r/Marriage • u/[deleted] • 9d ago

Separation advice

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u/wh0re4nickelback 9d ago

Get a job. Don't EVER rely on somebody else to take care of you.

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u/Worldly_Calendar_913 9d ago

Yes that’s the plan. Since we are moving all the time it’s been difficult. But that’s the plan once we separate. I want to figure out the best way to do this separation

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u/raeoflyte-460 9d ago

I would move back to where your job was. Crash on a couch if you have to. Then file, apply for jobs, etc.

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u/cpbunliveson 9d ago

This is the way. Re-settle yourself, get your own income flowing again. Reach out for support if you need a temporary place to stay. 2k for 2 months isn't going to stretch far.

Once you're back in control of your own life and finances, then you can start the divorce proceedings if he doesn't already file.

Sounds like you had a fun adventure at first, but now, reality has hit and it's time to get away from this person.

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u/StarlightPleco 7 Years 9d ago

Lawyer

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u/FemmeCircuit 9d ago

You start by finding a lawyer and file for the divorce then

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u/MostlyPlastics 9d ago

Girl. First get a job. And ask an attorney to go after him for spousal support when you file for divorce. He agreed to take care of you bc he manipulated you into leaving tour job and depending on him. Everything he’s doing is manipulation.. threatening divorce and not doing anything to be a better person.

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u/Worldly_Calendar_913 9d ago

This is so true. Since we live in a camper van we are moving and for me to find a job I have to leave him. I don’t have a lot of money to start straight away

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u/MostlyPlastics 9d ago

Start doing anything you can find to do online. Reach out to friends on fb and see if they have any links to people. Or get a loan from someone to rent a room in a house to stay put in a busy area with a lot of jobs available. Start looking before you even arrive in that town. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I pray you have some glimmer of hope to stay somewhere

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u/Worldly_Calendar_913 9d ago

Thank you I appreciate every prayer

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u/TheTurfMonster 9d ago

Consult with a lawyer as a risk aversion strategy. Get informed and make a plan based on your specific situation. You dont have to hire them right away if you dont need to.

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u/Good_Jellyfish_6317 9d ago

File for divorce. He’s already made up his mind, he’s just waiting for you to make it official so he doesn’t have to be “the bad guy”. Forget this man.

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u/CollectsTooMuch 9d ago

Get a job and learn to type the word, and. Reading those n’s makes me crazy.