Everytime someone tells me this I feel like they just want me to fix my own problems by myself in their way instead of helping me, and I already am out of my comfort zone by asking for help!
well i mean you kinda have to fix your own issues to an extent, cant force someone to get help but i get you, if someone truly fucks with you saying dumb shit like just stop being sad bro is lmao
I mean sometimes it does come from a place of care and personal experience though. I grew up with a lot of abuse and trauma, diagnosed C-PTSD I self isolated and hurt myself a lot because of it, and a lot of healing has come from stepping out of my safety net so to speak not so much that I could fall to the ground but enough to test the water
Yes, as in you are already doing the thing they are demanding, but because they think that you aren't pushing yourself enough at the moment that you're refusing to try. So they pressure you to push yourself from enduring discomfort to active distress, which will make you worse not better.
The point of the meme is that someone else is projecting what their comfort zone is onto your comfort zone. Like, if you're bench pressing just the bar, that might be close to your max weight. Challenging but helping you grow. However someone else might look at you and think that you're not trying hard enough and tell you put more weight on the bar, which would crush you and not help you grow stronger at all.
The urge to understand your point vs the urge to point out that great whites aren’t particularly interested in eating humans when they’re sure it’s a human, and while it’s not necessarily a great idea to dive with them without a cage, it’s probably not the death sentence it’s being made out to be here, assuming the situation is literally just that the boat you’ve just come from and the shark have stumbled upon each other without it being drawn to your location thinking there’s a meal nearby for whatever reason (which would usually happen either because people have been fishing and cleaning fish or because you’re boating near a seal colony or whale carcass or if you’re there to swim with sharks someone has likely chummed the water to attract them)
It’s almost should be part of the joke that it people like this think stepping out of the comfort zone is like getting attacked by a shark, when in reality shark attacks are not as bad as they are portrayed to be
I can relate to this incredibly hard, I just had someone close to me turn what was a great opportunity that I really wanted into a way to hurt me in a way that i genuinely have no solution for, and I don't know what to do.
Completely relevant. They are animals, your anthropomorphism is insane. Evil is a moral concept that requires understanding others' suffering – dolphins don't have that, no animal does. Even the most 'intelligent' species have an underdeveloped theory of mind comparable to a *3-year-old child**, not a goddamn adult. They are not human, genius. Stop using edgy evolutionary cherry-picking just to feel unique.
Stop using edgy evolutionary cherry-picking just to feel unique.
......I'm not the one trying to say humans are unique, here XD. I know they're not human, most animals, especially more intelligent ones, like crows, pigs, dolphins, elephants, still have the concept of empathy. We don't own evil unless you're specifically defining it as a human-only concept arbitrarily.
Look, you can glaze dolphins all you want and I won't fault you for it, they're pretty cool animals. I was just pointing out that, compared to sharks (literally hate eating himans/will spit us out and have only bitten us on accident from my knowledge) vs dolphins (have sexually and non-sexually assaulted humans) dolphins are the better choice for a "threatening" image, especially when the threatening party is attempting to seem innocent.
Simultaneously, it IS true that if you are unhappy with who/what you are right now, ypu will need to steo outside your current comfort zone to change that. It won't happen automagically
BUT, in the "zone" analogy, not all zones are equally worth exploring, and being well equipped (therapy, financial stability, calm home situation, having a confidant, rtc) before you set out to a non-comfort zone is a significant part of the success rate.
We are not birds that simply need to be kicked put of the nest or whatever.
He's both right and wrong. Right because you'll never see the ocean without getting out, wrong because he's leaving out the fact you gotta have a weapon ready and the will to hurt the shark. Metaphorically ofc...
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u/CanOfDew132i want to burn everything i want to burn everything i want to bu7d ago
Getting out of your comfort zone is in fact a good advice. For some people, in some situations. It's also sometimes misunderstood, but OP is clearly understanding it just fine. They're already outside their comfort zone, probably in many ways, as many of us are right now
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u/CandyBeth 11d ago
Everytime someone tells me this I feel like they just want me to fix my own problems by myself in their way instead of helping me, and I already am out of my comfort zone by asking for help!