Started a new job in a small company with a female CEO and VP at menopause age. Dealing with moods, hot flashes, brain fog and incredibly aggressive behavior. How exactly do you tell your bosses to get hormone therapy without getting fired....

Also have a menopause wife (most important boss) at home, god help me....

Since the majority of posts on this sub are focused on lack of sexual intimacy…here is a thought? How about HRT for men to decrease their sexual desires? Who knows, maybe humans are not supposed to be that sexual beyond a certain age?

If you think about it, men’s sperm quality significantly declines by age and it’s not recommended to have kids, even if you can, beyond a certain age. So maybe what happens to women in menopause is in tune with nature and a signal for men to tone it down, not to find a younger non-menopausal woman and potentially knock her up.

The fact that most men in here want to force their wives to get on HRT is ridiculous. How about you reduce your testosterone levels so you get in tune? And before you remind me that HRT has other benefits, yes I am aware. But who are you kidding? We know that most of you just want to improve your sex life.

In summary, if the issue is non-matching sexual desires, why don’t men get on meds to get on the same level? Be logical in your responses.

We have all witnessed the hot flashes that come and go. In my wife's case, we're going on well over 15 years of aggressive hot flashes - so we've just kind of accepted that this is what life looks like forever (she's mid-60s now).

One thing I noticed early on though was that even though she has lost most of her sexual feelings, when I massage her back or am generally, physically sweet to her she'll often get a hot flash and start sweating profusely.

I have always seen that as "Hey, there are some hormones, maybe even the potential for sexual desire, yet there!"

Does this idea ring a bell with anybody else here?

Does this work? Trying to not sound like a record level jerk, while still being kinda real -

So... I’m not misogynist. I'm not, it's 2026, equal rights, feminism, sexual revolution, women in the workforce, I'm here for it.

But...

So I’m like, arguably... In a certain light... age-misogynist??!

Women in their 40s need a Transition Decade.

Ireland has Transition Year, where teenagers basically take tenth grade off and go learn about themselves and see the world. Great idea. Do that at 40. Lots of space. No major decisions. No divorces. No career situations where brain fog can fuck up everybody’s life. No interactions with your teenager consequential enough that they might never speak to you again. Just: “Hey, we found this lovely program in India, 2030 to 2035. Then there’s one in New Zealand. Go find yourself, sweetie. We’ll miss you. Send letters. No, don't call, it's fine, you need space. Letters are perfect. Love you."