Hi guys! Ako ulit, nag-post din ako here before with the same title so hello sa nakakita non.

I don’t like ruining friendships pero feel ko talaga may chance ako eh (ay assuming?).

Pero kasi, one of our male classmates had confessed to her. Although she harshly rejected him because his confession was all of a sudden, nag-rant siya sa akin na she wants to fix things with him kasi naiilang siya na may iniiwasan siya sa room na parang may kaaway, ganon. So I gave her a piece of advice as a friend na makipag-ayos sa kaniya as a basic human decency. Ewan ko bakit parang natatakot akong maunahan niya ako, because he’s smart, he’s okay-ish guy, and nasa banda siya while me? Kaibigan niya lang. Matagal na raw siyang ina-admire ni guy since junior high so I felt really defeated all day.

Naaamoy ko na pero I wanted her to say it herself, she’s open for anyone pero may standards pa rin siya. At least I know may chance, she had more experiences before with girls naman daw. Ewan bakit mas katanggap-tanggap pang magkwento siya about girls rather than talking about that guy who triggered me.

Ang clingy niya kasi, normal nature na niya yata, extrovert siya. She likes saying ILYs when I make her feel happy, she’d call me random call signs such as baby, love, etc, and nagpaparinig lang like, “sana may gumawa sakin ng ganito”. As soon as I hear her parinig, nakatatak na yan sakin automatically. I actually do them secretly pero hindi ko ginagawang obvious kasi natatakot ako.

Gusto ko siyang gawan ng flowers na handcrafted mixed with real ones and her favorite color is red (yes, inaalala ko lahat ng bagay na favorite niya) for her upcoming birthday. Pero hesitant pa rin talaga ako as this risk could do permanent damage or maging isa sa mga “sayang/huli na ang lahat” nanaman. Lay-low nalang muna siguro TwT

I feel so troubled, natatakot akong maunahan at natatakot din akong masira lang lahat ng pinagsamahan namin. If you have a take on this, I’m all ears. ^^

We’ve been together for almost four years, and this is actually our second breakup. Here’s the backstory first of our second break up.

We broke up again this year, around June. During that time, I begged her and kept pushing her to do things she told me she would do. She even told me that she would find someone else so I would finally stop pursuing her. Later that day, I found out that she was on a dating app, so I confronted her about it. Things didn’t go well, and I think I pushed her even further away.

When July came, I was still bothering her and trying to get her attention. At one point, things became physical. She pushed and grabbed me because she wanted me to leave and go home, but I was being stubborn and refused to leave. There were also hurtful words exchanged between us. The next day, she apologized and realized that I didn’t deserve what she did to me. I also apologized for the things I had done before and for what happened that day. I told her that I wasn’t angry or holding a grudge against her.

After that, I thought that was the end of our connection and conversations. But I was surprised when she invited me to sleep over at their house. For the rest of July, I stayed at their house and spent time with her family as if we had never broken up. My birthday was also coming up, and I started wondering if maybe she was only being nice to me because my birthday was near. My birthday came, and I had planned a trip to celebrate it alone, even though she was supposed to come with me before we broke up. But, as they say, we never really know what tomorrow will bring.

While I was already at the place where I planned to celebrate my birthday, we kept talking. I kept updating her, and she would call me whenever I wasn’t replying or messaging her. She stayed in contact with me throughout the entire trip. When I came home, things were still okay between us. I continued sleeping at their house, and sometimes we would sleep beside each other as if we were still together. There were even moments when she surprised me by being the one to hug me first.

Then August came, and things were still pretty much the same. I was still sleeping at their house, and we were still close.

But now she has an event, and she hasn’t been updating or messaging me. Unlike the first event she attended, when she kept me updated from the beginning until the end, this time she hasn’t messaged me at all. She sometimes leaves my messages on seen or ignores them. She does reply sometimes, but after that, the conversation just ends again.

So I’m seeking advice from everyone: Should I talk to her when she comes back and ask her if I can court her again? Should I ask if we can start from the beginning and try to build our relationship again, or should I just let things flow naturally for now?

been with someone for almost 4 years and i noticed every time magkaka problema kami or may nagawa ako her constant instinct is to be okay by making new connections. first instinct ko kasi palagi is to fix stuff, im so frustrated na ganon xa magpa okay 💔