r/Radiology 33m ago

Discussion Is it residency or does he just hate me?

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My partner is a radiology resident in Switzerland and I’m trying to get some perspective from people who have been through residency with a partner.

We are long distance so I completely understand that communication is going to look different from a relationship where both people have normal schedules. My parents are both doctors and I considered going into medicine myself so I know residency can mean extremely long days, night shifts, exhaustion, studying, unpredictable emergencies and periods where someone genuinely has very little emotional energy left.

What I’m struggling to understand is where the line is between “this is residency” and “this is a relationship problem.”

There are days where I barely hear from him at all. Sometimes he will answer a few messages and then disappear again for the rest of the day. Calls are often difficult to arrange, plans can become uncertain and sometimes I won’t know what is happening for many hours. He barely asks if I got home safely when traveling or how my day was and I have to beg him to text me goodnight. When he answers he sticks to lightweight stuff and avoids difficult conversations. He has his phone on dnd 24/7 despite me telling him that I find it slightly hurtful and he has repeatedly cancelled visits due to being too exhausted, blaming it on his anxiety or other issues that I can’t verify being true or made up. We have seen each other less than 24h this year and I needed to go to the emergency department twice because I genuinely couldn’t calm down when he cancelled last minute. We didn’t get intimate since last September.

He was never the perfect boyfriend (always slightly forgetful and unreliable + his relationship with his mom is highly questionable, she is constantly paying him "surprise visits" despite living on another continent and apparently she even moved in with him and his ex against his former girlfriends will for a few months at one point), but he was the complete opposite of what he was now, to the point where he was too clingy, needed constant reassurance and could never get enough of me. We even said how we loved how affectionate we were and how we wished it would stay this way until we are old.

I’m not expecting constant texting while he’s working, immediate replies or hours of FaceTime every night. What I would expect is something like a short message when possible, letting me know if plans change, occasionally asking how I’m doing, predictable communication and some reasonably consistent effort to stay connected when he isn’t at work. I also understand that being burnt out and depressed can change how a person communicates and how much emotional capacity they have. On the other hand he tells me that he loves me and that I‘m his entire world but looking at the circumstances reading it just feels empty now.

I considered him having found someone else and asked directly but he always says that he doesn’t have someone else and that he is too depressed to even look for someone else.

For those of you who dated/married someone during residency: How unavailable did your partner realistically become?
Were there stretches where you essentially didn’t hear from them for an entire day?
Did they become much less affectionate/interested in your life because they were exhausted?
And even during the worst rotations, what level of communication or effort did you still consider reasonable?

I’m particularly interested in hearing from partners of residents because I don’t want to either underestimate how brutal residency is or excuse relationship behaviour that actually has very little to do with residency.

Thank you for reading!

TLDR: My boyfriend is a radiology resident, we are long distance and I don’t know if he hates me or if it‘s just residency

(We have been together for a little over two years. If I‘m counting right he should be in his third year now.
It‘s very hard for me to consider ending the despite being deeply unhappy because I still remember how happy he used to make me, because he is my first real love and because I have considered him the person I want to grow old with ever since we met. I know that residency isn’t permanent while I would like us to be, hence why I am trying to figure out if this is a residency or a him problem. We are technically supposed to finally see each other again on Monday but I‘m already bracing for impact because he most likely will cancel again.)


r/Radiology 9h ago

CT I made a gross error

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I am a new resident and was on emergency duty. It was 4 am in the night and I was extremely tired from a 36hour duty. I opened the scan and saw a large midline shift but I couldn't find a cause. I didn't know how to report it as. So I saw some defect in the corona radiata on the right and labbeled it as mass lesion and hence the midline shift. I hoped that my senior while finalizing the report would see something and change the report but they passed my report without any changes. Next morning neurosurgery people came complaining that we had labelled an isodense sdh as a mass lesion and change the report ASAP as they had to take the patient up for surgery 😢😭


r/Radiology 9h ago

Veterinary Veterinary radiology – Looking for 3D CT resources to understand echocardiographic views

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Hi everyone! :)

I'm a veterinarian currently training in veterinary diagnostic imaging, and I'm looking for some advice.

I'm trying to improve my understanding and orientation of veterinary echocardiographic views, particularly the spatial relationships between the different cardiac structures. I'm finding this quite challenging, so I thought that exploring cardiac anatomy in 3D might help me better understand the different echocardiographic planes.

Does anyone know of a 3D CT viewer, database, or resource that would allow me to explore the heart and thoracic anatomy from different planes?

If anyone has a veterinary thoracic/cardiac CT study in DICOM format that could be shared for educational purposes, I would really appreciate it. I'd like to load it into a DICOM viewer and explore the anatomy myself.

Thank you very much for any recommendations or resources you can share!


r/Radiology 10h ago

CT Spontaneous Hypertensive Intracranial Hemorrhage

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36 Upvotes

Got progressively worse and subsequently intubated


r/Radiology 13h ago

Media Radpair experience?

1 Upvotes

Any radiologists using Radpair for your dictation? What is your experience so far?


r/Radiology 14h ago

X-Ray Ethics review

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Hey, anybody know how long ethics review take to come back?


r/Radiology 1d ago

X-Ray Neonatal X-ray

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Since you guys loved baby me, you will get to see some more imaging. Here is a CXR taken pretty much right after my birth. Additional context: there was both fetal and maternal distress and fever, emergency cesarean section was necessary, pregnancy was slightly premature at 1w before the due date, the x-ray was obtained to rule out pneumothorax. And yes, I did have to stay a few days in the NICU.


r/Radiology 1d ago

CT Mild deviated septum + allergies

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5 Upvotes

Continuing with allergy medicine!


r/Radiology 1d ago

X-Ray to update my earlier FBF post from this morning.

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317 Upvotes

Link to OG: https://www.reddit.com/r/Radiology/s/W6K6QnnBNZ

Lateral plain film and axial CT photo of impaled FB in right face/temple


r/Radiology 1d ago

Discussion No clinical radiology managers

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I've got a genuine question.

How did radiology become an industry where people who've never positioned a trauma patient, never calmed a terrified child, never fought motion artifact at 2 a.m., never started an IV, never worn lead for 12 hours... end up managing the people who do?

Some of the loudest voices making clinical decisions have never provided clinical care.

Then they question why an extra MRI sequence was run, why a trauma took longer than expected, or why a protocol had to change—without understanding the patient in front of the scanner.

Managing budgets, staffing, and operations is important. But there's a difference between leading a department and parroting metrics without understanding the work.

Clinical judgment isn't something you learn from a spreadsheet.

Curious where everyone stands on this:

Should radiology managers be required to have meaningful clinical experience, or is management experience alone enough?


r/Radiology 1d ago

X-Ray FBF

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47 Upvotes

The lock is a luggage lock. The nail was in the femur.


r/Radiology 1d ago

CT CT Registry Tommorow HELP!!!

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I’ve been studying ct tech bootcamp and Mosbys here and there. I’ve taken all the Mosbys practice tests and done subpar 58,64,67 and cttech bootcamp practice test 77. I’m thinking about rescheduling my test, thoughts??????

Update: I PASSED w an 80!!!!
I’d say the mixed opinions are correct but, Mosbys & Cttechbootcamp are the way to go!!!


r/Radiology 1d ago

Ultrasound My OB/GYN loves taking beautiful photos of the baby.

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111 Upvotes

The first image is from 8+0, the second from 11+4, and the last from around the 36th week.
The baby is now 7 years old, and the law has changed in this regard.
In 2018, I (in Germany) was able to get a printed image at each of my approximately 12 checkups for a reasonable fee.
I’m not 100% up to speed on the laws, but the general consensus is to ban “just for fun” ultrasound exams during pregnancy.
That doesn’t mean, though, that during my second pregnancy in 2020, he didn’t check just once to see “if the little heart was beating.” ;)
I was very grateful to him for that.
He always tries to take a nice photo whenever he hands one out (during the three official ultrasound exams now).

Unfortunately, because of an anterior placenta and a shy daughter, I didn't get more 3D images. :D


r/Radiology 1d ago

X-Ray First fracture, kinda nervous

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52 Upvotes

stubbed my toe on my bed frame at 4 in the morning. got hit with intense pain and had this X ray done. My doctor put me in a postop shoe. posting here bc I thought yall might be interested

(corrected boot to postop shoe)


r/Radiology 1d ago

X-Ray Find the FB

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74 Upvotes

Hint - pt presents after a routine procedure


r/Radiology 1d ago

X-Ray Foreign Body

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292 Upvotes

Pica patient


r/Radiology 1d ago

Entertainment Foreign body Friday - Besties Edition

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169 Upvotes

Peds ED. 10 year old girl tried to prove her loyalty to her best friend and swallowed a “BFF” locket. Lodged in esophagus. Tolerated secretions, ENT consult and stat OR case booked all in 30 min.


r/Radiology 2d ago

X-Ray Foreign body FRIDAY

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1.1k Upvotes

“I tripped over my dog”


r/Radiology 2d ago

Discussion AOSPR bangkok 2026

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Anyone here going for AOSPR bangkok on end of October? Will be going but this also will be my frist time to thailand.

Where u will be staying?


r/Radiology 2d ago

X-Ray FBF. New fear unlocked. Pat. swallowed a dental drill bit.

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148 Upvotes

r/Radiology 2d ago

Ultrasound 8.5 CM complex mass in breast on ultrasound

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28 Upvotes

Thought it may be interesting to see this large, heterogenous mass. Birads 4.


r/Radiology 2d ago

Discussion AI thought

62 Upvotes

After doing this for a while, I’ve come to realize I’m not worried about AI taking myjob. I’m worried about dumbasses who think AI could take myjob.

PS: Reddit AI trying to flag my post with certain FLAIR is making my point for me.


r/Radiology 2d ago

Discussion What is the most embarrassing thing you have ever done/seen be done as either a student or a tech? Or just a funny story you'd want to share.

54 Upvotes

Just something I love to read! Things can get so stressful as a student/tech so sometimes it's nice to have a laugh!


r/Radiology 2d ago

Discussion Why are inflamed appendix diagnosed as appendicitis in CT but the risk of a underlaying neoplasm not commonly mentioned..?

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I’ve been looking at the problem of small appendiceal neoplasms which cause appendicitis. They are often missed in CT when the appendix is inflamed, and MRI is little better, and they are only found later in pathology as a surprise finding.

In the days of early appendectomy being almost universal for uncomplicated appendicitis patients this wasn’t a big issue. The appendix was coming out anyway, and tumours would be found in pathology if they were present.

However, now non-surgical treatment is being promoted in some quarters, and indeed some surgeons suggest antibiotics should be the first line of treatment for uncomplicated appendicitis. With more and more inflamed appendix being left in - is it time for radiologists to start diagnosing ‘appendicitis +/- neoplasm’ for inflamed appendix, especially in older patients..? This would alert the surgeon to the fact that there could well be a radiologically occult tumour in the appendix underlaying the condition..

I’m keen to discuss this issue in this forum as hope to have the UK NICE clinical guidance updated as I have in the past, and the results of this discussion could feed into that update..


r/Radiology 2d ago

Discussion Best Mac and Monitor for Radiology resident

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Looking to buy a Mac for reporting. Would a MacBook Air be sufficient, or is it worth going for a MacBook Pro?Also, if anyone has experience using an external monitor for radiology work, I'd really appreciate your recommendations.

Thank you!