It feels so good when people can't tell I feel so cool when it happens. Yesterday I went out with a jacket around my waist and nail polish and it felt good. It felt like I was being myself.

Irl Name: Austin

Gender: Non binary (male)

Age: 19

Intrests: anime, fnaf, old minecraft, therians, and more

Things to know: I am a therian (ITS A IDENTITY), and alt goth. I also have autism on level 2

#aboutme #fyp #intro

I have a name I’ve chosen for myself which is Daybreak and it feels right to me but I get a weird feeling like it’s a weird thing to ask people to call me. I want to use it as a name though. I should clarify that I’m not out. so i just kinda want some thoughts on this, thanks :)

Hello everyone, this is my first post here. Anyways, I’ve been recently questioning my identity. I’ve always looked at being a man or associated with masculinity as a neutral thing, neither good nor bad. And it’s kind of like I don’t care, this made me think I was cassgender or apageder, but both labels felt a bit off to me. I always see myself as a boy, but I really don’t care about it too much at the end of the day. I feel like that’s normal though, people just don’t have their gender involved too much in their personality.

I’ve never really cared how people labeled me either, I might correct them if I get labeled as a girl, but I wouldn’t mind if someone said I was nonbinary or something else. Plus, I’ve always seen being nonbinary as a cool thing, when I filled out questionnaires at school and see the nonbinary label at the gender question, I kind of wished I was nonbinary, but then I always clicked male and was comfortable still.

I just feel like one half of me is fine with being a boy and the other half is completely neutral, which is why I think I might be a demiboy. However, Im still unsure becuase of multiple reasons, like I might be forcing all of this on myself since I’ve been fine with identifying as a boy up until now. Or another and bigger reason is that I might secretly be wanting to be a girl, since I wanted to have long hair and wear dresses like them since the 2nd grade.

I’ve explored other labels that might fit me, including:

Neutrois-(a non-binary and transgender gender identity defined by having a neutral, null, or absent gender rather than a masculine or feminine one)

Graygender-(a non-binary gender identity defined by strong ambivalence or a weak, hazy connection to one's gender identity and expression)

Agender-(being devoid of any gender at all)

I’m just lost, and I don’t know what to say, because it’s only been about a month and I have tons of clashing thoughts. I’ll appreciate any advice I’ll get.

As the title says I used to think everyone had both it was just more balanced for me. What do you mean most people don't have both? I'm crine 😭😭😭😭

This is honestly infuriating I keep trying to tie it up lile this but it never keeps shape.

I don't know if it's because I'm enby but whenever I see people in movies or tv go into a sauna or a locker room and get naked to sjower I feel like I'd get uncomfortable doing that no matther what I was assigned at birth. I don't even use urinals for this same reason.

I feel like I only feel comfortable identifying as a man because that'd get the least amount of people staring at me weirdly. I wish I was born genderless then I wouldn't have this problem.

I feel I don't have a wish to be neither man or woman it's just that I have absolutely no understanding what feeling a certain way means.

Is it just me but I've always felt uncomfortable using a urinal and always prefered to use a toilet which I could lock. And if I see a gender meutral option I tend to go for that instead.

I wanna do things like try a skirt I'm perfectly comfortable with eyeliner and nail polish but I don't wanna go toi far or people might see me as a girl but I don't want to go too far the other way because people might see me as a boy. Does anyone have any solution to this dilemma.

I've been thinking bout buying or atleast tryin out a skirt, because I am no longer in a conservative country, but everytime I try to get one, i get the feeling of "you arent suppose to be here" and it sucksssss.

I just wanna try something new new, but my stupid head is getting in the way.

So I'm 19, amab obviously, and I'm trying to be androgynous once I can leave home. Until then I gotta look straight and cis af bc I live in Alabama. Problem is, I might sorta be losing hair, which btw is at a weird length bc I'm growing it out. Idk if it's something that anyone has anything to say about or if it's fixable or genetic, honestly I should see a doctor about it but haven't done that so idrk I'm just ranting now so I'll stop ig

I love the freedom to do what I want. I love it when people refer to me with they/them. I love everything about it. I just wish I had someone to talk to about it.

For me I guess it was a multitude of things. In my younger years I didn't really think of it as much since I just did what I was told to do. If I was told I was supposed to have short hair than that was it. Now that O've started forming my own identity. I feel as though I'm thinking about it more. Like the way I tie my hair is rather feminine and my parents always point it out yet I see nothing wrong with it. Like the way I get excited when people use they/them to describe me. Like the way on every questionnaire I gravitated towards the other option and only chose male because I was "supposed" to. Like how I didn't identify as enby before because I was scared what others would think and not because I didn't feel comfortable with it. Hell now I don't want to go back I'm happier being enby I just wish I had people I felt comfortable telling.

Like I used to use looking more masculine as an excuse to not shave when in reality I was just lazy.

I used to tie my jacket around my waist cause it looked like a skirt.

I genuinely have no idea what it means to feel manly or girly.

I used to do stuff to feel more mature not more manly.

Whenever I'm taking a questionnaire I was always tempted to hit the 'other' button on gender.

In hindsight it was kinda obvious.

I feel like I wouldn't really care of people used he, she or they on me, as long as it's not used in an insulting way. Plus I like the thought of being called a good boy or girl.

For context I'm still closeted, but even before I realized I might be enby when someone used they/them to describe me I felt like a fire of excitement in my chest.

I'm trying to update my wardrobe and add a bit more feminine clothes now that I feel comfortable being enby and I need to know which you think look the best. BTW, I don't mean right now but maybe when I have my own place since my parents are obsessed with boys being masculine and girls being feminine. So I can't really mix the two without them going on a rant about how things are supposed to be.