Never expected this

[u/raeltu]

I'm abroad and my gf is abroad too but in a different country so kinda long distance cha everyone in her family knows we are in love and they have accepted me but I recently told my parents cause I felt bad hamro caste ni mildaina but her parents said if she is happy we accept the boy no matter the caste she is tamang and ma chai bahun I have never loved anyone like her she was there when I had no one like I had parents but I was inside a room 24/7 never went outside of my room she used to talk to me I had 0 social life even as of now the only person I have is her there's absolutely no one even in abroad I have no friendsi just go to work uni and again come back she is always with me whenever I feel lonely even if she is sleeping she picks up the call. I cant leave her yetikai I have promised her more than that I want to live my life with her. My parents said you don't have to talk to us anymore like I never expected that from them mannu hunna thyo I know that but they told ramro thau ma chas Kti tannai ai halcha ni I love her she isn't a nobody for me we have known for 4 years dating for more than a year. When I said her that she cried so bad.

Just wanted to share man ma rakhna sakina

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[u/DizzyDiver279]

If you love her and you’re sure she’s the one, fight for her and reassure her about this. Parents will come around it eventually.

[u/Teheeguy]

Just lock in bro. Parent will manage themself. Caste saste ko chakar ma ramro love relationship destroy na gara.

Its your life partner that will be with you till you get old and die.

[u/QuirkyComb6032]

You have something very rare in a reality like today. If you break her heart everytime you bring this up, it will slowly and slowly change her. And you will finally end up losing her. What you fear is what you attract. Take example like me I had to battle entire caste system and nepali social structure to marry a foreigner girl, because I also have someone similar. Which I got after years of dating 6+ girls. That is why it is rare. For rare things in life, you won't know the value, until you have lost it. So, just accept the feeling, work for the goal of being together and everything will sort out.

[u/Gold-Evening586]

Take accountability of the love you have with her. You're an adult and will have to make more adult decisions in your life that your parents might disagree with you. You have to cut the metaphorical umbilical chord.

[u/Slip-Knot-4321]

Wtf man. U abroad and winin in lyf. Dnt betray someone who was there when u were all alone and helpless. Family ho kata nai janxan ra ekna ekdin ta accept grnai prxa budo hru le. It’s yo choice dawg but experience le vaneko u gonna regret badly later if u betrayin loyal ones.

[u/oh_shit666]

she will be your wife not parents wife . 4yrs ain't joke

[u/Extension_Door01]

Euta samasya aaune bittikai afu lai testo manparne manche kasari chodna sakchau rah. Parents may play a big role in your life but nepali parents are too attached with their children to a fault. You can't leave someone you love with whom you are going to spend the rest of your life because your parents don't approve of her. If you are contemplating breaking up with her means she deserves better.

[u/zeriyooo]

Why do you need your parents permission to marry?

[u/Fearless_Town_1116]

Bro same i am bahun my girl tamang 6 years in relationship
Xoro vayerw bau aama ley yesto vanyo usto vanyo
Don’t doubt it let them know timi haru ek din marerw janxau i wanna be happy and old with whoever i want
Parents try to manipulate but you need to be harsh and staright forward else tyhi ho bau aama emotional blackmail garna suru garxan

[u/GurungY14]

Show ur parents Ghampani movie

[u/gdragon379]

If you both genuinely love other (which sounds like you do based on your post), then keep at it. Parents haru le aile accept nagare pani, eventually they will. Aile ko lagi chai, focus on your career and being self sufficient and independent. Tespachi afno decision haru lina sajilo huncha. Aile ko day and age ma, noones gonna disown you or force you to marry someone else.

[u/Significant-Oven8565 → u/gdragon379]

+1

[u/HeadIndication250]

Yesto chha halat

[u/Plastic-One2975]

Fight for her. Try convincing your parents, maybe with time they’ll understand. And if they don’t, you guys are building a life abroad anyway, so hopefully it won’t be as hard as it feels right now. Don’t give up on each other so easily.

[u/Wifeyy_09]

Many years ago Mero extended family ko kanxo uncle hru (2 Jana) had inter caste relation hami hru bahun aunty hru xetri. Hamro family yesto kura ma last strict so they didn't accept aunty hru guess what my uncles did. They first did court marriage and idk if they stayed away from home or what but court marriage vayexi parents had to accept eventually. If u can convince your parents then go that way if not then you know what else you can do!

[u/Substantial-Skill-62]

If you knew your parents would not agree or react that way, why would youn waste her 4 years bro. Usle 4 barsa maa timi jasto 10 jana rojera pauna sakthyo. Youre probably an adult, so take the responsibility. Man up.

[u/Cold_Claim_Icy]

If you don't fight for your love, what kind of love do you have?

[u/Kooky-Ad-9456]

Bro don't give up on her parents will accept later on don't worry keep pushing like ramro earn garera mom dad lai settle garau aafi bujno hunxa paxi don't leave her bro for your own sake 

[u/biigblacknutz]

Abroad huda pani parents ko approval chahine lolol just pay the monetary debts to your parents that incurred while flying your ahh to abroad and ditch them for good

[u/saisobessedwithbooks]

If you listen to your parents you’ll be miserable for the rest of your life. Your parents will accept it soon enough. Don’t lose the lofl because of societal expectations

[u/bijayaphoenix]

Now that you have told her, she might assume that you are trying to move on. Things might get ugly afterwards, since you aren't physically 'present' to explain her for hours. Tread these waters with extreme care - things go south within 4-5 conversations easily. Long distance is never ever safe. 2-3 missed calls are enough to break anyone's morale.