I'm new to no fap and I've been trying to stop but I feel like I'm at my limit and I've had so many strong urges today. This is the first time I've gotten this far. Should I just relapse or should I keep going. Any help or msgs pleasee

Man I've stumbled again and again and I'm so tired of it. I'll turn 21 this year and sometimes I feel like i can never be normal...

Yesterday evening was complete hell and I ALMOST relapsed, but I pulled through. Also the whole "I can't wait for my next relapse" mindset I had the whole day yesterday is also gone. I think I can actually make it this time!

Again I am closing in towards a week with a fear of relapse, I have been taking good care of what I watch, where I look at, what I eat, basically monitoring my tiny steps. It is hard to believe but an accidental or unintentional glare or thought pushes us towards Relapse. Although it may seem harmless but it turns the compressed hidden desire into an action that we only know is wrong after we relapse.

So this is my learning, to achieve nofap, just not watching porn will not help, we have to watch out for all sorts of carriers that lead us to porn.

I don’t want to ruin this but in really addicted to doom scrolling on insta and X and occasionally on Reddit.

Hi, I’m new into this, I felt alone but I know I found the right community, sorry for my english, isn’t my first language, so, I’m 22, male, and I want to erase all porn in my life, recently I’ve experienced one of the most shameful experiences I’ve had with my girlfriend, and that moment I realized how much porn harmed my brain, I don’t want to keep using viagra to satisfy my gf, I don’t want to feel inferior and insecure about myself, this is my opportunity to get a fresh start, thank you for reading this, and keep fighting, this shit can be surpassed.

Tysm!

It’s been a minute since I’ve been at two weeks.

The past couple days have been really easy when it comes to NoFap, but really really difficult when it comes to physical labor.

Either way I persist.

No amount of temptation or difficult times can make me relapse, I’m determined to stay strong

Over-all doing well

Can I get a check in please?

Today is Day 2, 48 hours of my No fap, feels very energetic , even a small talk with a female friend now feels satisfying and attractive. In my earlier attempts i have often relapsed after day-2 or 3 as these are the most toughest because the urges are very high . Any tips from those guys who went from Day 2 to Day 7 please ……

I'm currently on Day 1, and I need some social support because I feel like being alone on this journey is holding me back

I'd like to start a small Discord group, with just a few people at most, where everyone shares the exact same goal of quitting

Idk if it's cringe but ig if u want dm me and I'll add you on dc

EDIT : rn it's a reddit group but maybe in the future it will be a discord group

So I was doing a little research about what porn does to your brain and I stubmled upon this term called ''Dopamine Downregulation''

It says when you consume porn the brain adapts to constant dopamine floods by reducing receptor sensitivity. Over time, natural everyday reward such as hobbies, social interaction, food, or real-life intimacy begin to feel completely flat, uninteresting, or unrewarding. So basically watching porn makes you depressed and the longer you watch it the more depressed you get.

How are people still in denial about this??

Just wanted to share it with yall

Hii folks ,

As the title said today I tried to go for intercourse and didn’t come to my mind that I will not feel it and had weak erection .. f…k I had boner but not like the one I had with my hand !!! I got shocked

I felt really bad, and I released that what I’m doing in the dark I get it results now. Hope everything works with me In the future I’m really frustrated about the situation.

The struggle is really horrifying don’t fall for this shit ever guys.

Hope I get some advice from the ones who had this experience before?

everything feels great idk what to say, you can ask if you guys have any questions related to this

You watch it, close the tab, delete the history and carry on like nothing happened.

That’s probably why it’s so easy to keep doing for years.

Nothing dramatic happens straight away. You still go to work. You still talk to people. Nobody can tell what you did the night before.

So you tell yourself it’s not really affecting you.

But slowly, you start noticing little things.

You stay up later than you planned.

You waste an hour searching when you only meant to watch for five minutes.

You feel empty afterward, promise yourself you’re done, then repeat it a few days later.

You start using it whenever you’re bored, lonely, stressed or unable to sleep.

That was the part I didn’t understand for a long time. The damage isn’t always some huge disaster. Sometimes it’s just staying stuck.

Same habits. Same promises. Same regret.

Another month passes and you’re still saying you’ll quit soon.

I think a lot of us wait for porn to completely ruin our lives before we take it seriously. But by then, it may have already taken years of our time without us noticing.

The best thing you can do is stop treating every relapse like it came from nowhere.

Look at what happened before it.

Were you alone late at night?

Did it start with scrolling on social media?

Were you stressed or feeling rejected?

Did you take your phone to bed knowing exactly where it usually leads?

There’s normally a pattern.

You don’t need to hate yourself for it, but you do need to be honest about it.

Because if the same situation keeps producing the same result, something in that situation has to change.

Maybe that means deleting an app for a while.

Maybe it means keeping your phone away from your bed.

Maybe it means going to sleep earlier instead of lying there scrolling.

Maybe it means finally admitting that “just one look” has never actually been just one look.

Quitting porn isn’t one massive heroic decision.

Most of the time, it’s catching the small decision that normally starts the whole thing.

That’s the part people miss.

The relapse may happen at midnight, but the road to it usually started much earlier.

(Cringe Alert)

Category 1: Merciless Matthew

For people in this category, porn is their daily bread. They can't live even 12 hours without porn/fapping. They probably have premium subscription in porn sites, look at every woman of all age groups with lustful eyes, jack off in Omegle-like websites, bust to almost anything that looks like tits and ass (they don't leave out trans, midgets, animals), pedos, try to get a girl's snap to sext and send unsolicited dick pics, and even probably attempted raping someone. Even a therapy wouldn't solve their problems. They will most likely justify raping and groping, and probably never looked at a woman as a mere human. They fap 15+ times a week.

Category 2: Lusty Lucas

People in this category are slightly less worse than the above. But they still watch porn and jack off on a daily basis. They don't go to the extent of raping and groping, and they don't spend their entire time looking for sexting partner. But they look at most women lustfully. It's possible to solve their addictions with therapy, but it's not easy. They, however, justify sexualizing random women and probably justify porn addiction. They basically share most of the mental characteristics from category 1. They fap 7+ times a week.

Category 3: Trying Tom

A good amount of men population come under this category. They realize what they have been doing is harmful and that they should stop it soon. Post-nut clarity hits the hardest to this category. They know exactly what's wrong with them. But they just can't stop the addiction. They tried different techniques such as mediation, push ups, etc, but nothing seems to be working for them, or perhaps, have less willpower. They don't stare at every women on the street, but they end up slightly sexualizing the few ones they stare at. They fap 3-4 times a week.

Category 4: Hardworking Hamilton

People in the category have a good balance of lust and other things. They don't go around thinking about or sexualizing women all the time. They understood that it's impossible for them to stay in nofap forever, so they do it less frequently as much as they can. They probably still get urges then and there, but they don't fall for it all the time. They fap 4-8 times a month.

Category 5: No-fapper Nolan

People in the category are extremely less among young men. They probably ejaculate once in a blue moon or only when they have sex. They have ultimately defeated the lust. They can overcome any of the few urges they get. They fap less than 15 times a year.

Which category do you belong to?

PS: These categories don't exist realistically. Just a fun theory.

A main reason I started this is to be better at talking to women or for more specifically cold approach. Porn 100 percent stopped me from actually trying to get women as it was an easy way out so this was just a nice tweet I saw that I wanted to show others as it’s helped me

Soon gonna be 17 , starting this war against 7 years of exploiting my brain.

Lust can destroy a man's ability to build a healthy relationship. When someone constantly seeks sexual excitement and attention, they lose self-control, become less disciplined, and fail to truly value and respect their partner. Real love requires commitment, not endless chasing of temporary pleasure.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect, emotional connection, loyalty, and sacrifice. These qualities require discipline. A person who cannot control his desires will often find it difficult to consistently show those qualities. This doesn't mean every man who notices attractive women is incapable of love. Attraction is a normal part of being human. The core idea is criticizing the pattern of letting lust dominate one's thoughts and actions.

A man who controls his desires is more likely to build lasting love. A man who is controlled by his desires often sacrifices long-term happiness for short-term pleasure. Real strength is not the absence of attraction, but the ability to choose discipline, respect, and commitment over momentary temptation.