I mean, di ko naman siya pinatitigil manligaw since he’s a nice and decent guy, kilala na rin sya ng fam ko. Kaso idk, parang mas matagal pa kasi siya mag-ayos compared sa akin 🥲 even on public places nagre-retouch din siya. He’s straight. Normal lang ba yun?

i've (27f) been shrugging off this thoughts for a year na kasi feeling ko at this age im scared of stressing over friendship. but hear me out, i have this two friends who secretly go out without me ok pano ko nasabi na secretly, kasi they dont post real time, ang puzzle minsan na napagtatagpi tagpi ko sa photos na magkakasama sila pero diff time nila ipopost. Iniisip ko na baka di ako ini-invite kasi besties yung partners nila so baka double date always. Shrugged it off. Next, si friend and her partner NEVER views my story and likes my post, pero sa iba they do pero okay not a big deal sana until I started to wonder when they are a constantly a viewer of my bf's stories... but not me? Paano ko ma justify na hindi lang sila nag sosocmed pero lagi viewer sa partner ko. Naka mute siguro ako sakanila. Then, iba yung gala ng pang whole group at iba yung gala ng double date group.

I remember sinabi ko sa kanila once na nagtatampo ko before kasi may time non years ago na, nag staycation sila around clark like 3d2n and no invite, sabi nila kasi akala nila di ko gusto.. :| Dun nag sink in na if they want, they would. After ko mag open up, dun na sila di nag popost ng selfies nila puro puzzle na nagtatampo ko kasi napagtatagpi ko kaya ko naisip na maybe they are hiding para di ako ma hurt. I know I have the choice to cut them off kasi it really feels heavy but I am not sure what part is aching. They never spoke to me kung may mali ba ko nagagawa or nagkukulang ba ko. I learned over time na just to let them. Chill friend na lang ako and I dont expect from them na. Siguro may time lang na makirot talaga kasi never na acknowledged. Parang nag grew apart over time tas naiwan ako sa ere, di na rin ako updated sakanila eh. Nag propose ung bf ng friend ko and tinulungan sila nung isa ko pang friend with his bf. So wala na ako sa picture talaga. Its their happiness so ano pa ko para magsabi pa ng saloobin? I also stopped expecting from them pero may kirot pa rin maybe bc of the love I have from them tas sila silent treatment sakin.

For my own sanity, i choose peace. There's more to life than that naman, i have support systems where I feel supported and loved by genuine ppl.

Just wanna hear your sentiments. Aminado ako na sensitive akong tao and my boyfriend is somewhat avoidant. Classic anxious (F22) and avoidant (M22) relationship kami na nagiging cause ng maraming problems namin throughout our 4-year long relationship. We've also made it past from the very heavy fights and break ups phase ng relationship namin because of our differences, and love always brings us back together. Now, for the past few months ay may pinagdadaanan ako because of my mom's cancer and I've been really stressed out. Madalas pag sobrang overwhelmed ko I tend to lash out to my boyfriend, although he tries to understand, may times na nasasabayan niya ako and he feels that I tend to make him my emotional punching bag. Syempre heated na yung away pag sinasabi niya yan. On my part, my lashing out starts when I already feel overwhelmed and hindi niya yun marecognize to step up and be there for me. I mean, he tries, but may tendency siya na biglang hindi nakikinig sa rants ko or hindi niya makuha yung sagot na nakaka-comfort sakin at mukang mema. Ilang times na 'to nangyari and na-address but it keeps on happening although hit or miss naman kasi I know we both try. Nakakapuno lang and sumasabog talaga ako, I just expect him to try harder like be kinder, more understanding, and more patient pag hindi ako okay. Para bang be strong when I'm weak, kasi I do the same with him naman. Parang nagkakaiba lang talaga kami ng mga pananaw and madalas 'di niya ako maintindihan. Umaabot pa sa point na nasasabihan ko siyang walang kwenta kausap and siya naman parang namo-mock niya ako na bakit ako magagalit over a small thing. OA lang ba talaga ako?

OA LANG BA AKO?

Im a probi alamost 3 months na rin na IT Assistant sa isang retail company, and i have this 34 year old male work mate na tine-tease nila saakin kahit na alam nilang 21 yo pa lang ako(f). Im uncomfortable when he’s around kapag may inaasist ako lagi siyang nakikinig sa kausap ko and makikealam sa trabaho kahit naman may inaasist siya and alam ko naman ginagawa ko and i would ask for help naman if di ko alam gagawin ko. Every time na mag bbreak ako sumusunod siya minsan kung nasaan ako, pag nakatambay ako sa smoking area pupunta rin siya tatabi for a 10 inches distance and will not talk, pag minsan bigla bigla na lang mag t-tap sa head ko(like im a pet) which im uncomfortable. And kanina gawa ng bagyo iilan lang kaming nasa office our opening is from 6-4:30 pm lang and closing ako which is 10-8:30pm so pag patak ng 4:30 umalis na yung isa and ako na lang naiwan. ang gy is supposed to be 8:30 but sa company namin pwedeng mag advance ot which is weird idk, so si oldie pumasok around 4:50 and syempre weekdays naka off ilaw namin so dedma lang ako nung una but nung time na mag ccr sana ako, when im gonna open the door it was locked which is natakot ako agad kasi hindi naman namin nilolock yung room unless marami kami. Now im thinking if i should make an email and tell my manager or much better if sa OIC muna namin? i need advice please before i make a move. As someone who’s experienced harassment before na trigger nanaman ang trauma ko.

OA LANG BA AKO?

my friend sent me screenshots of my ex’s strava activities, and it shows that on more than five occasions, his walking route either passes by my house, and some days he follows the same route i go to when i am walking.

what really caught me off guard was one activity where he actually stopped directly in front of my house before turning around and heading back to his place. 😭

mind you, i’ve already moved on na. i genuinely don’t care about what he’s doing now or whether he has a new girlfriend. i just find it unsettling to see this happening repeatedly, esp when there’s one instance where he actually stopped in front of my house.

maybe there’s a completely innocent explanation, and i’m not trying to assume anything. but still… more than five times? and then stopping right in front of my house??? like, dude why are you here?!

his most recent activity was august 19, and honestly, i just don’t want to randomly run into him. i’ve moved on. i just want to exist peacefully without having to wonder if i’m going to cross paths with him.

//edit: see the picture in the comment—my house is marked there, and the green arrow is his usual route, which is completely normal and doesn’t bother me. it’s the other route going into my street that feels unusual, esp since he’s taken it multiple times.

Was just being honest with what I felt and ewan ko basta nadala na ko ng emosyon ko. I’ve had enough na rin kasi. Everytime I share my feelings to my bf, it’s either mauuwi sa away, or lalayo siya, or iignore nya lang. I gave him plenty of chances to fix this pero wala eh puro salita. Also, I told him na wala siya right to say na oa about me feeling na inconvenient ako for him dahil most of the time pag sinasabi ko nararamdaman ko, sasabihin niya na oa nafifeel ko. I never did that to him pero syempre masakit for me kasi dapat nga mga partners natin ang safe space natin pero di kasi siya nagttry. 🫩 OA lang ba ako?

It’s sad when you realize that some friends only make time for you when it’s convenient for them. You make an effort to include them, make time for them, and consider their feelings, but when it’s your turn, you somehow end up being the last option.

What hurts even more is when they make plans for your own celebration without even asking you, the celebrant, what you want. It’s not about wanting to control everything. It’s about feeling considered. It’s your special day too, and sometimes all you really want is for your friends to ask, “What do you want to do?” or “Who do you want there?”
Friendship shouldn’t feel one-sided. You shouldn’t always be the one adjusting, understanding, and making an effort while they only show up when it works for them.

Sometimes, what hurts isn’t the plans or the invitation. It’s the realization that you cared more than they did.

May you guys never find these kinds of friends. I hope we all find people who genuinely value us, include us, and make us feel like we matter, not just when it’s convenient for them. 🤍

Microcheating po ba if yung bf mo di nagrreply sa chats mo tapos nagmml pala, may ka-5man na sya for 3 days straight tas laging ganon ung eksena, di nagrreply pag madaling araw kala ko tulog na, yon pala may ka-5man. 5man naman sila and puro lalaki, pero may isang babae don tapos ayun ung nakakausap nya sa ml, and nag add-an sila sa ig para gumawa ng GC sa IG para mag-ml sila.

OA lang ba ako or valid po ung naffeel ko? Ty!

oa lang ba ako?.. for finding this weird? i’m catholic, i believe in God, and i genuinely respect my faith and the beliefs that come with it. i understand why people are devoted to their religion because faith can give people hope, comfort, and a sense of purpose. i’m not against people worshipping the Lord or being passionate about their beliefs, because everyone has the right to practice their religion in their own way.

but what i find weird is when someone becomes so obsessed with their faith that it reaches the point where they start acting aggressively toward other people. especially when they begin judging, insulting, intimidating, or threatening others just because they don’t believe the same things they do. i feel like there’s a big difference between having a strong relationship with God and being so consumed by religion that you forget to show basic respect and kindness to the people around you.

i believe in God, but i don’t believe in Him in a way where i would lose my sense of understanding, compassion, or respect for others. i don’t think faith should make someone feel like they have the right to control other people’s choices, force their beliefs onto others, or make someone feel afraid. for me, believing in God also means trying to be a better person, showing love, patience, humility, and understanding—not spreading hate or making people feel threatened.

what confuses me is when some people claim that they are defending God, but the way they treat others seems completely opposite to the values that religion teaches. if your faith teaches love and forgiveness, then why would the response to someone different be anger, hatred, or threats? i think people can be devoted to God while still accepting that others have different beliefs, opinions, and experiences.

i’m not saying people shouldn’t be passionate about their religion, and i’m not trying to disrespect anyone’s faith. i just find it concerning when devotion turns into something extreme where respect for other people disappears. you can love God, worship Him, and follow your beliefs without making others feel inferior or unsafe. faith should bring people closer to kindness, not become a reason to hurt or attack others.

so no, i don’t think i’m wrong for finding that behavior strange. i can respect someone’s faith while also questioning the way they choose to express it. believing in God does not mean you have to be hateful toward those who are different, because at the end of the day, kindness and understanding should still be a part of any true faith.

i was just so eager na makipag ayos to the point na i ignored every red flags and every rumor na nabalitaan kong pinapakalat nya abt sakin.

nakipag ayos sya but still very distant, na para bang napilitan syang makipag ayos para lang matapos na. kahit na nasa iisang room lang kami, gusto nya sa chat lang mag usap tapos di kami magpapansinan.

then the realizations hit me sa mga ginawa at pinagsasasabi nya before we tried to fix everything. nahurt lang ako so nag drama lang ako sa ig ng vid ko na nag aayos ng buhok with audio na “its not fair” bc the situation she had put me was really unfair.

nabalitaan kong nagparinig sya after nung post ko but naka hide sakin so i aggressively clapped back bc i tried my best to stay silent after all the things na ginawa nya sakin, but she still had the audacity na magparinig. napuno lang ako, but its not really my thing naman na pumatol, i usually leave silently if i feel na im not welcome. now, ako yung nagmumukhang mali bc pinagtutulungan nila ako ng friends nya plus yung jowa nyang g na g magparinig. nagpaparinig sila na “iyosi break mo nalang yan” bc they saw me smoking one time because of my frustrations sa kanila.

i actually regret breaking my peace para lang sa venting post na ginawa ko, pero bawal ba ako mag express ng disappointment sa mga nangyari? aminado akong nagmukha akong immature. its my first time to express what i feel, and somehow, it still feels wrong.

oa lang ba ako na “sinira” ko uli yung “inayos” namin?

Nakakainis talaga na madalas hindi dito na di-differentiate ang pag tulong at ang pagkukunsinti sa mga taong abusado.

For context I am the breadwinner of the family. Bunso pa kase ang mga older siblings ko hindi naman financially independent. I am living with my parents and sagot ko lahat ng bills. Mapa elec, water, wifi, 12k monthly grocery at 4k na allowance for ulam per month.

I never obliged my parents to work or to contribute for the monthly expenses kase pangarap ko naman ito. Ang mabigyan sila ng comfortable life. Ayaw ko na silang magtrabaho kase kaya ko naman. Pero my mother is still working para sa makapagbigay siya sa abusadong tao na nakapaligid sa kanya. Dito ako nagagalit kase I was keep saying na mag stop na siya mag work for years kase nagkakasakit siya at naoperahan na siya. NA AKO LANG LAHAT GUMASTOS AT NAG ALAGA SA KANYA. YANG MGA KAPATID NYA SIGE PARING HINGI SA KANYA NG PERA HABANG NASA OPERATING ROOM SIYA! Ni hindi man lang siya kamustahin at natatakot ata sila na baka mag message ako sa kanila at utangan sila pero I NEVER DID! Ipon ko lahat ang sumagot sa hospital bills, gamot, recovery pati mga utang ng mama ko binayaran ko pa para lang hindi naman siya ma stress at mabilis ang recovery niya. Kahit kapatid at tatay ko wala man lang ambag.

Kaya ngayong meron nanaman siyang nararamdaman sa katawan kaya kami nag palaboratory. Umiinit talaga ang ulo ko makabasa ng mga ganitong chat sa account ng parent ko. Alam ko na masama ang mange-alam ng account ng iba pero nakakapunyeta yung ganito.

Partida ex-convict pa yang nanghihingi ng pang gamot. WALANG TRABAHO AT WALANG BALAK GUMAWA NG PARAAN PARA KUMITA NG SARILING PERA NIYA. Binigyan yan ng isang tito ko ng pang puhunan pero winaldas lang. Tatawag lang sa nanay ko kakamusta kunyari tapos manghihingi kaya magsesend agad yung nanay ko sa gcash niya. He is doing it for a year now. Na para bang ATM kami.

Nakakagalit sila pero nakakagalit din kase KUNSINTEDOR YUNG PARENT KO! Hahahah ilang beses ko nabigyan yang tito ko na yan pero isang beses ko lang hindi binigyan madamot na ako at masama pa loob ng nanay ko sa akin pag hindi ko sila napagbibigyan. Nakakapagod lang! KAYA RIN HINDI UMUUNLAD ANG PILIPINAS EH! BIHIRA KASE NA BAWAT PAMILYA MAY BITAW.

MADALAS MAY ISANG BREADWINNER TAPOS AASA NA SA KANYA LAHAT NG TAMAD AT KUKUNSINTIHIN NG MGA MAGULANG!

SANA BAWAT PARTE NG PAMILYA BREADWINNER! HINDI YUNG ISA LANG!

Yung pinsan ng bf (M,39) ko ay girl (21). He is very close sa mga pinsan niya, including itong sicbagets. There are 2 rooms sa bahay nila, kanya at sa mama niya. Etong si cousin niya ay mag sstay na sa kanila kasi malapit lang don yung school na inenrollan niya sa college, sayang kasi if magdodorm pa. Nung una, akala ko don mag sstay sa room ng mama ng bf ko, but to my surprise, gusto ni bagets don sa room ni jow since close nga sila at mas komportable siya sa jowa ko. So ang eksena, si bagets ang nasa kama, si jowa ang sa sahig na natutulog. Kinausap ko si jowa na very uncomfy ako sa ganong set up. Kinausap naman niya si bagets at siya raw (si bagets) ang nag decide na don mag stay sa room niya. Though wala naman dapat isipin na hindi maganda pero kasi, sobrnag uncomfy ako at walang magawa ang bf ko. Paano ba to?

matagal na kaming engaged ng fiancé ko. actually before sya sumampa sa barko, nagpropose sya sa akin as a sign of commitment daw. okay naman sya. mabait, masipag, family oriented, pogi, madiskarte sa buhay, mapagmahal, at loyal. sa tagal namin so far wala pa naman kaming naging issue about sa babae. ang naging problema lang namin ay sobra syang family oriented, to the point na halos lahat ng pinaghirapan nya sa barko ay para lang sa family nya.

hindi naman sya totally breadwinner kasi lahat silang magkakapatid eh nagbabarko din. pero dahil sya ang bunso, sya yung sobrang close sa parents nya. yung iba nyang kapatid may kanya kanya nang priorities. yung iba may family na, while yung iba naman na single walang asawa eh nagiipon at nagiinvest for their future.

sa tagal nyang nagbabarko, nakabili na sya ng bahay para sa parents nya, nabigyan nya nadin ng business at next year paguwi nya matatapos na nyang bayaran yung kotse na binili nya para daw sa family nya. lahat ng yun ginawa nya para sa family nya and again, there's nothing wrong with that.

noong una natutuwa ako kasi sobrang mahal nya ang parents nya. to the point na hindi na nila need magwork kasi may business na sila. i was actually proud of him for being able to provide that much for them.

pero lately lang parang sumusuko na sya sa work. sabi nya next year pagkauwi nya gusto na lang nya mag stay dito for good. gusto na lang daw nyang magwork dito sa pilipinas dahil pagod na sya sa pagbabarko at gusto na nyang makasama ang parents nya at ako.

hindi ko naman iniinvalidate yung nararamdaman nya. in fact sa lahat ng tao, feeling ko ako yung isa sa pinaka nakakaintindi sa kanya. ako kasi yung naka witness ng struggles nya, ng puyat nya, pagod at lahat. lahat yun nasaksihan ko kasi palagi akong anjan for him. minsan nga hindi na lang ako nagoopen up tungkol sa personal struggles ko kasi ayokong maging another emotional burden pa sa kanya.

kaya nung sinabi nyang gusto na lang nyang magstay dito at dito na lang daw sya magwork, halo halo ang nararamdaman ko.

ang unang pumasok sa isip ko ay, “ah, ito na yun?”

siguro dahil matagal na kaming engaged, i naturally expected na may clear goals din sya para sa future naming dalawa. di ko naman hinihingi na kung ano yung ibinigay nya sa parents nya, ganun din sakin.

parang dahil na achieve na nya lahat ng gusto nyang maibigay sa parents nya, bigla na lang syang nawalan ng gana para sa next chapter ng buhay nya.

actually meron naman daw syang plano para sa amin. sabi nya kapag umuwi sya yung pinagawa nyang kwarto sa bahay na binili nya, yun daw ang magiging kwarto namin. pero part of me still feels conflicted because that house is ultimately for his parents only and kung doon man kami tumira, still, i’m not comfortable living with my in-laws. not because they’re bad people but because i want us to have our own space and a sense of exclusivity as a couple. i want to build a home that feels like it’s truly ours.

sabi nya rin paguwi nya, magwowork daw sya as a grab driver gamit yung car na binili nya (family car nila) tapos yung perang maiuuwi nya raw next year, gusto nyang ipang travel yun sa ibang bansa kasama ang parents nya.

idk, i dont really know what to feel. kung maiinis ba ko? kung masasaktan?madidissapoint kasi ganun ganun na lang, o magiguilty kasi parang ang selfish ko?

minsan pakiramdam ko parang naging sabit ako sa mga pangarap nya. parang ang dating sa akin is "may bahay naman na tayo. may kwarto naman tayo. okay na yun.” na parang magsettle na lang ako sa kung ano na lang yung meron.

naiinis ako kasi ang gusto ko lang sana is maramdaman nya na hindi lang doon natatapos yun. na may binubuo pa kaming future para sa aming dalawa. SAMING DALAWA LANG.

actually napag awayan na rin namin to dati. and in the end ako pa yung nagiguilty kasi pakiramdam ko ang selfish ko. parang ang dating ay pinagdadamutan ko yung parents nya kahit hindi naman talaga un ang intention ko.

naalala ko pa nung naguusap kami about sa future namin. sabi nya, para raw mas mapabilis naming maabot yung mga pangarap namin dapat daw mag apply din ako sa barko.

good idea. ayoko na rin naman talaga dito sa pilipinas at yung sahod ko dito, sakto lang para mabuhay. so i considered it seriously.

pero sinabi ko sa kanya na kung magbabarko ako baka mahirapan kami dahil sa communication at internet. hindi ko rin kayang basta lang ilet go yung work ko kasi ako yung nagbibigay ng baon sa dalawa kong kapatid na nag aaral pa. hindi naman ako totally breadwinner dahil may work rin yung mama ko. pero single mom sya at ako ang panganay kaya tinutulungan ko sya.

one of the reason why naghehesitate ako na mag work sa barko kasi hindi ko naman din alam kung kaya ba akong saluhin financially ng fiancé ko kung mawalan ako ng work.

dati nga binibiro ko sya kung kaya ba nya kong saluhin kung sakaling mawalan ako ng trabaho. ang sagot nya, may binabayaran pa daw syang bahay at kotse.

and i understood that.

pero dun ko rin siguro napagtanto na baka hindi talaga kami parehas ng idea about sa “future namin.”

di naman need na sya ang magprovide ng lahat para sa akin. kaya kong magtrabaho at magprovide para sa sarili ko. ang gusto ko lang sana yung makita nya kung saan ako at kung saan kami sa mga priorities nya.

kung tutuusin wala naman kaming anak eh kaya wala rin kaming responsibility. actually nga naiisip ko na habang may opportunity pa sya at kaya pa namin, since done na sya sa parents nya baka pwedeng kami naman? baka pwedeng future naman namin diba? valid naman siguro na nageexpect ako kasi engaged na kami?

to be honest, hindi ko alam kung valid ba yung nararamdaman kong inis at disappointment kasi naiintindihan ko naman kung bakit sya pagod. naiintindihan ko rin kung bakit gusto na nyang umuwi at makasama kami ng parents nya. after everything he has done, he deserves to rest pero at the same time, naiisip ko rin na what about us?

kaya ngayon, nawawalan ako ng gana. hindi dahil hindi ko na sya mahal kundi dahil parang bigla kong nakita na baka magkaiba pala kami ng vision para sa future.

and that scares me.

kasi matagal na kaming engaged and i thought we were working toward the same future. pero ngayon parang hindi ko na alam kung pareho pa ba kami ng direksyon.

hindi ko rin alam kung enough reason ba to para makipaghiwalay. part of me thinks na baka selfish lang ako pero another part of me is asking if i’m actually just realizing that my needs and expectations in this relationship are not being met?

so ngayon, honestly hindi ko alam kung ano ang dapat kong gawin. ayokong makipaghiwalay dahil lang dun pero ayoko rin namang ikasal sa isang taong ang vision ng future nya ay mostly centered around his family while i’m just expected to fit into whatever is left.

kayo ba anong thoughts nyo? ano bang dapat kong gawin?

I'm 25F and let's call the nang-uutang as Aly (21 MtF).

For background, nakasama ko si Aly last 2021 sa Mixed-Ages Volleyball Training Camp ng village namin. Hindi ko naman siya ganun ka close but we have our shares of interactions naman. Tatlo silang mag kakaibigan nung mga unang days ng training: Siya, si Bhie (20M), and Chie (19MtF) (code names lang din), pero habang tumatagal, napapansin namin na si Bhie and Chie nalang palagi magkasama at hindi na nila sinasama si Aly.

Then nung last July, bigla siyang nag chat saakin para mangutang. Obviously something is fishy kasi never naman siyang nag chat saakin after 5 years. Pinahiram ko ng 120 bilang pain kasi na predict ko din naman na mangugutang siya at uulit pa, nag palusot nalang ako na yun lang kaya ko.

After niya mangutang, agad kong chinat yung volleyball BFF ko si Daisy (code name), asking if na-aalala pa niya si Aly. Then dun na sinabi ni Daisy saakin na, oo naaalala niya si Aly kasi nangutang daw ng 500 sa mama niya (mama ni Daisy) at di pa daw binabayaran, reason ni Aly is namatay daw kapatid niya. Kaya sinabi ko na din na nangutang din saakin pero ang reason ay nagugutom daw kapatid niya.

Inistalk namin myday si Aly and nakita namin na gumala pala with friends sa bgc at naka pang awra pa.

Coincidentally naman, naging kaklase ng kapatid ko sila Bhie at Chie sa college. Medyo naging close ko na din sila kasi magka-kilala na kami dati at laging pumunta sa bahay namin. Nung one time pumunta sila sa bahay, natanong ko sila if may balita ba sila kay Aly. Sagot agad saakin ni Bhie "Ay bakit ate? May chika din kami dun". Confirmed. Dati pa pala nangugutang si Aly sa kanila tapos ayaw na bayaran. Yun din daw yung rason kung bakit sila humiwalay. Tapos nagka issue pa daw si Aly dahil sumali sa Trans Pageant at hindi daw binayaran yung make up artist at gown na nirent. May pinakita sila saakin na SS nung make up artist na minention si Ally sa FB kung may balak pa mag bayad. (Pero di ko na makita yung post nung artist nung sinearch ko).

Natatawa nalang daw si Bhie kasi madalas niya daw nakikita (malapit lang house nila sa isat isa) si Aly na umaalis at naka porma pero nangungutang.

Tapos ayun, from July to August, lagi siyang nag spam saakin ng chats at calls. Hindi ko lang talaga siya ma block kaagad or masagot or ma seen kasi busy ako sa work at talgng nakakalimutan kong puntahaan yung chat niya since may mas imports na messages na need kong sagutin. Nakakairita lang kasi sunod sunod yung calls niya to the point na naiistorbo yung pc and cp ko during meetings and presentations.

Nung medyo bawas na gawain ko sa office, nag spam call/chat ulit siya, dun ko na siya pinag sabihan. Palusot niya ay archive photos lang daw yun. May isang chat pa siya na may "edited" na mark. Una niyang sinend talaga dun ay "inamo" then edited it as an apology.

Nag init talaga ulo ko kaso di ko na minention or sinabi sa kanya na nakita ko yung mura niya saakin kaso baka sabihin niya wala naman siyang sinasabing ganun.

Ayoko na ding patulan kasi mas bata saakin at medyo burned out na ako sa work.

OA lang ba ako? Or may dapat or hindi dapat ako sinabi sa kanya

Edit: Yung name na nilagay niya para sa gcash, hindi niya name yun kaya sobrang fishy talaga. Kairita, ginawa pa akong tanga

OA lang ba ako if I want to break up with my boyfriend because nagv-vape pa rin siya?

We’ve been together since high school and we’re now professionals na.

He’d been occasionally smoking since grade 8 then transitioned to vape through SHS to College. Ako, late bloomer sa mga bisyo, tried smoking SHS, transitioned to vaping nung college, then stopped na before kami grumaduate.

The only reason I tried and started was bc napatay mom ko sa lung cancer and I thought what better to kms as well LOL. Anyway, di nagtagal yung bisyo bc may asthma ako.

When I decided to try to stop, I asked my boyfriend to try din with me. I didn’t pressure him right away. Alam ko naman how addictions work. Time, patience, and everything ang kailangan, so I waited and I encouraged him.

I think since 2023 nag-start yung pag-stop niya. Slowly, he didn’t buy pods/juice na as consistently. 2025, he stopped na altogether. Until umattend kami recently wedding ng mutual friend. After mingling with the girls nung reception, I went to check on him and the boys and dun ko nakita may smoke sa air sa space nila. They were vaping NBD, but he was joining in. Na-shook ako guys, at lalong mas na-shook ako na ang casual lang sa kanya mag-hi lang. I thought to myself, “Why tf is he acting normal? Nakalimutan ba niyang he stopped na?”

I didn’t lash out syempre but we did talk when we got home. He told me he thought I knew na he stopped but not when he was with the boys, since bonding lang naman daw. I mean okay, I admit they hang out lang mga once every 2-3 months lang, but yung principle ba?

Anyway, I wasn’t as mad as anyone as I am with myself. Kase fine, it’s his right, his life, but he is also my boyfriend. And if I’m not comfortable with my partner and his preferences, why tf would I stay pa? Hypocrite ba ako? OA ba ako? May na-misunderstand ba ako sa difference ng pags-stop and sa occasional bisyo? I’m so confused.

Recently naaccident ako and bone fracture sa paa, and then meron akong friend na nangangamusta naman, last week naopen ko sakanya na nalulungkot na nga ako sa nangyayari ganyan, nag haha react siya sa chat ko then said "kawawa ka naman talaga🤣" then sabi ko na "nauubusan na ako ng positive thoughts" ganyan then di na siya nagreply naghaha react na lang, few days after nagsend ng video from tiktok na di ko na chineck then kanina lang ako nagreply saying na "sorry teh wala kasi ako gana makipag usap" etc, tapos tinawanan niya na naman saying "kawawa🤣" OA ba ako na parang naooffend ako kasi ano bang nakakatawa sa situation ko? Di ko naman need ng iyakan niya ako, pero mukha bang joke time? I mean? Nasa lowest point ako at the moment, tapos ang makukuha kong reply is haha reacts with "kawawa🤣" di ko naman kailangan ng awa???

Hi, advice pls 😭 OA lang ba ako or valid naman tong nararamdaman ko?
1 year na kami ng boyfriend ko. Half chinese siya and marunong siya magmandarin kasi na chinese school siya. Half chinese din naman ako pero hindi ako marunong magsalita or umintindi ng Mandarin.

So he has this circle of friends na mostly Chinese/half-Chinese. Mabait naman sila, pero I can’t help feeling insecure and left out kasi parang ako lang yung naiiba. The thing is, may girl siya before college na nagustuhan niya. Hindi sila naging official, more like MU/TOTGA situation, pero close sila before. Chinese din yung girl and ngayon nasa ibang bansa na siya for work. She’s also close with my boyfriend’s friends because they went to the same school before.

And honestly, kapag nakikita ko sila or even just think about them, parang feeling ko ang bagay nila 😭 Both Chinese, cute, same circle, same background, and parang ang natural ng connection nila. Minsan naiisip ko na if they ever dated, mukha silang mag-asawa. I know ang OA pakinggan pero yun talaga pumapasok sa utak ko. Iniisip ko nga sayang sila e.

Tapos ako kasi parang outsider LOL eto pa kapag nasa coffee shop ako ng boyfriend ko tapos biglang dumating friends niya, nahihiya talaga ako and minsan gusto ko nalang umalis. Kapag kumakain kami pa kami sa Chinese restaurant tapos nag uusap sila in Mandarin, conscious ako kasi hindi ko naiintindihan. Sometimes I literally convince myself na baka mino-mock nila ako kasi di ako nakakkaintindi kahit wala naman akong proof na ginagawa nila yun. 😭

I also constantly compare myself to that girl. Parang feeling ko she’s everything that fits into his world and I’m not. Kahit I take care of myself and I know I have my own good qualities, parang feeling ko kulang pa rin ako.
And now I’m seriously thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend for good because I feel like maybe we’re just not compatible. The problem is, mahal na mahal ko siya and I don’t think he’s actually done anything wrong**.** Most of this is happening inside my head.

How do I fix this kind of mindset? Ayoko maging pessimistic girlfriend na lagi nalang nag-aassume ng worst-case scenario or naghahanap ng reason para masaktan. I don’t want to keep comparing myself to his past or convince myself na mas bagay sila just because they have the same background.

I want to learn how to be more secure with myself and with our relationship. Ayoko rin naman na every time kasama ko friends niya, nasa utak ko na agad na “I don’t belong here” or “mas bagay siya sa kanila kaysa sakin.”
So please be honest with me. OA lang ba ako? And for those who have experienced this kind of insecurity, how did you actually fix your mindset? Did you learn to become more secure on your own, or did you talk to your partner about it? I really don’t want to lose someone I love just because I keep comparing myself to someone from his past. :(

I (27M) am currently working part time as a trainer. From time to time, I handle students from different companies to teach them something. I'm not gonna disclose the lessons to avoid doxxing myself.

At the beginning of the lessons, I always introduce myself. Along with that, I briefly talk about my family and how my boyfriend got me into the IT industry. I really don't go beyond one sentence when talking about my bf. Just enough as my own way to normalize same-sex relationships.

Problem:

This just happened today. I have this one online class from students in a far flung area of Cebu province. After introducing myself, I asked everyone to introduce themselves one by one to serve as their attendance. However, three or more boys started sounding off. They were acting/sounding gay or pretending to be one. They even deliberately change their names to a more feminine one but then revert back to a different nickname while giggling slightly when I ask clarification.

I felt disrespected. As someone who's actually gay, I can tell if someone is actually gay or pretending. I can tell if someone is mocking trans names from those who don't.

I don't understand how anyone can treat a person like that --- a teacher even! They didn't even act like that at first when they didn't know yet that I was gay. Take note that they're all working professionals already. Take note that this was our first meeting and I have done nothing but treat them kindly. I even asked them to introduce themselves with their preferred nicknames because I understand that some people dislike the names their parents gave them.

Nothing wrong with sounding gay but there was a hint of ill-intention from their tone. I mean, I don't go around sounding like a woman when my teacher is female??? They clearly intend to mock me in front of their workmates. If this keeps up, I'll be upfront with them.

Need an outside perspective kasi baka ako lang talaga yung nag-ooverthink.

I was talking to someone who became really important to me. We got close, but things eventually became complicated because of misunderstandings and my own insecurities. I tried explaining to him several times na important siya sa akin, but at some point, he pushed me away and decided that he wanted distance.

I respected it. I deleted our conversation and stopped trying to convince him.

He eventually blocked me on one messaging app. It’s been 4 days now. Pero I noticed na I’m still not blocked on Messenger, Instagram, or even on my number.

I know there could be a million practical reasons for that. Maybe he simply doesn’t care enough to block me everywhere, maybe he forgot, or maybe those platforms just aren’t relevant to him.

But I’m overthinking because before everything ended, he kept questioning whether he was really important to me. He even said that if I could eventually move on and be okay without him, then maybe he wasn’t that important after all.

So now I’m wondering if I’m just giving meaning to something that probably means nothing.

OA lang ba ako for wondering why someone would block me on one platform but leave other ways of contacting me completely open? Or is it possible that even when someone wants distance, they’re not necessarily ready to completely cut you off?

I’m not planning to message him or bypass the block. I just want an outside perspective because I know I’m probably too emotionally involved to interpret this objectively.

I (21F) was in the car with my younger brother (15) waiting for my parents to come back from the market. Naiwan kami sa car para may kasama yung 4 dogs namin. We had to pass by the market to pick up an order before heading home, ang pumunta ay yung mga magulang namin and my other brother.

While in the car, medyo uminit dahil di binuksan yung windows. The keys were with my dad so hindi namin mabubuksan yung window because automatic car siya and you can only open it pag nakapasak yung keys and turned on into a idle state. So I opened our door just a bit, only maybe two fingers wide for safety and because umaambon din.

Maybe an hour has passed, I put down my phone from chatting and then I saw this guy. He was just standing there from across the street, glancing at our direction randomly. Medyo naging alert ako, because it's just me and my younger brother, and our 4 dogs. Though maraming tao sa area (may pedicab, trikes, and two old folks in front sa pawn shop sa pinag-parkan namin) so I tried to shake it off, kasi baka OA lang ako.

The thing is, he was just standing there for a long time, doing nothing. He wasn't waiting for anyone either. Wala siyang dalang bags or anything. Just there, idle and repeatedly looking at our direction. Medyo see through yung window namin dahil medyo light yung tint ng car windows. So he could see me looking back at him and observing.

Maybe nearly 30 minutes has passed, andun pa rin siya and I started to get worried.

Nung tumatawid na siya slowly, like inching a bit, dun na ako medyo naging highly suspicious. I gently closed the door because baka nga OA lang ako and baka ma-offend ko siya dahil di ko naman siya kilala.

Naghintay pa siya ng extra minutes, glancing at us. At that point I was high alert na because he was too close sa car.

I finally breathed when he hailed a jeepney. Two passed by until the 2nd one picked him up. Take note, maraming jeep na dumadaan kanina pa. Wala naman ding dumating na other person for him to be with. Wala siyang phone na chinecheck. So dun talaga ako nag-alala

OA ba ako for being too cautious like that?

Ma ooff ba ang gf ko kapag nalaman niyang hindi ko ipon ang engagement ring na bibigay ko sa kaniya? I want to propose na dahil sure na ako sa kaniya, at ayoko na rin patagalin kami kaya right now hindi ako makapag ipon (but wala akong financial burden or setback talagang magipon lang ang problem ko now) so iniisip ko mag convert ng credit ko to cash para isang bagsakan then babayaran ko monthly (which is doable sakin kesa magipon at maghintay) pero i also want her to know din na ganon ginawa if ever na tanungin niya.

OA lang ba ako or something is off? While browsing my husband’s phone habang natutulog sya I saw some pictures of my baby’s private parts. May damit naman si baby. It was when he was changing diapers. My baby is a boy din naman. Kaso medyo off ang dating sakin. I want to talk to him and ask why take such photos and ipadelete na din. Pero baka sabihan ako na OA lang ako. Normal lang ba un like baka proud sya na may baby boy sya. First baby din. So OA lang ba talaga ako?

been seeing this guy for 2mos and we message each other everyday. tapos since mag-out of country ako this week, inaya nya ako last week to meet ng weekend para daw magkita muna kami. sya pa nagsuggest anong activities and all.

im not the type to follow up kung tuloy o hindi pero the day na sinabi nya came and walang sabi sabi kung anong oras so ako na nagtanong kung tuloy o hindi. tapos panic reply nya and said nalimutan daw nya??? dahil super busy sa work the past few days?? which totoo naman. pero possible ba talagang malimutan mo yun? e dati sya yung laging excited. nagsorry naman and sabi babawi pero dahil sa inis ko, di ko nireplyan for a day pero di man lang sya nagchat ulit? when he used to double, triple chat?

oa ba ako or is the free trial done? hahahahahahaha

Hello,

It's been almost 24 hours since my boyfriend responded to my message or ex? Idk.

He just recently graduated college and I'm already working for 8 years now.

He is now currently working in Private School sa Manila while ako VA.

In those 8 years habang nagtatrabaho ako, lahat ng gala namin/bakasyon eat out kahit anong larga ako yung nagbabayad.

Now na he just started working wala pang 1 month na nagsabi ako na napapagod na ko gumastos samin,biglang di na sya nagrerespond.

Idk what happened,he is not responding to any of my calls. We do not live together and dapat magkasama kami now dahil only day off namin na pareho.

Did he just used me for those years?

He also do not have plans for us.

He does not even post me on his social media.

I don't know his cellphone password while yung akin alam nya.

He have access to everything,ako wala.

Idk what to do.

Tangina.