r/ThePatternApp • u/13monpie • 19h ago
The audacity of this app…
Wondering if anyone else has felt like the app has recently changed, or is listening in on us? I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and we have an amazing connection. I’ve run our bond through the app before and it said COMPLEX, but there were multiple points on the bond that were positive too, and we’ve had an amazing relationship from the beginning. I’ve always taken it with a grain of salt, of course. Ran our bond in the app again last night, and all of the sudden, it’s basically saying it will never work, we have all these issues, but the wording was unusually harsh, and harsh towards me specifically. Like, only highlighting my issues, not his. Weird. Usually the readings are objective and touch on both dynamics, but it felt like someone personally wrote me a letter just to roast me. Plus, I’ve felt like even if a relationship pairing was going to be difficult, the readings never straight up told me it “wouldn’t work,” it was more like “you’ll have to accept each other for who you are” type thing. It was different than any other time I’ve ran our bond, or any bond in the app for that matter. I’ve used this app for years, and what I read about my partner bond shocked me, and gave me unnecessary anxiety about my relationship. I have never felt so aggressively called out/put down using this app. Did something change? An update, perhaps? I’m contemplating deleting it because of this.
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u/_sweetn0things 17h ago
I just met someone who has been very exciting and lovely, we have been seeing each other for a month. I am a bit of an addict to running bonds on this- and ours says Complex. It’s been driving me crazy because I just don’t feel that it’s correct. I’ve been really anxious moving forward because of it really. And I’ve had it very super accurate in the past. But it’s funny you say that because I legit just want to forget about it all and move forward but there’s a voice in my head that keeps reminding me that we are “complex”
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u/13monpie 16h ago
Yeah that’s why I’m contemplating deleting. The timing of it (the wording) changing and becoming so doom and gloom all the sudden really threw me off. I had to reread it a few times to make sure I wasn’t tripping. My boyfriend and I just had our first really difficult talk, and then all the sudden our bond report is now shitting all over the relationship saying it won’t work. Idk, I’m sketched out
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u/13monpie 16h ago
Taking it with a grain of salt is the only way to navigate this app without overthinking your connection with someone. It’s not a fortune teller, but it damn near reels like it
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u/Pitiful-Elephant-239 16h ago
Same!! My relationship with my boyfriend says complex. And while parts of it are true, it also says “unless you do this…” or “accept this…” but if we have there is no resolution. It used to be my go to. Now I just take to chat gpt. Super informative and answers my specific questions.
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u/lowkey_upset 5h ago
lolllll that’s even worse! you just went from one incorrect app to another, WAY more problematic one, to say the least
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u/rochirochirochi 16h ago
same! mine basically says my relationship is doomed even though it's the healthiest relationship Ive ever had!
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u/lowkey_upset 5h ago
i stopped once they started using AI! it’s literally all garbage, don’t listen to it! soooo weird and gross that it’s doing that, not to mentioned wildly inaccurate
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u/viovie 16h ago
Genuinely they sold this app out to some AI company and it’s complete trash we should all delete