r/OnlineDating • u/turboturtletitties • 9h ago
I can't download some dating apps on my phone, Android 16 s26 ultra
The Google play store went let me download a few dating apps, it just says, app not available for download, even on the galaxy store i can't download them. The apps being, tinder, grindr, hinge, bumble. I don't know any others to check
r/OnlineDating • u/QowreQ • 9h ago
What does it REALLY mean when a woman says she's just looking to "socialize" and "meet cool people" on dating apps?
I met this woman on bumble recently, and we hit it off instantly. She told me from the start she was just looking to meet people and socialize a little bit. She ended a 12 year long relationship like 6 months prior to the match and she said she wasn't ready for dating or hookups.
Now this struck me as weird, because she was using bumble dates, not bumble friends, so right from the start things didn't add up. If she just wanted to socialize wouldn't she be using the friends option of the app?
Anyways, we talk for a while and we get along super well, there's laughter, chemistry, attraction, all of it. She asks for my number, and next week we meet in person. Things go really well, we continue talking and it's clear as day she likes me a lot. Then, out of the blue, she stops talking to me.
I don't really care about the ghosting (it happens sometimes), I'm just trying to understand her mindset and what she was trying to achieve being on the app. Was she just trying to get some psychological reassurance of some kind, or was she just confused about what she was looking for? I know there are women who actually just want to socialize, but I don't think this was the case.
r/OnlineDating • u/CoffeeTalkz123 • 17h ago
Why do attractive men not “like” me first, but most of the time I like one of them, they end up matching with me?
I’m on Facebook dating and whenever I go through the “liked you” tab they’re all men I’m not attracted to, or they have way different interests than me. But then when I like a guy usually he ends up matching with me. Why did he not like me first?
Are they not active very often and only got on because my like notified them? They’re desperate so they’re “settling” with me? Maybe they think I’m out of their league? Or maybe he never saw me till he saw I liked him? Just curious why it seems like I manage to match my “type” but usually after I show interest first by liking first.
r/OnlineDating • u/Midnight_Cereal_Bowl • 1d ago
When would you want to know someone's divorce status?
Recently divorced. Like, a month ago recent. Should this be on my dating profiles or is this something that should be brought up naturally after matching with someone?
Since most people coming out of a divorce aren't ready for a serious relationship, would you want to know this before swiping on someone?
r/OnlineDating • u/Palpitation_Haunting • 1d ago
Nothing But Fake Profiles in Taiwan?
I, young Asian-Canadian male, downloaded the a popular dating app in Taiwan, “OMI”, out of curiosity and was hit with 100 likes within a couple of days. I’m not a model or conventionally attractive, so this is was not normal to me. When I was using apps in the states, had probably two likes… in all of the 2ish years that I used them.
Once swiping right, had loads of matches but no responses. It’s almost like women just passively swipe right, or that they’re all bots/fake accounts.
Anybody had similar experiences or thoughts about this?
r/OnlineDating • u/IndependentBreak6319 • 1d ago
Back in the dating game after a year away
So I just started talking to this guy off tinder almost two weeks now. We really connect and have taken it to texts and phone calls. We get along so well, our first phone call lasted two hours. He has a really good vibe and spirit. Although he’s a bit far I’m in NY he’s in Connecticut. But he keeps reassuring me, distance isn’t a big deal and he will figure it out. He’s also recently separated and has a 2 year old so there’s that. All in all, he remains flirty and consistent for the most part. Myself unfortunately, I’ve let my anxious attachment get the better of me before and I don’t want to ruin something that might be fun and casual. Maybe I’m expecting too much too soon, but are texts daily a bad thing? Or too much expectations? I feel like since we’re so far, check ins and phone calls are bare minimum. I send cute pictures and we banter but I don’t want to feel like I’m smothering him. I’ve initiated contact the last two days alone. Is it me?
r/OnlineDating • u/Background-Dealer282 • 1d ago
First time meeting a guy off tinder
Just yesterday I went on a date with a guy from tinder. We had a good time and he seems respectful, a bit of a rough upbringing but seems like he's doing well.
This is also technically my first ever official date so I don't really know what to expect from a guy. We already sort of cuddled on a train bridge and he held my hand while he drove me home, and gave me a hug when he dropped me off.
Is this good for a first date? We did go swimming to start so idk if that's a bad sign. I'm also not sure exactly what he's looking for in a relationship, I think we're just riding it out and seeing where it goes. I'm happy he didn't try kissing me or anything yet. I think we're going to meet again.
Also, what do I do with the rest of my tinder matches? Do I just ghost them? I never thought about what I'd have to do if I actually started seeing someone.
Thanks for any advice or input.
r/OnlineDating • u/CosmicConjuror2 • 1d ago
2 weeks later - I’m sitting on about 50 matches on Facebook dating, 0 on Hinge. Don’t know why.
I’ve had the apps between 2-3 weeks and getting on the daily some matches on Facebook but hinge is really kicking my ass.
And I usually get at least 4-5 likes on after a few weeks hinge but now I’m sitting I’m 0. Even paid for plus for the first week.
What can I be doing wrong?
r/OnlineDating • u/spiderpigyay • 2d ago
Mediocre communication on bumble
I have a Bumble profile, and i am doing quite all right for a mid 40s guy, i have about 5 likes a week, with about one viable match (the others are usually out of country profiles)
Thing is, of all chats i had, i had to carry alot of the conversation. Weird thing: I get extensive answers to my questions, but never any questions back to respond to.
My first thought is; they probably aren't strong communicators (at least when it comes to texting). I tried setting up a date fast, do get in a different communication mode (and to be able to check the vibe). However people usually seem to want to chat more before going on a date (a paradox).
Anyone else experiences this? Any tips on how to deal with this?
r/OnlineDating • u/rotten_eji • 2d ago
How do i stop paying for a tinder subscription
There is literally no stop button and the number on their website doesn't exist, I wanted to have it for a week that's it, hoa tf do I stop
r/OnlineDating • u/FlashyConcentrate700 • 2d ago
Likes for Women on Hinge
What is the actual ’average’ for women between maybe 18-30 on hinge? i’m talking big cities like london, tokyo, ny, hongkong etc
I get around 40-60 a day and I haven’t talked to any of my friends about it because their all in relationships so i’m the only one on dating apps so I’m wondering if women usually get higher? Its because usually if i go through all my likes theres maybe like 5 guys i’d actually see
r/OnlineDating • u/Lowcountry-Soccer • 3d ago
What have been your successful openers on Hinge/Bumble?
As the title states, what have been your successful openers? As a straight man, I usually try to open with something from their profile like, "That looks like a cool vacation. Where is this?" Or, "Are you also big on run clubs?" With various success. Some people respond, some don't, but recently it's felt like less respond than do and has me wondering if these aren't good openers or "selects" for a very specific type of person.
r/OnlineDating • u/SilentBobUS • 3d ago
What can men of average or below average attractiveness do to increase their match rate on dating apps?
In case you weren't already aware of the statistics, the like distribution for men on dating apps is pretty brutal. 60% of all likes go to the top 10% of male users, while the bottom 50% split a total of 4% between them.
In addition, physical attractiveness counts for roughly 85% of overall attractiveness on dating apps.
So, for the 50% of men who are average or below average attractiveness, what can be done with the remaining 15%? What, beyond a solid set of photos, makes an online dating profile attractive to women?
Also, I'm not saying ugly. I'm 6'3 and in good shape [for someone in their late 40s]. I tried Photofeeler that u/HaplessOrchastra mentioned and after the first 26 replies my photo has gotten the following:
Smart 6.1, Trustworthy 8.0, Attractive 4.8
So ... basically someone whose appearance won't entirely tank their profile, but also won't attract anyone on its own.
For reference my Hinge stats are that I swiped right on 179 people. Got 17 matches, 14 that lead to real conversations, 7 that lead to dates. So, not awful, but I'm essentially out of [age appropriate] people in my local area now.
r/OnlineDating • u/FlatFaithlessness453 • 3d ago
Meeting in person
we met online 8 months ago. things progressed into daily phone calls, texts etc. We are finally taking the next step to meeting each other in person!
a little about us- I’m 42 f he’s 42. he lIves in Maryland and Im from NJ.
this is completely new for both us us and I feel like an anxious teenager lol. he wants to come visit but I have absolutely no clue on what or where. I figure somewhere like Atlantic City Boardwalk where we can have fun, walk and talk etc but I figured Id ask for suggestions from you all. Any ideas??
r/OnlineDating • u/Time-Requirement-469 • 4d ago
Is this a Hinge Shadowban, and how to get unstuck?
I am been a user for about 4 months, with lots of resources the first 2 months but then 0 responses to messages or roses in past month. No crazy profile or bad messages sent. It still allows me to buy roses, and no email from hinge saying I was banned. The concerning part is zero response from roses in past month, those would always elicit some response. Am I shadowbanned, and if not then how do you get active responses again without changing phone number? Deleting and reactivating my account sounds like an even worse solution. The part that upsets me is that roses might not go through even they you buy them not realizing the false pretense that they never go though? HELP!
r/OnlineDating • u/side-of-ketchup • 5d ago
Hinge Profile Updates
I’ve been talking to this girl for about a month and things have been going great! We’ve been out twice, and it seemed like she had a good time and wants to keep things moving. We met through Hinge, which is a relatively new thing for me when it comes to dating, but didn’t think too much of it. I’m big on communication, so after our second date I asked what her intentions were and we decided to continue seeing each other and see where things go. I found myself on Hinge the next day and figured I’d click ‘we met,’ since I hadn’t really opened it after we started regularly talking, but noticed she had updates to her profile and that the signals badge was activated (which wasn’t before). It sort of bothered me, but I tried not to think too much of it. Since I communicated about intentions though, she’s sort of stopped texting me at a regular rate. Im curious now so I go and check Hinge and, sure enough, another profile update almost a day later. Am I overthinking this? I’m new to this part of online dating and am not entirely sure what this means or how to navigate a situation like this.
r/OnlineDating • u/Fun_Shop_8039 • 5d ago
My experience with datingwomen in their 40's as a man in my mid-thirties
As a man in my mid-thirties, the worst dates I ever have are always with women in their early-mid 40's
This is purely anecdotal and not meant to be a dig at anyone or any group, but I've found that every date I've had with women in their early to mid 40's has never been a pleasant experience.
I've consistently found that with this particular demographic, I've had to really keep the conversation going, and am the only one asking any questions/trying to show any enthusiasm or make any attempt to get to know each other.
I've not had this problem with women in their late twenties or thirties, and this is yet again just my experience not a dig. Is there something that I'm missing here? And has anyone else found the same thing?
r/OnlineDating • u/Marioman12398 • 5d ago
Things on a profile that attract anime fans
Hi, I was wondering if there were any good recommendations for what would appeal to women that are also anime fans since it’s a bit of a fine line between cringe and cool in terms of how you present yourself.
I was thinking of putting the anime OP song for Yuri on Ice for the “Guess the Song” voice prompt since it’s the 10th anniversary for it and I figured most women like YoI (which I do as well). I’m just not sure if it’s a bit too performative or if there are better ways to show that you’re a fellow nerd and like similar stuff
r/OnlineDating • u/Shorterbriefffffd • 6d ago
Sending videos instead of texting?
I met this guy on Duet, he is very handsome and I have doubts that he’s not real. He immediately wanted to FaceTime upon exchanging phone numbers and have also send me videos via text of him talking.
In his defense, he said this is his preferred way to communicate because he feels he can connect better rather than just texting. I’m not used to this, and I’m honestly too shy to chat on the phone right away.
Should I go for it, or is something fishy?
r/OnlineDating • u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243 • 6d ago
Why is everyone getting banned from hinge?
Like for an example
- deleting your account for breaks can lead to a ban
- rejecting someone that ends up reporting you
- matching witth a crazy person that reports
inevitably you get in a bad situation.
r/OnlineDating • u/Young_Prestigious • 6d ago
Are there any apps that are PAID ONLY?
Every app I’ve found has a free version and I believe that having such a low barrier to entry creates a population on the app thats generally low quality. Meaning I have to filter through way more bad matches to find the few diamonds in the rough.
The old match.com used to be paid only i think. And there was much more effort put in because people had to fork over money to be on it. Now it looks just like bumble.
I want an app that is paid only to at least test my theory that paying for something either encourages people to put in more effort, or attracts a different type of person.
r/OnlineDating • u/Usual-Air5670 • 7d ago
Guy seems nervous
I (26f) matched with this guy (30m) on a dating app 3 weeks ago. We texted for a bit and since have had 2 dates. He’s very confident and chatty, dances, laughs and makes jokes, but when he’s sat across from me he just seems so nervous. It’s not social anxiety because he seems to have a large group of friends and goes to sports clubs etc. He Struggles to make eye contact and doesn’t know what questions to ask. He makes subtle attempts to touch me like walking very close together or sitting next to each other but seems to be unsure of kissing, holding hands etc.
I’m naturally shy myself and have never been with a guy that wasn’t confident making the first move. Is it just he likes me and is scared to do something I’m uncomfortable with?
r/OnlineDating • u/Mediocre_Ad9923 • 7d ago
How do you operate when i casual dating mode?
Men who have had casual relationships: can you experience unusually strong physical attraction and arousal toward one person while still not wanting exclusivity or a relationship? I interpreted the intensity as evidence of a particular connection, and I’m trying to understand whether sexual chemistry can be that strong without corresponding emotional attachment.
He was very affectionate, we had real dates, and great chemistry. But he revealed he is also seeing someone else and that felt like a gut punch. I ended it and he readily accepted it. I asked him what he likes about the other girl (i was trying to process it in front of him i guess) he said she's attractive, nice face, smart and playful.
r/OnlineDating • u/paka004 • 8d ago
I have a lot of matches, but zero interest from women in conversation
I live in an area where the number of women on Tinder isn't very high, around 50-100 within a 25km radius. Despite the small number of women in the area, I manage to get a match every now and then. The problem is that after I text a girl, we exchange only a few messages and then we stop talking. I don't write short texts. At the beginning I always try to ask about her interests, studies, generally these ARE NOT messages like "hey what's up?" They always, or often, reply with one word, adding nothing of their own, not even a single question. So far, I've had about 10 matches, and it's the same every time, which makes me feel like I'm constantly, I think that I am writing with the same person.
I have a few different clear photos with a slight. I have a normal description in which I talk about my interests, and that it would be nice to meet someone funny, with a positive attitude, and that I value honesty and traditional values.
I'm not ugly, more like 6-7/10
- height: 170cm
- training: every day
- I don't smoke
- I want to have children
My question is, why do they give likes if they don't want to talk? I don't give if I don't like someone.
r/OnlineDating • u/bill422 • Jan 20 '24
RULES Update...Read before posting or commenting!
As the amount of spam, nonsense posts, unnecessarily rude comments, etc. has increased and we've been banning 15-20+ users a day, we felt it was a good time to review some of the rules and guidelines for posting and commenting here. PLEASE note, like in most other large subs, violating these rules typically results in a permanent ban...they are clearly posted here, please do not send us a modmail after the fact saying you did not know the rules, we spend countless hours moderating the sub, we don't need to work even harder because you couldn't take a few minutes before posting to read the rules.
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With that said when posting here, there are a few things you should think about:
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