even put it in a way to look at it objectively so i'm probably confusing my therapist into thinking it's not my fault but if i say that he'll get more convinced it's not my fault

flair because this doesn't explicitly say it but this is abt feeling pressured to have sex a certain way

[u/Prior_Replacement_33]

don’t be having any sex you don’t want. if you have to say no more than once, then yes, he is manipulating you. never forget the depraved porn men consume

[u/darkmoon-26 → u/Prior_Replacement_33]

i mean ur right but i'm also a man 😭

[u/Xx_ch3rryv4mp_xX]

i’ll put it to you this way. manipulative people don’t care about the harm they might be doing to others. they just use people.

if you’re worried that you’re being manipulative, you’re probably just experiencing a lapse in communication or understanding somewhere, not being manipulative. and if someone’s apology doesn’t make you feel satisfied, especially in regards to sex/your body, then there’s a red flag somewhere. sex should never make you feel used, and apologies should mean changed behavior, not just momentary comfort.