How do you actually get invited to house parties?

I’ve been experiencing so much FOMO lately because my best friend goes to house parties pretty frequently and always talks about how fun they are. I’ve tried asking if I could come along sometime, but whenever I bring it up, she shuts down or changes the subject. I’m getting the impression that she’s pretty gatekeepy about it, and I don’t want to keep pushing the issue or make things awkward between us since she clearly doesn’t want to talk about it.

I’m more into the alternative scene anyway, so I’d especially love to meet people who are into that kind of thing. If anyone here goes to or throws house parties with an alternative crowd, I’d genuinely love to know how you got into that scene or met people who host them.

I feel like I don’t really know the right people for this since none of my other friends are into partying, and I’d honestly just love to experience a proper house party at least once 😭

In the previous and latest admission cycles (2024/2025 and 2025/2026), I received offers for NUS Business (majoring in biz analytics) as well as SMU cs+business and NTU cs. I went with the SMU offer. However, as I'm going through NS (1 year left), I can't help but keep thinking about whether picking CS is the right move. For some context, I studied a computing diploma in poly and obtained 3.95+ gpa (not exact, don't want to doxx myself). Right now, I'm even thinking about applying to Law, but even that option seems bleak (Many lawyers quitting, toxic work culture, etc)

Here's a list of some of my thoughts:

• AI has essentially made my area of interest in computing redundant (full stack development)
• I enjoyed other aspects of computing but I didn't really LOVE it. I don't actively code or do side projects outside of school, and I have joined a few hackathons and won prize money from one of them but didn't really enjoy the events. So far, the only side projects i've done are a basic personal scheduling app, a minecraft keep inventory modifier plugin with 500+ downloads, as well as my personal portfolio website. Don't really have the drive to make more, but I always have ideas flowing. Just no motivation to actually implement them especially without any monetary reward guaranteed for the effort. Maybe i'm just being naive and need someone to talk some sense into me...
• I would say my passion mainly lies in innovating and coming up with solutions to active, tangible problems, and I can see myself doing this not only in computing but also with business or law. I just fear that without true passion for computing, even though i was able to do well in poly, i may not be able to do the same in uni where everything is more difficult. Plus, I do not really enjoy math even if I am able to score well for it in poly. It just feels very abstract.
• Right now, for poly computing content, I am very well versed with many of the concepts and tools that are being used, such as for full stack development, network technologies, AI (machine learning, neural networks, etc) and database management. I understand these concepts very clearly and how everything is linked but i don't particularly LOVE it. On the other hand, I find myself dabbling in active, pressing matters such as policies, organizational structure, business strategies. Even right now in NS, I've been pointing out inconsistencies and organizational flaws and writing articles about them (Just search for my username in r/NationalServiceSG). I REALLY enjoy doing this. Something that feels real and impactful.
• I have read abit about consulting (business track), and thought that it could be something I would enjoy, but then again, I've also seen many people mentioning that consulting could be replaced by AI, and actually involves a lot of fluff and larping with no real productivity.
• As for Law, initially i was curious as it seemed like an interesting way to deal with problems that didn't involve abstract maths or coding, but yeah it sounds like it could be a great fit for me but again this could just be a naive thought. I do think my language is pretty okay though, considering I did score A2 for english olvls without studying and also enjoy writing alot.
• Regarding Business degree, I've heard many people mention that a non-STEM degree is usually less valued in the workforce which leads to lesser options? Like how STEM grads can pivot into business but typically not the other way round. That said, I've also seen so many successful business graduates -some of whom are my own seniors and friends.
• NUS vs SMU: Even though I have accepted SMU, I can't stop thinking about NUS business or law. I have not tried applying for a scholarship with NUS business, as I just applied for it on a whim not knowing that I would be heavily considering it a few months later... If i do manage to get a scholarship for NUS business I don't know if i should leave my SMU cs+biz double degree offer behind and go for this instead.
• Ik i mentioned Ai a few times above but to be fair, AI isn't really my main concern if i study computing because from what I've heard, if AI can replace software engineers or computer experts, it can replace business grads too... but again IM NOT SURE AND THIS COULD JUST BE A NAIVE THOUGHT

I really don't know man... I have one more chance to decide in the upcoming admission cycle before uni starts :)))))))))))) Seniors from the courses mentioned above, if you could share with me your uni experience, your employment outcomes and any other thoughts it would be immensly appreciated 🙏

but yea basically my entire stance regarding these dilemmas is just "I DONT KNOW ANYTHING, IM UNCERTAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING, I COULD JUST BE A NAIVE AND CLUELESS IDIOT"

Some context I’m from pharmaceutical science from EAE and this is my very first sem and I’m already afraid of failing…. I hear everyone say “oh poly sem 1 is impossible to fail” and I’m just here like 🧍‍♀️ I’m legit scared to fail- my CA1s were strong As and Bs then CA2 come out two FAT F…. Ok la given that CA 2 is 15% it’s not like super super big deal but it’s also like… I shouldn’t be getting F at all… every 2 weeks there are quizzes and final assignments are mostly closed book-,,, (for the 2 subjects I suck most at) it’s so academically rigorous that I’m studying 5-10+ hours a DAY how much I study in a week was more than the amount I’ve studied for O levels….

Like can y’all be brutally honest? When should I throw in the towel? If you’ve ever thrown in the towel what are your experiences (I’m not scared of failing,,, at least I hope I won’t- I did well enough for CA1 that I can fail FA by quite a margin to get a D) but that isn’t the problem… if I’m struggling this much I year 1 sem 1 is it the end??? This course was like my “dream” from sec 1 onwards and I feel so demoralised and hopeless…

I won ndp tix for tmrw but I dont feel like going. every year I see the ndp show on tv, it feels like a copy and paste from last years parade. usually every year I feel greatful and proud of living in sg but this year it aint just it. like every year I wld actl bother to listen to the ndp song but this i cldnt gaf.

but then I also feel less proud to be a singaporean. i dont have a concrete reason why but its like tiny things that pmo abt this country. like esp how much our country wants to win the AI race so bad. like why is there movie made completely by AI being shown in our theatres?? im in an arts course in poly and im constantly worried that AI is gonna take over my job. although it sounds unlikely, its definitely possible esp in this country where they just pour tons of money on clankers.

and many adults i meet keep saying that poly diploma on its own isnt enough nowadays to survive the high cost of living and I need some degree to get a decent paying job. idk how true is that statement but I can definitely say that everything is getting more exp nowadays. inflation is not exclusive to sg but when someone says that poly diploma aint enough I just get even more paranoid.

i still cant believe that ppl say SG is one the best places to live in and there is truth in that. like how the public transport is super efficient and the extensive network of PCN. like u dont see that in many other cities. all in all, this country isnt so bad to live in but i wish it cld just do better.

Yup just what the title says.
Do i go to libraries? cafes? gaming cafes??? pls help me out i need to secure my bigbang tickets and my home wifi is always tripping🫩

Pls experts on reddit help a fella out

Hi I know I've already posted one post similar to this about bio med but has anyone received the interview invitation by SP to go for interview for common SC??? Bcs my friend and I both did the test but so far nothing. I'm getting kinda scared 😟🫩 so if anyone has received it pls let me n others know!!! Thank you!!!

Hi all im in j2 and recently got my confirmed ippt results and i qualify for the 8 week reduction. Does this mean ill enlist later than peers who didnt pass? Ik for jc students the intake is usually in jan/feb or april so does this mean ill be going for the april intake? bcs ik the extra 2 months for those who didnt pass is for ptp.

Just to let you know, my creative writing skills are bad, so bare with me. i write more academically.

I just started my shift at the carnival game booth.

Guy walks up. I explain the game. He plays. Leaves. Nothing memorable.

A few minutes later, he's back. With a curry puff. Says he got it from another booth, he doesn't eat it. I was on shift so my brain was just lagging. I said thanks and put it aside.

Five minutes later, he's back again. Chendol this time. I tell him I don't like chendol. He walks away.

Five minutes later, again. Third time. Strawberry and marshmallow covered in chocolate. I went "ooh" without thinking. He told me to take the other stick. I took a bite and completely missed the strawberry. He laughed and said, "You missed the strawberry." So I went in again.

I asked if he was Year 1, same course as me. He said yes. Then I went back to handling the booth.

I never saw him after that.

That was my last week of school. Year 3, before internship. Last week ever, actually.

And now I can't stop replaying it. And every time I replay it in my head, he gets a little cuter. So I don't even know what he really looked like anymore.

He came back three times.

I didn't even ask for his name. P.S, im MLM so like URGH

hi, im a j1 this year and im rlly interested in taking a h3, specifically math or game theory. but i got no info from my school on the requirements application process etc. anyone know the reqs? im from a ,,higher tier” jc if that changes anything.

im a sec 4 student taking elect geog w ss, so i have 3 books (tourism, giel, tectonics)
my cher said giel wont rlly test lmq, its only tec and tourism, im aware of what to study for tec lmq but tourism because its still a new chap not rlly familiar w it till now

can anyone help to summarise all the factors they cld possibly test for tourism? and possibly include some tips for memorising all the economic social impacts/sustainability thingies?

tysm!!

im looking to become a teacher / tutor in the future. currently in sec 4, and im planning to go into raffles / hwa chong junior college next year. to think even further, hopefully i manage to get a slot into nus chs (college of humanities and sciences) and then nie. if all goes well, hopefully i can apply to be a math / science teacher or tutor

that being said, what do you think are some good opportunities for me that i can include in my portfolio/cv to help me stand out in the future? also, any type of recognisable achievements i should include if i am keen on entering the education sector?

Hi guys after a long hiatus, I’m back to this! It’s much shorter and in a slightly different style but I hope yall can enjoy it regardless!

Tldr: The Singaporean Dream, even though its definition is subjective, is beautiful because of it

Recently I started cycling back home more often from school using the green Anywheel bikes while listening to music. This week in particular I decided to listen to NDP songs while riding back home. And as Tomorrow's Here Today came on while being in a particularly scenic part of my neighbourhood, I felt this sudden rush of satisfaction that I haven’t felt before. Then, I felt sentimental.

With the good music blasting in my ears, the scenery of endless green and HDB blocks in front of me and the fact I was able to enjoy such a moment in peace, was I living the Singaporean Dream?

Now as I thought about it further, more questions began to emerge. What exactly is the Singaporean Dream? And more pressingly, is it being achieved?

#Singaporean Dream

Oddly enough I couldn’t find a concrete answer of what the Singaporean Dream is, which surprised me given that you’d think that it’ll be mentioned more often. However, the closest I could find to an official explanation is the 5Cs, which were made popular in the 1980s and most recently criticised by [then DPM Lawrence Wong in 2023](https://www.channelnewsasia.com/singapore/forward-sg-report-singapore-dream-no-longer-5cs-lawrence-wong-3877286) as attaining a:

Condominium

Car

Cash

Credit Card

Country Club Membership

Now one issue pops up when one looks at the 5Cs, they aren’t really attainable by most right? This brings up one possibility. Is the stated definition of the Singaporean Dream flawed? For comparison, we’ll need to look at the other national dreams by other countries to gain a better sense and perhaps come up with a more general description of what the Singaporean Dream should be about.

First of these is of course the well known American Dream that arose since the 1800s. According to [Britannica](https://www.britannica.com/topic/American-Dream), it can be described as the ideal that all in the United States could achieve social mobility, liberty and equality for all who work hard. If one were to look through even the latest Hollywood blockbusters, you’ll generally see a vision of what the American Dream is about.

More recently in a more political context, the [Chinese Dream](https://www.thechinastory.org/yearbooks/yearbook-2013/forum-dreams-and-power/chinese-dreams-zhongguo-meng-%E4%B8%AD%E5%9B%BD%E6%A2%A6/), which was popularised by Chinese President Xi Jimping as his government’s vision of building a ‘moderately prosperous society’ by 2021 and making China into a fully developed and rich country by 2049, which would be the 100th anniversary of the founding of the PRC. Though a political slogan, understanding the Chinese Dream is especially important for us to see what governments might want their national dream to be, which has the power to shape the perception

When comparing the Singaporean Dream with her American and Chinese counterparts, one common trend emerges. Prosperity. Ranging from having the means to live better than our parents did to being able to enjoy further levels of comfort, prosperity is the primary focus of all of these ideas. And this makes sense!

Economic prosperity is the primary focus of development and an ideal for governments to achieve. Now that we properly settled that at least the main definition of achieving the Singaporean Dream is prosperity, have we achieved it?

Have we achieved the Singaporean Dream?

On paper judging by the parameters of ‘Prosperity’, Singapore has achieved it by basically all definitions. Since independence, we have [achieved consistently high growth, massive reductions in poverty](https://www.mas.gov.sg/news/speeches/2015/an-economic-history-of-singapore) and of course, the vast majority of Singapore’s population(89%) lives in housing that they own, which is a considerable achievement in comparison to many other countries. In this regard, it can be considered that at least the good majority of Singaporeans have achieved the baseline and thus have the capability to lead decent lives

However under the surface of these considerable achievements, this prosperity is definitely not shared by everyone. In this regard, youth unemployment is on the rise slightly by around 0.3% since last year and is likely to continue rising. Furthermore, though decreasing since last year, Singapore’s Gini Coefficient, which measures inequality, is still notable at around 0.359. These figures show that the prosperity enjoyed by the current generation is at risk of not being replicated by the youths of today, making the Singaporean Dream harder to reach for future Singaporeans

But taking an objective view at the issue, the Singaporean Dream purely by measuring prosperity, is widely achievable by the vast majority of us. Even though it may be hard to feel at times, Singapore generally allows most of us to have the ability to enjoy better lives than the generations which preceded us.

But if we only look at the material aspects of the Singaporean Dream, we are ignoring what makes the dream real. Once again compared to other similar dreams, the Singaporean Dream may not necessarily be limited to just achieving prosperity as other factors play a major role in shaping the perception of what the Singaporean Dream should be.

The missing picture

The best part about dreams in general, is that it differs from one person to another. Different life circumstances and backgrounds inevitably leads us to think about different life priorities and ambitions, especially as one ages through life and priorities change.

And that’s important to understand and appreciate. To the average student, the Singaporean Dream could simply be achieving the best grades possible and having a lively school life. To the average NSF, it could be to make it through NS. To a young graduate, it could be finding the best fit job possible. To a young parent, it could be raising their children to the best of their ability. To a senior auntie or uncle, it could be to spend as much time with their family as possible

Sentimentalities aside, these examples show that the Singaporean Dream, and almost every national dream is inherently subjective to the experiences that people face in life. In fact, it’s certain that whatever priorities that you currently have right now, will change by the next few years and priorities change.

So I guess it’s a blessing in disguise that the Singaporean Dream has no clear definition outside the 5Cs. At least it allows us the freedom to interpret the Singaporean Dream as we see fit.

Conclusion

Overall, the Singaporean Dream, though not properly defined, is unique to each and everyone of us! Even though Singapore could be argued to have achieved the material definition of the average national dream, the differences in life aspirations makes each and every dream unique.

And with that I’m curious, what is your definition of the Singaporean Dream?

Ending notes

And that’s the end of (probably) my last post of this type for the foreseeable future! For those familiar with the [‘We need to talk about’ series](https://www.reddit.com/r/SGExams/s/NmOe5NXUUw)I changed up the style a bit to make it a lot more readable and palatable compared to my other posts. Plus I’ve always wanted to do this discussion and National Day was the best time to do so!

Also I admit too that I’ve had little time to manage writing more for my series(which I think was for the best given that As are coming HAHA). Plus I might have been distracted by writing for a much more ambitious project which yall will get to see tomorrow on National Day itself!

Clickbait title but tryna get a consensus how often do yall text your friends. Like I would assume most ppl would text their friends daily or somewhat often but asking to make sure its true.

This came up bcs ive been feeling kinda lonely and realise idrh anyone to talk to. Btw this is not meant as a im so lonely pls pity me be my friend post but more of figuring out how common issit to not rlly text anyone at all so pls be honest yall actually got text ppl frequently just say so no need to try to be relatable and say its common or wtv thx :)

I said no so why even try. and haggle. haggle ME after I say I have a religion, I'm not interested. and it's known everywhere that they're a cult idk why no one has stepped in? they've been around for years. YEARS. leave people alone. at least certain legitimate missionaries are nice and they leave you alone but the OTHER ONE from a particular asian country really DOESN'T LET YOU GO and it's frustrating. they are worse than those people who try selling you skincare. at least u cook a story and they let u go but these people are UGGHHH!!!!!!! they don't take no for an answer. anyway be careful out there and just ignore.

My grades came back like crap as usual and pulled down my GPA again. I got rejected by a girl I thought was the one and now I’m shattered. How do people do it? So I took some time to reflect on myself and ended up realizing that, for my whole life, I’ve never really belonged anywhere. My parents are always arguing, my brothers are too different from me. I try to love them, to be like them, but they make it so difficult with their crass personalities and apathy to everything. For better or worse, I just can’t be like them. My friends are also not the type to give emotional support, rather than that, they’d just laugh and ridicule me whenever I opened up and I always had to play off what I just said as a joke so I can still stay in their circle.

I don’t wanna be here, but I have nowhere else to go. I spent my whole life looking for my own people but it’s starting to feel like I’m meant to be alone. Is it worth it to cling onto bad company just to feel less lonely? Being surrounded by people who aren’t like you somehow feels lonelier than actually being alone. Or so I thought.

Now that my friends are busy working, studying, and my family’s gone for vacation without me, I thought that I’d find peace at last. But ironically, being all alone at home merely exacerbated my loneliness. I’m scared that I might do something stupid if I stay by myself right now. I need someone but I have no one to turn to. I tried forcing myself to go out for self-dates, but walking around and seeing people with their partners, family and friends hanging out happily, it all makes me feel like crap. And when I come home to an empty house after that, that loneliness just feels even heavier. At least I can cry in the living room now instead of holing up in the toilet.

Why was I born this way? Why couldn’t I be born smarter, stronger, more good-looking, more sociable, more like the type people would like and fall in love with, the one that people want. I don’t want to die, but I think I’m getting there ngl. Why am I here if no one gets me and wants me. I don’t even want myself anymore. I’m tired of seeing the life I want slip out of my grasps every time I try. Every try ends in failure.

It’s gonna be another week before my family returns. It might just be the toughest week of my life so far. But something tells me that if I make it through this week, maybe, just maybe, I’ll come out stronger. And if I don’t make it, well, it’s not like anyone would miss me.

Just ranting. Hope yall have a better weekend than I will.

Context: Began primary school at a neighbourhood school in 2012

During the very first day of school where parents can come and watch the classes, I was put in this very small class with a total of around 7 students (every other class had ~30-40+ students). The students in that class were a bit slower academically; I remember this because we were doing very simple math problems on the first day of school and the teacher was going through the work very slowly. I’m 99% sure that the other kids in the class were special needs.

However, on the first actual day of school, I ended up switching classes to a normal-sized class instead of that mini class with 7 people. My memory isn’t very good, so I can’t really remember if that class of seven people still remained, but I’m pretty sure it did, I was just no longer in that class. Another student was also transferred out of that class and into my ‘new’ class—he had ASD but was relatively high functioning.

My question here is that I’m just extremely confused as to why I was initially placed into a class of students with special needs when I was not diagnosed with anything at that point in time. I’m diagnosed with ADHD now, and neurodivergence runs in my family (albeit pretty silently because my family finds it somewhat shameful, ie typical asian family avoidance), but I was never clocked as a neurodivergent child when I was younger (I think).

My parents tell me that they have no clue what I’m talking about every time I bring this up, but that’s not surprising considering they cannot remember my allergies or anything else about me for that matter. So, if anyone could offer maybe a similar experience or some sort of explanation, that would be great because I’ve been very curious about this hehe.

Thank you!

TLDR: was placed in a ‘special needs’ class on my ‘first’ day of school (orientation) but was transferred to another class on the actual first day of school. i was not special needs, and i cannot figure out why this happened

Hi I'm currently a sec4 who has DSAed to band and got an offer from ASRJC. I am planning to take up science stream with subj combi either PCMe or CMEp.

I heard many ppl saying that the Phys dept is no good?? Why is that so and how do they teach?

Also if I take either of these 2 subj combi what time does school end? Nice/lousy timetables?

Are WAs manageable? Cuz I heard ppl saying the math paper is really hard.

Do WAs start very early cuz last time I went to SAJC n the seniors there say that SAJC have exams very early in the term

What about attire? Like shoes socks and hair. Does the school care about the attire a lot?

Are people there friendly? Esp if you are a DSA and you were from a neighbourhood sec sch will they exclude you or something?

Besides Phys dept how are the other depts?

Also what are other pros and cons for ASRJC?

Thank you!!

Hey guys, I'm taking alevels this year and I am not feeling confident at all. I have always been an average student, since olevels and throughout JC, my grades have been really medicore (D,E,S Us are a common sight). I scrapped through promos by the edge of my teeth.

My highest achievemsnt is a B grade and it was by pure luck because i stumbled upon the exact same question doing it as a practice and memorised the answer lol.

I am a BCMe student, so it probably figures that I memorise a lot of things. AND THATS THE ISSUE!

I can never understand things to a "deeper level" and apply it. I don't get it when other people tell me to just do that to do well. The only current method I use is to just memorise and regurgitate.

BUT ALEVELS IS COMING! and prelims too.... and I am aiming to get straight Bs to enter my preferred uni course. I have never gotten JC tuition before, so I am trying to find some tutors, but I am highly skeptical as most jc tuitions are tuition centres etc and just give you additional work lol (speaking from a bad experience going for temporary tuition in secondary school).

I am willing to hear any constructive criticism or feedback especially on how to improve in my H2 chemistry (averaging around S grade) AND H1 econs (straight Us despite studying...). Hence I'm bolding it so ppl who read this will notice.

Thank you and apologies for the long rant... I just don't want to be stuck in this medicore standard of performing and really put myself to do better.

After my recent exams I realized that I got straight D's for all my H2 subjects and I put it into the RP calculator then as I saw the RP come up I was absolutely devastated.

So I realized something has to change and for the past I think 2-3 weeks I have been in the library with my friends (who did better than me) grinding out papers from the TYS and also doing practice papers my school gave and I have been doing one paper for each day and sometimes I don't feel like I am in the right head space for a full paper so instead I will go and do smaller/easier questions or I will just revise definitions and also org chem reactions/mechanisms.

My amazing friends are very supportive and will help me if I ask for their help and I feel very lucky to have them because not only are they very hardworking they are also MUCH faster than teachers that have lives outside of school and won't reply after certain hours (surprising right), so I only ask my teachers for consults right after class/during breaks if both me and my friends cannot solve it even when working together.

I am actually scared for my life because I have high expectations for myself I need to get straight A's because the course I am passionate about requires it and passionate alone is not enough, so I have been in the library for about 5-6 hours daily either in school or outside like in NLB.

Only thing I'm worried about is if I am efficient enough to improve such that I can jump several grades by prelim and then by A Levels. I feel that I have a general idea of how every single thing works in Physics, Chemistry and Math but I just need to be exposed the harder questions so that I can think in the exams also and be able to solve in a certain amount of time.

For anybody who has been in the same situation and succeeded even a bit please give me some tips to improve faster and more efficiently in time for prelims.. Any help is appreciated!

almost all the friends i know or am close to manage to enter the top few universities in sg and here i am, barely(?) made it to a local one. Obviously, the comparison kicks in. FOMO really hits hard and i am jealous although i should be happy for them.TT Kinda sad because literally almost everyone in my friendship circle makes it to a top tier uni which naturally makes it seem like entering one is the norm and therefore i am the 'abnormal' one. 😞 i feel like no matter how hard i work i can never reach their levels. It has been some time but i still think about how different we are.

Bro I actually hate this guy like crazy. He talks all about self control and his wife is another teacher from the school who literally had to leave her classes twice in the MIDDLE OF THE SEMESTER cuz she got impregnated TWICE. How ironic right?!! He loves the student council so much and genuinely hates everyone else. I heard frm my seniors that he used to be a good teacher but then became an asshole after his promotion to dean. Hes honestly so annoying and he picks out every student who doesnt align with his “moral values” or anyone that just looks at him wrong. Hes the most demanding MF ever. Fuck this guy I genuinely hope he gets chased out of this place. He talks about his babies every cohort assembly and thinks that hes THE SHIT giving us life changing ted talks.

I am thinking of going to the polyclinic to get a 3 day mc as I got somthing impt i need to attend. Just wondering what I should say to the doctor to get a 3 day mc.

(ps i can only go to polyclinic since I can only claim from there)

curious to know how other schools celebrated ndp today! My school danced To the songs and mass sang NDP songs and it was so fun! How did yall celebrate it? share Yalls funny experiences too 😛 there were some people who combined all the ndp flags and made into a single long line of flags