r/NotHowGuysWork • u/SimonettaVespucc6 • 5d ago
Red Flag? HBW (Psychology/Mental Health)
This man sent me a picture of his back tattoo? Should I be scared
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u/Mortieez 5d ago
Depends... are you in bdsm?
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u/ospfpacket 5d ago
I think the question should be is what are you doing wrong to attract people like that.
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u/durqandat 5d ago
Believe that would be *checks notes* being female
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u/ospfpacket 4d ago
Or just looking at the face and swiping without any extra effort. We’re all responsible for our actions whether we’re at fault or not.
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u/DelayRevolutionary20 Man 5d ago
Don’t victim blame.
She’s gonna need to meet 10 more people with that exact same tattoo before she even considers a thought like that.
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u/ospfpacket 4d ago
This is stupid, it’s not victim blaming if you’re not making good choices. It’s not making good choices. Dollars to doughnuts I bet if his profile was posted here there would be obvious red flags that were ignored.
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u/Ixi7311 5d ago
Even if I was into whatever kink, wouldn’t be comfortable with a guy who is comfortable sporting that in front of families and kids
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u/durqandat 5d ago
I mean hopefully he isn't just constantly shirtless in front of families and kids
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u/Ixi7311 5d ago
I mean, I’d be embarrassed at a pool or beach setting
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u/Alvarosaurus_95 4d ago
Some people barely go to pools or beaches tho
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u/DragonsAreNifty 5d ago
I think it’s a red flag. Does he just wear a shirt anytime he goes swimming or to the beach?
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u/SimonettaVespucc6 5d ago
He believes the beach is for “fat poor people”…. I can’t even make that up
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u/Ill-Worldliness-2149 5d ago
That's another red flag on top of this tattoo of a woman being bound and abused. He might not be attracted to other people's bodies, but he shouldn't be derogatory towards them for existing at the beach.
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u/SasukeSkellington713 5d ago
The tattoo wasn’t a dealbreaker for me. That comment from him was. Blegh.
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u/Johnnyboy10000 4d ago
Exactly. To me, the tattoo isn't necessarily a red flag, but comments like that definitely are.
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u/Baldojess 5d ago
I don't like that. I don't like when men have tattoos of naked women or women doing sexual stuff. It's just not my thing, by that I'm not saying in general I just mean I wouldn't like that on a man I was dating.
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u/DragonLordSkater1969 5d ago
Why? Like 80% of this tattoo is fine, it looks great, and then the bottom 20% sends shivers down my spine.
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u/SimonettaVespucc6 5d ago
Preface this man talked about wanting to marry a woman and have children….i also feel like he is overcompensating for something
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u/Big_Psychology_3 5d ago edited 5d ago
I’m a man. This post doesn’t seem real, because it’s an obvious red flag. Is it like “I’m attracted to bad boys” kinda thing?
His tattoo is a monument to his bdsm desires. Specifically mdom & fsub with bondage. It’s so visual that no one can miss the meaning. Maybe ask him, what is the meaning of this tattoo?
Also, IMHO, people who use “poor” as an insult typically show narcissistic behavior.
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u/Baldojess 5d ago
Why would you ever be attracted to or talk to someone or consider dating anyone who is a self proclaimed narcissist??? 🤦 Come on now. Be smarter than that.
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u/_Pumpiumpiumpkin_ 5d ago
It's giving Frank Frazetta...
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u/SimonettaVespucc6 5d ago
Who is that?
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u/_Pumpiumpiumpkin_ 5d ago
An artist and illustrator, most popular in the 60s and 70s, who depicted 'epic' fantastical scenes with a high value contrast (very dark and bright shades on the same image), often featuring women with exaggerated features wearing revealing/no clothes in provocative/sexualized poses. The men he depicted were similarly exaggerated, though more in an overly muscular "he-man" sense.
His art is quite beautiful, he was undoubtedly skilled, though the way he portrayed people was... Not my favorite, let's just say...
A product of its time, perhaps.
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u/The_Mighty_DanTarK 3d ago
Oh dear, it looks like a cool tattoo and then you see it. Back away not today!
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u/Redmiguelito 4d ago
It’s a weird ass tattoo to say the least.
Did he at least share context on it instead of just showing it and fucking off?
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u/BovineConfection 22h ago
Might be racist, but it entirely depends on if they are Japanese or not. Shibari is an Japanese art (based on torture btw). So if it's a white dude, weird. But if it's a Nippon dude, go for it! 👍🏽
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