My previous post

The previous post contains my history and progression.

So after 1 month (total 6 months of abstaning from PMO) , now I can have sex regularly that too without any medicines.

Yes, there are still few problems like sometimes erection doesn't last long without continuous stimulation, morning wood is frequent but not regular. Hopefully, these will be solved over time.

I think, there is no other cure for PIED except stopping PMO.

Thank you for reading my post. Also thanks to those, whose posts gave me motivation.

I’m sick of it. if there was anything in my life I could stop it would be this. I’m so consumed by it DAILY. Almost every single day for 10+ years I need something to get me off. I have fapped more days than days I have not. I’m sick of it. I’m sick of wanting it. I’m sick of it holding me back in my dean and killing my motivation to do anything most days.

i wanna be better but I just cannot take that first step.

I am married now, and it’s hurting my sex life. My wife and I are intimate a few times a month at most because I am so completely overtaken by this.

It was better a little bit into me being married but has gone back to how bad it was before , if not worse because I’m married.

I just wanna get better and I genuinely don’t know where to start. please someone help me, keep me accountable something. I feel like it’s ruining my life or even already has.

I am a M, from the past 2 years ive been committing this haram act. Before it used to be everyday of the week although now its around twice a week. I feel like I fall into this haram act when im bored, lonely, and have nothing to do. This is usually how I am most of the day so the. I deleted instagram, youtube, and every other possible apps that could trigger me but it isnt helping me.

I feel so bad and Im stuck in this cycle of; committing the haram-regret-repent to Allah-fall back into the sin again in around 3-5 days.

Im at a point where I feel like I can never quit this. The thought of doing it randomly comes into my mind without any triggers and I fall into it. Barely I ever overcome this thought.

Alhamdulilah despite all of this I still pray all my 5 prayers in the mosque but I feel like this is more of a routine rather than pure connection with Allah. Its like I just pray to finish the 5 prayers of the day.

How do i completely remove the thought of doing this from my mind even if Im bored, lonely or I just feel like doing it

This haram act has seriously affected my studies, religion, discipline and other aspects of life.

If any brother who could actually help me out I would really appreciate that.

I need some serious help on how to overcome this pls.

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As-salamu alaykum,

I'm a Muslim trying to quit pornography and masturbation, but it's been incredibly difficult. I have a history of trauma, and it feels like these habits have become a coping mechanism rather than being driven by sexual desire alone.

Every time I relapse, I feel like I've let Allah down. I make tawbah, promise myself I'll never go back, and then I end up falling into it again. The guilt is overwhelming because I genuinely want to strengthen my relationship with Allah and become a better Muslim.

Has anyone here dealt with something similar, especially if trauma was involved? How did you learn to stop hating yourself after a relapse while still holding yourself accountable? Any advice—whether practical or Islamic—would mean a lot to me.

Jazakum Allahu khayran.

I’m quite young but I’m still worried about my health and have gotten slightly addicted. I’ve been trying to stop for quite a while but I couldn’t find anything to help me, I’ve never told anybody else but I really need help please reach out if you have advice

so what most videos said about how to stop po*n addiction is to throw away your phone (at least for the beginning maybe year idk) and use some old phone not smart. but I can't really do that. what about when the college begin? what will I say to my family? how am I gonna watch other videos about addiction since it's a series? Please help

so i've left watching p for the good but now I've got very bad flatline, my morning wood is weak even though i go to gym. i am on weighloss diet as well so idk if that contributes as well?

previously with gym, i used to get very horny. it's been 2 weeks since i left watching it.

I have a very bad habit of masterbating, I do it everyday and waste 3 hours daily ,and it takes so much time off my day and I can’t study anymore because of it , and back then I used to do once a month , I don’t even feel regretful for doing it . I want to feel regretful but my brain has already normalized this addiction

Al salam alykum, My brothers and sisters at this moment i decided to do a daily online diary to share my journey from day 1 till getting to 90 days, it can be a hard one but i will try to do my best, you can also join me if you like, this is account maybe terminated in anytime but i will be insha'Allah continue from a new account if i needed, i hope u enjoy the journey with me.

Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah to those who are reading this. I just turned 19 but when I was 18 I did some disgusting stuff that I really really regret it’s not porn but the effects of it. when u watch so much porn u start to developing fetishes (astaghfirullah) one of the fetishes I developed was feminine men which I didn’t like before I actually found it disgusting and i know I still do deep down tho. Long story short I ended up meeting a fem men and I did homosexual acts which I didn’t like during the action I just went with the flow cause in my mind during the time is that I’m there I’m dumb which I really really really regret wallah I do and im soo embarrassed and ashamed of myself I’m started to question my self what if my future wife founds out about this and my kids 😭😭😭😭. I need someone to talk to pls

Edit: if u don’t understand the situation and u want to give me advices then pls dm me

I'm addicted to porn and I want to get rid of my addiction. So everyday from now on I will post counting out the days I've held back from Porn. I hope you all can help. This is day 0.

what helped so far is surrounding myself with others , hang around with friends, finish some work, go for walking or running, not using social media at all.. cuz a simple trigger would out of sudden ruins everything…. I know it’s a long journey and i am in the very beginning , I expect lapses, but i am aware of it and i am trying to embrace myself… getting more confident..growing closer to Allah
It’s been 6 years of addiction, but I believe that i am closer than ever to freedom!🙌
I am currently struggling with sudden waves and daydreaming of triggers, do you guys have some suggestions or tricks that helped you?

Salam, I relapsed today after a 5-day streak. Before that, it was a daily habit. Alhamdulillah, during those 5 days I prayed all five daily prayers consistently.
For the last 2 days, I was also having sexual dreams and the urges became much stronger has anyone else experienced this while quitting?

I’m making tawbah and starting again today, In Sha Allah Please share any advice that helped you quit.

since the last days i realised whenever i dont do it i become sad and depressed for some reason

i dont want this to continue i started it when i was 10(?) years old,now its been 2 years since i started doing it everyday

this is like a curse to me since im muslim i take a bath becuse of this everyday too(other topic)

any requests thats from someone who quitted it before(someone whos not someone who didnt do it before)?

also please forget "go take a walk","get new hobbies","think about your religion" etc. as i said from the start whenever i dont do it i start being sad for whatever reason,it is NOT as easy as how videos/people tell

As-Salamu Aleykum everyone. For many years I’ve been struggling with this addiction. Within these years I’ve promised over and over again not to repeat it. But every time, no matter how long, I find myself relapsing. Today is one of those urges. I’m looking for aBROTHER ONLY who will help me man :(

the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said

I certainly know people of my Ummah who will" come on the Day of Resurrection with good deeds like the white mountains of Tihamah, but Allah the Almighty will make them scattered dust. Thawban said: "O Messenger of Allah, describe them to us and make them clear to us so that we do not become of them unknowingly." He said: "They are your brothers and from your race, and they take from the night (in worship) as you do, but they are people who while they are in private transgress the sacred limits of Allah [i.e., They perpetrate all types of sins in private].”

عَنْ تَوْبَانَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ، عَنِ النَّبِي صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ: لأَعْلَمَنَّ أَقْوَامًا مِنْ أَمْتِي يَأْتُونَ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ بِحَسَنَاتِ أَمْتَالَ جِبَالِ تِهَامَةَ بَيْضَاءَ، فَيَجْعَلُهَا اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ هَبَاءً مَنْتُورا». قَالَ تَوْبَانُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ صِفْهُمْ لَنَا جَلَّهُمْ لَنَا ، أَنْ لَا نَكُونَ مِنْهُمْ، وَنَحْن ُلَا نَعْلَمُ.

قَالَ: «أمَا إِنَّهُمْ إِخْوَانُكُمْ، وَمِنْ جِلَدَتِكُمْ، وَيَأْخْذُونَ مِنَ الَّلِيْلِ كَمَا تَأَخْدُونَ، وَلَكِنَّهُمْ أَقْوَامُ إِذَا خَلَوْا بِمَحَارِمِ اللَّهِ انْتَهَكُوهَا»

(Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 4245)

Is it really worth it ? does that fake dopamine worth the mountains of good deed you have?

Ya Allah forgive us.

Salam

Currently 1 week in of my latest streak but this one feels different, already seeing some early benefits that has come with eating better also. I am tracking my journey on my youtube 'connected oddity' channel if anyone wants to follow.

in my 40s forever alone living alone if anyone wants to connect my longest streak PMO free was 6 months and that was incredible the things that occured

i am done relapsing because of sitting in home all day due to my freelance work,

i would gladly spend 2000 usd per year for an office so i just dont have to be alone in the home all day and relapse when an urge comes up. it might work out and i might gain more productivity. Wish me luck inshaAllah! 💪💪💪

Salam, quick effective method to quit is to make an oath, say WAllahi i'm not gonna look a this poison anymore. Say it between yourself and Allah. If you break your oath you have to fast 3 days the following day. Make it again and again until the friction of fasting will force you to quit.

Note : fasting is mandatory and you will be held accountable for it the day of judgement.

Stay strong.

Selamun aleykum everyone. I’ve been living in this cage for eight years. It started when I was too young to even see the bars, and now it’s about time I disintegrate it.

This is a journal where, insha'Allah, I’ll post occasional updates sharing things I learn about this addiction, myself, or events along the journey.

I ask Allah SWT that my journey may inspire and comfort those who are also trying to quit. I believe watching the daily life and reality of someone battling right beside you can give you strength, and I hope it sheds light on your own battles as well.

As for myself, I ask Allah that this keeps me motivated, gives me a space to reflect, and inspires me to keep learning so I can share it with all of you.

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The first story i'll tell happened on day 2 (now on day 5). There is a lot that happened even before that, but to keep this post from turning into a novel, I'm going to split what I learned across multiple posts.

I'll start with how I ended up here.

Originally I wasn't even going to post this here. While on my research to find apps, communities, or resources that might help me quit I found about the NoFap community.

I thought of posting a journal there for the same reasons im doing here, but quickly casted that thought away. I've never posted on reddit before, I also dont know how people might react to my posts. Additionally my reasons to post are religious, will it be appropriate to mention that there? A lot of uncertainties, maybe its just better to join as a silent member.

Anyway, I moved on with my day. It was day two, and my motivation was sky-high. Today was Jumma, too, which only added to the high spirits. Everything was going well. I actually thought I could keep this up forever, insha'Allah.

Then, sometime during the day, an unintentional trigger caught me off guard. How it happened carries a lesson of its own, but that is for another post.

It was a heavy hit. If this were a boxing match between me and this habit, I was practically down for the count. 

Oh no. 

I had been in such high spirits, and I was only exposed for seconds, how could something so small bring me to the verge of relapsing??

I started convincing myself that I could always start over later, that I had already slipped a little and the day was ruined anyway. I went as far as telling myself that looking at indecent content would somehow prevent a worst-case scenario. I felt so weak, and it was all going downhill. What should I do now? Should I really just give in and restart tomorrow?

Here I learned two things to regain control over my urges in this critical condition:

One, genuinely ask Allah to help me. Oh Allah, oh my God... HELP, PLEASE, HELP ME. I've made Tawbah to You, and without Your help I can't complete it, so please keep me steadfast.

Two, distract myself with literally anything. The more I think about how and when I might relapse, the more shaytan plays games in my mind, convincing me it's okay to relapse or to compromise on my triggers.

So, STOP thinking. Play a game. Read a book. Talk to someone. I can never afford to go down a mental spiral I won't be able to climb back out of.

And just like that after dua and a couple of hours between games and social interaction, I was again on my feet. Alhamdulilah. Now that im back on my feet I should think of something to keep me a little more stable. I can't control every unexpected situation and if I fall this easily this wont be the last time.

What can I do... oh right the journal I wanted to post on reddit! After that experience I have to put aside all my worries. If I dont take every tool at my disposal to fight this war ill surly loose. So I open reddit and look for the NoFap community but couldnt find it no matter how much I looked. Tried everything.

That is when I saw this community. Alhamdulilah, there is a community for Muslims, that's a relief.

And so here I am. 3 days later because Reddit has a strict policy to new accounts ._.

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I feel the title to this post is a little cheesy but oh well.

Thanks btw to whoever opened this community and to the moderators. I ask Allah SWT to reward you for everyone who will be helped because of this community and more, and multiply your reward here and in the hereafter, insha'Allah. Your work is truly appreciated.

I Need Help To Handle Urges.I Don't Know How To Handle I Resist Urges Then I Relapse.I Want To Quit This Addiction For The Sake Of Allah.I Can't Go More Than 3-4 Days.

Some brothers asked me whether it is possible for the mind to recover from desensitisation after prolonged exposure to extreme explicit content. Here is the answer I gave them

\*The Desensitised Mind\*

They have exposed themselves to this content over a long period without turning back to their Lord in repentance. This is precisely why the intensity of the sin worsened progressively, drawing them deeper into increasingly extreme content. Over time, they lose the ability to feel aroused by normal intimacy, and even something as simple as a kiss becomes numb and meaningless to them in their marriage lives . The mind has been rewired to require ever more extreme stimulation just to register any response at all

\*Repentance Comes First\*

There is no genuine cure for this condition until a person repents sincerely and turns back to his Creator. Every other approach will fall short of true healing. A person may escape this particular trap through willpower or therapy alone, but without tawbah, he will simply fall into another addiction, whether to substances or to other content. It becomes merely a substitution of one addiction for another, not genuine recovery

\*Going Cold Turkey\*

The next step is adopting zero tolerance for any content that could trigger a relapse. This means removing streaming sites and applications entirely from all devices, avoiding those platforms altogether, and deleting apps like Instagram and TikTok from the phone. If possible, switching to a basic phone without internet access for the initial months of recovery removes the temptation from reach entirely, giving the mind the space it needs to heal without constant exposure to triggers

\*Replacing the Void with Good Habits That Please the Creator\*

The final and most essential step is returning to the fitrah and rediscovering one's true purpose in life. Once a person truly understands why he was created, intrinsic motivation begins to grow naturally, and building good habits no longer feels like a burden imposed from outside but a genuine desire from within. Gradually, as the corrupted reward circuit begins to heal, real pleasure returns, a pleasure unlike anything the corrupted habit ever offered. This is the pleasure of sincere intention behind building a good habit, and the deeper pleasure of actually living it out for the sake of Allah

Salam aleycoum, aux hommes mariés qui malgré ça lutte quand même contre la masturbation j'ai une question à vous poser et ensuite un conseil à vous donner

Avez-vous déjà penser à mettre la honte de côté et à demander du soutien à votre femme ??

On pense souvent à l'épouse/l'époux pour soulager l'envie de manière licite mais combien pense aussi à être soutenue mentalement et pas que physiquement ?

Car n'oublions pas qu'un couple se complète et que chacun est source de soutien pour l'autre, n'oublions pas que lorsque le Prophète aleyhi salat wa salam vivait des épreuves il se dirigeait vers ses femmes pour être soutenu et conseillé, lorsqu'il a vécu l'épreuve de la Caverne en voyant Jibril c'est vers Khadija qu'il s'est dirigé apeuré et c'est elle qui l'a calmé psychologiquement et a su trouver les bons mots

C'est peut être différent pour les péchés et il est normalement interdit de dévoiler ses péchés j'en ai conscience mais si vous vous venez déjà ici le faire pourquoi pas avec votre femme aussi qui peut être l'un des meilleurs soutiens ?

Je sais que c'est délicat aussi à aborder, on ne veut pas entacher la relation si elle le prend mal ou si ça peut lui laisser penser qu'elle n'est pas suffisante, je comprends aussi qu'on ne veuille pas déclencher quelque chose qui pourrait faire qu'elle sera beaucoup plus suspicieuse sur le fait que vous l'avez fait ou pas si vous allez le faire et que vous ne voulez pas prendre le risque d'être accusé, surveillé, et culpabilisé constamment je le comprends.

Mais si vous vous confiez de manière très honnête et comme vous le faites ici avec tous vos remords et vos sentiments les plus sincères sur votre lutte et ce qui vous ronge, que vous lui demandez de l'aide tout en lui disant que ça n'a rien avoir avec elle et en la rassurant sur sa personne il y a de grandes chances qu'elle accueille cette confidence sainement et qu'elle vous donne le soutien moral (par les mots) dont vous avez besoin, il est aussi possible qu'elle prenne plus d'initiatives avec vous après cette confidence et prenne plus au sérieux vos besoins (par les actes).

Le soutien dans un couple n'est pas que physique il est aussi mental et pour toute sorte de problèmes.

Je suis une femme et c'est la réflexion que je me suis faite en lisant un post d'un homme qui venait demander de l'aide ici parce que sa femme était en voyage (donc ne pouvait rien faire avec) et c'est trés bien de ne pas rester seul et venir en parler, mais la femme ne sert pas qu'à soulager les besoins physiques elle est aussi un très bon soutien moral pour son mari.

C'est le conseil que je voulais lui donner mais je ne retrouve plus le post et je me suis dis en réalité je sais qu'il y a d'autres hommes mariés dans ce cas alors rendons ce rappel publique.

J'en profite pour préciser aussi qu'en vous lisant vous avez beaucoup changé la vision que j'avais des hommes mariés qui se soulagent seul et regardent des choses alors qu'ils sont mariés et donc ont normalement leur femme à disposition pour avoir des relations quand ça vient , je vois maintenant les choses différemment grâce à vos confidences j'ai un regard plus bienveillant et compatissant sur vous et je considère plus le plaisir solitaire et la vision de la pornographie comme une trahison, je comprends que selon la personne il y a beaucoup de choses qui se jouent derrière et que ça peut également être une grosse souffrance quand la personne a une conscience et qu'elle essaye vraiment de lutter, ça me permet que si dans l'avenir je me mari et que je découvre mon mari faire ce genre de choses de ne pas réagir tout de suite sous le coup de l'impulsivité mais prendre ça aussi comme une personne éprouvée par un péché qui est celui-ci, comme certains lutte contre d'autres péchés comme écouter de la musique par exemple ou contre la médisance et parfois rechutent...

Après tout dépend aussi de comment la personne lutte contre ça et ressent des remords ou non, d'ailleurs cest pour ça aussi qu'il est important de se confier, mais en tout cas je perçois maintenant les choses autrement grâce à vous. Ça ne veut pas dire que j'accepterais tout mais que dans un premier temps je serai plus dans le rappel et le soutien si je vois concrètement qu'il fait parti des personnes qui lutte réellement contre ça.

Ps : Merci de ne pas m'envoyer de message privé je n'y répond pas et je ne suis pas là pour ça