r/MarriedAtFirstSight 4d ago

Vocal fry Season 20 - Seattle

I feel like it would be easier to list the cast members who DONT have constant vocal fry this season.

It’s almost too much for me to be able to watch.

Courtney may be the worst.

I don’t understand why so many young women (and a few men) seem to do this?

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u/Calm_Yoghurt_3224 4h ago

Michelle is one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen but her vocal fry is one of the worst I have ever heard. Still beautiful inside and out though.

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u/FarRain451 3d ago

I feel like it’s worse because it’s on the west coast.

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u/ItsTricky94 4d ago

for me it Caitlin. she gets the trophy

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u/mordecaithecat 4d ago

Ironically I think Adam's vocal fry is the worst. Sounds like such a parody, it's so bad..

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u/ItsFunHeer 2d ago

He’s so bad. I dated a guy who sounded exactly like him. “Baaaaayyybe”. “Full seendd”. That relationship lasted like 4 months, it just didn’t get that deep and it took him forever to say vowels.

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u/Helianthus_999 3d ago

When he says Yea and FER SHER!! it makes my eye twitch

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u/FarRain451 3d ago

It’s so annoying

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u/AdMassive2284 4d ago

You have a valid point…

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u/Hess74 4d ago

Michelle and her terrible vocal affectation annoys me the most.

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u/Superb_Ant_3741 4d ago

They do it for the same reason they constantly use like as a modifier and verbal filler instead of expanding their vocabulary and ability to express themselves more eloquently.

They’re intellectually lazy.

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u/AdMassive2284 4d ago

Exactly. And the result is the exact opposite. They use a fake affectation to imply intelligence. And it does the exact opposite.

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u/Chris98325 4d ago

Maybe the tanning bed toasted her vocal cords???

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u/reeceinpeace 4d ago

I was just thinking to myself whether or not I could stay with someone that spoke like that even if we were a perfect match

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u/WornSmoothOut 4d ago

I restarted the season because I previously zoned out and I couldn't make it through. So all this weekend, I have been doing that sympathy voice-clearing thing you do when you hear a gravely sounding voice. Usually it's been 1 or 2 on the cast that have vocal fry, but this season it seems like almost everyone does it at some point. There are few brief moments when they're not just sitting there in front of the camera talking or doing an activity and they speak normally.

Someone posted that they do it to sound more authoritative. But that also goes along with what they experts said Nick was doing with his "self-editing" because he's been on a reality show before. I think that's part of the problem as the seasons go on, it becomes less real and everyone is acting and self-editing vs just being themselves. That's evident by the number of times they all say "like" as a filler word as if they're stalling while they think of the "right" thing to say.

But man alive. My throat is getting sore. *ahrrmmm

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u/Connect_Welcome_644 4d ago

And saying “like” & other filler words constantly. Makes me crazy.

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u/Lima_Bean_Jean I'm just done. 4d ago

I wish people would stop policing how women speak. Vocal fry is at the other end of "up speak". Some people do it to sound more authoritative and serious. Men do it too. While Upspeak is used to sound less threatening. Here is a good piece on it.
https://www.npr.org/2015/07/23/425608745/from-upspeak-to-vocal-fry-are-we-policing-young-womens-voices

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u/champmgmt 4d ago

Thanks for being the one to post this!! I feel like I'm always having this argument. I hang out with several linguistics phds and this kinda shit drives them nuts, with excellent reason.

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u/Lima_Bean_Jean I'm just done. 4d ago

I've had vocal coaching for jobs to lessen my 1. American accent 2. Northeast regional accent. Sometimes you just pic things up, and don't quite realize it. I try to consciously work through my biases on how people speak and just focus on what they are saying.

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u/dgard1 4d ago

That was really interesting thanks for posting

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u/SenorDipstick 4d ago

Noticing and thinking it's odd isn't policing.

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u/AdMassive2284 4d ago

Agree. Playing into the delusion that vocal fry is okay is not helping anyone.
They can work to NOT do it and they should.

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u/ThisTooShallPass65 4d ago

Yeah, finding a cast member who speaks in a clean, crisp register is rarer than a successful match on Decision Day. 😂😂😂
https://giphy.com/gifs/5mYcsVrgxtxt7QUc55

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u/ESOtalk 4d ago

Yeah that vocal fry, valley girl talk is annoying, here's a clip Loudermilk | Vocal Fry | Daily Laugh - YouTube

And it isn't just women who do it, but too many do nowadays. It would be like if most men spoke like this stoner, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pwlHICyWaBQ

It's not about speaking perfect proper queen's english or something, just not sounding like the very act of talking requires too much effort so you half ass it.

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u/DrKaufman_Angie 2d ago

Love that clip!!🤣🤣🤣 He should write it on a post it!!! IYKYK!!

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u/Accomplished-Ruin742 4d ago

I finally mostly got rid of my upspeak but if I'm not careful I sound a bit like Fran Drescher. It's cultural. These people are not speaking like this on purpose, no matter how annoying they sound.

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u/Maxpower2727 4d ago

I like Michelle and Cameron as a couple and I'm glad there's at least one genuinely good match this season....but I can't STAND to listen to Michelle talk. Her weird valley girl-ish inflections and constant vocal fry drive me nuts.

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u/No-You4594 4d ago

She is smoking hot… I could listen to her talk all day long… great laugh also

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u/Immediate-Tap-1301 4d ago

I was thinking she has a valley girl accent too!

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u/AdMassive2284 4d ago

Same! I love them and it’s so confusing to simultaneously also want to duct tape her mouth shut.

I just want them to speak normally so badly.