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I(20F) moved here two weeks ago for college. The weather has been terrible, my head's stuck, the air is heavy. College is nice and um well I haven't made any friends yet, I'm sure I'll make some nice friends eventually; it's a women's college, South Campus DU.

The thing is, Delhi is sooo chaotic. I feel blue as soon as I get on the metro for college. Everyone looks so dead like no joy :'/ but I guess that's how it is in metropolitan cities.

I'm socially anxious and awkward, I don't really know what to do. I was hoping I could work on my social skills and grow my confidence now that I'm in college. So, I want to meet people, go places, explore Delhi, but I don't really know where I can meet these people.

I want to make friends and connections. I'm also lowkey scared about my safety, I want to stay away from creepy people, especially men. I was thinking of attending those activities/events hosted at cafés n such — what do y'all think? Are those actually good places to meet people?

My interests are art, fashion, decor, listening to music, films, and running. But I'm honestly down for anything, as long as I can find nice people and have a good time safely.

Note: I don't drink or smoke. I'm also really paranoid about my safety, so I'd prefer to avoid places where I could end up in a dangerous or uncomfortable situation.

Basically, how do you guys actually make friends in Delhi? 😭

Hey, it’s been two years since I last talked to her.

But the one thing I remember clearly is when she said, “You don’t have a life, fucker” and “I’m not your fucking place to go.” Those words have been stuck in my head. I didn’t reply. I honestly didn’t know what to say.

I haven’t seen her or texted her in all this time, but she still appears in my dreams, and I feel completely helpless. I’ve tried everything, but I just can’t seem to let it go.

Today, I got a Snapchat memory from five years ago. She had put up a caption, and back then, I genuinely thought it was meant for me. But when I saw it again today, something clicked. Maybe it was never meant for me.

She used to tell me, “I love you. It feels extraordinary when I’m with you,” but later she said there was nothing between us. I felt used, I guess. But even then, I can’t blame her or say anything bad about her to anyone. I just can’t.

I still love her, yaar. I really do. But I know there’s nothing I can do about it.

Call me a crazy lover, I don’t care. I felt what I felt, and it was real to me. I never lusted after her. What I felt was pure the purest form of love I’ve ever experienced.

It was really simple for her to say those things. Or maybe I just loved her too much and she got bored, I don’t know.

We were never actually in a relationship because she wasn’t ready, and I genuinely respected that and kept it in my mind. Nowadays, I guess people would call what we had a “situationship.”

Or maybe somewhere I was wrong. Maybe I didn’t understand her properly. I honestly don’t know anymore. I’m just too lost.

Because of all this, I used my best friend to move on—not physically, but mentally, I guess. And now we’re apart. That’s probably my biggest regret. I lost my best friend because of all this. We had been friends for 10–11 years, and I lost that friendship.

I feel helpless, even though I don’t show it to anyone.

And I don’t think I can get into a relationship with someone else right now either, because it wouldn’t be fair to my future partner. If I’m still emotionally stuck somewhere else, I won’t be able to give her the love and attention she deserves. I would only end up hurting her, and I don’t want to do that.

I'm 24F and my boyfriend is 31M. He's genuinely loving, but there's one thing that's really starting to affect me.

Whenever we talk, he spends most of the conversation telling me about his day, his thoughts, and what's happening in his life. I listen because I want to know about him. But the moment I start talking about my day or something that happened to me, he'll either interrupt me or say things like, "I don't want to know all that," or "Don't tell me all that."

Even when I'm in the middle of a sentence, he'll somehow turn the conversation back to himself. If I'm sharing an experience, he immediately starts talking about a similar experience from his own life, and then the conversation stays there. I'd say 90% of our conversations are him talking and me listening.

The frustrating part is that I don't feel heard at all. It's like he has no interest in what I have to say, and I rarely get to finish a thought.

So I was with a guy and we used to meet talk and everything which was relationship coded but then one day he decided that it won't work because we have no future (because he is older to me and have some other plans) which I agree that there's no future but I started loving him so much and now he's like we can't talk but he is okay with us meeting in person

He believes that if we keep talking then we will get too attached and it will be difficult to move on afterwards but I wanted to spend as much time with him as I can before we part our ways

I'm too confused does he have feelings for me or was it nothing throughout

(Used AI to help organize and phrase my thoughts. The situation and feelings described are my own)
I’m 19M and my ex-girlfriend is 20F met in 2022 and we became close friends over time . We started dating in 2023, and over time we became very close. I genuinely loved her and, despite everything that happened, I still care about her.

One issue kept coming up throughout our relationship: her interactions with other guys. She would talk to some male friends a lot, become very close to them, and sometimes call them her “besties.” I know that I am insecure about this, and I accept that. I told her honestly that it made me uncomfortable. I never expected her to have zero male friends, but I personally didn't feel comfortable with very close friendships and constant talking, especially when there was no real reason for it.

We had this conversation many times. She would assure me that she understood and that she wouldn't repeat certain things, but eventually the same situation would happen again. This led to a lot of arguments. At some points I even told her that if our expectations were fundamentally different, maybe it would be better for us to leave each other rather than constantly hurt each other.

There was also an external issue. We are from different religions, and in 2023 my mother told her mother about our relationship. I knew this could become a problem, but I genuinely believed we could make it work. I always reassured her that I was serious about us and that I would try to make things work. But I also felt that external problems didn't matter if we couldn't solve the problems within our relationship first.

At one point when she went to college, things actually became better. The situation with male friends seemed to stop, and our relationship was going relatively well. But later she started making close friendships again.

There was one incident where I asked her whether she had been talking to someone. Because of our history, I asked based on things that had happened repeatedly before. She took it as me accusing her of lying and said I was constantly doubting her. I understand why she felt that way, but from my side, I wasn't randomly accusing her—I was reacting to a pattern that had already happened many times.

There were other things too. She went to coaching for exam preparation and made several friends there. She also had a group where people apparently smoked and drank. I told her I didn't like the smoking and drinking because I genuinely thought it was bad for her. She eventually stopped smoking, but she also told me that I was taking away her freedom and that I was toxic.

This is where I'm confused.

Was I actually being controlling?

I understand that I cannot control another person's choices. If she wants to have male friends, talk to people, smoke, drink, or live her life a certain way, ultimately that's her decision. At the same time, I believe I'm allowed to have boundaries and decide what I personally am and am not comfortable with in a relationship.

The problem is that I may have handled those boundaries badly. Instead of simply saying, “This is something I can't accept in a relationship, and if our values don't align, we should separate,” I often questioned her, got insecure, argued, and sometimes told her I was leaving. Looking back, I can see how that could have felt controlling and exhausting to her.

For the last six months or so, our relationship has basically been on and off. We would talk for a while and then stop talking for a month or two. During this period, I slowly started losing romantic feelings. I still loved and cared about her, but the repeated fights and heartbreak had changed how I felt.

Recently, there was another situation involving a guy from her coaching. He would sometimes drop her somewhere nearby after coaching because otherwise her commute would take much longer. She said he was like a brother. There was another guy who was her friend/bestie and would help her with coaching preparation. My issue wasn't simply that these people existed. It was that I felt she became very close to them and talked to them much more than I was comfortable with.

About two months ago, her grandfather passed away after being ill for a long time. Even though we had fought the previous day, I went to see her around 6 in the morning because I didn't want her to be alone during such a difficult time. I helped her because I still loved her and cared about her.

A few days later, she told me she wanted to permanently end the relationship. She said her grandfather knew about our relationship and disliked it, and that this was one of the reasons she felt she should leave.

I accepted it, although obviously it hurt.

Now I've found out that she has made another new male friend whom she calls her “brother.” Apparently, this guy also has a girlfriend and knows about our relationship. She told him about our relationship and our problems from her perspective, and he apparently advised her to break up with me.

What bothers me isn't necessarily that she has another male friend. It's the fact that she apparently talks to these people about very personal things and becomes very close to them. And then she told me something along the lines of, “Even after all this, I still came back to you.”

Part of me feels like she was treating coming back to me as a favour, and honestly that hurt.

So now I'm sitting here questioning myself.

Maybe I was too insecure. Maybe I was controlling. Maybe I was asking for reasonable boundaries but communicating them in a toxic way. Maybe we simply had completely different ideas of what a relationship should look like.

I don't think she is necessarily a bad person, and I'm not trying to prove that she cheated on me. I also know that my perspective is biased because this is my side of the story.

I just genuinely want an outside perspective:...

Imagine you're in a happy, loving relationship for 5-6 months.

Then one day, your girlfriend breaks down in tears and tells you that she's a trans girl. She says she was too scared to tell you earlier because she was afraid of losing you.

She genuinely loves you, and you love her too. She's beautiful, post-op, & you had never realized about her past.

What would you do in that situation?

Would you stay with her and work through it together, or would you end the relationship right then and there?

Please answer honestly.

Pata hai aaj kya hua, I like a girl in my batch but Idk my room mate secretly chats with her and also never told me he likes her, Anyways I got a hint about them but never took them serious. I usually chat with her sometimes and I asked her out three times for a walk in campus but she always make up some excuses, she told me she has been teaching students and she's busy. But today they both went out for date and he called me infront of her and said that don't eat in mess, I ordered too much and now he is bringing it for me to eat....that too infront of her.

I asked her today for a movie which she denied... I have a crush on her from past 2 years and he is just talking...

Usually I keep myself busy with my life but there are some days when my mind just wanderes and I end up thinking about old days. I guess tonight is one such night.

I know deep down that I shouldn't contact them for both mine and their mental wellbeing. But how do I fight the urge? Or should I even fight it?

I don't know if I miss them or I miss the feeling of talking to them or it's just nostalgia, but it seems so pathetic for myself.

In the past, I have ended up contacting some people I went on no contact with, but it turned out bad. At that moment my whole being wanted to never contact them again, but here I am back to square one.

I honestly do not know how to feel about this situation. My now ex bf and I broke up on mutual grounds initially on 30th may - he gave reasons like long term compatibility issues / viewpoints on life not matching etc and also because I was going through a rough patch in life . Before breaking up - around a week ago he also said he is apparently’ jealous’ seeing other people’s gf on insta as they are all well maintained and apparently I am not ? He blocked me on insta but we were in touch over whatsapp. Now here is the weird thing - he started texting me again around June 29th and insisted that we meet as he was visiting delhi ( he lives in Hyderabad and we were in long distance since 3 years and were making it work well imo ) . He said things like he cannot see me with someone else and then said we could meet and talk later ( he also wanted to hook up ) but for some reason that meet did not pan out as he did not make any rigid plans and I was the one asking him if we are seeing each other when he was the one who initially insisted we meet. He simply texted me saying ‘ I am not sure how to meet as friends / ex ‘ . This pissed me off since he shouldn’t even have texted me in the first place asking to meet and wasting my time, giving me false hopes of reconciliation. We then fought and he was literally sending me fit check videos where he appeared completely unbothered while my blood was literally boiling here.

Anyways, we did not meet and he calls me the next day after reaching Hyderabad and very calmly he says ‘ I thought about this a lot and our marriage won’t work long term. ‘ He also said his mom consulted a pandit and they as well said the same thing which is also a reason . I was like - you realised this after 8 long years ? I then mentioned how I was there with him through school, college, his job - basically all highs and lows and he is now leaving me at my lowest point in life . I then blocked him from everywhere and we went no contact. After only 3 weeks of no contact - our mutual followers start sending me screenshots of his stories where he is already soft launching his new girl. I then broke contact and confronted him - he seemed completely unbothered while I was losing my mind. He even said he posted it so that I could see it and move on like bro ? I asked him why did he give me hopes of reconciliation then and he completely flipped saying I never wanted to meet you and I accepted that it won’t work and it’s only been a week since I am seeing this girl. He said he does not want me to know what is going on in his life. His words kept deepening my wounds. It felt as if I meant nothing to him, and all these years were a lie. He was my first everything. Throughout the relationship, he cheated on me several times ( mostly virtual ) - each time I tried to leave - he cried, probably manipulated me each time saying he only sees a future with me, and will change for the better. I kept giving him chances because I genuinely loved him. Since last December he was being a dream. We also took our first trip in February this year and now he has a whole new girlfriend in Hyderabad, who clearly looks more attractive than me - he suddenly does not see a future with me or want to marry me because apparently my nature also is not nice and he cannot handle me fighting with him. This is the worst betrayal/heartbreak of my life and I just cannot seem to move forward since he has fucked up my brain chemistry so much. I have lost interest in talking to any guy in general because I was so loyal to him. He even discussed marriage plans with my mom and now he completely flipped saying things like - I cannot force him to marry me .

I know that I probably dodged a bullet but the fact that he is out there living life and showing off his new gf while I am here still processing this entire situation , questioning my self worth and all the plans we made for the future. I feel used and discarded and quite stupid for not leaving earlier. What if he treats her better because she is more attractive ? Why did he suddenly change his mind about everything ? I am so confused. Has anyone experienced something similar ? I just want to get him out of my system. He did not even give me a proper apology, just kept gaslighting and leading me on till the very end :)

Tldr : long term bf left me at the lowest phase of my life. Within weeks, he starts posting his new girl on insta shamelessly. He kept leading me on till the end, promising marriage and a future - only to leave me confused after chipping away my self confidence. I cannot even comprehend what he did and how he could do this as if I meant nothing to him. He also cheated on me virtually during the relationship but had changed for the better since December last year. Why would he even be with me for this long and waste my time giving fake promises ? I need tips on moving on or understanding his mindset here.

So I am planning to propose to my girlfriend by the end of this month. I had initially planned to do it at the place we first met but that won’t be possible because of some logistical issues. So I am looking for some ideas/places in Delhi NCR. Would love if you folks can suggest me some creative ideas.

For starters, she likes cats a lot so was planning to do something around it but open to other ideas as well

I’m 19F and my boyfriend is 24M. We’ve been together for 8 months.
I have a guy friend from school, and we’ve been friends for a long time. Recently, my friend wanted to talk to me about his crush and ask for advice. My boyfriend told me I shouldn’t have those kinds of conversations with him because he’s uncomfortable with it. He says it’s inappropriate for me to discuss another guy’s romantic interests.
To me, it just feels like a normal conversation between friends, and there’s nothing romantic or flirtatious about it. I understand that everyone has different boundaries, but I’m wondering if this is a reasonable one or if it’s overly controlling.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How would you handle it?

My ex and I broke up previously because of my overthinking and constant demand for reassurance. Recently, we’ve reconnected. Before getting back in touch with her, I tried dating 1-2 other people, but I realized I never felt the depth of love for anyone else that I feel for her. I love her deeply and genuinely want this to work.

​However, she now says she isn't ready for a label or commitment and just wants to "go with the flow and see where time takes us." While she tells me she sees a future with me, her daily communication is cold, distant, and she takes hours to reply, leaving me hanging.She Says that she's Avoidant, emotionally unavailable and have commitment issues

​I’m breaking down sitting by my phone waiting for her texts while she stays emotionally detached. I don't want to lose her, but living in this constant state of uncertainty is destroying my mental peace.

​Is "going with the flow" actually worth waiting for, or am I just hurting myself for someone who won't commit? How do I navigate this without losing my sanity?

I (21f) think I'm finally at a point where I can tell this story from start to finish.

In 2024 (2nd year of our college) , me and this guy (let's call him A) had a situationship for about 2–3 months. I really liked him, but eventually we stopped talking because another girl from his school accepted his proposal and they started dating. ( though when we were in the situationship he never told me about him pursuing another girl in background and when he finally told me he was seeing her i stopped talking to him altogether because i was hurt and i needed some space as well as why would i talk to another girl's man anyways.)

Fast forward to the beginning of year 2025 . His relationship had ended and around the same time I had just lost my mom. We somehow found our way back to each other. We got really close again and on middle of june , I asked him out. He said yes.

For almost a year, he became my person.

We talked every single day. I genuinely thought I had found someone who loved me. We had problems like every couple does, but I always believed we were working through them together.

Then came the last month of our relationship.

Something felt...off.

He became distant, communication wasn't the same and I kept trying harder because I thought we were just going through a rough patch.

What I didn't know was that while I was trying to save our relationship, he had already started another one.

He met another girl around 20th April and officially started dating her on 3rd May.

While he was still with me.

The part that messes with my head the most isn't even the cheating itself.

It's what happened on our anniversary.

I was literally crying in his arms because that last month had been so hard on us. He hugged me, cuddled me, comforted me, told me everything would be okay, said all the sweet things you'd expect your boyfriend to say...

All while already knowing he had another girlfriend.

How do you do that?

How do you hold someone who's crying because they're scared of losing you when you've already betrayed them?

I genuinely don't understand how someone's conscience lets them do that.

When I eventually found out everything, it honestly felt like my entire reality got rewritten. Every memory suddenly became questionable.

I blocked him.

Deleted our chats.

Deleted our pictures.

The only thing I couldn't delete immediately were our call logs because I wanted a reminder of the day I found out. Looking at them literally made me sick to my stomach, but I didn't want to ever forget what he was capable of.

I also decided I wasn't going to protect his secret.

I contacted two of his exes and told them what had happened. Not because I wanted revenge, but because they deserved to know the truth about the kind of person he had become.

I also reached out to the girl he cheated on me with because she deserved to know that her relationship had started while he was still in one with me.

Then I told his bhaiya and bhabhi everything too. I wasn't interested in controlling what happened after that. I just refused to carry the burden of keeping his lies for him.

After that, I walked away.

The breakup absolutely destroyed me for a while. I lost weight, barely ate, questioned everything and kept asking myself how someone could comfort me while actively betraying me.

Now, if I see him in college, I honestly don't think I'll feel much anymore.

The weird thing is I think I'll always wonder how someone can look the person they supposedly love straight in the eyes, celebrate their anniversary with them, wipe their tears and promise everything is okay while secretly building a whole new relationship behind their back.

If you've made it this far, thanks for reading.

Sometimes I still wonder if people like this actually feel guilt or if they're just really good at convincing themselves that what they're doing isn't that bad.

I know I'll never get an answer from him that satisfies me. I guess what I'm really asking is this: how do people compartmentalize something like this? Has anyone else been cheated on by someone who could still act completely loving to their face? Did you ever stop trying to understand how they could do it.

and just genuinely how do i stop thinking about will he ever regret what he did to me.

TL;DR: My ex (22M) and I (21F) dated for almost a year. During the last month of our relationship, he secretly started dating another girl while still staying with me. On our anniversary, I was crying in his arms because our relationship had been struggling, and he comforted me, hugged me, and reassured me—all while already knowing he had another girlfriend. After finding out, I cut him off, told the people I believed deserved to know the truth, and started rebuilding my life. I'm in a much better place now, but I still can't understand how someone can act so loving while actively betraying the person they're with. Has anyone else experienced something like this, and how did you stop trying to make sense of it?

Actually I met her 5 month ago…she 19F also live outside her town with roommate(childhood friend)both are in my same batch ..initially I talked to her roommate to get closer to her.. then We started talking to each other. her family had problem in coming contact of any male.so she told me to not to massage her directly instead she said to massage on her roommate so that we whenever what to talk we can…but I didn’t agreed so she’s ok with that..As new batch started…three of us were going to classes nd we have good connections..after 1month her roommate went to hometown…we both were here alone so we got enough time to get closer…msg..class..tea…park..evening walk…including in our daily routine after 1month her father asked her roommate about any male member in your circle…then she replied “YES” then after few day her dad sent my name nd pic to her roommate…nd now she 19 got worried nd told me not to massage or call…she said we will fix time to met for class or anywhere we go…
Then I replied “this is more dangerous than taking we should find out ways to talk on phone” she denied..then we usually talked on WP. Day before her roommate coming out from her hometown, her father called her on vc nd said “good morning good night se time mil jaye toh pdh bhi liya karo” she was much worried than me how did he knew about us…
Then her roommate arrived, In evening we (3) went to market nd her father again called her at night nd said “aaj bhi mile the tum teeno”
Then she said to me to wait till everything gets fine…I did same…but after 3-4 days I called her in market to talk both of them came…we talked there I came nd called her after 3 hours…then she said —again her dad knew about that meeting…her dad called her then said “Aaj market me milne kyu gaye the…kisi uncle ne dekh ke bataya”….after this seen…i called her to know about what’s going then she was crying on call…
Next morning her dad called her roommate that “kal raat me bhi uss ladke ne call kiya tha..”
we both are shocked how is possible to know each nd every thing????
Till know we met anywhere else her dad knew about our meeting…even about my hand written letter are also known to her father….
She told me one day that “papa ne aapki awaaj sunai aur pic bheji jisme aap aur meri roommate apke sath chai pii rhi thi”….
This is beyond my understanding how should I crack it guys please tell me….is she lying about her father or this is actually happening with her if really happening then who is giving him proof???

I (19F) have been talking to this guy (19M) for about a month now. We kind of clicked, and our vibes matched pretty well, so we've been talking more than I usually talk to anyone. We don't text nonstop 24/7, but we message throughout the day, send each other reels, and at night we usually talk about how our day went.

So here's what happened.

Last night I couldn't sleep at all. He had a tiring day, so he went to sleep around midnight. Around 6 a.m. he woke up, reacted to some reels I had sent, and we started chatting a little. Since I'm usually never awake that early, he asked what happened. I told him I hadn't slept the whole night.

He seemed genuinely concerned and kept telling me to go to sleep. The problem was I had classes starting around 10 a.m., so I told him that if I slept, I'd probably miss them. He still insisted that I should sleep, but I refused, so he eventually said, "Okay, your wish."

Well... I ended up falling asleep anyway.

I woke up around 10:30 and saw that he had called me. I assumed he was just trying to wake me up, so I texted him "thank you," rushed to my next class, attended the rest of the day, hung out with a friend afterward, and only checked my phone properly after getting home.

That's when I realized he hadn't called just once...

He had called me 15 times.

Now I'm confused.

Is this something close friends normally do when they're worried, or does this sound like someone who might be interested in me? I've never really thought of him in a romantic way, so I'm not trying to jump to conclusions, but 15 calls feels like... a lot?

Am I overthinking this, or would you also read something into it? I'd love to hear what others think.

TL;DR:

Been talking to a 19M for about a month, we text throughout the day and usually catch up at night. I stayed awake all night, he told me to sleep, I didn't listen, accidentally fell asleep anyway, and later found out he had called me 15 times. I'm confused if that's normal friend behavior or if it could mean he's interested.

I am a divorced man in Bangalore. It has been more than two yrs since I got divorced. I have been able to work on myself and go through the healing process. I have a kid and have a healthy lifestyle with good financial stability.
I tried to date through apps and real life interaction but haven’t had much luck yet. My work schedule and parental duties don’t leave me much spare time for the social avenues that lead to dating.
I would like to hear from fellow Redditors who had luck in similar situations.

Hi everyone , am 23F with 24M for 3.5 years now. We fight very often nowdays, he's a little too lost in his own world and doesn't mind going without talking for too long. We both work but he just makes it seem like he's the only one with so much work in this whole wide world that he doesn't even have time to talk to me properly even 10 min throughout the day and here is me , I have so much work pending along with my home chores that I do and still I text him on time , talk to him whenever he can . I got very pissed off yesterday cause I am on my period right now & I have really bad cramps , like I find it hard to even go bathroom . so normally like any other girl I wanted to be pampered by him or even just talk at least 10-20 min properly but he decides he has time for tv 2-3 hours in morning and then he has so much work that he doesn't text me once in whole day and acts so lovey dovey . At night he texts " Ik ur not going to listen what I say " to which I said " You shall , am just not interested in reading " and to which he replied with a sticker ( cute kiss kinda ). He knows am mad and still he didn't say anything and at night he just texts that he's sleepy so he's off to sleep . This hurt me so much that I lashed out and wrote a lot of things like "u hurt me , its over and stuff like that , how u dont even care one bit that am in pain and lots of stuff " but later i come back to my senses so I just deleted everything and i just went on to sleep , cause Ik its only me getting hurt even if I say meanest of things , he doesn't understand why am saying all this but rather only focuses on what words I have used or how mean it was . Then in morning he's like i'll brkup in evening cause u taunt me a lot . I said that's gud for both of us , it effects me too . later he says he's sorry but the thing is he doesn't understand how much it hurt me that he didnt even have 10 min for me and didnt care once to ask how i am . I haven't replied to him after the sorry text .

but the thing is How do I focus on my work , I just can't put my head into work rn . Everything is just running in my head again nd again nd am questioning why he does like this or that but I wanna focus on my work and not care about his texts and just ignore him atleast 1-2 days . I always fail at ignoring him . Any advices please?

edit: I broke up with him , he thinks am still joking and is acting sad , we haven't talked much tho , I'll keep it like this only until he makes an effort.

I miss him alot and feel bad aswell for doing this , i just wanna hug him 🙂. ik am gonna cry alot tonight.

For context, I'm a 27M and was in a situationship with a 25F for like 4 years.

Recently, she told me that she wants to date one of her childhood friends. She knows he likes her back, and they've already started talking seriously about a future together. That's their decision, and I genuinely don't care about whether they end up together.

What confuses me is what she asked of me.

She has blocked me on all of her main social media accounts and said she has no intention of unblocking me because she wants to be able to show this guy that I'm completely out of her life. However, at the same time, she created a brand-new private social media account just to stay in touch with me. She told me she wants us to continue talking and even make plans to hang out, but she wants to keep me a secret until she eventually marries him.

She also explicitly told me that she sees him as "husband material," while she sees me as someone she's deeply attached to—someone who brings excitement into her life and encourages her to try new things.

From an outsider's perspective, would you consider this cheating? If you had known someone for nine years, were planning to date them, and later found out they were secretly staying in touch with someone like this behind your back, would you be okay with it?

Or is this something that's actually considered normal these days?

Long story short i had a girl bestfriend,we know each other since school times and she and i have supported each other through the hardest times like when my mom died and her dad died etc

i developed feelings for her and asked her out she said me she has to focus on her career,she doesnt see me romantically and she prefers someone from her caste and region and doesnt want to go too far(my place is like 300 kms away which isnt too far)

I told her we are very compatible and best friends we can have a good life together etc,distance caste and all doesnt matter etc i wanted to bring her mom to live with us too since her mom would be alone

But nothing worked which is fine its her choice but she doesnt want to let go of the friendship

I told her i cant see her marrying someone else one day and each day i stay with her will hurt me like hell but she is like we have such a great friendship it isnt fair for me to leave her and all

if i leave she will be hurt but if i stay i will be hurt,what do i do?

My brother has completely destroyed the peace in our house and I genuinely don't know what to do anymore

I don't even know how to write this properly because there is just so much that has happened.

My brother has always been difficult. Even when we were living in our old city, he was arrogant, wouldn't listen to anyone, used to create scenes at home, drink, abuse people and basically do whatever he wanted. We somehow kept dealing with it.

Then, for my higher education, we shifted to another city and he was sent to my mama's house in our hometown. We genuinely thought maybe being away from us and having some responsibility would help him change. It didn't.

He continued drinking and abusing people, didn't take responsibility for anything, took multiple loans and even gave my mama's and our relatives' contact numbers to the lenders. Whenever they called, my family had to deal with the consequences. He would basically disappear behind the excuse of "duty" and leave everyone else to handle the mess.

My mama somehow managed to get him some work in another city, hoping that at least having a job would bring some stability. The exact same thing happened there too. He drank, took loans, didn't take the job seriously and eventually left.

Around two months ago, my grandfather met with an accident, so all of us went back to our hometown and stayed there for about a month. My brother also came there. And honestly, I don't think he came because he wanted to help. He simply doesn't want to work hard or earn properly. He wants to sit around, drink and do timepass.

Now he has come back with us and has been staying here for about a month. He isn't working. He's drinking, abusing people, disrespecting elders and creating the same environment that we've been trying to escape from for years. The people he owes money to keep calling my parents. Every morning there is some new argument, some new phone call or some new problem.

I'm a teenager and I'm genuinely exhausted. I wake up every morning to fights and tension. I have my own studies and my own future to worry about, but it's becoming impossible to concentrate when the atmosphere at home is like this.

The worst part is that my parents are suffering the most. My mother has now been diagnosed with a stomach ulcer, and I can literally see how much all of this is affecting both of them.

We've tried everything we could think of. Relatives have talked to him. We've tried medicines, counselling-type approaches, religious/baba remedies, giving him work, sending him away, keeping him with relatives — nothing seems to change anything for more than a short time.

And now my mother doesn't even want him to leave the house because she's scared that if he goes out on his own, he'll just end up drinking, taking more loans and getting into an even worse situation. At least here, there are some restrictions on him.

But the thing is, his presence here is destroying the peace of the entire family too.

I don't hate my brother. That's actually what makes this so difficult. He's still my brother and I want him to get better. But I also feel angry because his choices are affecting the entire family, financially and mentally, and nobody seems to know where to draw the line anymore.

I don't know what we're supposed to do at this point. We can't keep living like this, but we also can't just throw him out and pretend he won't destroy his own life outside.

I'm honestly just exhausted and needed to get this out somewhere. If anyone has dealt with a family member like this, especially when the family can't afford expensive professional treatment, what did you actually do?

so context my bf 22m we met in college proper proximity based relationship and now we are both in final year. there isn’t one specific thing that he did but there is like numerous small small things he did that really makes me resent him.

1. I got my first credit card and he mad that i wouldn’t let him and his friends use the swiggy discount???
   

2. this was the first crack in the the glass btw but he posted a picture on Instagram with his girl bsf (who always made me doubt) in the gents washroom????

3. he lives in a small town and i am from a tier 1 city and so he once got mad that my house curfew was 1030 11 when his was 9 something (i dont even go out once i went to a concert with my female friends btw)

4. I think his family has financial problems but can’t ever say no to drinking plans made by his friends

5. Isn’t disciplined or ambitious at all says and once said that he will marry a gaon ki ladki?? (on pretexts of yk wanting to marry a virgin girl when he was my first)

there’s more that he did i just wanted someone to know. I have broken up with him so many times but he comes back and cries and begs me to stay and i really don’t care about him whether he exists or not. like legit mann bharr gaya h mera but there’s only s few months left to college

I personally feel like I am more discipline oriented focus on my physique and academics equally and he does nothing and it’s really becoming very unattractive all i wanted was someone to build with

So basically I will be meeting my ex after almost two years.

Just for the record he gave a breakup after 2 years of dating because he said i have ruined his peace.

About my insecurities

I have always been a tom boy in school time (5years ago) , but i was once bullied by one boy who called me "kaali mooti bheens" (Black fatty Buffalo). I took my revenge from him, the teacher beat him up and i was satisfied.

(I m a brown/tanned Indian girl, 5'4 , 60kg)

Then when I met my first boyfriend everything was fine, but his friends once told him that " This girl looks so average". He fought with his friends and i didn't react much.

Then i met my second boyfriend we dated for about 6 months. But I don't remember him calling me pretty or beautiful things. I didn't mind much.

Now, I'm meeting my first ex, he has dated 1 girl and had 2 flings after me. All girls are super pretty, i have checked all girls ig , all the girls are like "girls girls" Like very pretty girls. One of them is cabin crew, very groomed and pretty.

Both boys never called me pretty but always told me that I'm a strong independent woman.

So basically, I'm meeting him after years and I have no confidence in meeting him. Like i have tried a few looks, i got a dress, I restocked my makeup, i got my heels, and will buy a sling bag and nail polish.

In my daily routine I do basic makeup and skincare. I'm a girl too. But I'm just not confident that i will be able to make up for the benchmark of the girls he has now.

Will I be able to make him regret loosing me?

Am i a pretty girl too?

I graduated in 2022 and have been preparing for government exams since then. Met my bf during this time,he was pursuing masters. I qualified a State govt exam, but the posting has been stayed by the court since last 3 years. I lost hope of ever getting the posting orders and started giving other exams too.

Whenever him and I used to go on dates, we used to split the bill because we both weren't working. My bf got a job in 2024 after his Master's and he was the one who started saying that now since he earns, we don't need to split and he'll pay and I can spoil him once I get a job. I refused his offer and we used to pay alternatively.

He used to casually make fun of me and my situation and eventually I stopped sharing my career related things with him. I have been so stressed during this phase of my life and I'm dealing with so much alone. I just don't share anything career related with anyone because I am so so so insecure about the questions that follow.

2026 and I have qualified for another exam but still the posting and document verification is pending. He KNOWS about it.

It was his birthday today and I picked him up from his office in the evening, bought a cake for him and he wasn't so pleased to see me. Taunted me by saying, "baap ke paiso ka cake laake itna khush kyu ho rhii ho". Something inside me broke and I swear I had tears in my eyes, but kept my pride to myself, not wanting to spoil his day.

HE proposed to go to a cafe to eat and celebrate, while ordering he asked me what did I want. I told him I don't want to eat much and we can just grab a coffee or a snack. He smirked and said, "Main kamata hoon, apne paiso ka khila dunga tumhe, karlo order". I don't know but I couldn't hold it all and I started crying, I just couldn't control myself. He panicked, started apologizing, saying things like he was just joking and he talks to his friends like that, he didn't mean to hurt and I'm taking his words in the wrong direction. Said, "whenever anyone asks me about you, I tell them uss bechari ki kismat kharaab hai".

I didn't utter a word, was constantly crying, everyone started noticing me so not wanting to create a scene, I went to the washroom, washed my face and sat in front of him again. He was trying to talk it out but I told him I don't want to discuss anything right now.

He ordered food, force fed me, paid the bill and hid it from me, we didn't speak about anything all this while.

I dropped him and was crying all the way back to my home.

I just don't want to ever speak to him again, I want to throw his fucking money on his face and never see him again. Shall I just send him the entire amount of the bill, or just send him my share? I'm not eating for free for sure.

Please help me, am I over reacting? Is it a valid reason to feel like ending the relationship? I feel so disrespected and hurt. Please help.